How To Argue With Someone Who Won’t Listen

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It seems to be harder than ever to get through to people logically.
In fact, some of the smartest people have the most sophisticated psychological booby traps when it comes to heated subjects. So in this video, we're going to break down why sometimes people won’t listen to reason even when they’re smart, and what techniques you can use to finally get through to someone who can’t listen to reason.

Our video on Steven Crowder:
Our video on Trevor Noah

0:00 - Intro.
2:12 - #1: Being stunned by new information.
3:01 - #2: Inaccurately summarizing the other's perspective.
4:01 - #3: Misreading nefarious intent.
4:41 - #4: Regularly moving goalposts.
5:35 - #5: Yelling or getting angry.
6:12 - #6: Attacking someone's character.
6:34 - #7: Retreating Without Concession
8:05 - 3 Key Mindsets To Change Their Mind
9:05 - The Most Dangerous Cognitive Dissonance

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Grant Shearer
Grant Shearer Цагийн өмнө
I'll admit that sometimes I will say "so are you really saying ____" and sometimes I can be a bit flippant if they are saying something completely ridiculous that contradicts their previous arguements. And I will eventually get to quoting them word for word and asking how it doesnt contradict their own position.
Joshua Aleshire
Joshua Aleshire 3 цагийн өмнө
I will never watch this channel again
Mostafa 7 цагийн өмнө
This channel is so overrated.
Thomas Klugh
Thomas Klugh 7 цагийн өмнө
You know a society has become ridiculous when it replaces "the inability to think clearly" with "Cognitive Dissonance".
Maha Oricalcos
Maha Oricalcos 9 цагийн өмнө
People I'm here because I was shocked of how many people argued on one of my comments on a video... Amaizing how most of them never listened to logic
Cory 12 цагийн өмнө
3:35 In all fairness to Ben Affleck, he's completely drunk out of his mind. He probably doesn't even remember being on the show lol.
Mr Tony
Mr Tony 14 цагийн өмнө
Just found this and want an argument with my gf but shes out. Time to prep...
King Dedede
King Dedede 21 цагийн өмнө
The answer: Don’t
Russ Michaels
Russ Michaels Өдрийн өмнө
lol, this whole video sound slike someone just learnt about "cognitive dissonance" and wants to us ethe word it as much as possible.
Scott Carroll
Scott Carroll Өдрийн өмнө
It's very hard to get through to a libtard they don't have the standard to go from.
Ickey Sticky.
Ickey Sticky. Өдрийн өмнө
Not me. I have done Harder drugs. The Smoking and The Caffeine are like My drugerete. One year Clean, close to 2.
Ickey Sticky.
Ickey Sticky. Өдрийн өмнө
Stop Lieing? I will when you stop being wrong and make everybody believe your Right, when your not. That's a lot of Fools who I end up having to argue with.
Fuck Google
Fuck Google 2 өдрийн өмнө
Well to be fair WANTING to live long vs actively TRYING to live long are massively different, people say they want to be rich but most of the time dont actively try to be rich, they just accept their actions and are aware of the consequences, like one time i asked my uncle "why dont u tell me to quit smoking like everyone else?" He replied " are you aware of the dangers of smoking" i saod yes and he said welll then theres no point you know ot causes harm to you but at the same time smoking isnt guaranteed to kill you either, it simply increases the risks of cancer and or dying sooner rather than later, he also replied with death isnt a matter of being in control of it, he said also i dont smoke but if i get hit by a car tomorrow and die you will have outlived me even tho u smoke, but i am aware of dangers of smoking but i dont care cuz i can outrun the average person, i can run two miles for pt in less than 14 minutes, the average person couldnt run to a from the end of the street without dying and out of breathe
Jeims Numin
Jeims Numin 2 өдрийн өмнө
It's hard to see my guy Ben Shapiro go down like that.
Michael Idarecis
Michael Idarecis 2 өдрийн өмнө
If you don't like the person keep fueling their cognitive dissonance so they double down on their lie and then they will pop!
Matt Craven
Matt Craven 2 өдрийн өмнө
Ben Shabeeboo is Gwyneth Paltrow’s goop for red pill dudes.
Jim S.
Jim S. 2 өдрийн өмнө
I start and end all my conversations with sales pitches for audiblecom. Am I doing it right?
Repairedgnome 3 өдрийн өмнө
Alternate title, how to argue with democrats lol.
