How To Stop A Bully Immediately

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Amazon’s The Boys is full of personalities that are fun to watch but would be terrible to encounter in real life.

Superpowers aside, we’ve all encountered this type: tough guy bully who tries to push you around, make you uncomfortable, or get you to agree to something you don’t really want. So that’s why in this video we’ll cover 6 psychological tricks bullies use to control you and what you can do to avoid or stop those them in their tracks.
NB! Since we’re mainly using Billy Butcher and Homelander as examples of our tough guys, there will be light spoilers through season 1 of the Boys.

0:00 - Intro.
0:38 - #1: Mismatching friendly gestures with domineering physicality.
1:39 - #2: Forcing you to make decisions in a highly emotional state.
3:39 - #3: Listen for the insult.
5:21 - #4: Demands with personal threats attached.
7:01 - #5: Threaten you with their own harm or sadness.
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Warlock 7 цагийн өмнө
You're a bit annoying Charly.
As Pooped By Anakin Skywalker
As Pooped By Anakin Skywalker Өдрийн өмнө
Homelander seems like he just needs a friend. I actually think he's a hero.
Geoffrey Zoref
Geoffrey Zoref 2 өдрийн өмнө
Homelander is a sociopath, and In The Boys he can get away with a lot more because of his powers. As the child of a sociopath, completely removing myself from their orbit is the only solution I've found that works 100% of the time. That's because no matter what, if I am beholden to them in any way, they will exploit me. Some people are just too dangerous to be around.
Zahirul Hossain
Zahirul Hossain 2 өдрийн өмнө
Can these tactics be used against Donald Trump?
Che Anarchist
Che Anarchist 2 өдрийн өмнө
Great vid 😜
Jpenney mrcoin
Jpenney mrcoin 3 өдрийн өмнө
Where do you learn about all this psychopathic behavior?
yotubr08 6 өдрийн өмнө
luv you video's thanks
Gregory Scott
Gregory Scott 6 өдрийн өмнө
This advice isn't about stopping bullies, it's about resisting high pressure sales tactics. Aside from being cartoonish fictional characters, Butcher and Homelander aren't 'bullies', they're 'violent narcissistic psychopaths' who deliver on their threats. There is no way to 'stop' people with disordered, pathological personalities, your only effective option is eliminating all contact. As for the vid title, the only way to 'stop' an actual bully is to push back hard enough --- psychologically and/or physically --- that you establish dominance.
Haze Ventura
Haze Ventura 6 өдрийн өмнө
very interesting video^^ I work as a psychologist with victims of mobbing and bossing. Can you recommend some literature that your videos are based on?
Exposing Proxy Stalking Organized Harassment
Exposing Proxy Stalking Organized Harassment 7 өдрийн өмнө
Bullies are basically narcissists. The other traits are psychopathy and Machiavellianism.
Phil Rozic
Phil Rozic 7 өдрийн өмнө
I was cyber bullied by a guy at my school
Wyatt Horan
Wyatt Horan 7 өдрийн өмнө
One tip that is more for peer pressure than bullying is that if someone ever tries to get you to do something that you know you won’t want to do, just immediately put it out there that they won’t change your mind. However, you might want to pay attention some of the time because it could end up being something you wish you had done
Sebastian Bahn
Sebastian Bahn 8 өдрийн өмнө
I think you are mistaken about Butcher. He’s not trying to put other people down, he just wants to get the supes and unfortunately a lot of normal people are daft supe-admiring wankers who stand in his way.
Old Goalie
Old Goalie 8 өдрийн өмнө
If you have any of these people in your life, welcome to the world of the narcissist. You need to research this now. The good news is that you will learn how to deal with this better. The bad news is that the narcissist is so much worse than you can imagine yet, and he feels that he owns you. Good luck!
Mac Nachten
Mac Nachten 8 өдрийн өмнө
The most effective way to stop a bully is by putting a .45 between their eyes at high velocity.
BeamRider100 10 өдрийн өмнө
I've found Americans in real life to be quite affable and quick witted with jokes. The TV and the movies may give a different impression.
Joel Krysiak
Joel Krysiak 10 өдрийн өмнө
Of course none of these tips will work on a pyschopath.
Sachin Kumar Samal
Sachin Kumar Samal 10 өдрийн өмнө
In India we face bullies with iron rods and baseball bats and a lot of blood.
RJC 72
RJC 72 10 өдрийн өмнө
And I thought the best way to stop a bully in his tracks was to take a Louisville Slugger to his knee caps! Goes to show what I know! LOL!
