5 Common Phrases That Ruin First Impressions

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The first impressions that you make often hinge on the smallest of things. It can be a gesticulation or a choice of words. Your first impressions snap into place in just seven seconds. These judgments are influenced by a number of factors. Choosing the right things to say and do will affect your relationship with the person you are meeting with in a big way.
In this video, I want to share 5 phrases I hear all the time that can destroy your charisma. I will also give you some things that you can say instead, so that you can continue to make amazing first impressions, and become your most confident, charismatic self in the moments that matter the most!

0:23 - Phrase #1: ”Sorry for taking your time”
1:45 - Phrase #2: “Fine”
3:03 - Phrase #3: “Hey…”
4:06 - Phrase #4: “Nice to see you”
5:07 - Phrase #5: “Can I buy you a drink/coffee?”
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DC BC 50 минутын өмнө
when someone (co-worker), casually asks, "How are you, or How's it going?" I usually respond with, "Yeah... you?" I always gets a chuckle with that.
The Last Word
The Last Word Цагийн өмнө
So ladies have never asked to buy you a drink…but guys have. 👁👄👁
Mezzi Riggs
Mezzi Riggs Өдрийн өмнө
As someone who's recently been diagnosed with autism at 32, and have suffered from social anxiety and depression since I can remember, I am so grateful I found this channel! All of my previous friendships and relationships were toxic and short-lived, because I never understood the importance of social rules, or why I always seem to come across to people as rude, or awkward, or just unlikable, and now I feel like I have some kind of hope of being "normal". I have no interest in public speaking or starting a business or whatever, but my hope is that by learning good interpersonal skills, I will finally be able to cultivate the kind of friendships and relationships I've always wanted, so thank you!
Alexander Amicucci
Alexander Amicucci Өдрийн өмнө
My go to is : "I'm hangin out."
rudy harper
rudy harper 2 өдрийн өмнө
disagree on "solid". Right up there with "i'm not gonna lie..." and "reaching out" Mindless gen-speak
Sal Agnello
Sal Agnello 2 өдрийн өмнө
Being memorable is about creating an emotional response in the other person. The old how you say something is much more important than what you say is true. Also, being descriptive is a great way to stand out. After being asked how are you, you could say “living the dream” (that of course is if it isn’t over used) or you could say “walking on sunshine”. Now let’s be completely honest, if you light up a room because you look like a Greek God statue that just came to life or a super model that just walked off the pages of Vogue and sprung into life, you won’t have to say anything special because you already light up a room (just saying hello and smiling will make a great impression)… But for the rest of us average or scraping the bottom of barrel people, let’s just say we have some effort to make to be memorable.
Electrology Now
Electrology Now 2 өдрийн өмнө
What I always say to women I'm just meeting (not professionally): "Oh, were we married?"
Electrology Now
Electrology Now 2 өдрийн өмнө
I usually say "ausge-fukin'-zeichnet" Well, Germans like it, anyway.
Electrology Now
Electrology Now 2 өдрийн өмнө
When a new patient says, "I'm sorry for taking your time ... " Well, THAT is the patient that usually will become a difficult patient and start seeing problems that aren't there! For me, that's a red flag!
Nuraini Arsad
Nuraini Arsad 2 өдрийн өмнө
‘Fine’ is what I say when I really mean ‘I know that wasn’t an honest question and you want me to say fine irrespective of the truth’. It’s my socially compliant answer. I’d rather people don’t ask that question at all and get on with what they want, rather than fake care.
elsquibbs 3 өдрийн өмнө
This is all very good advice.
Ian White
Ian White 3 өдрийн өмнө
This guy looks like the typical cute boy they hire for a Nickelodeon show.
Kamen 6 өдрийн өмнө
"Hi! can you buy me a drink?"
John F
John F 8 өдрийн өмнө
#1 should be "literally"
Amirikl 8 өдрийн өмнө
All the sochiopaths watching this video in order to make a better impression with the new people in their lives, after burning all the bridges down :D Hi! Nice to seee youuuu! :P
Laska Golden
Laska Golden 9 өдрийн өмнө
...defensively I reply. It's defense NOT defence... unless you are removing a fence.