The Wonderful World of Awesomeness
The Wonderful World of Awesomeness 4 өдрийн өмнө
There are reasons for smoking even if you know it’s unhealthy, over-all. Did you know that 95% of schizophrenics smoke? There’s a reason. The ingredients in cigarettes calm down the scattered thoughts of the schizophrenic in a way that nothing else does. It’s not just the act of smoking. It’s not just the tobacco, and it’s not just the nicotine. It’s the combination. But we as a society all know that “smoking is unhealthy.” But this is the exception to that scenario where the benefits of smoking really do outweighs the negatives, because your average schizophrenic person will probably die from complications of being homeless and self medicating long before dying of lung cancer
Mike Petell
Mike Petell 4 өдрийн өмнө
The one thing that people must know before arguing with anyone is that everyone and I mean everyone watches and listens to information that reinforces their own beliefs and will ignore anything that refutes it. Even if you have a list of facts they are not interested, so save your time for someone who is either undecided or searching for their paradigm
Gamer Airtias
Gamer Airtias 4 өдрийн өмнө
It’s interesting because I’ve been in situations where I start raising my voice and getting that fight or flight feeling. But, I also fear arguments in general. How do you discern between cognitive dissonance triggers and a reaction to conflict? A friend of mine holds very extreme sociological views that I have no idea how to discuss. The broad sweeping generalizations are tough to tackle because they are held as “truths” and I end up trying to dismantle them in order to continue to main topic of debate. I value my ability to, usually, see views on both sides. But, have a hard time when the person I’m debating with isn’t willing to view both sides. Not sure if any of this makes sense. Just some thoughts.
Ballislife99 4 өдрийн өмнө
I have some friends like that when it comes to the pandemic situation. They believe in all kind of stuff. You can't get through to them.
Bogdan Mihai
Bogdan Mihai 4 өдрийн өмнө
These are great, can you do one on arguing against Jesse Lee Peterson, or just on him at all, it's amazing to see someone not lose their mind when talking to him,. I think the key is to not take him seriously and talk to the audience rather than to him, but I'd want to know what you think!
Jason Camenzuli
Jason Camenzuli 4 өдрийн өмнө
8:50 isn't that the forefront of SM vs Celebs?
alex hurt
alex hurt 5 өдрийн өмнө
Pro tip: frame your argument in a way that insinuates the other person already agrees with you. People hate to be wrong, just skip the part where they're wrong and you'll find people are more willing to agree with things they otherwise wouldn't be.
C F 5 өдрийн өмнө
This explains modern democrats.
isaiah the red neck
isaiah the red neck 5 өдрийн өмнө
Click bait
Tozeriana Productions توزريانا للإنتاج
Tozeriana Productions توزريانا للإنتاج 5 өдрийн өмнө
Did this dude believe that muslims only live in the desert ??
7gmeister 5 өдрийн өмнө
This sounds like a lot of double speak and second guessing yourself and over complicating things. Addictions like smoking aren’t really a good example because a person with addictions has deeper issues and then in the case of smoking the physical withdrawals are a much bigger deal than just will power and some addictions when you quit them cold turkey can actually kill you so you’re not making clear sense
Steve Blakkus
Steve Blakkus 5 өдрийн өмнө
it worka!!!!
omegapointil 6 өдрийн өмнө
"Who won't listen?" Now that is seriously funny.
R H 6 өдрийн өмнө
Biden represents classic cognitive dissonance with regard to the mRNA vaccine/s. He claims he is "fully vaccinated" and that the vaccines are safe and effective, yet he exhibits states of paranoia when he can't find his mask, and he routinely socially distances himself from others. In addition, he has staff disinfect surfaces, like a podium, before he approaches the platform even though his own CDC has stated that disinfecting surfaces is unnecessary. His actions betray his words.
Sean Donnelly
Sean Donnelly 6 өдрийн өмнө
Jesus is the light.
An Idge named Dave
An Idge named Dave 8 өдрийн өмнө
All I heard was Charlie Browns teacher.
Shadhowe _
Shadhowe _ 8 өдрийн өмнө
I’ve always made it a clear to myself to absolutely never argue for the sake of “winning” a conversation or convincing the other person of anything. Whenever I argue (which can be a lot sometimes), I only ever do it to make or prove a point, that’s it. If for any reason the other person isn’t listening or understanding the point, I usually just stop the argument altogether and leave it as is. Also, one thing I’ve learned over the years is to never try to disprove the other person, but instead try to prove your own point. It looks better on you and keeps the other person from getting defensive and become more inclined to listen to you.
