How To Stop A Bully Immediately

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Amazon’s The Boys is full of personalities that are fun to watch but would be terrible to encounter in real life.

Superpowers aside, we’ve all encountered this type: tough guy bully who tries to push you around, make you uncomfortable, or get you to agree to something you don’t really want. So that’s why in this video we’ll cover 6 psychological tricks bullies use to control you and what you can do to avoid or stop those them in their tracks.
NB! Since we’re mainly using Billy Butcher and Homelander as examples of our tough guys, there will be light spoilers through season 1 of the Boys.

0:00 - Intro.
0:38 - #1: Mismatching friendly gestures with domineering physicality.
1:39 - #2: Forcing you to make decisions in a highly emotional state.
3:39 - #3: Listen for the insult.
5:21 - #4: Demands with personal threats attached.
7:01 - #5: Threaten you with their own harm or sadness.
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Anonymous User
Anonymous User 7 цагийн өмнө
I love you AND (not BUT) I’m not going to do that. “BUT” creates confusing double-speak and intrinsically falsifies your statements. Arya to John Snow in Game of Thrones: “Father says everything that comes before “BUT” in a sentence is a lie.”
русский 2 өдрийн өмнө
Billy butcher is a fuckin 🔥 badass
Firiyuu 2 өдрийн өмнө
What if they go after your physical appearance.
Content N' stuff
Content N' stuff 4 өдрийн өмнө
Mate the best way to deal with a bully: Passionately and aggressively kiss them, their either too uncomfortable to face you, or they grow an affection and you’ve gained a companion. Either way you still win.
Moyo Mongoose
Moyo Mongoose 6 өдрийн өмнө
That doesn't work with all bullies. I once made a handshake crusher turn loose by reaching my other hand around to tickldig under his armpit with my index finger.
J. S.
J. S. 6 өдрийн өмнө
Bullying from “appoint managers” at work is pretty much the only place I’ve ever encountered these scenarios. Unfortunately they are inescapable for most part. If you resist, stand firm or even apply the strategies in the video the crappy boss will simply “eliminate the position” you are employed in. Note, I didn’t say “fired” because weak bosses usually have just enough career experience with employees that can’t be bullied,. Weak bosses know that generally “un-bully-able” staff are pretty competent with company policies, labor laws and the general practices of the industry they are working in.
kcbob 7 өдрийн өмнө
Just wear a oink shirt, problem solved.
Ferdinand Zebua
Ferdinand Zebua 7 өдрийн өмнө
Link to the "Insults" video, maybe? Someone..?
hydrolito 7 өдрийн өмнө
If they come looking for you for the job offer is most often a scam. Although some advertisements for jobs can also be scams.
Paweł T.
Paweł T. 7 өдрийн өмнө
Bunch of nonsense. ONLY way to handle with bully is to stab him to death when nobody's around. If anyone will bully my kids it will be like that. Simple and fast.
Jon Wax
Jon Wax 9 өдрийн өмнө
Bullying ends at age 18. After that age it's assault and battery. There's laws in place for this. Kids don't know the law so when they get attacked it's called bullying because if we called it what it is, half of your kids would be in the legal system. Learn to asset yourself. Get comfortable with confrontation. Never curb your basic needs for the sake of keeping things polite.
Deedless Deity
Deedless Deity 11 өдрийн өмнө
This is all completely useless if you're dealing with a real Narcissist, Borderliner or Antisocial (Psychopath/Sociopath) targeting you for real, gaslighting you with no break and turning your social circles against you, spreading lies, when you don't even noticed yet that something's going on. Physical bullies are simple...
Deedless Deity
Deedless Deity 11 өдрийн өмнө
#5 cannot be applied universally, because sometimes you're dealing with a true victim, true target of abuse, so broken that it needs that very kind of help. At least to get to a point of self-sufficiency again. For example when having gone through severe trauma; it is often impossible then to talk about the thing or summarize it, unless you ask specific questions, for it overwhelms the brain. The victim here will also have trouble writing the stuff down; that is where you can come in to help: Ask specific questions, not too broad ones, and write the things down, then try to summarize the text into cliff notes. That makes it easier for possible law enforcement and future therapists. Otherwise your friend can be stuck with not getting justice within any legal timeframe or ever. The important part is to learn to discern between manipulative perpetual and professional victims (usually narcissistic and borderline personality disorder) and real victims (usually targets of the previously mentioned)
Deedless Deity
Deedless Deity 11 өдрийн өмнө
4:30 You forgot "C: Have to keep in your life because there is no escape" Please don't be so naive.
