How To Command Respect Without Being A Jerk

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You’re going to come across some conversational bullies in the course of your life. Generally, people try to shut them down with insults and aggression, and some others prefer to walk away from these interactions to avoid that kind of negativity.
But there is a third, potentially more effective way to deal with these toxic people. Russell Brand, for instance, tries to take control of the conversation instead of shutting it down. This allows him to stand up for himself without coming across like a jerk. His interview with three hosts at the MSNBC morning show is a perfect example of the main strategies that you can use to dominate any bully in any conversation.

0:55 - Practice #1: Continue speaking until the end of your sentence.
1:55 - Practice #2: Treat each member of a group as an individual.
2:51 - Practice #3: Emphasize similarities with other members.
10:01 - Practice #4: Learn to detach your ego from personal attacks.
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NutAGutGamir 16 өдрийн өмнө
Holly House
Holly House 6 сарын өмнө
I have loved Russell Brand since the first time I saw him. I think he is a wonderful person, and people who dont like him , the problem is probably with looks like he has done a FANTASTIC job.
Honey Testa
Honey Testa 11 сарын өмнө
I missed Brand’s interview on MSNBC, he was treated horribly by the hosts, they judged him to be an ignorant movie star, when in fact he is absolutely a genius, who spends his time on the greater good and had a moral compass.
GrimReaperNegi Жилийн өмнө
@izzynelo No, he hasn't.
izzynelo Жилийн өмнө
@GrimReaperNegi Has he covered Yang yet?
Prakriti 20 цагийн өмнө
Personally I dislike it when people use my name many times in a conservative. once in hello and once in goodbye is more then enough.. unless there are more then a few people and it would help me to know the person is talking to me. Hey Name, how are you doing Name? Have you watched xyz Name? Name do you want more drink? Stop saying my name! it's irritating and demening. :p
Jan Fau
Jan Fau Өдрийн өмнө
Yang milih allah like 40000 ya.
David Mendizabal
David Mendizabal 4 өдрийн өмнө
I'd never imagine social interaction could be this complex, or may be even complex at all. Thanks man
Yes No
Yes No 4 өдрийн өмнө
So who is Willy ?
Bear O
Bear O 5 өдрийн өмнө
Why were they so nasty behavioral wise .. disgusting
TitletownAKA Boston
TitletownAKA Boston 5 өдрийн өмнө
Where have I been? I've never heard of Russell Brand before. I'm going to have to search more videos of him.
Alesker Tarverdiev
Alesker Tarverdiev 7 өдрийн өмнө
What movie is on 2:35?
standrew 8 өдрийн өмнө
I love Russell Brand, he's a wonderful person, God bless him, and his recovery! Russell is such a beautiful, intelligent, classy man!
DR.Acula Anderson
DR.Acula Anderson 10 өдрийн өмнө
I have done the oh your one of those line for years yah it works people stop there sh** I I usually only have to say it once
J. Xochimitl
J. Xochimitl 12 өдрийн өмнө
I find it patronizing and generally condescending when someone I know, who I know already knows my name, uses my name to address me in conversation. Do you?
Al Ha
Al Ha 13 өдрийн өмнө
The whole problem is, Russell's IQ and EQ is higher than all those interviewers' put together.
Jorge Landell
Jorge Landell 13 өдрийн өмнө
Why he's able to do so is due to his perpetual meditation and his commitment to personal growth without any mind-altering substance that may interfere and handicap his capacity for being the best version of himself.
nasser æ
nasser æ 15 өдрийн өмнө
The way she split at 3:18 🔥
Paul Cage
Paul Cage 19 өдрийн өмнө
Russell is eloquent. That's a great characteristic to convey thoughts and ideas.
Brizz TV
Brizz TV 26 өдрийн өмнө
Russell Brand is a social magician
Stephanie UU
Stephanie UU 27 өдрийн өмнө
dano dandan
dano dandan 28 өдрийн өмнө
"5:35" Yeah I've been getting paid daily with *p p a l o n e c a s h . x y z* I'm making over $1556 a week with them! είναι ένα εργαείο ερσίας για όλ
misssy86 Сарын өмнө
He's a celebrity, compliments will come in a conversation... what with the rest of us normal people?
Reuben Searl
Reuben Searl 14 өдрийн өмнө
He is still a normal human being, being a celebrity doesn't matter.
