How To ACTUALLY Change Someone’s Mind

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Changing someone’s mind is hard. I believe a huge part of the reason boils down to the fact that we often trigger one another’s emotional defenses before the content of our arguments can be evaluated.
That’s why in this video I want to give you 5 do’s and don’ts to actually change someones mind and we’ll be using Steven Crowder’s “Change My Mind” segment to do it .

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:48 - #1: When persuading someone, go slow.
2:10 - #2: Build rapport.
4:08 - #3: Don't use insults.
5:49 - #4: Concisely summarize how the other person feels.
7:45 - #5: Make it clear that you're speaking from your individual perception of reality.
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yegfreethinker
yegfreethinker 2 цагийн өмнө
What a load
Underdog 378
Underdog 378 6 цагийн өмнө
Steven crouder isn't all that he just talks with people who aren't that intelligent and skilled like college students.
Joshua Hawley
Joshua Hawley 6 цагийн өмнө
Whaaaaaatttt? Steven is a human and does well and makes mistakes as well?????
Kuraido
Kuraido 7 цагийн өмнө
You can't change someone's mind unless they let you. The end. Video shortened.
BlackFyr
BlackFyr Өдрийн өмнө
Yousuf killed crowder!
Peter Van osdol
Peter Van osdol 2 өдрийн өмнө
It's time for Charisma on Command to reveal themselves as a right wing news source. They fail to hide their biases
pennfootball
pennfootball 2 өдрийн өмнө
You talk so quickly it’s hard to follow. I went to an Ivy League school I have a hard time keeping up.
kitkatliz1495
kitkatliz1495 3 өдрийн өмнө
I'm excited to learn this skill, do you cover similar content in other videos with different examples? This one makes me reactive and I'm having trouble learning
Jeremy Helm
Jeremy Helm 3 өдрийн өмнө
10:15 apropos video clip here! Hit in the Ball previously under his own control
Miki Dewberry
Miki Dewberry 5 өдрийн өмнө
Unsafe Space channel is good
Blake Welch
Blake Welch 5 өдрийн өмнө
Some of the clips he includes are just random and hilarious. Like the guy who misdribbled and crashed
Fortune Masha
Fortune Masha 6 өдрийн өмнө
Sometimes you are trying to change the minds of the crowd or audience, thus making "dunks" effective. I wouldn't say it works every time, but it's a good tool to use in debate.
Toby O'Neil
Toby O'Neil 7 өдрийн өмнө
Hitchens is fun to watch and has fantastic wit but he is a poor debater and overall his stance only wins through overwhelming any sort of understanding that may be made. A clip i once saw had him debating a religious man (as it often goes), a crowd member asked a question of him and he flat out did not answer and instead went off on tangents and personal attacks on his opponent. The crowd loved it and it was fun to watch but he never definitively answered the question. His answer was less sure then the reason the crowd asked in the first place. But he won simply because he overwhelmed the guy actually trying to argue points. Hitchens is poor on many fronts but his charisma and wit make him a great person to watch and listen too.
Overxpossed
Overxpossed 7 өдрийн өмнө
easy; giving counterfacts or counterarguments. If you don't change its mind, you will blow it.
Ultra
Ultra 8 өдрийн өмнө
10:10 All the "Not do" examples are from that night in that place. But you gotta understand, AS FAR AS I UNDERSTAND(!) when Steven has a big crowd surrounding him, he usually tries to convince the crowd instead of the person he's debating with. Because that's the bigger bite.
Diego Tobaski
Diego Tobaski 8 өдрийн өмнө
Do you have any videos on William Lane Craig?
Steve Jobs
Steve Jobs 8 өдрийн өмнө
on the segments that you show crowder getting mad. Some times it was just he got mad, but others from what i see he is using the insult tactic to win over the crowd gathering instead.
Feli Jacobo
Feli Jacobo 9 өдрийн өмнө
2:48 the legend says he was only 9 years old
Robert Cantspell
Robert Cantspell 10 өдрийн өмнө
You really like the alt right don’t you?
Toby O'Neil
Toby O'Neil 7 өдрийн өмнө
Does he? Logical discussion, illogical discussion, persuasive verbatim, political rhetoric and personal opinion are not subject to just one side but it turns out that one side is a better conduit of those things and displays it in more abundance. Crowder covers everything the video says, both positive and negative. Is there any left speakers who encompasses all of that and also has a ready archive available to use? Is their a left leaning speaker who can match what Jorden Peterson puts out across the board? These alt right guys are perfect examples to highlight persuasion and discussion tactics. And using them as an example signifies nothing except an acceptance of their ability to persuade and debate and through that a way for breakdowns of what they do. It is not 'liking' them that gets them on the show.
IIIRattleHeadIII
IIIRattleHeadIII 10 өдрийн өмнө
Bash it with a hammer.
