How To Flirt Without Being Creepy

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No one teaches you how to flirt, which is a shame, because it means that sometimes, even with the best of intentions, you can come across as creepy. In fact, it’s more common than you might think. If you like someone you do NOT want that to be the case.
In this video, you’re going to learn 4 common ways that you might be creeping your flirt out without even realizing it. You will also learn what you can do to adjust so that you come across as cool, confident and suave.

0:22 - Adjustment #1: Use the goldilocks rule when making eye contact.
1:14 - Adjustment #2: Combine sincere compliments with a joke.
2:07 - Adjustment #3: Your touch should not be too light or heavy.
3:05 - Adjustment #4: Don’t make them feel trapped.
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Garion Ramsey
Garion Ramsey Өдрийн өмнө
People call me weird
AcidDome 4 сарын өмнө
The animator needs to calm down. Reminds me of the special effects guy from monster bug wars. We get it my guy! No need to go to such extremes cause it can end up being UNeducational and distracting.
Proudly Kenyan
Proudly Kenyan 4 сарын өмнө
hahaha that animation though
ー ボイドジービ
ー ボイドジービ 5 сарын өмнө
2:47my siri is on danish and has voice recognition, and every time i get to this point, siri turns on for some reason
SuperMisterKory 5 сарын өмнө
It's a sad truth that women hold the power in these situations (90% of the time). Girls have way more options than men when it comes to securing a partner on a night out - and I never want to be just "another guy" queuing for that "hot" girl at the bar so I forever stay away from even trying to flirt. I daren't even make eye contact in case she quickly darts her eyes away from that "weirdo" trying to get her attention. I'm just not that guy. Is there a way to change my mindset here?
SuperMisterKory 3 сарын өмнө
@Divine Yeah, I've tried online dating too and even that's a chore. Don't get me wrong, it's still worked well for me once or twice in the past but I still feel it's very similar (if not exactly the same) as trying to chat someone up at a bar. Maybe even worse? Girls will still get bombarded with messages off guys queueing up to be at the front of the line to talk to them; and I've found that if the girl ever does message back then it's usually blunt and difficult to get a conversation unless they're actually interested in YOU. Not to mention that's IF you get a message back - SO many girls I've found simply ignore you. Which is straight up irritating. My dad even once told me you'll message bunch of girls and only maybe one or two will actually reply. It's just the way it is. Plus, getting to choose what pics you put up, everyone puts up their best pictures from their best angles and it's rarely an accurate portrayal of reality, so I find that side of it somewhat deceiving also. As you can see, I've had my fair share of failures and missed shots without being needy or a try-hard. Not to mention the heartbreak from certain girls in the past as well - honestly, I just can't be arsed with it any more. Hahah. Rather than try in all of these different social ways (bars, networking, etc.), I honestly think the best way to meet someone is to just go on with your daily life and not necessarily "pursue" looking for someone. Don't force or fake a personality and don't force yourself into someone's life either. The right person will come along naturally, they'll like you for you and it's easier to ask them out for a date if you see them and converse frequently enough. Like you say, it could be a friend of a friend, someone you see in a class you take, maybe even a work mate (within reason), either way I personally think chasing someone isn't worth the hassle. Maybe when I was a teenager and I didn't know any better, but now I'm slowly approaching 30 I think the right girl will eventually come along at the right time - and I'm not impatient enough to let that happen whenever it does. Sorry for the essay, I've evidently got a lot to say on this topic haha.
Divine 3 сарын өмнө
We already have solutions for this queuing issue with online dating. I personally think the quality of partner at both bars and online dating is god awful. You're best looking for someone through an alumni network, through a friends friend or just straight up shooting your shot on Insta. Getting partners on nights out has gotten so bad that people literally relate to it with a negative preconceived notion, i.e. "Nothing good can come of this".