Tim McDonnell
Tim McDonnell 10 өдрийн өмнө
Where this dude from? Not Philly
Tim McDonnell
Tim McDonnell 10 өдрийн өмнө
Crystal Garig
Crystal Garig 11 өдрийн өмнө
I really enjoy your videos, as they give me a completely different perspective on certain social interactions that I otherwise wouldn't have thought twice about. I was wondering about the 5th item you brought up as far as if you wanted to go an extra step further, instead of asking to buy someone a drink, just buying them a drink - I've heard from other perspectives that just buying someone a drink can come off as crass (albeit, those were generally in the mindset of a guy coming up to a girl at a bar) if you read this comment I was wondering what your thoughts on that perspective are? Also, being that everyone has different tastes in what they enjoy - for instance, you stated you don't really drink coffee - what if I accidentally buy the person a drink they don't care for? Would a decent alternative be to state something along the lines of, 'I'd like to buy you a drink, what would you prefer?' or would that be a bad approach as a first impression?
Derek Weselake
Derek Weselake 13 өдрийн өмнө
If you are in Canada, saying Sorry is a power move
Jared Conner
Jared Conner 16 өдрийн өмнө
I just say: “ I forgot how to use the bathroom so it has been a hell of a mornin” Nobody ever forgets that
James Mic. Lewis
James Mic. Lewis 17 өдрийн өмнө
When he said he don't like coffee I unsubscribed.
LadyScotti 17 өдрийн өмнө
"Just buy them the cup of coffee anyways - don't ask permission, just do it." Yea, no please don't - unless it's established that that's an okay thing to do. Do ask permission and consent. When the other person orders, instead go "I'd like to pay for that. Is that okay?" / "Can I get that for you?" Then they can choose if they want to let you pay or not.
Farming In Iowa eden
Farming In Iowa eden 19 өдрийн өмнө
Now I know what to do to get rid of someone lol.
Emilia 20 өдрийн өмнө
Damnit, i say sorry too much, my best friend even gotta remind me sometimes to try use other words instead of sorry
Hunter Fronczak
Hunter Fronczak 21 өдрийн өмнө
Say, “I’m chillin & grillin how you feelin?” In response to how are you. You’re welcome.
Me Be
Me Be 22 өдрийн өмнө
#5!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As a girl, I ALWAYS have rejected guys buying me drinks at bars or anywhere really for that EXACT reason. My girl friends love when guys buy them drinks because they know they will just ignore them right away or they don't mind wasting their outing on someone they know they'll never actually talk to after that visit-- but I have a conscience! I would MUCH rather not waste my or his time nor his hard-earned money, but most of all, I don't want to FEEL LIKE I OWE HIM ANYTHING just because he essentially gave me a fiver. If you feel like it's wrong to not buy someone a drink on first meeting-- then chat them up a little bit first to gauge if they respond well to you before wasting your money. If they're not interested in you without a drink, they're not interested in you with one. The drink should only be a gesture of kindness after you verify the vibes are right.
Me Be
Me Be 22 өдрийн өмнө
One time I politely rejected a guy's plea to buy me a drink maybe 5 times, he still bought me it anyway, and when I told him no I am not going home with you, he actually got mad at me because he bought me a drink I didn't want! Super manipulative
LolaCrazy2221 23 өдрийн өмнө
I have Asperger's Syndrome so it's always been hard for me to understand and do small talk. When for example if I walk down the street and somebody says 'Hi',"How are you","Good morning or good evening" or "Nice day is it" I usually think is this all that this person has got to say to me? Or I would think this is boring. I always felt more comfortable with some stranger coming up to me and say "Hi" or "How are you?" and then say something like "What's your name?" or "Where are you from?" this works better for me. When I see people do that instead of just a "Hi" or "How are you?" and then keep on walking it shows to me that the other person or people are more likely going to remember a first impression and would more likely want to get to know me later and be friends.
BC P 23 өдрийн өмнө
Take 8 minutes to say 5 phrases... this dude really loves to hear himself talk.
Steven Colletti
Steven Colletti 24 өдрийн өмнө
Hey, how are ya? Me: I could complain, but why waste time on that...
Lord Charfield
Lord Charfield 24 өдрийн өмнө
I tried number 4 on my wife. I now have a frying pan shaped indentation in my forehead!
Malisa Days
Malisa Days 25 өдрийн өмнө
My grandmother usually says "Do you want the truth or a polite reply?"
