5 Mindsets That Boost Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

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With the exception of the big one, Avengers Endgame has almost no fight scenes. That’s because the core of the drama is the character’s internal struggles. Almost every Avenger starts out lacking in confidence and self-esteem, then they must go on their own journeys to reclaim those things.
In this video, we will look at 5 key mindsets that raise your self-esteem and confidence, as shown through each character’s journey.

0:42 - Mindset #1: Failure does not make you unworthy of happiness or love.
3:06 - Mindset #2: Offer yourself as much compassion as you would a dear friend.
4:42 - Mindset #3: Don’t deny responsibility for what you do now.
6:33 - Mindset #4: You need to learn a healthy, enlightened selfishness.
8:22 - Mindset #5: No matter what, you will be okay.
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Sandeep V
Sandeep V 5 өдрийн өмнө
7:32 Another example of Captain America's "Martyr" mentality is seen in the first movie. Steve Rogers jumps on a fake bomb during army training to protect everyone around him.
PowerGB Сарын өмнө
"Be more selfish" so I clicked the DISLIKE button...I think that's very selfish
Huge Member
Huge Member 2 сарын өмнө
I’m from Mexico and I live in Mexico, I’d love to get to your university but I’m wondering if your teaching would also work in a Spanish speaking environment.. what do you think?
Matthew Barry
Matthew Barry 2 сарын өмнө
I like the zoomed in idea - though this is often a result of anxiety rather than a cause of it - to focus on immediate threats - but a corrective measure - to rationally apply long term decision making and big picture thinking - can indeed help I believe Jeff Bezos highlighted "not sweating the small stuff" as one of the most important ingredients to success. What he likely doesn't understand is how that can be a product of anxiety and the ways in which anxiety can help short term performance but hinder meaningful progress - whilst it can create energy, it can create short term bias, perfectionism, and other harmful ways of thinking and functioning. There is likely more involved for why some people feel anxious and I think it's also worth understanding, managing and eventually overcoming that emotion too
ChuckChazzChar 2 сарын өмнө
this is a wonderful video
avant garde
avant garde 3 сарын өмнө
Whatever you did, you did because you had reason. Never regret.
Drake Frost
Drake Frost 3 сарын өмнө
It was really good and useful
Herbologist Laura
Herbologist Laura 3 сарын өмнө
Yes but movies aren't reality
Ethan Hamby
Ethan Hamby 3 сарын өмнө
Subscribe to my channel
Billy Wong
Billy Wong 3 сарын өмнө
You know when the Endgame is gonna be a classic in 50 years time when you are able to teach motivation and self love from the story arc
Linda Arvidsson
Linda Arvidsson 3 сарын өмнө
Can’t see this cause I haven’t seen the endgame yet😢
Adam Scott
Adam Scott 3 сарын өмнө
I'm still worthy is low-key the best part of the movie for me.
Jesus is king Johnson
Jesus is king Johnson 3 сарын өмнө
Trust the lord Jesus Christ god for every single problem
ALMosice210 3 сарын өмнө
#2 is a GAME CHANGER. Thank you
Bilge Akalın
Bilge Akalın 4 сарын өмнө
Tony’s lesson is to believe everything is gonna be Ok Also tony: dies My heart: broken into hundred thousad pieces
__jan 4 сарын өмнө
Lots of people are complaining in the comments about why he has chosen this movie to teach these lessons.I guess the movie being a global success and these days lots of people are crazy behind superheroes is the reason it is chosen. It may help to reach more audience and teenagers these days really need to learn these lessons from the movies that apart from the powers and appearance it is mentality that matters the most. It is completely my opinion from my social media encounters and I am not at all generalizing or implying that all teens are like that but found majority of people took this movie in a wrong way and some of the reasons were indeed true but again majority were on appearance of Thor and decision of Steve going back. This video addressed the positive thing that can be learnt from issues I stated above.
John Trageser
John Trageser 4 сарын өмнө
I mean cap jumped on a grenade everyone had already ran away from
Тамерлан Азизов
Тамерлан Азизов 4 сарын өмнө
О чем это видео? Объясните!)(((
Comandante Thorn
Comandante Thorn 4 сарын өмнө
When Tony and Howard are having the dad chat and Howard says the "my old man never saw a problem he couldnt solve with a belt" you realize that he actually did his best to be Tonys father, in the end to be the best father you can be first you have to avoid your fathers mistakes and youll probably be in a good road
Kauan Picon
Kauan Picon 5 сарын өмнө
1-falha não o torna indigno de felicidade ou amor. 2-
Wind Ward
Wind Ward 5 сарын өмнө
So what we are trying to address are distorted beliefs largely learned in childhood. The goal here is to modify your own self-image (self-esteem) to one that better reflects your true accomplishments and positive personality traits. I would restate as: #1 - Everyone makes mistakes; this doesn't give control of their lives to others. #2 - I am my own judge. #3 - I am responsible for my own actions. #4 - I don't know everything, and I don't have to. #5 - No one can hurt me without my permission. The above is taken from a base premise of communicating Assertively, in that you must reconcile your own self-worth before learning how conversation affects your audience.