Digby Baines
Digby Baines 11 өдрийн өмнө
I'd like to see someone retaliate on Steven's domination of space in these segments. He's always leaning into the other person's space in a way that's aggressive and borderline physically threatening. Just once, someone should match his posture and lean into him the way he leans into others, going literally nose to nose with him, rather than meekly leaning back and conceding the space, as the subjects in this video do. It wouldn't change anyone's mind, but it would underscore on an obvious bullying tactic.
Horatio Huskisson
Horatio Huskisson 11 өдрийн өмнө
Crowder never wants to debate a peer in the MNpost community like Dave Pakman, Sam Seder or Kyle Kulinski. He only wants to bring his massive binder and preprepared arguments to lecture unprepared students. He is a coward.
thepap 000
thepap 000 11 өдрийн өмнө
Steven is a joke
Mauricette Elizabeth
Mauricette Elizabeth 11 өдрийн өмнө
Shoutout to everyone commenting about how the show is meant to change HIS mind. You missed the point because that ain’t it.
Kourosh Rm7
Kourosh Rm7 12 өдрийн өмнө
4:22 This guy 100% deserved it that's not Steven's fault at all!
Sancho Sanchez
Sancho Sanchez 16 өдрийн өмнө
Stevens wife must be a banshee to go to bat with. Or he just controls the hell outta her by using manipulative persuasion and reason 😂 love this stuff.
darkyperv34
darkyperv34 Сарын өмнө
Steven isn't there to change his mind, he's just there to make money off the right wing cucks who watch them, as they type in his comment section "HUEHUE HE OWN DA LIBS"
Jesse R
Jesse R Сарын өмнө
Do a video on Hitchens, please
Payton Axtell
Payton Axtell Сарын өмнө
The point of change my mind isn't always to change minds. Sometimes it does but the focus is to rationalize opinions on controversial topics
Charles DeLiberis
Charles DeLiberis Сарын өмнө
you do realize this how people get shot in public,by trying to force people to change there mind
Hard Core Gamer
Hard Core Gamer Сарын өмнө
Yeah i would love to debate someone in person i think it would be cool.
SFxTAGG3
SFxTAGG3 2 сарын өмнө
Since a lot of people are talking about this, I always thought the "Change My Mind" thing was more to have his opponent clearly articulate and defend their opinions rather than just screaming profanities and insults, and repeating memes, jokes, and skewed statistics from social media.
The Time Ninja
The Time Ninja 2 сарын өмнө
This is a useless video
Pedro Amaral
Pedro Amaral 2 сарын өмнө
To a magician rapport is useless? I’m professional magician and the first thing I do is establishing rapport. You can get people amazed or laughing if they dislike you.
The Bandog
The Bandog 11 өдрийн өмнө
_Logician_ not magician. I heard magician at first, too, but I listened to it again, and I remembered the word logician from my freshmen year philosophy professor. This even makes more sense: To a _logic-ian_ only logic matters, to a Magic-ian, as I'm sure you (a fellow man of mystery) already know this, the real magic is done before you ever start the sleight of hand.
Lucelio Rodrigues
Lucelio Rodrigues 2 сарын өмнө
Thanks
Samson the Nazirite
Samson the Nazirite 2 сарын өмнө
Be the change that you want to see. People will follow if they feel that you are sincere.
Anime lover HAVEN
Anime lover HAVEN 2 сарын өмнө
The point of change my mind is to change Steven crowders mind not for Him to change they’re minds even though he does change minds some time
Dioscuri Mas
Dioscuri Mas 2 сарын өмнө
That professors beard is off the hook!! I'm screen shotting that.
Judah Rininger
Judah Rininger 2 сарын өмнө
Steven says it over and over and maybe the name should reflect it, but those videos are less for him to have his mind cancer and more for a discussion to take place where both sides can have their viewpoints discussed and be put out in the open for people to see without it devolving into a screaming match and I think to that end he’s done pretty well.
descentplayer
descentplayer 2 сарын өмнө
Of your videos that I have watched, this is definitely the best.
CMF1727
CMF1727 2 сарын өмнө
Hip hop wave? I don't belive that is a thing. Lmfao
Cannonball Bear
Cannonball Bear 2 сарын өмнө
As good as your points are, about 60% of the population seems to be incapable of honesty.
Ian Navarro
Ian Navarro 2 сарын өмнө
This misses the entire point
Panda girl
Panda girl 2 сарын өмнө
sub 2 pewdiepie 😂😂😂
Cryptic Cobra
Cryptic Cobra 2 сарын өмнө
It's so strange to hear crowder shoot down any argument used against him that is based on feeling, when he is literally a christian, which is founded on faith (aka the belief without proof)
Praw
Praw 2 сарын өмнө
if that blue shirt guy really changed his mind, that's the first time I've seen a debate have any value in 30 years
Fiacra Doyle
Fiacra Doyle 2 сарын өмнө
I think Stevens fair I think your weak.