bob smith
bob smith 11 өдрийн өмнө
Kindness vs niceness
Careless Dreamer
Careless Dreamer 13 өдрийн өмнө
number 4 has come up alot in my life and has been the most difficult for me to handle, thanks for the advice i'll try implementing your suggestions as best i can
Pedro Martins João
Pedro Martins João 14 өдрийн өмнө
To end the insults once and forever one must say "Where I come from, that is really disrespectful. Don’t ever call me that again." (4m54s) What if the person continues with the insults, non stop?
Motorsports in Japan
Motorsports in Japan 20 өдрийн өмнө
Much of this sounds like it was written by someone who has never been bullied, only studied bullying at college.
ablurida 20 өдрийн өмнө
Love this show! Instant like. But also I genuinely learnt a lot here, thanks guys
Chill Vibes
Chill Vibes 21 өдрийн өмнө
I was like 10 or 11 and on the bus to school. This kid behind me kept annoying me. I first tried ignoring him, then he started poking me, so I started telling him to stop. He didn’t so I turned around and clocked him in the face. The school and my mom were pissed but I have never seen my dad more proud of me before
Nope Nope
Nope Nope 22 өдрийн өмнө
1990s: How to not let bullies ruin your life 2020: Hurr durr simp
Random User
Random User 23 өдрийн өмнө
What makes you think that a bully who insults you will apologize or simply will back off when you say "don't ever call me that" ? He will most likely say "Or what?" and then you gonna have to fight them.
Mardisa Hassan
Mardisa Hassan 24 өдрийн өмнө
what if they say somethinng mean you use the resones and then they say they don't care. how do you stop them then?
Icey F
Icey F 24 өдрийн өмнө
I saw someone drowning and I had to take a night to decide whether or not to save them
Kayden Screen
Kayden Screen 24 өдрийн өмнө
Who else thinks there going to get into a fight
General Videos
General Videos 25 өдрийн өмнө
I like your authentic advices.
BING HELLWAGNER 26 өдрийн өмнө
Bullying is one of the present problem everywhre , in the School ,at Work. Media and at Home .... but what concerned me most are the Children ..It has existed already before in the 60's but unknown ..I myself was a victim at the age of 9. a relative had bullied me , on the 3rd time she hit me , I pulled her hair and took her to our Teacher and told what happened ., so it stopped there but we never talk with each other since then ,2nd when I was in College , a classmate had spread things about me , so I was in 70 , and lifted her bed with her on it and told the Dorm .Manager and she was removed from the Room . and got a warning ...more to come but I have learned to protect myself ......So my advice PROTECT YOURSELF then HIRE A LAWYER ..
NicoGF 29 өдрийн өмнө
Loved the learn bjj part, liked the rest. Useful stuff. I think this channel is cool.
James D3
James D3 Сарын өмнө
Thank you for this video. I can see myself watching it several times. Сарын өмнө
I was bullied in middle school very badly. The BIGGEST way to overcome bullies is when you overcome yourself. You've got to be secure in yourself first. When you know who you are, and what you stand for, their manipulation means so much less.
Gallowglass Сарын өмнө
"Where I come from that is really disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again." To me that would only make them enjoy insulting you more, unless they're trying to appear respectful, in front of other people. They might just hit you.
avalanche156 Сарын өмнө
You don't look like a confident guy - so, c'mon, why would I wanna buy your course?
JRohn English
JRohn English Сарын өмнө
I know you are but what am I ....bully killed ur welcome
Rushil Jain
Rushil Jain Сарын өмнө
Infact sensitivity towards other people and towards the nature of one of the greatest fundamentals in one's life for a peaceful life that is more connected to the ultimate. If you are a brag and constantly arrogent, the universe doenst open up. So be strong yet very sensitive and gentle
Goswami 12
Goswami 12 Сарын өмнө
*Now you know butcher is a big bully then homelander 😅😳*
Poison Jarl
Poison Jarl Сарын өмнө
Someone send this to Pence
sartoriusrock Сарын өмнө
To number three, if they respond to “where I come from that’s disrespectful” with “Oh really? And what are you going to do about it?” Is it still the best policy to say nothing?
