3 Common “Alpha” Myths That Make People Instantly Dislike You

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Sometimes becoming powerful can make people act like jerks. The same thing can happen as you improve your charisma, which is a measure of social power. If you’re not careful you can become a domineering leader that is dislike for how you wield that social clout.
In this video we are covering 3 common myths about being an alpha personality that actually just make people dislike you, and what tweaks you can make to be a respected leader that people love to be around.

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0:44 - Myth #1: They direct attention towards themselves.
3:27 - Myth #2: They are intimidating with their bodies.
6:02 - Myth #3: They are stoically unimpressed.
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Nathan Kendrick
Nathan Kendrick Өдрийн өмнө
If you are approaching all situations with the goal of "making others like you" then you have already messed up.
Joseph Peters
Joseph Peters Өдрийн өмнө
Bringing others into the conversation does NOT mean putting the spot light on them by asking "why are you so quiet"
Alex Smith
Alex Smith 13 өдрийн өмнө
Not sure about the first point, the recipient might take it as charity.
Bean Sauce
Bean Sauce 14 өдрийн өмнө
When I was younger I used to act 'alpha' I was a scared young man who wanted to prove myself. Ended up just feeling inauthentic to myself and others. I became frustrated when things didn't go my way. I'm 23 now, lived a lot, built a life, relationships and a career. I have long term goals and ambition and sense of who I am. That confidence and comfortablity with my self translates and theres no need to act like a twat anymore. Think alot of young guys through this stage.
Butterpants1987
Butterpants1987 17 өдрийн өмнө
6:40 very good point for people. being calm, and collected, and reserved is ideal in situations of intense negative interaction. its effective because thats not normal. normal human behavior, as a member of the animal kingdom, would be to act out. thats where the illusion of control comes from. when everyone else is panicking youre standing strong and standing out. in most cases however, interactions are positive. and its important to be dynamic, and now that youve gained the trust of your peers, when you do become serious in those intense moments, its very clear that the issue is serious and you immediately have that following. the two compliment each other so well.
ATADEMO
ATADEMO 18 өдрийн өмнө
apparently this guy has never heard of the hip hop community.
Nino
Nino 20 өдрийн өмнө
Instant dislike trying to speak well about scientologist cruise, pure evil
Fox Mulhoney
Fox Mulhoney 25 өдрийн өмнө
Everything I learn about Tom Cruise further convinces me he hunts people on vacation.
Layla Luann
Layla Luann 29 өдрийн өмнө
I love Conor McGregor and his alpha energy 💚🇮🇪💚
Home Boy
Home Boy Сарын өмнө
This sounds like a bad thing to write but I’ve notice weak people are impressed by aggressive people.
Danny Tigz
Danny Tigz Сарын өмнө
To me an alpha is a person who takes ownership of their own destiny completely different to the conventional description.
Susan Elizabeth
Susan Elizabeth Сарын өмнө
Great tips here. Thanks! 😊
Merideth Hrostek
Merideth Hrostek Сарын өмнө
I feel like I just listened to a rant on nothing
Calvino Kristanto
Calvino Kristanto Сарын өмнө
Wolfs who are considered to be 'Alpha males' are fathers of the wolf pack not leaders, just saying
Chaos Reigns
Chaos Reigns Сарын өмнө
mike Tyson has the clout and experience to brag as much as he wants whenever he wants... lest he murderers your pets and make orphans of your children...
Michael Wittmann
Michael Wittmann 2 сарын өмнө
Conor McGregor is an obnoxious thug not a Alpha!
Rakan Gashgari
Rakan Gashgari 2 сарын өмнө
Wait why is society refusing to use the word alpha now?
Black IsMyColor
Black IsMyColor 2 сарын өмнө
Is there a chance all of these videos are just a really good way for sociopaths to practice their facade? 😂😬😱 lol.
