How To Conquer Imposter Syndrome

  Үзсэн тоо 281,667

Charisma on Command

Жилийн өмнө

Subscribe to our podcast:
bit.ly/2HkV85n
Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s MNpost Account:
bit.ly/COC-Subscribe

Today we are talking about self-doubt. The particular self-doubt that gets in your head, maybe when you’ve gotten a promotion, or you just started dating someone that is a bit out of your league. It says: “You don’t deserve this, you shouldn't be here”.
This is called imposter syndrome, and unfortunately, it can make you self sabotage the thing that you just got so you fall back to where you feel comfortable, even though you were deserving of what you had. Which is why in this video, I will talk about three behavioral changes to CRUSH imposter syndrome.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
1:55 - Change #1: You will not overstate what you can do going forwards
3:32 - Change #2: Take honest stock of your past, then see if you can help
4:50 - Change #3: Focus on creating results for the people around you
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
#SelfDevelopment #CharismaOnCommand #ImposterSyndrome
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Connect With Us Further:
Website: www.charismaoncommand.com
Facebook: charismaoncommand
Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand
Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music):
Instagram: @CharlieHoupert
Instagram: @IamBenAltman

Сэтгэгдлүүд
MHH.aljunaibi
MHH.aljunaibi Сарын өмнө
He is sus
Charles Burhans
Charles Burhans Сарын өмнө
My entire life is imposter syndrome. And I'm a straight male so its even worse. Help. Lol
Adam Snetiker
Adam Snetiker 4 сарын өмнө
This is the best video I've seen on this topic by far. You absolutely DO know what you're talking about, and you're the only person I've ever seen say something that really makes sense and give concrete solutions to solve the problem. The funny thing is these are things I always tell myself - don't lie on your resume, don't promise anything you can't deliver on, and make an impact - but I never thought of them as ways to fight self-doubt. Simplicity is best, and this is solid proof: if you help people, you're not an imposter.
Winter Wolf's Lunar Affinity
Winter Wolf's Lunar Affinity 5 сарын өмнө
I am not even an expert at being myself. I only wish to become and expert at not dwelling upon my mistakes and use such downfalls in my life as potential learning experiences to make myself as well as everyone i care about sincerely happy in ways that are not selfish or deceitful.
Jordan Belfort
Jordan Belfort 6 сарын өмнө
Good video, here's my summary: • Imposter syndrome = self-doubt that says "u don't deserve this / to be here" (e. g. after getting a promotion) • Can make u self-sabotage that thing u just got -> u fall back 2 where u where before (/felt comfortable) • World is full of imposters; having a healthy dose of scepticism towards ur own abilities is good (prevents overconfidence bias) • Mindset to deal with imposter syndrome: "They're not expecting me to be the best in the world. They're expecting me to help in the way that I say I can. If I do that, I'm not an imposter." • This mindset implies three behavioral changes: a. Don't overstate what u can do i. Draw clear boundaries over what u can / can't do yet b. Take an honest stock of your past, then see if u can help i. Weigh all positive against all negative feedback: What overweighs? Don't sweat the small stuff. c. Focus on creating results for the people around u i. People don't care about ur credentials; they want u to change their life in a positive way
Blankfaceman
Blankfaceman 10 сарын өмнө
Your face has so much character its interesting in a good way
Entropy4All
Entropy4All 11 сарын өмнө
Generally love your videos but I have to say that you missed the target on this one. Impostor Syndrome is when you can do the job or you are worthy of the situation, but you still fear that you are not and that any day now you'll be discovered. For example: maybe you've been doing a good job for several years, but you still live in fear that sometime very soon, something will come along that will reveal that you aren't nearly as competent as your boss and coworkers believe you are. The fact that that "revealing event" never occurs doesn't diminish your unfounded fears. Another example may be that someone believes that they are not as interesting, intelligent, attractive, fashionable, as their group of friends. Even though that group of friends really like the person, they live with the nagging feeling that they don't deserve to be a member of this friend group and that soon, the friends will realize it. What you're describing is this video is more like "Poser Syndrome" (don't know if that's actually a thing) where you've, intentionally or unintentionally, put yourself into a position that you are not prepared for. Impostor Syndrome = fearing that you're not worthy when you actually are. Poser Syndrome = when you are pretending to be worthy or capable of something that you are not. PS: Impostor is spelled with 2 'o's and no 'e's.