Heidi Job
Heidi Job 5 сарын өмнө
I might need every one of this channel's videos
Bailey Contreras
Bailey Contreras 5 сарын өмнө
this may be the best you tube video ive ever seen , most valuable
Zazai 6 сарын өмнө
Self-esteem is the root of charisma. Higher self esteem means higher confidence. Higher confidence leads to charisma.
Kevin Cannon
Kevin Cannon 6 сарын өмнө
You might as well use a cartoon for reference. These are actors!!!!!
Yik Long Tay
Yik Long Tay 6 сарын өмнө
I felt attacked 5 times.... I have a lot of self work to do
Tory Livingston
Tory Livingston 6 сарын өмнө
The mindset that one can wield Mjolnir is the best confidence and self-esteem booster.
Kaylee Meyer
Kaylee Meyer 6 сарын өмнө
#5 sums up what i understand of Taoism. Really refreshing to be reminding ourselves of that, given where we are right now
Alresu 6 сарын өмнө
Almost no fight scenes besides the big one? Not including the one-hit-things (so The Elder One vs. Hulk or Nebula vs. Quill): 1.: Avengers vs. Thanos in the beginning 2.: Gamora and Nebula fight for Thanos 3.: Hawkeye on his killing spree 4.: Cap vs. Cap 5. Hawkeye vs. Black Widow
Hiello Plier
Hiello Plier 8 сарын өмнө
Thanks for this video C on C. I;'m at a low point in my life due to Failure and it really helps to know that I'm still worthy of love and happiness despite all of my mistakes.
Kevin Jon Orit
Kevin Jon Orit 8 сарын өмнө
Been holding back my tears ever since this video started. Thanks for this
Checken Nugget
Checken Nugget 8 сарын өмнө
Is Thor a Pisces ?
magnum567134 9 сарын өмнө
"...what's gonna happen this day, this week, or even this year..." My brain: 🎶 I'll be there for yoooouuu! 🎶
carriyo 9 сарын өмнө
Im a fan of your work. Thank you. "More often than not we don't think twice when poont it out the bad, yet. Often we stop ourselves from pointing out or praising others from fear we might be out of place." Ironic, I know. Thats why even if the author dont reads my thank you comment Ill make sure to still write it.. There You make sure to have yourself a beautiful day regardless, even if the sky syarts falling to pieces.
Adam Smith
Adam Smith 9 сарын өмнө
The fact that "failure" is misspelled is probably intentional
Pysocal 9 сарын өмнө
Fuckin noob master
Matthew Adler
Matthew Adler 9 сарын өмнө
Got us off of 666 comments...Close one?
Churlz 9 сарын өмнө
This dude just used the Avengers to show us how to become better people. What a madman!
Joe W.
Joe W. 9 сарын өмнө
Any tips for someone who is extremely self-conscious?
LoStar Covers
LoStar Covers 9 сарын өмнө
Make One On Vegeta..
Draiocht Tepes
Draiocht Tepes 9 сарын өмнө
What you call "enlightened selfishness" is what I've always considered to be the difference between self-centered and selfish. With self-centered just meaning that you view your world first and foremost from your place in it, hence centered, whereas selfish is completely disregarding other people entirely.
Leto85 10 сарын өмнө
6:23 'Thank them (negative voices in the head) for doing their best to protect you from change. and let them know that you can handle it from here.' That sounds like a good solution, but how to convince oneself into believing these words?
Marcus Austin
Marcus Austin 10 сарын өмнө
Absolutely loved this video. It gave me some new perspectives on endgame and helped me mentally as well. Great job.
Sabari Sivasundar
Sabari Sivasundar 10 сарын өмнө
This is undoubtedly one of your best work
Marco David
Marco David 10 сарын өмнө
Man, I gotta say you've mined the Avengers series to great effect over so many videos but this might be my favorite of them
relie fernandez b
relie fernandez b 11 сарын өмнө
thank you.
Geeky Gambler
Geeky Gambler 11 сарын өмнө
The text in the thumbnail is slightly tilted and it's bugging me. Please correct it asap.
jadenxkoren 11 сарын өмнө
This video hit home. I had not realized how much I needed to watch that.
