3 Steps To Go From Shy To Confident

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Charisma on Command

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Jumanji is back and once again, The Rock, Kevin Hart, and Jack Black are getting back together.
All three are super charismatic, we’ve covered them in previous breakdowns, but today I thought it’d be fun to combine their strengths to talk about how you can build rock-solid confidence from the ground up, going from shy to confident.

0:25 - #1: Command attention.
4:38 - #2: Share the spotlight (turn it back on the other person).
8:13 - #3: Fully commit to your actions.
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ramz .a
ramz .a 9 өдрийн өмнө
Easier said than done
Hannah L.
Hannah L. 25 өдрийн өмнө
I feel awkward with giving high fives though.. But I feel comfortable with the rest of what you suggested. lol
look at it
look at it Сарын өмнө
*"High fives are an easy way to spread coronavirus..."*
dropwafflez 2 сарын өмнө
this guy actually really knows what he’s talking about
James Middleton
James Middleton 2 сарын өмнө
With the repeating yourself, dont repeat a joke that no one laughed at, honestly its just annoying and screams that you dont know how to take rejection, because making a joke that no one laughs at is being rejected
Strill X
Strill X 4 сарын өмнө
I absolutely hate when people scream in the middle of talking. This whole video was aggravating to watch.
عمر العويني
عمر العويني 5 сарын өмнө
1- loud ur voice To have attention 2- high 5 3 -praise
Rule C
Rule C 5 сарын өмнө
imagine practicing a really cool hi5 and then...covid19
Porkbelly Cutlets
Porkbelly Cutlets 5 сарын өмнө
"REESE WITHERSPOOOON" thats fuckin golden
La chancla
La chancla 5 сарын өмнө
I just tell myself "don't give off awkward vibes give calm vibes and calm vibes will be received"
SuperMisterKory 5 сарын өмнө
I watched this video 24 hours too late. Yesterday I went to play golf with a couple of relatively-close friends who are both excellent players and me - well, it was my first time. I sucked. And the more I played, the more I felt the pressure; the worse I got and the more my enthusiasm plummeted, my awkwardness and anxiety took over - I ended up feeling a mixture of suppressed anger, embarrassment and demotivation. Seeing JB play basketball in this tells me I took the complete wrong approach.
Dale C.
Dale C. 5 сарын өмнө
7:14 i thought he was about to say covid19. positivity. yes. lol
iam_sherlocked 5 сарын өмнө
I for real LOVE your channel! When I was younger, I wasn't that shy...but bullying took the confidence away from me. Now I'm learning to be the same old girl, what I used to be. And thanks to you! This channel has taught a lot!
Jim Skra
Jim Skra 5 сарын өмнө
I am a simple man I see blackjack I click
SozeyTozey 5 сарын өмнө
You see, I would try to command attention by telling folks why what im saying matters, but most of the time i dont even know. Im just talking so they dont forget im there
hullstar242 5 сарын өмнө
Those aren’t high fives that’s a handshake lmao
Roberto García
Roberto García 5 сарын өмнө
The rock + jack Black + Kevin heart = Harambe, I gonna like this video
Meghan Webber
Meghan Webber 5 сарын өмнө
Jayden getting interrupted is basically a super power of mine 😣 New problem I face now is learning all these tips (and from other vids) and wanting to apply them... but I know I'll be thinking really hard on it all, obsess and probably end up overcorrecting or coming off even more awkward 😅😔
Giel te Molder
Giel te Molder 5 сарын өмнө
7:11 Reese Witherspoon
James Cazier
James Cazier 5 сарын өмнө
Maybe I don’t want a lot of attention
Lety Celeste
Lety Celeste 5 сарын өмнө
All I got from this is that I want to be fiends with the rock
Zelaya 6 сарын өмнө
This video comes over like how to be like the 3 main Jumanji members
Edward Bale
Edward Bale 6 сарын өмнө
I like how the rock is bigger than his security
Spacer Gazer
Spacer Gazer 6 сарын өмнө
"the two minute rule" this video is 13minutes long hmm yes this makes perfect math sense
choudhury shadmani
choudhury shadmani 6 сарын өмнө
need to shake hands with a stranger asap...thanks coronavirus
Alpha Wolf
Alpha Wolf 6 сарын өмнө
The high 5 thing did not age well
Monte Lee My P.O.V
Monte Lee My P.O.V 6 сарын өмнө
Last time i tried to high 5 someone, I got Tazed.. No Covid high 5's i guess. What else ya' got?