Martial Party
Martial Party 9 өдрийн өмнө
Ben Affleck may be “Batman” but he is certainly not “smart”
Matthew Smith
Matthew Smith 9 өдрийн өмнө
What's sad though is how indoctrinated the masses have become. Even in this video you see the crowds cheering for the folks caving into cognitive dissonance, instead of the person making the thought out, logical argument.
Matthew Smith
Matthew Smith 9 өдрийн өмнө
Also, there is no such thing as "Islamaphobia", you can't be "phobic" of a belief system or ideallogy. You can just disagree with it. Islam is not a race, it's a belief system.
Matthew Smith
Matthew Smith 9 өдрийн өмнө
Who is this guy in the video? The liberal guy with the really long running talk show. I can never remember his name.
Skip Bowman
Skip Bowman 9 өдрийн өмнө
I would enjoy these videos if you weren’t referencing these two bigoted misogynists. They may be skilled debaters, but they use that power to foment discord, hatred, and polarization.
Cocktails & Consoles
Cocktails & Consoles 9 өдрийн өмнө
Watching this video in 2021 ... I have a feeling that we’re dealing with a LOT of cognitive dissonance. So the question is, what’s sourcing the dissonance?
St. Michael of Cigarillo
St. Michael of Cigarillo 9 өдрийн өмнө
Maybe it is all the large scale racial identity mob violence and intimidation America has experienced in the last year that brought them here? Or they were looking up stuff about identifying if someone is disconnected from reality perhaps?
Graham Clark
Graham Clark 11 өдрийн өмнө
4:16 I saw this clip and I must admit I was shocked at how badly wrong Ben got this. Bcos I'm a MASSIVE nerdy fan of Andrew Neil (have been for at least 25 yrs!! Ulp.) AND Ben Shapiro. But yeah this was the first time I've EVER seen Ben get ANY interviews or conversations wrong before. Andrew Neil is a good guy and like Ben he knows his stuff and HE does his homework too. Still massive fans of both still. But I'm afraid Ben dropped the ball on this one...
Rafael A. A. Merlo
Rafael A. A. Merlo 11 өдрийн өмнө
The more and more I see the both guys in the cover of the video, the more I hope to not see them again
LoveSalsa 11 өдрийн өмнө
Kathy's brain got fried by Jordan Petterson.
rockaby86 11 өдрийн өмнө
I think the examples might make sense if you watch the whole original interview clips but just the small clips in between make it kinda hard to understand the point you are making. I think I might have to watch this a couple of times to even understand the whole video.
Nucleus 11 өдрийн өмнө
"Some of the smartest people..." *puts Steven Crowder's photo on*
Jason Ryan
Jason Ryan 11 өдрийн өмнө
How to argue with someone who won't Listen. Walk away.
Tamara Jane Greenwood
Tamara Jane Greenwood 12 өдрийн өмнө
Should we just stick with the satellite and phone surveillance then? Worked for you guys huh?
Unknown 12 өдрийн өмнө
I call this the brick method
Craig Holmes
Craig Holmes 12 өдрийн өмнө
so you are using Conservatives for your examples. hmmmm, isn't that showing some ankle on your part?
Nobodyatall Vallejo
Nobodyatall Vallejo 12 өдрийн өмнө
So what the video is saying is that I'm the only one without cognitive dissonance... I knew it! And no one can change my mind. 😬
jay2theloo 12 өдрийн өмнө
The VO says ‘mindreading’ while the on screen text says ‘misreading’. :-)
bhanu pratap
bhanu pratap 12 өдрийн өмнө
Most of times keeping facts before a nonlistening person is necessary, just to make him realized softly that you're not going with his nonsense beliefs, even if it's like talking to a wall,, but you have to clear your stand 👆
Mousey Publishings
Mousey Publishings 13 өдрийн өмнө
Need this to talk to my dad. Lol
Mousey Publishings
Mousey Publishings 13 өдрийн өмнө
Update. Didn't work. He after he told me he was going to punch me in the face he threatened to kill me. What else u got?
MOHIT KOLI 13 өдрийн өмнө
Born leaders or more mature people are using these skills...I have seen them using these and I'm damn sure they never watched your video so now I'm in a dilemma " can you actually learn these things and let's assume you can learn but can you remember to use it at need of the hour".
Bimbense 14 өдрийн өмнө
Would help me to answer those feminists who argue with me when I talk in support to men
Dr Boombatz
Dr Boombatz 14 өдрийн өмнө
The only thing that gets me with this video is I think the author thinks jordan peterson is on the right side of thinking. I sat for a moment to think if that was cognative dissonance, but then I realized jordan is simply a soothsayer of the simple.