Nakadu
Nakadu 2 сарын өмнө
I don't think McGregor or the Rock are good examples as their physical attributes means however they behave they'll be received in a certain way...it's not the same for 99% of people.
Being Alex
Being Alex 2 сарын өмнө
Filmed interactions aren't really genuine though
James Bond
James Bond 2 сарын өмнө
I make it a point to go out of my way to be nice to the people lowest on the social ladder especially in places like hospitals and such where there are a lot of custodial staff and maintenance workers. They have tough jobs and if you want to earn my respect then have an honest job making an honest living.
tra lala
tra lala 2 сарын өмнө
Physical contact is tricky, though. Not everyone likes to be touched by strangers and if you try to do those pats and touches with an introver, they might likely dislike you for not respecting their personal space.
ARPIT MONGA
ARPIT MONGA 2 сарын өмнө
In short. Humility always win
Wischmopps
Wischmopps 2 сарын өмнө
I also hate athletes and others who bragg
Olia Topanteleeva
Olia Topanteleeva 2 сарын өмнө
There is here a misconception of what an alpha person can be, it us not becouse has a huge body and technically can look more powerful than the other guys or persons that can be considered and alpha, if a person it is just agresive type and do not know how control his streght and lead in a Smart way, he may show agresivity to impose himself but that means has a lack of intelligence to manage a situation, an agresive person it is not an alpha you can be strong but not alpha if you do not know how to control yourself and to manage with intelligence the situations, brutality won't lead to something positive, it just show a lack of control of himself and lack Smart manage of situations..
LL L
LL L 2 сарын өмнө
i would certainly not change myself so a nobody would like me
Mitch Wardell
Mitch Wardell 2 сарын өмнө
The funny thing is: if the theory is true, only betas would click on this video
Clark Fluegel
Clark Fluegel 2 сарын өмнө
For many, an alpha is someone who is un shook by outside factors... They maintain a stable frame no matter what. What are the characteristics of an alpha wave.. big and slow and steady. It's not about being tough
Anthea Zobrist
Anthea Zobrist 2 сарын өмнө
Does anyone know, from which movie the clip at 1:43 is?
Adam Hockgeiger
Adam Hockgeiger 2 сарын өмнө
If someone disputes the idea of someone being an alpha its because they aren't🤷‍♂️
Joey Diaz
Joey Diaz 3 сарын өмнө
Jimmy was pretty weird with Connor lol alittle threatening even
itzybitzyspyder tv
itzybitzyspyder tv 3 сарын өмнө
Only beta males and women dispute the existence of an alpha male
A Ņ Đ Ý
A Ņ Đ Ý 3 сарын өмнө
1:43 a moment later he was saying how much he despises that waiter for leading such a worthless and simple life.
Corey Morrell
Corey Morrell 3 сарын өмнө
I don't really think of Ryan Gosling or Robert Downey jr. when I hear, "Alpha"
Nimzy the Gambler
Nimzy the Gambler 3 сарын өмнө
3:39 He says the same thing to Jason Statham in F8
Randimised Wilson
Randimised Wilson 3 сарын өмнө
People who refer to themselves as "alphas" are clearly projecting
margus kiis
margus kiis 3 сарын өмнө
Be good and kind guy and soon fkn EVERYBODY hates you. That`s the truth.
margus kiis
margus kiis 3 сарын өмнө
Trump makse every fkn mistake and is ADORED.
ARITRA DAS
ARITRA DAS 3 сарын өмнө
Joffrey... Never be joffrey...
Ben Erdelyi
Ben Erdelyi 3 сарын өмнө
Being dominant vs domineering. Big lessons here
Allen Montrasio
Allen Montrasio 3 сарын өмнө
Tom Cruise is a bad example: he's an insufferable arsehole.
Cecilia Lindh
Cecilia Lindh 3 сарын өмнө
Remember that those with lots of issues of their own will still dislike you for the attention you are getting and the space that you take up. That is on them, not you. Also, this is a bit different if you are a woman. Please do include us more in your videos.