Big Electron
Big Electron 6 сарын өмнө
great stuff!! i'll definitely try one of these! 😮
I 6 сарын өмнө
I speak loudly on accident sometimes when I’m exited on the things I’m saying and it works people turn around and listen... some people do point it out but it ends up uplifting the mood and making other people more energized and awake
Best Gamer
Best Gamer 6 сарын өмнө
Mircea Dochia
Mircea Dochia 6 сарын өмнө
Man i absolutly love your videos and your work definetly buying your course as soon as quarantine is over. Your a great guy. Charisma = being a better human being
Lone x Mo
Lone x Mo 7 сарын өмнө
Lol when you realize these celebrities are naturally like this.... while your trying to learn how to be human. Isn’t it kinda narcissistic I try and change yourself so others can like you? Idk I’m just tryna learn how to be more comfortable with who I am while also letting ppl be comfortable with me.
Reuben Searl
Reuben Searl 2 сарын өмнө
Hows it narcissistic?
Liam lll
Liam lll 7 сарын өмнө
What if you have multiple personalities and some are confident but other are not? Steve
John Hooper
John Hooper 7 сарын өмнө
They are all rich..
PAPAIatDusk 7 сарын өмнө
Love you Charlie
Q 7 сарын өмнө
Lol when people cut me off, I dont repeat myself. I go "EXCUSE ME I WAS TELLING A STORY". works like a charm
Amy Sirawsky
Amy Sirawsky 7 сарын өмнө
I’m the type of person who only talks when I have something to say as opposed to trying to fill the silence. Sometimes I feel people get so used to me not talking that they tune me out when I do. There was a time where no one was talking, I suggested something, and no one responded. I said it again and then two people in the group looked over and said that’s a great idea. Then the rest of the group asked what, and she repeated my idea, even though I said it twice without being interrupted.
Jason Ong Himself
Jason Ong Himself 8 сарын өмнө
Great Content thank You Coc Dem att Ene Fun Hi5 Repeat Loud Bod Smi Talk abt oth Prai
Freddy November
Freddy November 8 сарын өмнө
thanx. these are great videos.
Mally Gee
Mally Gee 8 сарын өмнө
You should do a breakdown of how Kevin Smith tells a story. He tells extraordinarily long but immensely entertaining stories. I would love to see how you breakdown his storytelling skills and how he manages to keep the listener immersed in it.
Cassandra Anne
Cassandra Anne 8 сарын өмнө
Ah, the holy trinity of confident comedic charisma
afifa tariq
afifa tariq 8 сарын өмнө
Simmly 8 сарын өмнө
I was confident until I quit my job and realized the only people I hung out with were my work friends and after I left, none of them cared to keep in contact with me. So now I just spend time with my family, husband and cats.
It's Just Bree
It's Just Bree 8 сарын өмнө
Okay can somebody explain this to me: what do people really mean when they remark "you are so quiet" or even say to someone else right in front of me "she's quiet." 🤔 (Never said by people I know well, always by a stranger/someone I don't know very well.) Is this a compliment? An insult? An attempt to start a conversation? Trying to tell me that I'm making them uncomfortable? What exactly do they hope to accomplish by this remark? It doesn't make me uncomfortable that they say it; I'm just curious what they are trying to communicate by it.
The Forbidden Ones
The Forbidden Ones 9 сарын өмнө
Im not really shy. I have a tendency to destroy any given persons ideals about what they think is right/wrong. If I love you and I get the urge to tell you what I KNOW you dont want to hear, I put myself on mute. I need a video on how to stop loving people.
Michael G
Michael G 9 сарын өмнө
Damn... The Jaden clips were so cringe 🤣
Archangeldawn 9 сарын өмнө
5:59 how the heck do you that freaking handshake?! I've never gotten it right. I usually slide the hand and make it awkward so I just do a traditional firm handshake but the other person does that Fancy handshake and it's still awkward! I've looked MNpost videos and haven't found a how to video! Please help!
Fiona Kylee
Fiona Kylee 9 сарын өмнө
I’m so glad I found this the day before I see my councilor. Gladly appreciate the mentorship!
Alaska 9 сарын өмнө
I just think is a bit sad that almost all your videos are from guys or to guys. There are also some interested girls
Donald Frederick
Donald Frederick 9 сарын өмнө
Once again the author not grasping shy by telling those who are to just be the opposite with advice only extroverts use. Oh well, issue could be me expecting too much.
D-Risky 49
D-Risky 49 10 сарын өмнө
Shy isn’t a personality FYI commenters... it is a defense mechanism triggered by a fear of rejection. You’re not “shy people” youre a person with a natural fear of rejection.. which can be overcome like any fear with things like immersion therapy 👍 keep your spirits up!
Mattilda Hubbardo
Mattilda Hubbardo 10 сарын өмнө
Im Not a fan of Kevin hart
Vikashini 10 сарын өмнө
I think you should make a video on Adam driver. Really love the he carries himself around inspite of having social anxiety
VealTheMusic 10 сарын өмнө
someone said happy birthday i said you too confidently wrong!