Kate Gladstone
Kate Gladstone Жилийн өмнө
Near the end of the video, why did you say “for Ben and I” instead of “for Ben and me”? (If Ben hadn’t been involved, would you have said “for I”?
Michael Thompson
Michael Thompson Жилийн өмнө
Thank you. Very reasonable information.
Seon19
Seon19 Жилийн өмнө
I hate imposter syndrome. Whenever it is that I'm about to start a relationship with someone, there's this voice in my head like "you sure? maybe you don't like her anymore. responsibility is scary, y'know...". Dammit. But anyways, you're welcome, Charlie.
Clinkxster
Clinkxster Жилийн өмнө
Sorry but I don't seem to understand tip #2.
Krishna Patel
Krishna Patel Жилийн өмнө
If I see someone's life ,anyone who is successful in his life it is because👉👉👉 they have their 4 things Balance and got settled ,they are undisturbed with the outside world 1.Self-Worth 2.Self-Confidance 3.Self-Love 4.Self- Esteem Now I might not be much in this place but I have 2 struggle to get all what I have lost during any time wheather it is childhood or teenage time......I want to work hard to get all my powers back.
ギドラ
ギドラ Жилийн өмнө
4chan is more honest than reddit. Reddit is about groupthink and consensus, not real quality.
Малик Ермуханов
Малик Ермуханов Жилийн өмнө
Hello please you speak russian and subtiters
Brooke Holloway
Brooke Holloway Жилийн өмнө
Thank you so much for this. I often get in my own way because of imposter syndrome. It’s good to have these perspectives for self reflection. I really like your content. You have an answer for almost every situation. I also like how you address how you will be perceived with real examples.
Carlos Andres
Carlos Andres Жилийн өмнө
Great
Athlète
Athlète Жилийн өмнө
Lol at 3:58 you see Brie Larson « is this a personal attack »
Tim T
Tim T Жилийн өмнө
Video feels like it's talking more about self-awareness than imposter syndrome. Or is that the point of the video --- fighting imposter syndrome with self-awareness? Sorry, listening while doing laundry LOL
ifluxion
ifluxion Жилийн өмнө
I have an issue where when I am successful in some application for something, I look back at the application documents and try to remember things I probably did good in an attempt to self-satisfy myself. But at the same time, I seriously feel like this is a very bad habit since I am not looking at the things I probably did bad or wrong that I should improve, thus not improving myself at all. I feel like I am conveniently cherry picking things that would make me feel better, which later turns into "I feel like a fake" or "full of myself". Would this count as imposter syndrome? Or would this count as narcissism?
george mira
george mira Жилийн өмнө
NO one is "out of your league", merely more psychopathic than you.
Zetsuke4
Zetsuke4 Жилийн өмнө
That's what YT Likes/Dislike ratio and Comments are for! My fav BL channel
Zetsuke4
Zetsuke4 Жилийн өмнө
Nice
Simply Inspired
Simply Inspired Жилийн өмнө
💙 I loved this, thank you for redirecting my thoughts about feelings lesser. You made feeling like an imposter a positive thing 💙
John McGhee
John McGhee Жилийн өмнө
Watched this video after being awarded a PhD / he tells me I’m not expected to be an expert. Damn
Mii
Mii Жилийн өмнө
When you said "Thank you" at the beginning of the video, I felt tears coming up. Have been working very hard for many years on conquering my imposter syndrome. Recently turned down a job with no challenge and where I would have been underpaid, because I realized I should authorize myself to aim higher. Thanks for all your videos, they help me in countless ways.
KEMBAR KEMBAR
KEMBAR KEMBAR Жилийн өмнө
I AM BOY FOKUS MY IDE TARGET AND SASARAN IMPROSIBE BUT MY IDE TO SELF TO MEMORY MAISET AND IDE TERGET I SLOW II PROSES AND LAST I AM QUSCION ANSWER.