Chad 25 өдрийн өмнө
I've found these videos to be on point and helpful, appreciate the work he puts in.
mrkiky 25 өдрийн өмнө
6:45 "Just do it" - Nike logo appears in the bottom right corner. You thought I wasn't gonna see that?
mrkiky 25 өдрийн өмнө
How are you? I've been better... You? I've been better...
MTF_Nine_Tailed _Fox
MTF_Nine_Tailed _Fox 26 өдрийн өмнө
The Comment Section has better advice
Felipe Maya
Felipe Maya 26 өдрийн өмнө
- Hello there -General Kenobi Best conversation starter
Ce'ril Kaalin
Ce'ril Kaalin 27 өдрийн өмнө
Gotta say, only remember a guy called Josh, he was trying to have me be comfortable, which I was eventually with his enthusiastic talking of "You're in our family and you're not alone." First thing I remember is that he appreciates that I made some time for that day and "let's get started" Only noticed those few words because I'm trying to learn more on talking with other people b/c if I am to get into Real Estate, I'd need to know when to talk and when to take pauses so the other party can jump into the conversation.
Shresth Jain
Shresth Jain 28 өдрийн өмнө
first thing i am doing when i start earning is take up this course
Joseph Сарын өмнө
This guy isn't as confident as his channel.
ItsTimeToBolt Сарын өмнө
I like your use of red & green.
Personcina Bella
Personcina Bella Сарын өмнө
5:46 5$ for a cup of coffe?!?!? In Italy coffe costs around 1/1.5$
OwenzHub Сарын өмнө
I think I'll say I'm "copacetic" when I'm "fine". It should stand out.
Martina Darcy
Martina Darcy Сарын өмнө
Irish way..... How are ya ❤️
kai allen
kai allen Сарын өмнө
i think accents can effect your first impressions with people. as a person with quite the stereotypical British accent (i speak posh) i can back this up, when I was 13 and just starting secondary school (high school), I was speaking with the accent I have and by the end of the first class everyone was starting conversations with me. this may not actually effect anything but it's just my experience with most first impressions that I have hope this helps anyone!
Nyon Сарын өмнө
Am I the only freaked out about the size of his mouth
Jimbo Slice
Jimbo Slice Сарын өмнө
Some of his first words on this video were “Goes good”....*Goes well, homie.*
John Smith
John Smith Сарын өмнө
I always say "Good".
George Dunn
George Dunn Сарын өмнө
"Howdy" (scrunch of "How do you do?) is not actually an inquiry; it's a "phatic communication." The proper response is "hello" or one of its equivalents.
ALL2BLAME 1 Сарын өмнө
Just do it!!!. Lol saw the Nike logo flash in the corner ...
Ivanoff Сарын өмнө
I wish I could watch this video two years ago.
Hawi Conrado
Hawi Conrado Сарын өмнө
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Xavier Lucy
Xavier Lucy Сарын өмнө
HEY... why is there a nike Logo while you say "just do it" at 6"45?
Kittsuera Сарын өмнө
"how are you" Me years ago: "Pine~" "Pine?" Me: Yeah, pine as a pineapple~~~
Faith Sizemore
Faith Sizemore Сарын өмнө
Word of caution, not everyone is cool with people buying them stuff. If someone bought me a drink or food, especially a man, I'd flat out refuse it. So many risks involved, you don't know what's in it if you might try to hang that over their head as if they owe you something because of this. Gifts and or exchange of material things should be avoided unless you are aware that is something they are okay with, say from a friend of a friend or from hearing about them say it online or someplace else. Even if it wasn't a safety thing, some people take pride in buying their own things especially if they don't come from wealth, so they might feel insulted. I know I would because it comes across as too presumptuous. Now many people wouldn't care, I'm only speaking for myself here, that's why I find it easy to not make assumptions about what another person would perceive as a nice gesture unless I'm certain of it. I would much prefer to be asked if they can buy me xyz because it shows respect in my opinion, and I have the power to decline but tell them I'll meet with you on my terms and buy my own xyz.
Tracey Сарын өмнө
Basic communication skills. These videos are going to be crucial in the future, especially for GenZ. Sadly. Technology has stopped them from having the ability to know social queues and how to navigate conversations.