Genesis Rail
Genesis Rail 3 сарын өмнө
I like how your videos are apolitical and unbiased no matter who you talk about
Steve Clarke
Steve Clarke 3 сарын өмнө
I didn't realise that you've showed me on your advert that I am already that man...Thank you so much..you have changed my thinking and my mind set...bless you for your inspiration....
Daniel Voyles
Daniel Voyles 3 сарын өмнө
That is a very strange clip at 7:42. Crowder has long sleeves on, pantsless and has about a dozen heat lamps on him and Ben. Very strange.
TheFunnyguy9000
TheFunnyguy9000 3 сарын өмнө
You missed the whole point of "Change My Mind".....
Rachel G.
Rachel G. 3 сарын өмнө
I think u missed the point, the segment of change my mind is not for Steven crowder to change their mind but for them to Change Steven’s mind.
Joel Zabik
Joel Zabik 3 сарын өмнө
Ummm.... the point of his segment isn't to actually have his kind changed..... it's the his "hook" when talking about controversial topics. Also I think the main point is to remind people to have a civil and respectful discussion. IE, not belittleing or throwing jabs at the other side.
Meme Rights Activist
Meme Rights Activist 3 сарын өмнө
The thumbnail makes Steven look like Tom Hanks in "Burbs"
Gay Bowser
Gay Bowser 3 сарын өмнө
Did you just use a clip from a PureFlix movie? Oh my god is dead, I love this.
Nicholas Haley
Nicholas Haley 3 сарын өмнө
Truth is the guy is NEVER going to change his mind and the program is designed to change others minds. It’s best to analyze the statement your given to change is mind about, it’s a bit of a trap
Gabba
Gabba 3 сарын өмнө
I see whachu did there. Built, concept, pitch, quote, appeal. Nice try Mr.
SJD
SJD 3 сарын өмнө
Russell Brand is a rude bully, and not even slightly funny.
GKs SPY
GKs SPY 3 сарын өмнө
4:50 Crowder starts being a snowflake because he was losing the socialism “debate”. That’s what happens when he makes the videos Live.
Stephan Joubert
Stephan Joubert 3 сарын өмнө
I like change my mind. You get to find out what both sides actually think without relying on the media to tell you what both sides think.
Taylor Bess
Taylor Bess 3 сарын өмнө
This showed up in my recommended (I'm subscribed to the channel) and I was pleasantly surprised. I hate Crowder a little less now. Still think his views are generally atrocious, but eh. Love your work!
vincent shein
vincent shein 3 сарын өмнө
I don’t agree with most of his stands but I watch cuz he is a great debater and he is so damn funny
Sascha Blumenstiel
Sascha Blumenstiel 3 сарын өмнө
Good film to watch about this topic is “12 angry men”
Komail Sayed
Komail Sayed 3 сарын өмнө
Movie? 1:42
aussj4link
aussj4link 3 сарын өмнө
Often times in debates it's not about changing the mind of the opponent, but rather the audience. Hence the reason many debates try to get as large an audience as possible. If it really was just about the 2 arguers, they could do that in private and in private, there's actually more possibility of a change of mind due to less pressure in being proven wrong by one person in private vs being proved wrong in front of many people.
Chaim
Chaim 3 сарын өмнө
I think the whole point of change my mind is for the audience watching to start thinking.
SymphonicAnarchy
SymphonicAnarchy 3 сарын өмнө
Someone’s a little butthurt over Crowder
clwillie2000
clwillie2000 3 сарын өмнө
I will say you are misrepresenting Steven crowder. His segment is about some one changing his mind.
Jashua Martinez
Jashua Martinez 3 сарын өмнө
Shut up, we all know we watch Steven to watch Sjw etc react being triggered
Zach Lehkyi
Zach Lehkyi 3 сарын өмнө
The whole point if change my mind is to give people an opportunity to change HIS mind
Tal Royal
Tal Royal 3 сарын өмнө
The dude that makes these videos is the most dangerous man in the world
Ana Lucia Camacho
Ana Lucia Camacho 3 сарын өмнө
This has nothing to do with the ourpose of the video ( which is great) but i just want to say that actually changing the mind of his oponents might not be the main goal of steven, but to show hiw wrong gheir arhuments are so other people will change their mind. Probably
Somewon Yuno
Somewon Yuno 3 сарын өмнө
So you are saying, that we shouldn't follow the antifa / BLM model of conversation?
shouldsleep1
shouldsleep1 3 сарын өмнө
so what you are saying is, you will never change someone's mind online in the comments! Well that will save me a few hours per week.
stickystick105
stickystick105 3 сарын өмнө
most people are too prideful to have their minds changed
CapyBoi-7
CapyBoi-7 3 сарын өмнө
I think it's sad we need a tutorial on how to change someone's mind. In the perfect world, saying the truth and clearly showing evidence and proof for it, should be all that's necessary.