Vishnu Vengadeswaran
Vishnu Vengadeswaran Жилийн өмнө
Your every video changes my view on myself and life. Thank YOU for this
Charisma on Command
Charisma on Command Жилийн өмнө
~ Glad you're finding our videos insightful, Vishnu!
Ben Mazur
Ben Mazur Жилийн өмнө
I feel like this is a complete misrepresentation of what imposter syndrome actually is. I like the message of how not to be an imposter, but imposter syndrome is not something to celebrate. It means a person doesn't know their own worth. For a lot of people it's a symptom of chronic gaslighting from a loved one.
Alex Lefkowitz
Alex Lefkowitz Жилийн өмнө
Where's the podcast link?
Sebastian Commons
Sebastian Commons Жилийн өмнө
I was trying to figure out what this was! I thought it might be dissociation but now it’s clear and now I can finally deal with it!
Raynier33
Raynier33 Жилийн өмнө
I did not know this was a thing. People have asked me to do art commissions, but I did not think that my art should be sold. It's refreshing to hear this. I also do not go for those opportunities, because I think that I am not qualified. Ty for helping me out.
Kid Literate
Kid Literate Жилийн өмнө
Ey Bro your Videos are Amazing!, Best Charisma Channel on youtube tbh.
Severin
Severin Жилийн өмнө
(Some honest feedback) Hi Charlie! Good video, well done. But I can't help but experience that since your charisma is so raffined and skillful.. In that way it seems idk, a little fake?.I very seldom express my opinion in comment sections on the web but given that you value honest feedback, i just could not help myself. Cheers!
Abstract Scrotum
Abstract Scrotum Жилийн өмнө
Maybe he's just been used to it for so long that it has really become who he is now?
Ruben Kean
Ruben Kean Жилийн өмнө
Thanks
Heli Shah
Heli Shah Жилийн өмнө
When he said "thank you" I instantly felt so much better! 😄
Flake28
Flake28 Жилийн өмнө
4:40 I will criticise your approach here: Reddit is notorious for herd mentality, and you'll get more negative comments that are not upvoted than positive comments that are downvoted - you need to get feedback from more communities - as a guide, the feedback is indicative of what reddit felt, and not what society at large feels.
ratwah ;
ratwah ; Жилийн өмнө
i love this thank you!
Tera Star
Tera Star Жилийн өмнө
I would argue that a good imposter has more value and even surpasses the genuine article. In the attempt of becoming convincing as the real deal, the imposter must put in even more effort and learn to become the thing that they are emulating. Whatever flaws or imperfections of a genuine article would not be emulated, as those things are not a part of the general public's idealization of the subject. Ultimately becoming the idealized version of what they are mimicking.
Dr Suzanne Doyle-Morris, inclusiq
Dr Suzanne Doyle-Morris, inclusiq Жилийн өмнө
That's some absolutely great advice. I think most of the time, we expect ourselves to be the best in the world at everything - and this can be detrimental to our self-confidence if we do not reach these self-inflicted expectations.
Brandon Nicolas
Brandon Nicolas Жилийн өмнө
Jesus that's a big smile :o
Rebecca 88
Rebecca 88 Жилийн өмнө
I feel like an imposter but that's because of my depression & anxiety disorder.
Coach Nick Hawley
Coach Nick Hawley Жилийн өмнө
Thank you very much for your thoughtful videos.
Morgan from K-TALK
Morgan from K-TALK Жилийн өмнө
I have Impostor Syndrome so thank you so much for making this video, it means so much to me.
Baj Khan
Baj Khan Жилийн өмнө
I'm so rich I can't even see my money. Do I have #ImposterSyndrome or Nah?