Harry Tomato
Harry Tomato 10 өдрийн өмнө
Let’s say I’m doing an activity, like playing a sport, and I’m bad at it. If someone who has a bully type personality calls me out for being bad at it, what am I supposed to react with? They are right about it and speaking the truth, so I really don’t know how to respond to save face. Any help?
Aerin Volk
Aerin Volk 11 өдрийн өмнө
"use their tactics" I can confirm.
senseisifu 13 өдрийн өмнө
"The Official Book of Bullying" - by Donald J tRump
Red River
Red River 13 өдрийн өмнө
What bullies need most of all?...... A strong whack to the tmj with an aluminum baseball bat.....from someone that knows how to swing a bat......let them eat their food through a straw for a few months and think about what they've done....and if that don't do it.....send them on to the next world. F'm! Life's too short for the good people who are just trying to get through it, be nice, and figure things out.....for some POS bully to make you miserable all the time..... f'm and feed to the fishes.
Carter Lutes
Carter Lutes 13 өдрийн өмнө
8:20 I think ill sleep on it for 24 hours
DrasticSkuba 13 өдрийн өмнө
The title didn't really get across what the video ACTUALLY was about. It felt more like dealing with "FORCEFUL" people as opposed to bullies. Now, I know that these people are actually bullies but it isn't most people's interpretation of the term. The people you talk about in the video are people who have an end goal in the scenario. Salesmen, recruiters, employers, etc. A general bully, as most people understand it, is anyone that aims to offend or hurt you regularly in order to feel powerful, bring you down, or impress those around them, like a school bully.
A. C.
A. C. 14 өдрийн өмнө
I clicked this expecting it to be good, but to my surprise it was great.
Jacob Serna
Jacob Serna 14 өдрийн өмнө
I learned early to ask a bully why and demand answers. Also boxing but that's besides the point.
JccJ 14 өдрийн өмнө
1:28 I did this one time and the guy blew up on me an freaked out
Thomas Todd
Thomas Todd 14 өдрийн өмнө
How to stop bullies: Stop going to school with lunch money
The Egyptian GameDev
The Egyptian GameDev 15 өдрийн өмнө
4:48 never do this guys.. You'll be known as the pus*y of the group
Inherent Wisdom
Inherent Wisdom 16 өдрийн өмнө
Dude: I don’t know where you grew up, but bullies don’t apologize.
LAKSHYA BHARDWAJ 17 өдрийн өмнө
I've fallen for that market strategy you talked about. won't let it happen ever again.
Morkvonork 17 өдрийн өмнө
No time to watch the video, does it involve a gun?
Masked Badass
Masked Badass 18 өдрийн өмнө
"No one is made whole or happy when they outsource emotional control of their life." Someone should tell Twitter.
Conservatives Singer Guitar JSC
Conservatives Singer Guitar JSC 19 өдрийн өмнө
Have heat vision?
Mark Summers
Mark Summers 19 өдрийн өмнө
Another GREAT resource on bullying (office bullying) is a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook - a LOT of eye-popping, non-obvious stuff! Can't recommend it highly enough!
David Thomas
David Thomas 20 өдрийн өмнө
I got that type of face that think they can bully me. Most I walk away from, but if they persist I tell them if I get into a fight with them it will be to the death. I MEAN IT!
Rory 20 өдрийн өмнө
Your emotional mastery course looks really cool, but it’s way more than I would be willing to spend. Maybe more people would sign up if it was cheaper
Xuan Hien
Xuan Hien 20 өдрийн өмнө
hell yeah
InfoJunkie 21 өдрийн өмнө
I could’ve used this in high school :/
Moose Bme
Moose Bme 22 өдрийн өмнө
Long slow inhale through the nose, hold as long as possible, long slow exhale through the mouth (repeat)! Not giving them what they want, or a reaction. Be genuinely nice, non threatening and concerned for them! experiences Work with them, to better utilize their strengths in constructive ways. Show the benefits of being nice... DON'T BE THE (EXPLETIVE) INSTIGATOR!!! (SMUG, CONDESCENDING, ANTAGONISTIC... ) GET YOUR HEAD KICKED IN AND TRY TO PLAY THE (EXPLETIVE) "VICTIM!" -(REPEAT)- !(: I hope this helps, GOOD LUCK and BEST REGARDS TO ALL ;)!
Make Romania great again
Make Romania great again 22 өдрийн өмнө
4:50 "Where I come form that's very disrespectful" Isn't that the bully's intention?