Maddy Is sad
Maddy Is sad 10 сарын өмнө
*When you realize that people study professionally on interacting with humans*
Maddy Is sad
Maddy Is sad 10 сарын өмнө
Aspie Chadlet yep lol
Maddy Is sad
Maddy Is sad 10 сарын өмнө
Aspie Chadlet same, i havent made a new friend since kindergarten oof they both still go to my school tho 🤠
Dale Morrey-p
Dale Morrey-p 10 сарын өмнө
Sick vids bro Xx
Jason Gr
Jason Gr 10 сарын өмнө
yet another video that just recycles previous points...
I love you’re comment but
I love you’re comment but 10 сарын өмнө
Anybody realized he left the girl out No just me😂😂
Roger Roger
Roger Roger 10 сарын өмнө
For me, who grew up painfully shy, its not about how to grab attention or get everyone to pay attention to me, it was about how to avoid all of that. So the issue I have is how to become comfortable wanting to grab the attention and not avoid it. I even find it hard to write about but, my face would turn red as a fire truck at the drop of a hat. That in itself was a very strong deterrent for me to even put myself in a situation where there was a chance I would be singled out. I would become embarrassed just because it was obvious to everyone that I was embarrassed. I always thought that if I could somehow block my face from turning red, it would allow me to at least begin to try and overcome my shyness. As I have grown older it has faded somewhat but, I have missed so much in my life because of it.
Ten Monkeys
Ten Monkeys 10 сарын өмнө
How do you respond when people say something mean or rude to you? Specifically, What do you suggest when people are being derogatory towards you at work? What do you do if you are being blamed for something you didn't do at work? How do you respond when you are being written up at work?
Grace Deng
Grace Deng 10 сарын өмнө
Intp here, trying not to seem like an alien for once.
Coco The Spooky Librarian
Coco The Spooky Librarian 8 сарын өмнө
Intj. Try being an alien from another dimension.
Sterling M
Sterling M 10 сарын өмнө
How to be confident: Don't not be confident
danpaul 10 сарын өмнө
How to be more confident 1. Have friends with you. 2. Don't have anxiety.
Ben O. Verbich
Ben O. Verbich 7 сарын өмнө
@Solar Aqier gotcha 👍
Solar Aqier
Solar Aqier 7 сарын өмнө
meditate and delete social media and stop watching porn. That's how I went from social anxiety, panick attacks and depression to threesoms and girlfriending my crushes.
Ben O. Verbich
Ben O. Verbich 9 сарын өмнө
Ranken 9 сарын өмнө
Both steps are too difficult for me
Grammar Nazi Party
Grammar Nazi Party 10 сарын өмнө
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:25 - #1: Command attention. 4:38 - #2: Share the spotlight (turn it back on the other person). 8:13 - #3: Fully commit to your actions.
Aleksey Baranov
Aleksey Baranov 10 сарын өмнө
Is there Charisma University Masters program?
R.I.P 10 сарын өмнө
what got me out of my shell was watching videos like these then driving UBER. Helps a lot to just live in the moment, and have no hesitation in what you want to say
Fish Boy
Fish Boy 10 сарын өмнө
Can you do an analysis on swaggersouls comedic voice
L S 11 сарын өмнө
The Rock: "Take steroids."
Swifty 11 сарын өмнө
thank you for these video's you put up on your channel. i'v learned a lot from them. :)
Sam Thalen
Sam Thalen 11 сарын өмнө
Huh, I never knew that if Kevin Hart, The Rock, and Jack Black fused it would make Harambe. The more you know.
Becca 11 сарын өмнө
Wish I could afford Charisma University 😩 like $600 bro
Morfik 11 сарын өмнө
This is why I'm subscribed
Omnipotent 000
Omnipotent 000 11 сарын өмнө
I am not shy i am just introvert.
Ayokunle Oni
Ayokunle Oni 11 сарын өмнө
Do a video on Hassan Minhaj
Artem Tykhov
Artem Tykhov 11 сарын өмнө
Hi guys! I’m not sure if you already covered this in your previous videos, but there is a character on The Office, Robert California. He has a very interesting personality around him. I figured, it would be interesting for you to analyze him. Sure, he’s a made up character, and his style is a bit hyperbolically enhanced, a magnetic character nonetheless.
Aishwarya Thapliyal
Aishwarya Thapliyal 11 сарын өмнө
Great video, yet again :D
Friendly Neighborhood Crackhead
Friendly Neighborhood Crackhead 11 сарын өмнө
That kids not wrong tho. 20 something and interviewing The Rock on a tropical island?? You ain’t going nothing but down after that
SIngh 11 сарын өмнө
"I need 7-8 hours of sleep. That's a lie"! ...