Bruce Lee
Bruce Lee 14 өдрийн өмнө
They not listening!! No 'how' about it.
Diane Orr
Diane Orr 14 өдрийн өмнө
"Fact or Legend" is what my Son interjects when I bring up memories of his childhood. Sharing my perception of a situation with dire results as my memory serves. We laugh til neither of us really remember what the cause was. We agree to know whether Fact or Legend it was a learning experience that grafted Us to a moment of Wisdom..... where Laughter is The Best Medicine (Erma Bombeck). Which some Facts or Legends take many seasons to SEE AUTHENTICALLY. When we can laugh til we get a stich in the side Together we give a look of Pure Joy and Humility so light and heartfelt. God is so Good! His Grace is sufficient!
Splitpeak Design
Splitpeak Design 14 өдрийн өмнө
Why does this guy have such a hard on against that curly haired blonde lady and has their lips so far up jordan Peterson? Just like understanding body language, you can manipulate your body language to get a specific result. How do we know Jordan Peterson hasn't learned to manipulate all these points for successful debating? Just because he can crack a joke to put people at ease so they'll hear him out, doesn't make him right.
Doug McOwen
Doug McOwen 14 өдрийн өмнө
The "examples" given aren't very clear. While you've explained your examples, the clips provided aren't clear examples of your point. I've found myself more confused by the statements and examples rather than enlightened.
Marie-Therese Maksoud
Marie-Therese Maksoud 15 өдрийн өмнө
my dad is the worst perosn to argue with no matter what you say he. is. always. right. if he says the sky is orange that means the sky is orange no changing his mind. and if you prove yourself he makes jokes and doesn't admit that I'm right
Brinley Pavitt
Brinley Pavitt 16 өдрийн өмнө
Jeez. I clicked this to reinforce how certain people I know are a problem and realised I'm as much of the problem as them.
pant0sand0hat 14 өдрийн өмнө
That's badass.
Miss PM
Miss PM 16 өдрийн өмнө
Something about JP scares me. Dont know exactly why but I get an EVIL vibe n dont trust him.
doola 16
doola 16 16 өдрийн өмнө
1:34 lol the guy sitting behind her to the left... He's either gobsmacked by what she's saying... Or he's trying to catch flies...?
Madolite 16 өдрийн өмнө
I used to be cognitively dissonant, until I realized that it's actually everybody else who's Literally Hitler!
rich4444hrsm 16 өдрийн өмнө
This video has left wing bias.
David Schumacher
David Schumacher 17 өдрийн өмнө
you can only establish rapport when people that people calm down though... but so many twisted mind people these days you cant win arguments with them at all... especially about religion... waste of time realy... some people when they believe in something they always finds a reason to not agree with you anyway...
Kevin McLarkey
Kevin McLarkey 17 өдрийн өмнө
calling ben shapiro, drug addict jordan peterson, and other right wing shills smart is disingenuous. They just know how to talk fast and nonsense. You can't argue with nonsense.
billielith 17 өдрийн өмнө
Good one. Interesting video, in which you explain a lot, but I would have liked longer examples that display more explicitly the points you're making.
Sarah Harrison
Sarah Harrison 17 өдрийн өмнө
Incredibly interested if showing people vaping while discussing smoking was to fit an anti-vaping narrative hidden within this video or just ignorance.
Michael Garcia
Michael Garcia 17 өдрийн өмнө
Horrible audio editing, but interesting content
SqwEarl *
SqwEarl * 18 өдрийн өмнө
Dude, go back and watch that interview with Shapiro and Andrew Neil. Ben was 100% right. Andrew Neil was caught red handed.
Santino Vergara Castro
Santino Vergara Castro 18 өдрийн өмнө
Am sorry BUT where am from it is said that you CANNOT argue crazy !!! This video is nice and all but very unrealistic !!!
Ivica Brnic
Ivica Brnic 11 өдрийн өмнө
Ed Gabriel Ocay
Ed Gabriel Ocay 18 өдрийн өмнө
One way to deal a cognitive dissonance..a proper right hook on their jaw...that would make them wake up from their arrogance and ignorance.