Maarten Sterckx
Maarten Sterckx 4 сарын өмнө
Wow, seems I am an Alpha male and even didn't know it!
michael burns
michael burns 4 сарын өмнө
For some it is quite a chore NOT to be antisocial. When they are going 90 miles an hour, everyone else is cruising at 25 mph because it is a school zone.
J Lupus
J Lupus 4 сарын өмнө
1. Brag only when performing 2. Compliment as many people as possible 3. Don’t impose / commit to handshake 4. React well with positive emotion
zimm1gre
zimm1gre 4 сарын өмнө
Tom Cruise is so weird and using him as an example of how to build charisma is like using Bernie Madoff as an example of how to run a company.
Tristan Thorndyke's Rock N Roll Cannibals
Tristan Thorndyke's Rock N Roll Cannibals 4 сарын өмнө
They need to edit the whole part about touching people now with covid...
BLUE COLLAR HERO
BLUE COLLAR HERO 4 сарын өмнө
The overlooked fact. In this video with Matt Lauer and Tom Cruise is that they are BOTH Alphas. And each one had a different way of presenting dominance in two completely different ways to present their truth
William J. Dove, Jr.
William J. Dove, Jr. 4 сарын өмнө
Let others describe you as alpha... don't call yourself alpha...
ForForksSake
ForForksSake 4 сарын өмнө
3 myths that make people instantly dislike you *shows jeoffrey fuckin lannister* lol
Jackie Treehorn
Jackie Treehorn 4 сарын өмнө
There is a guy at our MMA gym that started the same time as me. He’s a gifted athlete coming from soccer and his progress outstripped everyone from the time he joined. He made some bold statements after a few months of training ‘I’m going to be in the UFC’ and you could see he annoyed a lot of people. But what he did was use his status and presence to always include everyone. The timid first timer to the aspiring pro fighters. He’d complement me for outgrappling him, even if it was momentary before smashed me 100x. You’d see him scanning the room to make sure everyone had a partner and nobody was training dangerously. Whether he made it or not, you knew he’d leave a legacy of being a leader and a good dude. He’s currently knocking on the top ten of his division in the UFC.
aspen 85
aspen 85 4 сарын өмнө
Can u make a video on how to act beta and theta and gamma I think it would help us alphas out so we don't accidentally slide into the theta zone
Albert Gaspar
Albert Gaspar 4 сарын өмнө
another mistake observers make...confusing a very attractive person, for an alpha. Someone who has been attractive genetically all their life, is used to people deferring to them out of a desire to get something in return. These people aren't taking leadership, so much as they are filling in a vacuum. Science shows the average observer thinks the attractive stranger is smarter, more successful..regardless of any lack of evidence proving this. Even those who dismiss women, consider a hottie to have some sort of power over men. An alpha is looking to not so much control their surroundings, as to shape them to fit their needs.
Richard T
Richard T 4 сарын өмнө
Using Connor McGregor as an example lol. He's a total ejit and does not come across as confident at all. Seems like a huge act.
The Kickboxing Community
The Kickboxing Community 4 сарын өмнө
8:14 you're welcome
Matthew Krause
Matthew Krause 4 сарын өмнө
Thank you for this video. I have been studying the concept of "alpha" for awhile, both in humans and in the animal kingdom, and it frustrates me to no end that there are men who call themselves "alpha" yet pattern their behavior after fictional characters whose behavior is far from "alpha"--characters like Tyler Durden, for instance. Tyler Durden iss literally the antithesis of a "real man" (he's not even "real" in the context of the story), the manifestation of what a weak male thought a "real man" looked like. The strongest alphas in my life have all been nurturers, caretakers, quietly looking after their tribe without posting on Facebook about how great they are. We need more real alpha, not the unoriginal macho energy that comes with all the MNpost wannabes.
James B
James B 4 сарын өмнө
Search alpha male secrets and 33 secrets.