Jaden Dodd
Jaden Dodd 6 сарын өмнө
Wtf are these animations
Captain Xiiooong
Captain Xiiooong 7 сарын өмнө
Littlefinger needs to watch this
John Doe
John Doe 7 сарын өмнө
1:55 CoC know's what's up.
Miriam Davis
Miriam Davis 7 сарын өмнө
Lol I’m here because I’m actually dating a guy that was super creepy when we 1st met. He was just staring at me hard core across the bar and being serious. He didn’t even smile back when I tried to smile at him (thought he was a bit creepy but also cute) I’m glad I was able to tell him in a joking way and he felt so bad he said he never realized he was being creepy. Lol. But idk I get a little weirded out by it still since he can get pretty serious and gets this scary look on his face 😬
Jeremy Theimer
Jeremy Theimer 9 сарын өмнө
So no wall is better than a real wall
manaar منار
manaar منار 9 сарын өмнө
03:11 I can confirm, it’s oddly annoying and creepy when someone who’s taller blocks me like that
metalperslfx 9 сарын өмнө
some of this are straight out common sense, but when the nerve is struck and the tension is up I do it anyway. somehow.
hangukhiphop 10 сарын өмнө
loool look at dem huge titties
Take the red pill
Take the red pill 10 сарын өмнө
This is hilarious
Slyyvie 10 сарын өмнө
lol these animations are hilarious
Abhay Bisht
Abhay Bisht 10 сарын өмнө
I know this art of flirting no big deal and I end up with a happy blocking by the girl
Some Person
Some Person 10 сарын өмнө
flirting needs to become extinct. just use your words and learn how to take rejection if you're that concerned with having a sexual partner. we're not in the wild.
Marcus Witt
Marcus Witt 10 сарын өмнө
Look dude, the object is to make her give you signals or signs that she is open to you talking to her. Or, how about making her pursue you.... it can happen, I have seen it.
D 11 сарын өмнө
2:10 when i see a dog
Haitham Yassen
Haitham Yassen 11 сарын өмнө
The part about the club reminded me of a funny situation that I had. I was pretty drunk and at the club with friends. My friend had a glow stick necklace, and dropped it. I picked it up and put it around this random girl. She turns around and I grab her hand and we started dancing. I let her go and turn around to my friends. My cousin said he knew I was messed up because she was tapping me trying to get my attention the whole night, but I kept ignoring her. It was also funny because I didn’t recall much of that night and realized afterwards. Long story short use a glow stick necklace to pick up girls at the club.
7 Rings
7 Rings 11 сарын өмнө
Honestly if someone just stares at me for even a few seconds and smiles I get creeped out-
Ian Alejandro
Ian Alejandro Жилийн өмнө
Feat. Kurzgesagt?
DG Жилийн өмнө
Your dad
HonkBol Жилийн өмнө
this whole animation is discomforting
JoJo BaBok
JoJo BaBok Жилийн өмнө
These graphics look like a Mortal Kombat guy performing fatalities or X-rays on a poor woman. 😂
bernard koey
bernard koey Жилийн өмнө
Lol just be single...........easy solve
AlessandroXVI Жилийн өмнө
this looks like a Kurzgesagt video
afootineachworld Жилийн өмнө
Know if they want you around, if you think they don’t then leave it.
Brandon Monroe
Brandon Monroe Жилийн өмнө
Those boob physics are top notch
EBD Жилийн өмнө
Did you use Exurb1as song in this video? I didn't know you also were a fan!
Action Figure Lair
Action Figure Lair Жилийн өмнө
wish that this video had made its way to the kid who thought that randomly touching a girl on the shoulder from the shadows was a good thing. Hes now facing jail time.
Rock Styler
Rock Styler Жилийн өмнө
Flirt with the girl if you want to date her. Flirt with her dad if you want to marry her.