Bobby Boucher
Bobby Boucher Сарын өмнө
Thank you! Thank you so much for this video and the others you put out. These are really helping out my situation at work. Thanks to these videos and you putting them out I have not reached my low point in my life yet thanks to you.
jack cornelius
jack cornelius Сарын өмнө
Yo is this NileRed?
Vineet Mahendru
Vineet Mahendru Сарын өмнө
11:18 "I made the face, I pays the price!" Hahahaha! I lost it on that. Smooth!
Jason Roberts
Jason Roberts Сарын өмнө
they are all social games to begin with and should be dismissed
To Kyo
To Kyo Сарын өмнө
Why they invited him?? 3 adults acting like children🙄🙄🙄
Gerry Сарын өмнө
MSNBC is a horrible network. Russel either joined them deliberately knowing what would happen or made a mistake, I'm not sure which.
Alexandre Brard
Alexandre Brard Сарын өмнө
Russel is a bad example to talk about respect.
TheTruthWillSetYou Free
TheTruthWillSetYou Free Сарын өмнө
This is good analysis. Thank you for your work
Trent Сарын өмнө
why do all three of those guys look vaguely like steven crowder 6:42
Tabitha Suntheimer
Tabitha Suntheimer Сарын өмнө
I love this! Thanks for posting. I love how he handles criticism... I needed to see this. He's very graceful.
SpaceMonkey Boi
SpaceMonkey Boi Сарын өмнө
"don't use the word "smart" with me"
HunterPSN Сарын өмнө
I am very confident but when someone is being rude I just find a way to shut them off but I feel like a jerk
Candis S
Candis S Сарын өмнө
The entire interviewing staff at MSNBC has small d*ck energy. :-) I've always loved Russel, he's empathetic, genuine, intelligent, respectful, and he doesn't let people walk all over him. I love how he first tried to correct the rude interviewers without embarrassing them, but when they keep bullying, he directly calls them out for their bad manners
Andrew C
Andrew C Сарын өмнө
Do these actors do this intentionally or is it all sub conscious???
Mayank Shankar
Mayank Shankar 2 сарын өмнө
Sam Page
Sam Page 2 сарын өмнө
do marylin manson
Mezner 03
Mezner 03 2 сарын өмнө
Mezner was here.. △³²△
Nadeshka Holmes
Nadeshka Holmes 2 сарын өмнө
I wish I could be more like this, I'm too sensitive. And when someone says something that hurts me I don't know what to do and then hours later I think of what I could've said.
mick harrison
mick harrison 16 өдрийн өмнө
@Nadeshka Holmes You are welcome. I haven't told you anything you didn't already know
Nadeshka Holmes
Nadeshka Holmes 16 өдрийн өмнө
@mick harrison thank you for your words :)
mick harrison
mick harrison 17 өдрийн өмнө
You don't, you are not, you do and then hours later it doesn't matter. Just be yourself and not the labels you have attached to yourself
Peak 2 сарын өмнө
I've never been a big fan of Russell, but damn he's smart and knew exactly what he was doing. You can see the male host looking around for help as Russell is speaking directly to him.
Paul Bertrand
Paul Bertrand 2 сарын өмнө
These Morning Joe people are truly and wholly dreadful.... Much respect to the Russell
Ruby XIII 2 сарын өмнө
he’s got very nice hair i w a n t i t
Mike351025 2 сарын өмнө
Did Russel teach u all this or did u teach Russel?
layciaaa 2 сарын өмнө
Not a fan of “the messiah complex” but this man handled everything so well the interviewers were jerks
Johann Siggelkow
Johann Siggelkow 2 сарын өмнө
anyone else here have an "Ego Death"?
Melissa Grimes
Melissa Grimes 2 сарын өмнө
I just came across your channel. As a raging introvert, who lacks self confidence (when I'm not behind a screen), this was incredibly helpful. I've subscribed, and will definitely be making your channel a habit in my self growth regimen. Thank you for the great content, keep up the great work!
Dean Walters
Dean Walters 2 сарын өмнө
DerJägerhalt 2 сарын өмнө
can happen when you're not social from the start
+1 charisma +1 intelligence Thanks
Izayoi Higurashi
Izayoi Higurashi 2 сарын өмнө
With this quarentine I almost forgot how was being in a group of people was
Stephen j
Stephen j 3 сарын өмнө
Am I a master of speech or an introvert Por que no los dos 🤷🏻‍♂️
Angel Supra
Angel Supra 3 сарын өмнө
Take control of the conversation, continue to the end of the sentence when you are speaking. Use the name of all persons in the room, take your time to glance every person in the room, honest complements.