Maximlian John
Maximlian John 4 сарын өмнө
I've always been like this lol
Patrick Jenkins
Patrick Jenkins 4 сарын өмнө
Good video. Thanks for mentioning at the beginning that some (myself included) consider the term: "ALPHA" much more appropriate when discussing (ANIMAL) behavior. The word falls short when describing the complexities & nuances of HUMAN behavior. 😎
B C Amos
B C Amos 4 сарын өмнө
YOUR EXAMPLES ARE COKED OR ADDERALLED. ICE CREAM WHILE SPEAKING IS A DELICIOUS SUBSTITUTE! :^P
tyrpamplona
tyrpamplona 4 сарын өмнө
...the voice of the video narrator already says everything about stigmatizing masculinity.
Dick White
Dick White 4 сарын өмнө
What about punching an old man for not liking your whisky? Is that alpha?
Nick V
Nick V 4 сарын өмнө
"Non-reactivity doesn't apply to positive emotions. In fact being socially dominant means expressing more positive emotions than most people do." There was a study somewhere that said extrovert brains release more dopamine when a risky move goes successfully, so they feel more positive emotions, because some brain pathway is very direct, whereas introverts focus more on the planning and understanding, because that brain pathway goes through the planning part of the brain. So it might be that those socially dominant people expressing more positive emotions are simply wired as extroverts.
Kyle Woodworth
Kyle Woodworth 5 сарын өмнө
ritallin is actually a sinister big pharma scheme. I agree with how Tom Cruise handled that
B Simpson
B Simpson 5 сарын өмнө
But check out Lauer...he didn’t back away.
Ickey Sticky.
Ickey Sticky. 5 сарын өмнө
Cause an Alpha can never look like he is Wrong. No one will follow a person who is wrong.
Ickey Sticky.
Ickey Sticky. 5 сарын өмнө
And If Your Right they will agree with you. But If they belieave your wrong, Your in a Argument for days.
Ickey Sticky.
Ickey Sticky. 5 сарын өмнө
Hey, You got 5 Dollars For Some dog Food. Uncle waffels has to eat. Cause Asking For just yourself, Looks week.
Ickey Sticky.
Ickey Sticky. 5 сарын өмнө
They Do not Scream or make threats, or even make fun. They realy dont even ask. They would go Get me a Coke could you do that for me.
Crazy Spaceship Animations
Crazy Spaceship Animations 5 сарын өмнө
Unless it's a direct attack play along with the joke and maybe add to it, at the very least just laugh it makes you more likeable. I'm a quiet person btw
Dimitrije Ratkovic
Dimitrije Ratkovic 5 сарын өмнө
*yes*
Chronorust
Chronorust 5 сарын өмнө
If you have to call yourself an alpha male... you're probably not an alpha male. Other people will always relate you that (although the general team is still misconcepted)
Jason Moore
Jason Moore 5 сарын өмнө
Tom Cruise is acting like he is spun-duckie-whoo-whoo and high on meth
Mike Walterich
Mike Walterich 5 сарын өмнө
@ 1:45; that can backfire. There's a barista where I get coffee every day who read my name off my debit card once and now uses my name every time he sees me, to put it mildly I'll just say that I dislike this very much.
The-Mad-Taoist
The-Mad-Taoist 5 сарын өмнө
Keep gladness in your eyes.. Gladness Isn't a word I know
The Finance Trigger
The Finance Trigger 5 сарын өмнө
It doesn't matter how powerful you are, you need to spread positive vibes to others! More responsibilities more duties!
Patrick D
Patrick D 5 сарын өмнө
The priming yourself advice is good. For me, if I'm driving somewhere that's going to involve lots of social interaction I like to play a song in the car that pumps me up and I can rock out to on my own, gets the blood flowing and warms up the vocal chords.
xThe_noJx
xThe_noJx 5 сарын өмнө
I hate how the term Alpha has been perverted by overuse, misuse, and outright misunderstanding of the term.