יואב קריסטל
יואב קריסטל 11 сарын өмнө
This video is amazing. I went through some major changes in my life and personality in the last year, and I think I've used most of the methods in the video, but it remindes me of how important it was to me, and how believing I can change changed me and my live even though everyone told me I couldn't
Joseph Izzo
Joseph Izzo 11 сарын өмнө
Who you’re supposed to be doesn’t exist. Who you could have been, does and is waiting for you
mathu whycough
mathu whycough 11 сарын өмнө
this one is better then most Churches
sunsetz23 Жилийн өмнө
Tony's lesson: Believing everything will be ok. also tony: dies
Louin Green
Louin Green Жилийн өмнө
"I think i would just cut the wire" Does ironman always have the perfect response?
Dave Cullins
Dave Cullins Жилийн өмнө
To me being selfish in a healthy way meant standing up to my emotionally abusive mother who kept using various inconsistent morals to shame me for not doing things exactly her way, even when it didn't make any sense. Thanks to Charisma University I finally saw she was bullying me and the rest of the family into submission as a control freak because she herself lacks basic self-confidence and therefore needs almost everything her way or she throws a tantrum. Now I have the confidence to say "NO" and stick to it and I feel so much better and more confident!
Dave Cullins
Dave Cullins 11 сарын өмнө
@Raquel Dobson You too!
Raquel Dobson
Raquel Dobson 11 сарын өмнө
Dave Cullins - can relate, well done you! Stay well!
Dominic Alioto
Dominic Alioto Жилийн өмнө
This is the best Charisma on Command video I've ever seen. Thank you.
Ashwin Shanker
Ashwin Shanker Жилийн өмнө
I cried watching this video, can't thank you enough. I needed this.
Mirsad Hoda
Mirsad Hoda Жилийн өмнө
BLA... BLA.. BLA...
flower_ girl
flower_ girl Жилийн өмнө
I am socially awkward, what do I do? Like I don't usually talk but wen I do I can hardly keep people's attention on me or to me 😔 I don't know how to explain it but it's like that
Nathaniel Johnson
Nathaniel Johnson Жилийн өмнө
I dont have to suffer to be a good person, wow. Only if it’s necessary
HerrSolahri Жилийн өмнө
I would share some lobster, but im shellfish.
Reinhart Alvaro
Reinhart Alvaro Жилийн өмнө
Powerful and meaningful video, definitely boosting your own mentality is more important than just social or dating tips
braeden martin
braeden martin Жилийн өмнө
Watching this video makes me realize how big of a mess I am
Edgar U
Edgar U Жилийн өмнө
I'm triggered the scene with black widow made me cry instantly
zinka d-va
zinka d-va Жилийн өмнө
The best message🔥
Matthew Barry
Matthew Barry Жилийн өмнө
Love this guy haha
David Tetley
David Tetley Жилийн өмнө
Incredible video, don’t know why you’re views have dropped. You’re doing a good job 👍🏼
J B Жилийн өмнө
Barely any fight scenes? Did we watch the same movie lol
wuxian Жилийн өмнө
“best friend brain” is just... literally breathtaking i was like “wow” great video as always
David Hartin
David Hartin Жилийн өмнө
People are using the avengers as an example way too much. Taking me out of the mind frame...
Sibusiso Mkwanazi
Sibusiso Mkwanazi Жилийн өмнө
Iron man's mindset is the last one I need to learn
Void Жилийн өмнө
Wow... After this video I had to rethink my whole life from where I was then, to where I am now. Really puts a smile on my face! I'm saving this vid in my special playlists
Elvin Mateo
Elvin Mateo Жилийн өмнө
What an awesome vid, thank you :^)
Hellboy Жилийн өмнө
This video is beautiful, all I have to say
Upset Spaget
Upset Spaget Жилийн өмнө
Dont forget the understated lesson taught by Banner. By accepting the things we are most often ashamed/afraid of in ourselves (our id if you will). We learn from our shortcomings and grow exponentially because of it.
Gary Kuhlmann
Gary Kuhlmann Жилийн өмнө
Your channel is awesome. I just subscribed. I've learned so much just in the few videos I've watched so far. Thank you!
Guilherme Pfister
Guilherme Pfister Жилийн өмнө
I love your content. The name "CU" of charisma university means "anus" in brazilian portuguese. XD
Dietmar Steinhaus
Dietmar Steinhaus Жилийн өмнө
It´s highly interesting how you analyze fiction in order to draw psychological real conclusions. You did so equally well on Game of Thrones. It shows both your competence and the one of the writers and actors.
C. Bradford
C. Bradford Жилийн өмнө
You have you cover the way @stevo shows confidence!
Dennis Lopez
Dennis Lopez Жилийн өмнө
Very, very good video. Gave me goosebumps the realization that in you have to have faith that in the grand scheme of things everything will turn out fine.