Beverly Lee
Beverly Lee Жилийн өмнө
Can you do one on making friends as an adult? It's not like school or college where everyone's priorities are really similar and everyone's life experience is really similar in that moment. I think that experience of having gone through something together is what turns a casual friendship into a real bond. It's so much harder when you don't have the one thing you are going through together like finals week in college. We grow up and we all have our own lives, and we all have our close friends or partners by now that we tap into for difficult situations. At this point we all also have our own priorities which are all different. Well...what the frick are you supposed to do when you move? All the new casual friendships seem shallow. How do you progress a platonic friendship as a mature adult without seeming juvenile or manufactured
NEON BRO
NEON BRO Жилийн өмнө
He has smile like Cameron Diaz
Nhat Nguyen
Nhat Nguyen Жилийн өмнө
Dear Charlie, I love your videos and tips, but I'd prefer you not blow a little laugh at the end of some sentences. Thanks
i.e.Presents
i.e.Presents Жилийн өмнө
When you actually overtly shame someone on the internet for not being like someone else you are ASKING for all the ugly trolls to jump on your ugly bandwagon...that isn't proof you were right, it's proof what you said is ugly.
Priv 6464
Priv 6464 Жилийн өмнө
Do liz gillies: her savage yet bored attitude and why everyone loves her
Mudin
Mudin Жилийн өмнө
Thank you for this!
Katelyn Corbett
Katelyn Corbett Жилийн өмнө
Another excellent vid!!
The Legend of Abdallah
The Legend of Abdallah Жилийн өмнө
Well this is me studying your videos, Doing what you teach us And sometimes i do otherwise...thanks to my anxiety!
Gucci Jang
Gucci Jang Жилийн өмнө
Thank you so much and i love you!
Crowhaven Inc.
Crowhaven Inc. Жилийн өмнө
Thank you for making this video. As someone who suffers from imposter syndrome quite severely, this really helped. Keep up the good work, dude :)
Alice Storm
Alice Storm Жилийн өмнө
I'm constantly wondering if I'm missing something, but I'm living my best life by far. Its tearing me apart and no one has been able to help at all, no one wants to listen but they all have an answer. This is exactly what I needed.
Xmaest
Xmaest Жилийн өмнө
*Is this a personal attack or something?*
Matt Santos
Matt Santos Жилийн өмнө
Love the honest and sincere advice! Definitely will be using this moving forward.
darksidegirl
darksidegirl Жилийн өмнө
Love your videos. Also, looks like you have more teeth than a normal human!
Molly Rice
Molly Rice Жилийн өмнө
Please do a charisma break down on jlo!!!
James Pugh
James Pugh Жилийн өмнө
I'm so glad I just found this video. Thank you.
Ghoulie Ghost
Ghoulie Ghost Жилийн өмнө
I felt like this at my new job. I'm a long time retail employee going into a health care job. The kind of appearance and way that I talk to others has to completely change because I'm not trying to sell someone something, and I'm not at a place just to collect a check. So I feel insecure like I need to over come other peoples doubts about me.
unique Commodities
unique Commodities Жилийн өмнө
I have struggled with this for sure at times! I appreciate the tip of focusing on helping in the way I can commit. THough oftentimes my role requires me to figure it out.
Armin
Armin Жилийн өмнө
I do really enjoy ur videos and ur attitudes and ur way of expression thank u
Kirgo
Kirgo Жилийн өмнө
0:34 Do you gain joy from my suffering?
john
john Жилийн өмнө
The ad before this video was some Nigerian telling me how I could get rich 😂😂
Hoot look
Hoot look Жилийн өмнө
0:30 Well i mean thank you but i dont know if i diserve this...
Johanne Aldrete
Johanne Aldrete Жилийн өмнө
I’ve watched many videos and followed many people that do the same thing that you do but you’re literally the only one that I actually find helpful. Thank you so much for the content you put out🌼
Ethel the Frog
Ethel the Frog Жилийн өмнө
Really grand video :-) The only thing I think you could have perhaps added to give it more value was to include some info on why you may feel compelled to fall into the 'imposter' trap. Even if it's just to say 'this falls under the emotional management umbrella and we'll address that in another video'. When I look at any coaching video what makes the difference for me between 'I take this seriously' and 'I turn it off' is the extent to which they anticipate barriers and have techniques to overcome them. You do a great job though, and are well ahead of the competition.
esfray44
esfray44 Жилийн өмнө
please do Harvey Specter from suits!