E Жилийн өмнө
liz h
liz h Жилийн өмнө
#5: if she’s giving you cues that she isnt interested, dont keep pestering her over and over, respect it
Emily Jane
Emily Jane Жилийн өмнө
this animation is super creepy xD
hsasmgable Жилийн өмнө
Viktor Nguyen
Viktor Nguyen Жилийн өмнө
Some people here find the animation creepy. I found it was kinda cute
Mr StrangeCake
Mr StrangeCake Жилийн өмнө
The animation is so great x')
Monkizaki Жилийн өмнө
Do Andrew Yang!
Aniseoul Tv
Aniseoul Tv Жилийн өмнө
Models is a great book
S.L. S.
S.L. S. Жилийн өмнө
I hate TikTok. Have a nice day :)
LoserDestiny Жилийн өмнө
I always followed the advice not to approach girls from behind on the dancefloor. Until a few weeks ago I saw a guy basically hugging a really nice (but rather shy) girl from behind and starting to dance with her. I kept watching them and some 30 minutes later they were kissing right there.
Nikt Niewiem
Nikt Niewiem Жилийн өмнө
smile back?? man girls turn their eyes away from me in 0,00000000000001 sec
Nagano YT
Nagano YT Жилийн өмнө
The animation and comments here are gold.
King Isaac
King Isaac Жилийн өмнө
3:10 any woman would be horrified if some guy danced like that
binboda Жилийн өмнө
We need a book recommendation for women as well - how to successfully flirt for long term relationships, i.e. how to attract a good man with long-term intentions and not one-night-stand intentions.
Tad Strange
Tad Strange Жилийн өмнө
Don't forget to constantly dance with her.
badreligion1231 Жилийн өмнө
Please, I've been myself for years and nothing ever worked out.
Kenneth Cruz
Kenneth Cruz Жилийн өмнө
Too bad you’re a Patriots fan we can never hang out again.
Bonezius Pilatuz
Bonezius Pilatuz Жилийн өмнө
Honestly work on your looks and be more attractive, being ugly makes up the most of being creepy to women.
Akarsh chaturvedi
Akarsh chaturvedi Жилийн өмнө
That's exurb1a's dog wrestler waltz. I hope you asked him first.
Zetsuke4 Жилийн өмнө
Kurxheghsst animation style
demoix Жилийн өмнө
Those animations😂👍
sam Жилийн өмнө
3:32 im friggin 5.8 what size? P.s. The animations look familiar ( you should do more)
Samuel Gordon
Samuel Gordon Жилийн өмнө
I love exurb1a's music in the background
Sam Judge
Sam Judge Жилийн өмнө
How to do jokes?
mobspeak Жилийн өмнө
I must just be really old or something, because I don't remember ever seeing dancing booths. I guess it's just what you crazy kids are doing these days?
Cape Enieer
Cape Enieer Жилийн өмнө
haha these animations are funkkyy
dethplaque Жилийн өмнө
3:29 this scene is nightmare fuel for me
rowan mohamed
rowan mohamed Жилийн өмнө
So I am a man 😭😂😂😂
Caleb Tucker
Caleb Tucker Жилийн өмнө
That background Music... exurb1a. Solid choice.
B FROM A Жилийн өмнө
how to flirt 1 . start flirting.
Jaximus ACT N
Jaximus ACT N Жилийн өмнө
you speak spanish?
row0111 Жилийн өмнө
The way makes have to court females makes me feel sick
E.P. Manne
E.P. Manne Жилийн өмнө
If they like you, be yourself. If they don't, you're a creep. Move on.
Maraxusofk Жилийн өмнө
But what about the implications
Johannes Жилийн өмнө
Good video but i find the animations too over the top, they distract me from what you're trying to say
johndavies115 Жилийн өмнө
I went on a date and did that weird dance while she was pinned against the wall. It worked! Thanks!
Bastian Rivero
Bastian Rivero Жилийн өмнө
I want to know how to be creepy without having to flirt
Black styfy
Black styfy Жилийн өмнө
1:06 pls someone caption this
Micoola Жилийн өмнө
These animations.....