Piano_Master_524 9 өдрийн өмнө
If it gives more ammo that's a cue to get more aggressive, if it doesn't, then it worked, depends who you're talking to
Alldaylong 18 өдрийн өмнө
This just gives more ammo
Maxie Plays RPGs
Maxie Plays RPGs 22 өдрийн өмнө
Wish there were something like this back in high school
slaymaster999 22 өдрийн өмнө
I had a boss that tried to push me around. Yeah it didn't work. I still get that sometimes but people learn the hard way
Tommy Cordero
Tommy Cordero 23 өдрийн өмнө
Punch the bully in the mouth to stop blabbing.
costa200 23 өдрийн өмнө
This is all too much work... Just elbow them in the face! It has never stopped working for me!
Andy M
Andy M 23 өдрийн өмнө
BJJ . Yes.
m.s. Russo
m.s. Russo 23 өдрийн өмнө
Ah the solution to all things - boundaries and discipline
Jerry Emm
Jerry Emm 24 өдрийн өмнө
SOLLY CHOLLY TRY some dfft price points
Mostakim Kabir
Mostakim Kabir 26 өдрийн өмнө
Billy Butcher more like Bully Butcher
Lance Tschirhart
Lance Tschirhart 26 өдрийн өмнө
0:15 Okay... pretty sure that guy is Haley Joel Osment
beautiful horse
beautiful horse 28 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks alot, CHoC für this hugely important video! Bullies are the scum of the earth, bullies are on the same level as rapists and child molesters when it comes to damaging people and ruining lives. Chances are this video will save lives. Keep up the great work, bro!
DERIC 4 REAL Сарын өмнө
I would rather take the butchers approach.seems like it's fine with me
Mariano Bustos
Mariano Bustos Сарын өмнө
Thanks to the spoilers, I have now finally decided to watch the show.
Leroy Сарын өмнө
I got bullied in school, until i started throwing fists
Andy Kh
Andy Kh Сарын өмнө
How about threaten them? Get them into an isolated area, put blade up their throat and remind them what will happen if they don't stop?
czimano17 Сарын өмнө
Your Channel IS gold
SomeBusy Сарын өмнө
C’mon, Butcher is cool🔥
Liam Shed
Liam Shed Сарын өмнө
People watching this to learn how to combat bullies Me watching this to learn how to be a more effective bully
Janice Murphy
Janice Murphy Сарын өмнө
Did someone say carry a big gun and speak softly. A W
onecoolcat 247
onecoolcat 247 Сарын өмнө
I'm not going to check out your recommended video until I've slept on it 😜
Nafisa Heart
Nafisa Heart Сарын өмнө
my friend is a bully, im watching this to understand her lol
Zacharion Tab
Zacharion Tab Сарын өмнө
i don't like my bullies they always wears masks and act differently around me, and they always making me a victim
styen dimpu
styen dimpu Сарын өмнө
This video also teaches how to bully 😏😎
Kye Rafferty
Kye Rafferty Сарын өмнө
My go to response to an insult, "Do you think that's okay to say to someone?" Yes, this starts a very different conversation. But I'm almost always ready to have it. And that conversation is a dominance reversal if there ever was one. My empathy and sincerity might make me a friend out of that initial bully.
Hank Hill
Hank Hill Сарын өмнө
"Where I come from that is really disrespectful"? Ummm, yeah that's kinda the point of them acting like a twat. They'll probably just respond with "you're not worthy of respect" or something if you say that
Matheus Schutz
Matheus Schutz Сарын өмнө
But what if the scarcity is real? Should i always decline and actual scarce oportunity?
Shanon Snyder
Shanon Snyder Сарын өмнө
Appreciate how you showed both Billy and Homelander as bullies. Really gets to the heart of the show’s irony
Holy Pikeman
Holy Pikeman Сарын өмнө
Victim bullying is another good one. "I'm a poor woman and you raised your voice, thats abuse! Now I get your job"
khalis deroubaix
khalis deroubaix Сарын өмнө
Hum, so I'm a bully in a psychological way The fact is I love cracking insult with joke or in a sarcastic way, also I think its a very good trick to strengten the relationship in the long-term, allowing everybody to be direct without remorse or fear to be judged. But, yeah, anyway, good vid'!
Lou Zurr
Lou Zurr Сарын өмнө
6:23 That is one way, but not the only way. ORGANIZE.
Aamir Khan
Aamir Khan 2 сарын өмнө
My boss did this to me
Faris __
Faris __ 2 сарын өмнө
Do Frank Underwood !!!!!