Taytay Queen
Taytay Queen Жилийн өмнө
I never feel like I'm good enough. No matter in what situation. I don't feel like I've done enough with my life. I don't feel like I've had enough fun with my life. I'm 23 and I feel like my time is already over.
Advitiay Anand
Advitiay Anand Жилийн өмнө
Perhaps you're being too hard on yourself. The next time you think negatively, do remind yourself that you're only human. Every single person makes mistakes and it IS alright.
gallaxyquest
gallaxyquest Жилийн өмнө
Great useful video but I feel like I needed more, more steps on how to really get over feeling this way as it is really life and work damaging. However thank you for you video it helps me make a real start on improving
Egert Aare
Egert Aare Жилийн өмнө
hwats up witgh the fps
Tia Fayed
Tia Fayed Жилийн өмнө
I think I’m in love with you
Abraham
Abraham Жилийн өмнө
Just visualisation, believe and take action likes law of attraction, believe you can be anything... Likes arnold schwarzenegger
Jonathan Ty
Jonathan Ty Жилийн өмнө
Curious if you still don’t drink? Or do you think differently about drinking ?
life of den
life of den Жилийн өмнө
Do you have a blog?
Charisma on Command
Charisma on Command Жилийн өмнө
~ Yes, we do have a blog. Feel free to check it out at www(dot)charismaoncommand(dot)com/blog-page/
CC CC
CC CC Жилийн өмнө
Thank you so much. This really helped me.
Charisma on Command
Charisma on Command Жилийн өмнө
~ Glad you found it helpful, Christina!
OBrienMagic
OBrienMagic Жилийн өмнө
I love it! Thanks for posting this. Going to reevaluate my channel and make sure the advice I am offering is lagit and based on actual experience this way I am offering the best advice for people from true experience
Rodrigo
Rodrigo Жилийн өмнө
Thank you, Charlie.
Ema Problema
Ema Problema Жилийн өмнө
I literally found your channel today and I can't get enough of it. Watching every video of yours, love the way you see world and people around you. 😊 And even if you do say things that might be known to most - people always learn from examples, not just a phrase do this, or don't do this. And you give so many examples that are so relatable! Thank you so much for being here ☺️
Charisma on Command
Charisma on Command Жилийн өмнө
~ Glad you found our channel, Ema! Thank you for the kind words. :-)
Outside
Outside Жилийн өмнө
You are bloody adorable
adilla afiani
adilla afiani Жилийн өмнө
So... I've been procrastinating to watch this video for about a week since i found it. I watched it today, and i cried. I've been struggling a lot with my perfectionism and negative thoughts in my head saying that I dont deserve this and that. i always see myself as a fraud that i fear people might find out so I shut my self down and push people away, even though i know their intentions are good. But i just dont think i deserve their open hands. This video however, is that kind of help that makes me realise lots of things. Thanks!
William Gaule
William Gaule Жилийн өмнө
This was a really great video. I often feel like a bit of an imposter even though I run my own business and it's going really well. On number 1, it's great advice for people looking for a job and doing interviews. Anybody I've had to fire, let go or was generally disappointed in their work performance was due to promises they'd made and later broken on their interviews. Number 3 is great advice for anyone but especially for freelancers or people looking to start their own thing. Having a certification is great but much of the time it only means you'll be comfortable with the jargon and not the actual work.
Sassy Badguy
Sassy Badguy Жилийн өмнө
I’ve started just trusting other people’s praise when it comes my way. It would take mental effort to doubt many people’s opinions of my qualifications. If three people at a party tell you you’re drunk, don’t drive home. 🤷‍♀️
Milna
Milna Жилийн өмнө
Actually the only thing I understand clearly is that you're a good person.
Myria83
Myria83 Жилийн өмнө
It makes me think of Lucifer and Chloe...
jolanar3
jolanar3 Жилийн өмнө
This video doesn't address imposter syndrome... it addresses how to not be an imposter. Those are two separate things.