TheHanjoe300 18 өдрийн өмнө
It's been a long time since I watched videos on this channel. I enjoyed both Negan videos.
bjd4 19 өдрийн өмнө
fortunately all my beliefs are correct so i don't need to debate
PC Disciple
PC Disciple 19 өдрийн өмнө
John Stewart and Sam Harris goated
Ali Bedia
Ali Bedia 19 өдрийн өмнө
Boutta win this argument with my girl pray for me 🙂🙏
expl0re 21
expl0re 21 19 өдрийн өмнө
Steve Crowder has claimed the election was stolen and is a virus denier on Twitter, he won’t on MNpost. He’s not factually correct. Ben Shapiro has a huuuge cognitive dissonance with sociology and tried to debunk systematic racism, which, as I said is cognitive dissonance. The lady with Jordan whatever his name is, could have disagreed on a larger level but can agree with certain aspects. She was just inexperienced.
Denni_isl 19 өдрийн өмнө
Barry Huxley
Barry Huxley 19 өдрийн өмнө
How does this work for actual arguments. I find myself raising my voice if I'm arguing with someone who is lying or twisting my words.
1_mens 19 өдрийн өмнө
if hes twisting your words and keeps doing it just say "thats a strawman fallacy'' and than explain to him what he doesnt understand about your words
Madeline Hutton
Madeline Hutton 19 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you for this vital information for us Radical Centrists out here ♡
David Howard
David Howard 20 өдрийн өмнө
Stop playing Psychologist. You're bad at it.
julifer9211 20 өдрийн өмнө
Waist of time 1 minute in. Basically don't consent to anything. Establish the facts and see your opponents be destroyed.
fredworthmn 20 өдрийн өмнө
As someone who is not good with words and expressing my thoughts well, or sometimes not even thinking well, I can give one insight where a mind will close down because it has to. If I accept “A” as true and you or someone else attacks this premise, I am not going to change my thinking because I trust those that helped me come to “A” being true. No matter how logical your argument sounds I will ignore it. If you want to change my mind you have to present your argument to the people who shaped my thinking. Convince them and I will be happy to listen to you.
Cr Hu
Cr Hu 21 өдрийн өмнө
Peterson and Shapiro are on the thumbnail because. . . They did stop using it, and use rhetoric and lies and fallacies instead? But seems they never knew logic in the first place.
Hamada AG
Hamada AG 21 өдрийн өмнө
i know this is a bit late to ask but when you say translating to arabic, does that mean any dialect of arabic or just plain arabic?
Joey Scardamaglia
Joey Scardamaglia 21 өдрийн өмнө
great video
All Seeing Thai
All Seeing Thai 22 өдрийн өмнө
True understanding is crucial for a productive debate.
Vicki Sant'Anna
Vicki Sant'Anna 22 өдрийн өмнө
Gamer Dude
Gamer Dude 22 өдрийн өмнө
The only side that won't listen is the left, Democrats are trying to destroy this country
Ivica Brnic
Ivica Brnic 11 өдрийн өмнө
true . but what are you expecting from plebs that even belive in the evolution theroy. peps who are able to belive in this nonsence are not logical driven
主義者 Jonatan Garci馬克思列寧主義的毛派中國民族
主義者 Jonatan Garci馬克思列寧主義的毛派中國民族 22 өдрийн өмнө
I never liked arguing with people let alone talking so...
主義者 Jonatan Garci馬克思列寧主義的毛派中國民族
主義者 Jonatan Garci馬克思列寧主義的毛派中國民族 22 өдрийн өмнө
8:52 that’s where saying : I can’t or idk or no sorry but don’t hold it against me, matters
Rick Mathews
Rick Mathews 22 өдрийн өмнө
Thus, one’s perspective on reality is essential!
T T 23 өдрийн өмнө
Great content, terrible examples. Jordan and Ben are normally AMAZINGLY respectful and patent with people who oppose them. Yet you pick a couple of their bad moments despite the abundance of woke-scolder examples. But then, we on the right tend to be more forgiving and tolerant, so we’re safer to pick on 😅
Jaron Gray
Jaron Gray 23 өдрийн өмнө
Wise Words Man. Wise Words.
Kenneth Albert
Kenneth Albert 23 өдрийн өмнө
This could also be called "Leftist argument strategy" Don't freak out, I know conservatives do it to, it's just not their strategy.
mike bell
mike bell 23 өдрийн өмнө
The UK doesn't have right-wingers in the traditional American View
Korenn Pendleton
Korenn Pendleton 24 өдрийн өмнө
This video itself could be dissected and analyzed. Be careful in taking anyone too seriously. Independent thinking should always be encouraged.
Gxxl Beu
Gxxl Beu 24 өдрийн өмнө
A smarter way to call someone a loser
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