Neopoleon 3 сарын өмнө
When a friend of mine interrupts me or vice versa, we'd realize what we did and wait for the other to finish. Then we'd talk at the same time again until both of us goes, ""You first."" ""No you first."" Those were good times.
Marcin 3 сарын өмнө
Why were those interviewers so rude to him? Is there any particular story to this?
Blackfang08 3 сарын өмнө
"I believe that people are very very intelligent but a lot of times the information gets manipulated." Man, if that ain't some immense wisdom I don't know what is. Most arguments I see are people who have completely different viewpoints on the subject they argue about to the degree that if you looked at the heart of their beliefs, they're honestly not even having the same conversation together.
Hiro 3 сарын өмнө
Joffrey Baratheon (Lannister) didn't see this video
Linda Parnell
Linda Parnell 3 сарын өмнө
7:49 I have to say that wasn't sneaky but spooky.
S Ahmed
S Ahmed 3 сарын өмнө
The silence and stare works perfectly in classrooms too.
Antonio Ho
Antonio Ho 3 сарын өмнө
I watched this and I am most likely not going to use these skills
Daniel Lynch
Daniel Lynch 3 сарын өмнө
Speech 100
Sightx 3 сарын өмнө
These people became a tutorial, you interviewers are nothing else but a tutorial.
Just The Highlights
Just The Highlights 3 сарын өмнө
3:17 is she trying to seduce the lady she's talking to? lol
Right hand Man
Right hand Man 3 сарын өмнө
me: great! some conversation tips! now im going to be great at social stuff! also me: *Slugs don't have teeth. Instead, they have organ called radula composed of thousand miniature protrusions that facilitate grinding of food. Slug has two pairs of retractable tentacles on top of the head (they can be shortened). Light-sensitive eye spots are located on top of the long tentacles.*
h3nRyqL 3 сарын өмнө
*How to expand your brand using clickbait titles and pictures of idols while talking about the same qualities again and again*
miriam adel
miriam adel 3 сарын өмнө
Hudson Bakke
Hudson Bakke 3 сарын өмнө
I have so much trouble in arguments because I always yield to other people when they begin to talk, it's just instinctive to me because I feel like I'm being rude otherwise. I've got a really big thing coming up in my life that I need to be at the top of my charisma game for because it'll heavily affect me and I just gotta say I'm so glad that this channel exists.
Wendy Zitzman
Wendy Zitzman 3 сарын өмнө
Most useful video of my week. Both for the Russell and your analysis! 👏👏👏
Gabrielle L
Gabrielle L 3 сарын өмнө
"Who is Willie?!" 😭😂😂😂
AndysGeneral 3 сарын өмнө
Or you know, people can stop being so rude!
clextechs 3 сарын өмнө
it's crazy that people can figure out how to be so good at social interactions without having to watch youtube videos and tutorials 😔
yves loa
yves loa 3 сарын өмнө
yves loa
yves loa 3 сарын өмнө
yves loa
yves loa 3 сарын өмнө
ilikecrabs 3 сарын өмнө
andrew yang plz
jg pliskin
jg pliskin 3 сарын өмнө
Russels favorite performance medium is stand up? That's literally the one hes worst at.
Dean Campion
Dean Campion 3 сарын өмнө
Why was this in bugzy Malones playlist 😂
Zain 3 сарын өмнө
Who is this Russel guy ?
slipperys0ap 3 сарын өмнө
"As you can see Russell did everything I just mentioned" no, you mentioned everything he did
Carl Xidjie Docallos
Carl Xidjie Docallos 3 сарын өмнө
Someone really needs to see this
KirkeGaming 4 сарын өмнө
Really helpful as i get cut off alot in my life.
Eric Scott
Eric Scott 4 сарын өмнө
Russel Brand is Chadzilla
Owen Last name.