Patrick Richard
Patrick Richard Жилийн өмнө
Hey Charlie! Thought about making a video about Jocko Willink and why people find him inspiring? Great video as always!
AlchemistX10
AlchemistX10 Жилийн өмнө
Bruh, tell me this man does not look like Mia Malkova if she was a dude
Felix Rose As
Felix Rose As Жилийн өмнө
Both simple and amazing. Thank you Charlie
:givccomojo. :
:givccomojo. : Жилийн өмнө
[ or alternatively simply get used to being "that guy". :) ]
martin marigomen
martin marigomen Жилийн өмнө
will do it
Mo
Mo Жилийн өмнө
Hey Charlie , love your videos . I just want to know when are you planning to release full podcasts episodes ?
Richard Duncan
Richard Duncan Жилийн өмнө
Helpful, thank you.
MultiKarapus
MultiKarapus Жилийн өмнө
Can you make a video about crushing an oral exam, even tho you know nothing?
BassOwl
BassOwl Жилийн өмнө
Thanks man, this genuinely helped me
Charisma on Command
Charisma on Command Жилийн өмнө
~ Happy to hear that!
M C
M C Жилийн өмнө
I wish i was your friend. you're great!
Joy Gaudiano
Joy Gaudiano Жилийн өмнө
It sounds like self inventory ☺
Traveling Lost
Traveling Lost Жилийн өмнө
Great video! I discovered Imposter Syndrome a few years ago and learning about it helped me understand I wasn't alone feeling the way I felt when I found successes.
TEETH
TEETH Жилийн өмнө
Thank you man I really needed to watch see this today!
Charisma on Command
Charisma on Command Жилийн өмнө
~ Our pleasure!
5 Common Phrases That Kill Your Charisma
09:11
Charisma on Command
Үзсэн тоо 2,2сая
Monica f/ Lil Baby + Goonica - TRENCHES (Official Video)
3:47
monicaofficial
Үзсэн тоо 485мянга.
Canadian Winter Water Gun FIGHT!
14:30
Channel Super Fun
Үзсэн тоо 297мянга.
THE WAIT IS OVER!
0:30
Tucker Budzyn
Үзсэн тоо 169мянга.
How To DESTROY Self Doubt
11:12
Charisma on Command
Үзсэн тоо 976мянга.
How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome at Work
56:05
Indeed
Үзсэн тоо 4,5мянга.
How To Be Popular As An Introvert
12:31
Charisma on Command
Үзсэн тоо 4,6сая
How To Overcome Your Childhood
17:50
Charisma on Command
Үзсэн тоо 221мянга.
How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome
04:19
Kim Foster, M.D.
Үзсэн тоо 1,8мянга.
Monica f/ Lil Baby + Goonica - TRENCHES (Official Video)
3:47
monicaofficial
Үзсэн тоо 485мянга.
Canadian Winter Water Gun FIGHT!
14:30
Channel Super Fun
Үзсэн тоо 297мянга.
THE WAIT IS OVER!
0:30
Tucker Budzyn
Үзсэн тоо 169мянга.
ULTIMATE FRENCH FRY TASTE TEST
17:15
emma chamberlain
Үзсэн тоо 4,1сая
Dude Perfect Corn Maze (Behind The Scenes)
6:17
Dude Perfect Plus
Үзсэн тоо 974мянга.
Hilarious Viral 5 Minute Crafts
5:53
Imbrandonfarris
Үзсэн тоо 635мянга.
The hardest part about not being Everleigh's biological dad.
18:55
The LaBrant Fam
Үзсэн тоо 1,4сая
LaVar Ball FULL EPISODE | EPISODE 10 | CLUB SHAY SHAY
1:19:53
Club Shay Shay
Үзсэн тоо 337мянга.
Busting Thanksgiving Turkey Myths
19:45
Mythical Kitchen
Үзсэн тоо 428мянга.
Alien makeup- Tiktok tutorial
1:00
Tempany Perry
Үзсэн тоо 733мянга.