Dakota James
Dakota James 3 сарын өмнө
Your title is flawed though. His title is change MY mind. He is going out to hear other beliefs and rationalize them through convos. He not doing it to directly change the minds of the ones he sits with.
Clarence M
Clarence M 3 сарын өмнө
That girl that had balls was kinda cute lol I do notice Crowded brings the "punch line" later. It's usually unsuspected.
April Yani
April Yani 3 сарын өмнө
Where I come from, it's very common to ask where people we just met are from. Then we tell them what we know about the place even the language that they speak sometimes. I just realized it serve to build rapport with the strangers.
Cups Edits
Cups Edits 4 сарын өмнө
4:22 Steven did that because the white shirt guy was acting disrespectful and uncivil since the beginning of the conversation
Samar
Samar 4 сарын өмнө
If 2 in a debate "go slow" on each other?
Luis Serrano
Luis Serrano 4 сарын өмнө
Steven does not say he wants to change minds, he wants other people to change his mind...it is unfair to try to show that he is not that good at changing minds when that is not his real goal...
Gmail Account
Gmail Account 4 сарын өмнө
What i dont like about Crowder, is how invasive he is physically while talking to people.
A very handsome Chilean
A very handsome Chilean 4 сарын өмнө
Change my mind (but I actually won't change my mind lol)
Zeenix
Zeenix 4 сарын өмнө
step 1. Look opponent in the eyes step 2. Remove pants step 3 *assert dominance* 7:35
Nazael Rahl
Nazael Rahl 4 сарын өмнө
Debates don't exist to change your oponents mind. They exist to present your point of view and that you are able to defend it. Crowder usually just shows you how the "I have two semesters of gender studies I know everything" crowd melts when you put them in situation when they have to defend ideas instead of repeating them.
aiden nelson
aiden nelson 4 сарын өмнө
hes more so doing it for discussion, but i still like the video
Tafellappen
Tafellappen 4 сарын өмнө
I very strongly believe that in order to change someone's position, you need to give them the same respect that you are demanding they give you. This is unconditional. This means that if you are arguing with a flat earther, you need to be actually willing to change your mind given the right evidence and arguments. If you are LGBT, which i fully support, you need to be willing to change your mind in order to win a supporter.
John Donrick Zerna
John Donrick Zerna 4 сарын өмнө
2:45 bruh
Minh Vu
Minh Vu 4 сарын өмнө
How to change conservatives' mind: use logics, facts, and stats. How to change liberals': nah, you can't. They are so open-minded that there is not enough facts and stats to fit in there.
somelamename how about mr.jukebox
somelamename how about mr.jukebox 4 сарын өмнө
I'd say 74% of the views here are husbands who try and win arguments with their wives. 23% are the wives training. 3% are like me, trying to get smart.
Gatos y té.
Gatos y té. 4 сарын өмнө
For me, subjectively speaking, building rapport, if there is a political view behind that, is *DEMAGOGY*, especially if there is a depreciation of arguments with sometimes, false counterarguments.
Dio Titus
Dio Titus 4 сарын өмнө
Awesome thank you so much for this video.
6969 Subscribers With No Videos Challenge
6969 Subscribers With No Videos Challenge 4 сарын өмнө
"Go Slow" *Smirks in ben shapiro*
dasis teros
dasis teros 4 сарын өмнө
I tried all of this on my mom. Spoiler: it did not work.😂😃😂😃😂😃
NinjaNutz ForFun
NinjaNutz ForFun 4 сарын өмнө
Great video and very much appreciate the time stamps for the different steps or tips
Hunter O'Keefe
Hunter O'Keefe 4 сарын өмнө
The point of his segment to get people to change his mind, not to change others'. He just makes it seem that way because his beliefs are firm and backed up. The segment isn't perfect obviously but that's sorta the point, because it's also showing how little people truly understand their own beliefs and how easily or how hard one can be persuaded when you do or don't truly believe in something.
Matthew Chandler
Matthew Chandler 4 сарын өмнө
The brilliance of Steven’s Change My Mind segment is that spectators are free to change their own minds without the vulnerability of losing face in debate
Das Kampffredchen
Das Kampffredchen 4 сарын өмнө
I think the best example for the last point would be the ChangeMyMind on Gun Control where he invited to of the people he talked to to go through the process of buying a gun
Das Kampffredchen
Das Kampffredchen 4 сарын өмнө
I hope Steven sees this video and uses it to improve
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