Ricky Жилийн өмнө
With the best friend brain I actually often pretend like I'm making a youtube video talking to an audience that might be going through the same :-)
The Man XX
The Man XX Жилийн өмнө
Charisma on Command: I recommend checking out Charisma University Me: No,no i don't think i will BTW great video tho
Anon Ymous
Anon Ymous Жилийн өмнө
The lesson on "Everything is going to be ok" is actually something Ive been integrating into my own life to help with my anger issues. The question to ask yourself of "How will this situation matter 5 years from now?" has helped a ton with keeping myself controlled where I can make a calm, logical decision on a dilemma.
M B Жилийн өмнө
Hello, thank you for the very interesting content : my question (both for this video AND for the one about buidling self confidence) are your messages directed equaly to men and women ? Don't confident and strong women inspire insecurity and even fear to other people ? thank you (I come from a very conservative background and currently working in a men dominated field, and I can't count how many times I heard : 'a woman cannot be both beautifull and smart' , 'A women is not excpected to stand out for herself' etc ...)
Ben James Light
Ben James Light Жилийн өмнө
Women can be beautiful and smart. It's old conditioning of society that says otherwise which is on the change. A confident and strong women can only inspire insecurity and fear if the other person is insecure already. Perhaps they just haven't met many confident women so like any new situation are somewhat wary. Just be yourself and let others just be their-selves is simple authentic confidence advice I remember🙂
Who-man ?
Who-man ? Жилийн өмнө
And the all mighty soul stone that dastardly bastard the one plot hole Marvel and the Russo brothers try as they may try as they might they will never fill that plot hole that was caused when black widow and Clint were arguing over who got to sacrifice themselves to get tbs other one the soul stone and we all know black widow jumped to her death leaving Clint to wake up with it in his hand which is impossible because if anyone would remember what Red Scull said had to be done to get the stone he said that the person seaking the stone must give up the one thing that you love most to get it meaning you have to kill the one you love most love Widow suicide wasn't what Hawk Eye loved most and she clearly loved hawk eye more than herself so her death would not have worked per Red Skull and clearly he should.
nf lo
nf lo Жилийн өмнө
*sees the thumbnail* Nah I'm selfish enough thank you
Holypikemanz Жилийн өмнө
Those recommended quotes for the module are pretty ridiculous sounding.
Jared Palmer
Jared Palmer Жилийн өмнө
Just looked at the charisma university prices... yikes I want to change but I have rent and food to pay for man.
Anak Muda
Anak Muda Жилийн өмнө
I don't like your voice
Nick Steffl
Nick Steffl Жилийн өмнө
This is a phenomenal video. It's so easy to beat up on ourselves. But We ARE worthy of understanding, forgiveness, and love.
Moeman Жилийн өмнө
Let deep introspection be the mirror to your soul - Baltasar Gracian
Huzaifa Patel
Huzaifa Patel Жилийн өмнө
Beautiful video❤️
Huzaifa Patel
Huzaifa Patel Жилийн өмнө
Authenticity and accountability 💯💯💯
Tim Dolan
Tim Dolan Жилийн өмнө
Starting at about 0:46 I think you have "Failure" spelled wrong. Did you do this on purpose to further make that point? Or... are you like me and forget that spellchecker sometimes does not correct words in all caps?
Alexander Жилийн өмнө
He just accepted his faliure in writing “failure”, proving his own point
R.K. Vigneshwar
R.K. Vigneshwar Жилийн өмнө
To me, (2014) Nebula's behavior seems to be that of a person traumatized from her childhood who can't let go of it.
Thandeka Jwara
Thandeka Jwara Жилийн өмнө
amazing, 🙌🙌🙌 Wow great video
Leonardo Honorato
Leonardo Honorato Жилийн өмнө
Please can you do a vídeo about Thomas shelby ? Peaky blinders is in 5 séries and would be really amazing watch a vídeo about... I'm brazilian
Arthur Wong
Arthur Wong Жилийн өмнө
Nice vid
Closer2Zero Жилийн өмнө
The way i came to the idea of 'everything will be okay' was after the series of worst days ive ever had, months of terrible things after terrible thing culminating to the worst day of my life. I got better and i chose this mindset; "What is the truly worst thing that could happen? You could die. By your own hand, or that of another or of circumstance. I choose to not die. And if I wont kill myself, then I can only move forward. If death if the worst thing that can happen, and I do not choose death, then i choose the other option- to live. If you live things can only get better." I hope that helps someone else.
Indigo Crow
Indigo Crow Жилийн өмнө
Don't you think that the Charisma University money back guarantee is a bit sneaky? Because, if the course doesn't work for you, you probably won't have the self-confidence to dare ask for your money back.
Ramez Rafik
Ramez Rafik Жилийн өмнө
I still don’t understand the Nebula part
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