SoundsSilver Сарын өмнө
“Sorry to completely waste your time (that is what I’m about to do though, and there’s no way around it so just comply and this will be over quickly)”
SoundsSilver Сарын өмнө
“Hey! Sorry for the uncharismatic greeting”
Clayton Foster
Clayton Foster Сарын өмнө
I teach men not to buy me drinks by taking the drink and immediately walking away lolol
Badenhawk Сарын өмнө
I actually enjoy telling people (briefly) how I am actually doing when they ask. It really makes people second guess how they go about saying things that often people say as a habit, such as "hey how's it goin?" Asked as just a greeting without really wondering how someone is actually doing. Then you actually answer and they were like oh I didn't mean it literally but ok..... Lol then don't ask lol. Anyway, I think it helps people get out of a habit of an improper routine greeting.
Kai Noriyuki
Kai Noriyuki Сарын өмнө
"Hi my name is giovanni giorgio but everybody calls me giorgio" "tuntununtunununtununun"
Amber Baker
Amber Baker Сарын өмнө
Checking out at the grocery store, I asked the checker “how are you?” He said “I am strange.” Instantly memorable. For a while I would choose his lane if it was a toss up otherwise. Then one day after having been through his line several times in the past, he spoke with a different accent. He sounded completely American which was strange because he had been speaking with an (apparently fake) Australian accent ever since I first met him. I started avoiding his line after that. Lol
Jay Son
Jay Son Сарын өмнө
Love your videos! Btw, has anyone told you that you look like Brendon Urie? Because you do.
Keeperof Themountain
Keeperof Themountain Сарын өмнө
Hi, How are you? Like pulverized pepper. Huh? Beat up but fine.
Janece Nufer
Janece Nufer Сарын өмнө
Wait do people actually say "Nice to see you?"
Dallas Carlson
Dallas Carlson Сарын өмнө
Most people: *Watching this to better conversations* Me, an extremely busy introvert: *learning things to say in order to kill conversations*
A. Jay
A. Jay Сарын өмнө
Seriously how much life experience this kid has to say these things? Does he even understand what life experience means?
SheisChaos Сарын өмнө
I knew a psychopath who always said he was "great" or "excellent". So I guess you could say my bias rubs me the wrong way. But saying these things are not genuine. They may make you charismatic but not sincere.
Jeffrey Reynolds
Jeffrey Reynolds 2 сарын өмнө
One thing that I do When I run into somebody I know from somewhere and we recognize each other and they remember my name but I don't remember theirs is using a Gender neutral Name. Hey Chris, it's been a long time! What have you been up to? Or, any statement like that. Automatially, they remind me their name, their not offended and conversation continues. Works every time for me.
Owen Hawkins
Owen Hawkins 2 сарын өмнө
luv ur vids
Miss Understood
Miss Understood 2 сарын өмнө
Wow. Great advice ty
Daniel Sarmento
Daniel Sarmento 2 сарын өмнө
I don’t really agree with the last one. What if I don’t want anybody to “surprise” me and buy me anything? I’d rather just talk. What do you think? Great vídeos, btw. Cheers from Brazil.
Terry Brown
Terry Brown 2 сарын өмнө
I make a great first impression. It's all the impressions I make after that. That's the problem.
Expunge6667 2 сарын өмнө
When asked "How are you?" I often reply "Can't complain, but I still do." Helps break the ice.
Addy Diesel
Addy Diesel 2 сарын өмнө
You are legit an expert date/charisma doctor. You should be charging hundreds of dollars an hour for 1 on 1 coaching, if not already.
MRSCHARLES I 2 сарын өмнө
MFBias 2 сарын өмнө
If anyone says “Im amazing” I will think this person is unstable.
Dave Gentleman
Dave Gentleman 2 сарын өмнө
3:40 Yo! Wassup dude! No.
Tiky Reol
Tiky Reol 2 сарын өмнө
I'm intrigued by "how are you"s because they appear to be a question but it's not really usually, so "I'm intrigued" would be an honest answer. Another honest answer would be train-wreck waiting to happen because I seem to be suffering from anxiety what with all of the fuss of adult life, like a speeding train with the pounding heart of a mouse being chased by a cat except there's no cat - just meows, while childhood was more like flowers and butterflies with clouds and thunderbolts. I don't feel like I'm in control - I feel like I'm not getting closer to what I keep thinking is my destination and instead, it keeps looking more and more like a distant point. I'm a wheel in a mechanism and I'm trying to move on my own but the other wheels are turning too with a mind of their own and it would mean I should turn the whole mechanism instead to get that freedom - how can I be myself when I am part of the "system" - so I lie to myself in order to get a feeling of feeling better and I drown my consciousness. Maybe I should accept I am part of a system and so absolute individuality and freedom is not realistic - it does not mean I couldn't achieve something close to that though - it's just not something easily obtained.