Grey l
Grey l 11 сарын өмнө
Jack Black is literally a National Treasure.
Declan Lambert
Declan Lambert 11 сарын өмнө
'the 2-minute rule' - 13 minute video
Barbara Leidenfrost
Barbara Leidenfrost 11 сарын өмнө
So be a slap knee comedian aawww
Awesum Bear
Awesum Bear 11 сарын өмнө
My one trick for going from shy to confident: a l c o h o l
DevDreams 4 сарын өмнө
@ProdByBubzuru What? xD, check with your doctor about the memory loss, alcohol is a legal drug, and I'm glad it is :)
ProdByBubzuru 4 сарын өмнө
@Dalen Bennett not weed , drugs only work for so long benzos are the best for confidence but you wont remember it hahah
Dalen Bennett
Dalen Bennett 5 сарын өмнө
Or weed
Ben O. Verbich
Ben O. Verbich 9 сарын өмнө
KillApollo 11 сарын өмнө
Whenever I'm nervous to introduce myself and talk to someone I always think to myself, "they're probably just as or even more nervous than me" and *believing* that I'll be leading the conversation always ends up with me *actually* leading it. When I started leading conversations I got more comfortable and secure with the people I talked to and my confidence level just kept going up.
OP 11 сарын өмнө
00:50, wow little Kevin makes Jack Black look big.
Zion S
Zion S 11 сарын өмнө
Dynamics, dynamics, remember DYNAMICS! Building and breaking tension is super effective in any aspect of communication or entertainment.
juan york
juan york 11 сарын өмнө
If you're an introverted person: Play around with the volume and tone of your voice. Get more into your characters as you tell a story. Speak as if you expect to be listened to.
Windmill 3 сарын өмнө
1 1 I’m introverted but your comment is why you are gonna stay shy.
ahsatanvanlis 4 сарын өмнө
@Nayo Silver 1 You won't go far with this mindset, I'm super shy but I can manage to have some conversations and everything, these really work
Nami Z
Nami Z 10 сарын өмнө
1 1 he’s just giving tips.... you don’t have to
Nami Z
Nami Z 10 сарын өмнө
Genaro Silvera chillll bro. he’s just trying to help 🥺
Rod E
Rod E 10 сарын өмнө
Genaro Silvera 😂😂
rachel achola
rachel achola 11 сарын өмнө
Please do a video on Harry’s Styles charisma he’s everywhere rn
Harm Kotze
Harm Kotze 11 сарын өмнө
"the same approach that *JACK OF* ten does"
Bjula lula
Bjula lula 11 сарын өмнө
It is really interesting how it varies what society appreciates or at least tolerates/sees as confident/positive based on culture/age/gender/looks. For example some of your suggestions would be viewed as attention-grabbing and bad style in many european places. Also I think some of it is only accepted in men, not in women or some gets strange/creepy when you are older.
Ghost Ridah AK47
Ghost Ridah AK47 11 сарын өмнө
Well it's much easier to have charisma when your rich and famous.
Ghost Ridah AK47
Ghost Ridah AK47 11 сарын өмнө
@Otto Echo Ah, good point. I never looked at it that way. Interesting.
Otto Echo
Otto Echo 11 сарын өмнө
Ghost Ridah AK47 Charisma made them rich and famous
Richard 11 сарын өмнө
My problem isn't drawing attention! It's knowing when to deflect and when to lean into my awkwardness. Being super awkward in every social situation is literally my thing.
Maria Ayala
Maria Ayala 11 сарын өмнө
jj j
jj j 11 сарын өмнө
okay, but I cannot high five to every girl
David S.
David S. 11 сарын өмнө
What if you don't have anything good to say?
V XXIII 11 сарын өмнө
Aw man, no love for Karen Gillan?
Уейд Уилсон
Уейд Уилсон 11 сарын өмнө
Lucifer Morningstar!!!!
Уейд Уилсон
Уейд Уилсон 11 сарын өмнө
Lucifer Morningstar Serial “Lucifer” Tom Ellis Please
girandsponge 11 сарын өмнө
I’ve never felt more alone than I do at this very moment. I’m too weird to be normal but too normal too be weird. I just got out of a two year relationship. I got my own spot but I’m currently sleeping on a one inch piece of memory foam on the floor. I was never good at making friends. Right now my confidence is shot. How do I not go crazy? I feel so worthless.
Buff Natsuki
Buff Natsuki 11 сарын өмнө
How do i become better friends with more people when its already halfway intk my 3rd year with these people? Its too late to just, start conversations with "strangers". They know me, but i want them to know me different
Hopalong 11 сарын өмнө
can you please look at Paul Walker - One of the most humble celebs to walk this planet and everyone liked him
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