Absent Minded
Absent Minded Жилийн өмнө
Double standards amirite
Narxes Жилийн өмнө
Jokes on the women, I'm terrified of them.
Kabutoes Жилийн өмнө
The man portrayed in the video is on crack
Bojidar Stoykov
Bojidar Stoykov Жилийн өмнө
Am I the only one who noticed the "exurb1a" music in the background?
Ivo Andričić
Ivo Andričić Жилийн өмнө
not going to cite Our Lord and Saviour exurb1a as the author of the music even if its free to use?
B. Blokzijl
B. Blokzijl Жилийн өмнө
That excurb1a music tho
seven love lucky
seven love lucky Жилийн өмнө
Any advise
Rieco Жилийн өмнө
If you're interested in flirting you should take a look at attractiongym! Usefull tips with real life video examples
Austin Sargeant
Austin Sargeant Жилийн өмнө
Ya know, this is a pretty high quality video. It has a sort of educational tone to it, so it’s interesting to think about all the viewers coming out here to learn... everyone here has been creepy at least on accident at least once
Tim Mosso's N95 Mask
Tim Mosso's N95 Mask Жилийн өмнө
How to flirt without being creepy: 1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be not attractive.
youssarian91 Жилийн өмнө
I was *JUST* reading Models. It's an excellent book.
Night Fury 24
Night Fury 24 Жилийн өмнө
thx dude ❤️
M Жилийн өмнө
The one thing I learned during my dating life: If the girl likes you, you can be creepy as and the girls still thinks it is cute. But for the first contacts the video is pretty accurate.
Royce Bunce
Royce Bunce Жилийн өмнө
Step 1: Be attractive
Hani Жилийн өмнө
Could you make a video on how to be comfortable not being comfortable? How to address it in a funny way rather than coming across as awkward?
Ame Жилийн өмнө
Hey this is all well and good but you got any tips for the LGBT community? As a Lez I find it impossible to know if I'm being flirted with or am flirting properly
Roland Virág
Roland Virág Жилийн өмнө
Is this kurzgesagt artwork?
Average C
Average C Жилийн өмнө
Agreeeeeeeeee. Holly heck.
identity Europa
identity Europa Жилийн өмнө
In otherwords you have to be a perfect robot and wake around on eggshells
Gabriel Anghel
Gabriel Anghel Жилийн өмнө
what no one tells you it that in 90% it depends on how good you look and that is based un some studies that put women in the a situation where 1 ugly guy said the same thing as the hot guy but 1 was creepy and the other not XD Mans either u go to the gym and improve or just go mgtow or do both :v
Gabriel Anghel
Gabriel Anghel Жилийн өмнө
also never listen to any advice women give you in dating becasue most of them have no clue what it feels like to make the first step..
skyou Жилийн өмнө
Alpha M copycat ?
J T Жилийн өмнө
I was wondering why just pulling my pants down wasn't working.
Seelen Sturm
Seelen Sturm Жилийн өмнө
This seems to be specific to men. Would you give the same advice to women?
SancLunatic Жилийн өмнө
These animations are so obnoxiously disturbing and funny lol
myfavs Жилийн өмнө
What a very strange, creepy video - radical feminist makes demands and gives commands to men. What self-respecting man is going to obey this person? Just so weird and super creepy
Erin Wentz
Erin Wentz Жилийн өмнө
These illustrations were so creepy...
Zer0theher0 Жилийн өмнө
This must be new because usually the closer you are the stronger you look
Ana Herrera
Ana Herrera Жилийн өмнө
what if I’m a girl and wanna make some first moves too? can you make a video for us as well please :D
terrible deed
terrible deed Жилийн өмнө
Don't. Just stay single and spare an innocent soul
Visa-Schengen WF
Visa-Schengen WF Жилийн өмнө
i just got the book.
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