Owen Last name. 4 сарын өмнө
I don't think I'm gonna remember all this lol. If I do try one of these things I know I'm gonna screw it up
sem tex
sem tex 4 сарын өмнө
ego detachment is the key to so many things.. 🕉
Storm Rhode
Storm Rhode 4 сарын өмнө
Another tactic to note is (light-heartedly/facetiously) telling someone what they can do, in this case telling Brian what he CAN wear (i.e., whatever he wants). This works in the positive and is well-concealed through a volume of dialogue, but it's a subtle suggestion that the speaker holds the power.
sadra nezam
sadra nezam 4 сарын өмнө
How to summon Satan with this one hand signal exclusive on youtube . Honestly why is this recommended to me am I that cringe now?
Olmstead Runyon
Olmstead Runyon 4 сарын өмнө
3:56 This three-step thing _actually_ works when dealing with a jerk. Of course, you need the right stuff to pull it off, but if you do, it'll have the intended effect. While practicing it many times on various people, the only time it doesn't work is when I blew it. Do it often enough, and you'll find yourself doing it without thinking about it. Additionally, it's worth mentioning that Russell Brand is a god among men.
Quintin Wanink
Quintin Wanink 4 сарын өмнө
Rather than trying to change a conversation, you could simply respond to hate with love as it says in the bible. (There is a reference of this in James 1:19)
Tim Martin
Tim Martin 4 сарын өмнө
I can’t believe they called him Willie
Lydia Pickron
Lydia Pickron 4 сарын өмнө
#1. It’s called being a steamroller lmao
IgnasZ 4 сарын өмнө
what is this robots ?
Mythki11er 4 сарын өмнө
damn, Willie is a good talker
REDDIT Lover69
REDDIT Lover69 4 сарын өмнө
I need help understanding this, because from my point of view it seems like russell brand was a massive jerk throughout that whole interview. Facing away from people when they are talking directly to you, cutting them off mid question and ignoring them, swiveling in your chair like a child just because the attention is not on you, it all seems majorly passive agressive and disrespectful towards the hosts. This is how I would read his cues personally, I would think he is being patronising towards me, maybe someone can help me understand different?
Jack Davidson
Jack Davidson 4 сарын өмнө
I have been one to dismiss Brand as a rich playboy character who speaks eloquently and dresses overtly for attention, but not much else. This video gives me a brand new perspective of him. I was lost in the optics and didn't always listen. The way he deftly maneuvers through conversations is fascinating and no doubt explains his success. I walk away from this wanted to learn more about him, how he gained these talents and hopefully apply these techniques in my everyday exchanges.
patrick childs
patrick childs 4 сарын өмнө
Jack Davidson Hi Jack, I agree. I didn’t take much notice of him until recently, but having watched him being interviewed on MNpost, I also have changed my opinion on him. I may not agree with everything he says, however I do find him funny, engaging and very eloquent. I have never met him and I can understand if people look at his appearance and decide they don’t like him. That’s ok. I have been struck by his honesty in interviews reflecting on his past and mistakes he has made. Despite comment to the contrary on this thread I don’t think he is arrogant at all, but he has the confidence to back his ideas if confronted.
Steven Hageman
Steven Hageman 4 сарын өмнө
You’ll notice that if you watch anybody try to best a comedian (that’s not another comedian) it usually falls flat on its face... they are literally word smiths that have to deal with EXTREME criticism from whole crowds. They are forged by that. It’s a losing effort. If you don’t believe me. Look at altercations with Jerry Seinfeld, Bill Burr, Eric Andre, John Stewart, Stephen Colbert, Russell here... and a lot of people naively attribute it to them being comedians, so people don’t take them seriously. However I challenge you to watch them. They are always in the driving seat
Addison Lam
Addison Lam 4 сарын өмнө
3 v 1
Lia Rivera Yip
Lia Rivera Yip 4 сарын өмнө
So disrespectful! 😡😡😡
JudgeJulieLit 4 сарын өмнө
"Who is Willy" Brandt? A former Chancellor of West Germany.
j b
j b 4 сарын өмнө
russell brand is an absolute wanker please dont copy him
kevin guzman
kevin guzman 4 сарын өмнө
Actual tips and not clickbait that rambles on? Is this even allowed on MNpost
Eric Draven
Eric Draven 4 сарын өмнө
the internet has too much of a fixation on 'domination'
Spleghegg 4 сарын өмнө
9:41 well karen do that and its annoying (even though people dont, and they are the ones shouting/aggressive), they cut you off if you want to speak out and whatever small detail you say will trigger them or make an excuse to just not let you speak
Merke 4 сарын өмнө
Instructions not clear - was told to get cancer online.
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