9525joe 2 сарын өмнө
Where I come from, some of the tips in this video just gonna get you bullied some more
Rocking Ronda
Rocking Ronda 2 сарын өмнө
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
NDK0 2 сарын өмнө
If someone tries to give you that "I am the boss" type of handshake, you grap their hand even tighter. If he (or she) is stronger than you, grap their shoulder and SHAKE them while you say hello. And if you get the chance, lean in and tell them that they need to learn how to shake hands.
yYstle Illzwillz
yYstle Illzwillz 2 сарын өмнө
No contacts
xeriouxi 2 сарын өмнө
4:04 Oops, missed a bleep there.
curtis m
curtis m 2 сарын өмнө
A samurai is expected to make decisions within the space of 7 breaths. If you need a night to sleep on it, you are wishy washy and don't know yourself.
Armin Xvs
Armin Xvs 2 сарын өмнө
Good advices but tip #3. Telling a bully to stop since it is not polite won't really work, right?
Remco Schedel—the SKULL
Remco Schedel—the SKULL 2 сарын өмнө
I was never bullied in school, but for some reason as an adult, a former colleague and friend of mine thought i would make a perfect target for him and his overweight neckbeard buddies, so i kicked him out of my friend group. Mocking me because i go to the gym, am not fat and use deodorant? Seriously? Something went really, really wrong with those guys.
Josiah B
Josiah B 2 сарын өмнө
I have this one dude i play with on console and he keeps saying “Wait who?.....cares haha” and everyone starts laughing. I play it cool and say “you care, shut up loser” .Any other counter comebacks?
May 2 сарын өмнө
*does these things to my best friends* "Maybe I am the Bad Guy"
Robert Cantspell
Robert Cantspell Сарын өмнө
“Are we the baddies?”
Anon Ymous
Anon Ymous 2 сарын өмнө
I hate it when my bully threatens me with his heat vision.
Murk 2 сарын өмнө
Shouldn't you ignore what they say for #3? They're obviously trying to get a reaction out of you. If you give them nothing they'll lose interest.
steviekeas 2 сарын өмнө
Everything is about control. Bullying is just a way to get control.
Chooseeazy 2 сарын өмнө
didnt think id be getting charisma examples from kano
Numantino312 2 сарын өмнө
3:25 or "sorry, i am not the only person who has a vote/say on this" (gotta ask my significant other/parents/pastor/friend/teacher/sensei/other)
Victor Muraviev
Victor Muraviev 2 сарын өмнө
Was specifically looking into 'the boys' as a case study. Glad you did a video specifically on it.
FTS 2 сарын өмнө
"Where I come from, that is really disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again" and then wait for them to apologise??? That is just awful advice, just terrible. You had me until that, did that come from the mormons play book or did you think of that one?
FTS 16 өдрийн өмнө
@AK this kind of statement has probably started more fights than its ever avoided, Jus saying.
AK 16 өдрийн өмнө
I think it may work if you're Jocko Willink
Abdullah Aftab
Abdullah Aftab 2 сарын өмнө
00:38 I thought it was Eden Hazard😂💔
Cosmosry 2 сарын өмнө
Hi charlie, please make a video on Agent Coulson of Agents of SHIELD. He is charismatic af.
S Gamble
S Gamble 2 сарын өмнө
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Professional victim training
Applicable Apple
Applicable Apple 2 сарын өмнө
Samuel Hunter-Gatherer from Spelunker Cell
Samuel Hunter-Gatherer from Spelunker Cell 2 сарын өмнө
"They may threaten you with their own harm." *Give me your lunch money or I'll beat myself up!*
Amando Abreu
Amando Abreu 2 сарын өмнө
This is how some awkward people come off when they're trying to be charismatic.
Blender Dumbass
Blender Dumbass 2 сарын өмнө
I was robbed by bullies yesterday. My tactic was to let them to me as much harm as they can. It's more reasons for the police to work on my case. I love my bicycle. Apart from dirty close that the only thing I've lost.
Blender Dumbass
Blender Dumbass 2 сарын өмнө
All I see is: Haley Joel Osment Nicolas Cage Simon Pegg Why isn't it a movie? Why I should sit through such a long series to watch it? I hate it.
Norrin Radd
Norrin Radd 2 сарын өмнө
I always just got in fist fights. But this is good advice also lol
P.D. S
P.D. S 2 сарын өмнө
This advice doesn't not translate to social dynamics and the primal elements of the Human tribe. This should be "How to deal with passive-aggressive people who try to gaslight you". But aggressive bullying perpetrated by an aggressive personality, possibly one that suffers from a form Psychopathy or ASPD?...... "Hey that's mean don't say that to me you, where I come from we call people like you meanies" *everyone rolls their eyes perceiving weakness as the bully smiles* "Are you telling me what to do? You don't like that huh? Well here's round two. I look forward to your follow up PSA"
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