SMH
SMH 5 сарын өмнө
Looks are everything. You cannot convince me otherwise dumbo
Ace Rimmer
Ace Rimmer 5 сарын өмнө
So basically do the opposite of what every forced "Strong female character" portrayed in recent Hollywood movies does.
No Bull
No Bull 5 сарын өмнө
Wanting to be popular is a mistake
Josef Muller
Josef Muller 5 сарын өмнө
I'm a simple human, I see RJD i click
AhabRawGaming
AhabRawGaming 5 сарын өмнө
Can we stop having marvel actors? it's just marvel, marvel, marvel...what about james bond? or other movies? or maybe life experience?
Hughster127
Hughster127 5 сарын өмнө
You say that people dispute the use of "alpha" in human societies... as an alien, I find that offensive.
Late to the party
Late to the party 5 сарын өмнө
Getting hugged by a guy I don't know is always weird for me. I think OK this guy is trying to be my buddy- buddy , ....why?
akshyamohan swarup
akshyamohan swarup 5 сарын өмнө
I think any sort of dominant behaviour is an inborn trait. I do not think it can ever be acquired or rehearsed. No matter how hard you try your original self will come to the fore.
heavy meddle
heavy meddle 5 сарын өмнө
Oh F!... Its Friday the 13th November 2020
Jimmy Crackcorn
Jimmy Crackcorn 6 сарын өмнө
Tom Cruise physically imposing? Maybe to little children...
YT Fun
YT Fun 6 сарын өмнө
Who's the guy in thumbnail?
Cristian D63
Cristian D63 6 сарын өмнө
Hmm watching these videos realizing I'm already an Alpha in most situations. Guess I need to put myself in more challenging situations to make improvements.
Sire
Sire 6 сарын өмнө
Hey treat people nicely *Nice guys always finish last* Also a myth
Tree Surgeon
Tree Surgeon 6 сарын өмнө
I think a more accurate way of saying that in my experience is that guys that lean too much on a persona of niceness to cover disingenuousness or lack of self worth tend to be disregarded and treated poorly. But that's far less succinct.
Stephen SHW
Stephen SHW 6 сарын өмнө
Tom Cruise have every right to be pissed off. Recreational adderall destroys lives, and I am sure Cruise has seen alot of lives destroyed by irresponsible doctors
Kev G H
Kev G H 6 сарын өмнө
MNpost commenters have come a long way in the last couple of years. I remember how toxic the comments were. I remember how toxic I was. Now i see most comments are very supportive and kind. It's made me stop being toxic and start trying to be kind. I'm not into social media but I hope all social media is going the way of us MNpostrs.
msdm83
msdm83 6 сарын өмнө
I've know many 'high status' people through my family. CEOs, self made millionaires, big tech CEO, VPs of mid sized multinationals, world class scientists. The are never 'alpha' in the way PUAs talk about. They are universally, considerate and diplomatic. Bragadocio is seen as weak and pretending in those circles.
Mary 888
Mary 888 6 сарын өмнө
I like the content but can do without the clickbait type thumbnails
Jose Montoya
Jose Montoya 6 сарын өмнө
I naturally speak while smiling I didn’t know I did that until one day I was speaking with a group of colleagues and one of the girls said out loud why are you always smiling when you are talking? I was so confused and felt insecure becuase It made me feel like a crazy person. I just said I’m a happy person, don’t kill the vibe. She laugh and I smash lol
Vlad Marin
Vlad Marin 6 сарын өмнө
Great video!
Shehzad Mohammed
Shehzad Mohammed 6 сарын өмнө
What movie is the first clip from?
Danny Pope
Danny Pope 6 сарын өмнө
Only Beta soy-boys pretend alphas aren’t real
A Dude
A Dude 6 сарын өмнө
Corona has ruined the touch parts
Chloe A
Chloe A 7 сарын өмнө
Only men lol
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