Ludwig van El
Ludwig van El Сарын өмнө
Using scarcity to make big decisions; How many years ago was Antarctica gonna melt & flood Manhattan, according to Gore?
pete43fs21 adn
pete43fs21 adn Сарын өмнө
If you know he's going to beat you at the meeting place after school, you might as well make the first move and slam him like Roman Reign does. Sits on him and starts punching until he cries out and says sorry. Believe me! He will avoid seeing you at all cost at school, and you thought he had dropped out. Happened at grade 5 and you brought back the memory.
William J. Dove, Jr.
William J. Dove, Jr. Сарын өмнө
If someone my cousin didn't like touched him..he told them not to do so..if it happened again, he usually would lock their arm or finger jab their eye, or punch them.. depended on the person. Needless to say, he got detention or shamed..but no one bothered him more than once. Looking back, I wished someone taught him this...maybe things would have been different for him.
Robotogram Сарын өмнө
To say, I am telling you how to be, is so manipulative. Worthy of a true bully wannabe. The truth is there is always someone in the school that is stronger or faster than the bully. But not the bully. It may seem awkward at first but tell that person your problem and ask for help. Chances are they will and maybe you will find a good friend in the process. I’ve actually seen this done, A boy found two girls willing to help. Together they could decimate and humiliate the bully into submission. Believe me this was really fun to watch. Remember when you try to hide, the game begins.
Pat S
Pat S Сарын өмнө
Don't react. A bully, by definition, is looking for some sort of fear reaction. Personally, I always found bullies rather funny, like they'd sock me in the face and I'd just smile. Wish I'd met one of these guys later, when I'd put on a bit of weight, not to be unfortunately.
Dude! If you guys are for real, you do something about these lockdowns with which the politicians and their owners bully the general population! LOL
Hingle Mcringleberry
Hingle Mcringleberry Сарын өмнө
Beat the bully up till he’s balled up problem solved
Lexie Crewther
Lexie Crewther Сарын өмнө
Here's a good comeback for an insult: "are you trying to make me feel like a *unt Dave?"
newbimagaming Сарын өмнө
Knife or fork
Eric Colonna
Eric Colonna Сарын өмнө
website still says "joining 2 mil subscribers on youtube" in getting started section
Jaime Borda
Jaime Borda Сарын өмнө
uncomfortable video honestly.
Borderline Psyco
Borderline Psyco Сарын өмнө
Being ignored is a bullies worst nightmare. If you show it doesn't affect you then they lose all power over the situation.
matt blanke
matt blanke Сарын өмнө
500$ for the emotional mastery lessons? Jesus dude. You want us to be happy or you want us to be broke?
Daniela Santos
Daniela Santos Сарын өмнө
Or, just say, the last time i Saw kindergarden was acepting Kids. You might want to grow up a bit.
Lili J
Lili J Сарын өмнө
When you say "don't ever call me that again" to someone and they do call you that again, then what?
Russ Canduit
Russ Canduit Сарын өмнө
Sometimes all you need is violence.
PowerDuDe_DK Сарын өмнө
The tips in this video was VERY defuse to me. I didn't get much from this. Maybe I should rewatch it, but it wasn't as clear cut as your usual videoes with bulletpoints.
Matt Maze
Matt Maze Сарын өмнө
I stood to a couple of bullies. The problem was I was ready to push the button and go nuclear. I have one now but worried about someone else as collateral damage.
Willisthehy Сарын өмнө
Shoot em that’s how you stop em shout out to all the quiet kids 😂😂
Ahmed Amine Ramdani
Ahmed Amine Ramdani Сарын өмнө
Malcolm Tucker from The Thick of It and In The Loop is a character you might want to look at.
tobi foong
tobi foong Сарын өмнө
And I was looking for the "course is only available for the next 24 hours at the special one off price" !!! LOL .