giedryztube 2 сарын өмнө
Strong points except.. “What’s your name AGAIN”. One of the most douchy things to say.
circle VIII
circle VIII Сарын өмнө
wow you really have lived a sheltered life if that's the most douchey thing someone has said to you lol
kieghacat 2 сарын өмнө
I think we need to provide more alternatives to the phase "moving forward". Its overused by Politicians and especially Julia Gillard and every time I hear it in the office I cringe and think "please can you not say something like 'in future' or 'for next time'.."
kieghacat 2 сарын өмнө
I can't remember people's names to save my life. I for real check our staff face sheet every day.
kieghacat 2 сарын өмнө
- Hi, how are you? - **I'm having a horrible day... don't say fine** "Well I'm really down because I just broke up with my boyfriend, my dog died, I got fired and my car broke down on the way home and-" - didn't ask for your life story....
kieghacat Өдрийн өмнө
@Seireness lols
Seireness Өдрийн өмнө
Exactly they didn't ask for your life story so don't give them one. Instead say, "It's been a rough day to be honest but I'm trying to make it better, how about you?" You can be honest without being an energy vampire.
Alpharex Rex
Alpharex Rex 2 сарын өмнө
I don't like small talk so I stick to the most basic things, which include saying I'm fine regardless of how I truly feel, and greeting stand-in #3 with a "nice to see you" and a forced half-smile.
nomparfait 2 сарын өмнө
UTU49 2 сарын өмнө
Inigo Montoya: "My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die." Charisma on Command: "Stop saying this!"
Rafael Cardeño Jr.
Rafael Cardeño Jr. 2 сарын өмнө
I have never heard anyone say “hey” without following up on it other than people who absolutely do not want to talk to anyone.
Daniel Buval
Daniel Buval 2 сарын өмнө
This guy looks like Marc Anthony the salsa singer .
Walter Manfred
Walter Manfred 2 сарын өмнө
Nah .. disagree with your assessment of "hey" ... it is HOW you say it and not what that subsequently follows. Do it like Nick (from the character in "Family Ties") with a cheeky grin. This works on me. The whole point is to understand the congruence between your character and how you manifest it outwardly.
CHING HO 2 сарын өмнө
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Careless Dreamer
Careless Dreamer 2 сарын өмнө
i'm definitely guilty of 2. 3. and 4., watching this is giving me some ideas of what to work it in future. in regards to 2 i wanted to know if anyone can answer this, what if you genuinely aren't very happy or maybe just not a very upbeat person, but don't want to let that on and are working on it, what would be an appropriate response other than saying something like "i'm fantastic"? cause that's too positive sounding and would feel like a lie.
Michael Evans
Michael Evans 2 сарын өмнө
My exgirlfriend used to that i was fine....which is the problem fine is mediocrity. I would rather be exceptional or spectacular.
Tanner 2 сарын өмнө
How are you doing? In Australia the standard response is: “No use complaining”
kieghacat 2 сарын өмнө
really? I've never heard that one! I would have thought it would be "yeah nah I'm right"
big vape
big vape 2 сарын өмнө
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Mike Lalor
Mike Lalor 2 сарын өмнө
Can't agree more with the "cup of coffee" tip - it has become such a common management trope to try and buy good will, when frankly it's cheap
Alex Venegas
Alex Venegas 2 сарын өмнө
"How are you?" me: I'm here meeting with you so I must be desperate evidently
Ritzzz blitzz
Ritzzz blitzz 2 сарын өмнө
derbagger22 2 сарын өмнө
Why do I have T-Pain in my head now??
Lunete La Lune
Lunete La Lune 2 сарын өмнө
I always say: I’m well, thank you. And you?
Kerry Overall
Kerry Overall 2 сарын өмнө
When someone asks me how i am doing, i always try to respond with something outlandish like, "How are you?"...me "terrible!" or "I'm dying" then with a grin I continue "and you?" Seems to open up a conversation .... Thank you for the videos...very insightful...but terrible! Ha!
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