Rogar Ravenhair
Rogar Ravenhair Сарын өмнө
“Remove them from your life” or remove life from them
rkuqu429 7 өдрийн өмнө
ablurida 20 өдрийн өмнө
Trey Ichabod
Trey Ichabod 2 сарын өмнө
How to stopa bully: 1. As soon as he threatens you, start hitting him as hard as you can. That's it! I'm afraid there is no other way. Even if he beats you, he'll know you are not the one to be f***ed with. And he'll find some easier target. You need to show him you are crazier and more violent then him. Because that's the only language he understands.
Ferris 1313
Ferris 1313 2 сарын өмнө
I need this now! My manager at work is a bully.
Martin Shillitoe
Martin Shillitoe 2 сарын өмнө
A guy tried the “friendly touch” on me. He did the gentle pat of my cheek and said “now be a good boy”. I responded in kind with the cheek pat and said “my mum always taught me to be good” then said “but my dad taught me to how to uppercut” and then levelled him with a blow to the jaw. Never been near me since
Adam Hellyer
Adam Hellyer 5 өдрийн өмнө
Then Obama came out from behind the bushes and said what a brave young man you are and your whole family clapped
BoutYoungAnnaLee 7 өдрийн өмнө
Joe Mc
Joe Mc 7 өдрийн өмнө
Yeah. That happened.
DStork 21 өдрийн өмнө
well that's a fuckin lie lol
The Observer
The Observer 29 өдрийн өмнө
Man, that's awesome. I wish i had this opportunity.
JerometheGiraffe 2 сарын өмнө
So, according to the clickbait thumbnail, bully the bully? Yeah, that sounds like a great way to de-escalate the problem and avoid getting beaten up. I’m not even going to bother watching.
Shadowstriker42 Daily Tips
Shadowstriker42 Daily Tips 2 сарын өмнө
I’m not even gonna watch the video just fight back it dosent matter who wins fight back and the bully will be more careful
Susan C
Susan C 2 сарын өмнө
Please do a video about how to handle being given the cold shoulder by one person in a group you have every right to be in. This has happened to me a few times now and it always surprises me as I wasn't trying to take over the group, I was just happy to be in the group. I don't know why I'm a threat to this type of person but when something has happened three times, and the woman has behaved in an identical way each time, love bombing every other member of the group and treating me like I'm a ghost, then I realise that I'm triggering these types somehow. I'm too accommodating, I was a people pleaser but I'm not now, although there must be some residual essence of people pleasing about me that revolts these scapegoating bullies. They want me gone. Being treated like this makes me wither and I can't be natural. SO I stay quiet. I freeze. while they fawn. And then I'm ejected from the group one way or another. I know this is not how men tend to bully but please can you look in to how to deal with it? I like your turn of phrase. I like to have the right words to diffuse a situation.
Fuad Mammadli
Fuad Mammadli 2 сарын өмнө
Answer:Learn Jiu jitsu
OneVoiceMore 2 сарын өмнө
You're never encountered a real bully.
Kell 2 сарын өмнө
Immediate, extreme violence, understood.
JAFO 2 сарын өмнө
I'm also detecting a bit of narcissism here.
Rtc 33
Rtc 33 2 сарын өмнө
I love how genuine this channel is to help people’s confidence with practical examples, totally deserve the 4m+ sub. And none of the annoying “what’s up guys!” opening so many youtubers use nowadays
Black Pilled Son Returns
Black Pilled Son Returns 2 сарын өмнө
Ads are getting more elaborate.
Alejandro Escudero
Alejandro Escudero 2 сарын өмнө
where I come from, saying "where I come from that's very disrespectful please stop" it's like giving a flamethrower to a pyromaniac, absolutely nothing good will come out of it and the bullying will only become worse haha
realSammyPasta 2 сарын өмнө
So now you are using a (badly acted) show as a case study?
Jonathan 2 сарын өмнө
If someone insults you, instead of admitting that it was hurtful to you, offer to buy them a Snickers and say, "You're not you when you're hungry."
merry hunt
merry hunt 2 сарын өмнө
This would be more effective if examples came from real life. Movies are stereotyped and exaggerated. Also, movie makers can start and stop in the middle of the action. Life, on the other hand, proceeds realistically.
· 2 сарын өмнө
4:55 - LOL! This doesn't work at all. BS artist. The equivalent of "well maybe your schoolyard bullies just want to be friends!", it expects the ' bully' in question to not just continue until you reach your limit.
Security Supreme
Security Supreme 2 сарын өмнө
Just tell them you have a knife in your pocket, works all the time.
cookie monster
cookie monster 2 сарын өмнө
The guy whom homelander is touching is so frickin hot.
Observer FX
Observer FX 2 сарын өмнө
You forgot the crybully tactic, where you aggressively scapegoat a certain class of people to play victim from, hoping no one recognizes your aggression for what it is (but they do). Also, someone not treating you like a superhero isn't hate, it's reality. Cheers.
Gray Jedi
Gray Jedi 2 сарын өмнө
This world needs more Dexters.
Me Neither
Me Neither 2 сарын өмнө
4:55 worst fcking advice ever, "wait for them to apologize" is a the worst mistake you could do.
FrenchCanuck79 2 сарын өмнө
The double jab method... that's what they'll be calling this next vaccine.
Jay Tat
Jay Tat 2 сарын өмнө
Blowing out someone else’s candle does not make yours shine any brighter. If courage is fire, then bullying is just smoke. Bullying is for losers 🖖
kateland parker
kateland parker 2 сарын өмнө
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Shahid A
Shahid A 2 сарын өмнө
Loving the way of teaching life lessons using cinema
LeftoverCrass FPV
LeftoverCrass FPV 2 сарын өмнө
Sneak into their house while they sleep and piss on them
Arnulfo Marin
Arnulfo Marin 2 сарын өмнө
I love you but I won't do that Here's what I can do instead, such helpful tools
Dj Mccullough
Dj Mccullough 2 сарын өмнө
Easist way to deal with a bully is to laugh at them. words and text have no power to bully anyone , unless they are incredibly emotionally weak. Grow a spine and just laugh at the misinformed fools that think that you care enough about their opinion to be intimidated.
Stock 2 сарын өмнө
Bully: you're a little wankstain Kid: Where I come from that's very disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again Bully: Oh yeah? What are you gonna do about it? That point was misleading from my perspective. Bullies often times have the upper hand in a hand to hand engagement and thus are privvy to continue their vocal assaults feeling free from violent repercussion. I strongly suggest parents pay for their kids to take a jiu jitsu class. It's more effective in a grappling scenario than karate, and the community is positive
Warlock 2 сарын өмнө
You're a bit annoying Charly.
As Pooped By Anakin Skywalker
As Pooped By Anakin Skywalker 2 сарын өмнө
Homelander seems like he just needs a friend. I actually think he's a hero.
Geoffrey Zoref
Geoffrey Zoref 2 сарын өмнө
Homelander is a sociopath, and In The Boys he can get away with a lot more because of his powers. As the child of a sociopath, completely removing myself from their orbit is the only solution I've found that works 100% of the time. That's because no matter what, if I am beholden to them in any way, they will exploit me. Some people are just too dangerous to be around.
Zahirul Hossain
Zahirul Hossain 2 сарын өмнө
Can these tactics be used against Donald Trump?
Che Anarchist
Che Anarchist 2 сарын өмнө
Great vid 😜
Jpenney mrcoin
Jpenney mrcoin 2 сарын өмнө
Where do you learn about all this psychopathic behavior?
yotubr08 2 сарын өмнө
luv you video's thanks
Gregory Scott
Gregory Scott 2 сарын өмнө
This advice isn't about stopping bullies, it's about resisting high pressure sales tactics. Aside from being cartoonish fictional characters, Butcher and Homelander aren't 'bullies', they're 'violent narcissistic psychopaths' who deliver on their threats. There is no way to 'stop' people with disordered, pathological personalities, your only effective option is eliminating all contact. As for the vid title, the only way to 'stop' an actual bully is to push back hard enough --- psychologically and/or physically --- that you establish dominance.
Haze Ventura
Haze Ventura 2 сарын өмнө
very interesting video^^ I work as a psychologist with victims of mobbing and bossing. Can you recommend some literature that your videos are based on?
Exposing Proxy Stalking Organized Harassment
Exposing Proxy Stalking Organized Harassment 2 сарын өмнө
Bullies are basically narcissists. The other traits are psychopathy and Machiavellianism.
Phil Rozic
Phil Rozic 2 сарын өмнө
I was cyber bullied by a guy at my school
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