How To Make Small Talk With Anyone

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We’ve all had conversations that feel forced or boring, or are filled with awkward silences. It can be almost painful. That’s why in this video we're going to go over 5 steps to make small talk with anyone. We’ll do so by breaking down some tricks that Joe Rogan uses on his podcast to connect with everyone from academics to athletes to celebrities.  

The goal of each of these is to either get the person to like you more OR get you off small talk and into a real conversation that lets you form a genuine connection. Some will be mindsets and some will be word for word questions you can steal. They’re all easy to do, but most people don’t do them.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:00 - Intro.
0:54 - #1: Grease the wheels early with a compliment.
2:17 - #2: Transition between topics using “reminds me of” thinking.
4:07 - #3: Ping for topics of mutual interest.
4:31 - #4: Get other people excited about the conversation.
6:27 - #5: Create a connection with people while listening.

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ADMA
ADMA 16 минутын өмнө
6:10, "if you won the lottery tomorrow..."
Mac Johnson
Mac Johnson 2 цагийн өмнө
One of my go to ‘fun questions’ when talking to a sports fan goes along the lines of, “if you were the manager of x team what trades would you make?”
fs fs
fs fs 4 цагийн өмнө
4) Ask "why" questions to ask them about what they value, rather than asking surface questions. Ask questions that are fun to answer 5) Laugh easily - makes others feel good even when they arent trying to be. Repeat the last few words someone says.
Benjiii
Benjiii 9 цагийн өмнө
Epic. Jesus loves you btw
Ryan Vess
Ryan Vess 17 цагийн өмнө
I'm from southern delaware, Wilmington is not great. It's our only city and its top ten for murders
Tryaz EVE
Tryaz EVE 18 цагийн өмнө
Is this a training video for psychopaths?
Josh Sherman
Josh Sherman 6 минутын өмнө
What makes you think it is?
natecarlo45
natecarlo45 20 цагийн өмнө
Why would I want to get better at the thing I hate most? Talking to people is just like trying to kill yourself while being immortal.
Landon L.
Landon L. 21 цагийн өмнө
DMT.
Alfonso López Martínez
Alfonso López Martínez Өдрийн өмнө
1. Compliment. Hey nice boobs! But not sexually Hey well grown breasts!
Darwin Dark
Darwin Dark Өдрийн өмнө
Side tip: have blue eyes
thebahana
thebahana Өдрийн өмнө
Complimenting someone right away seems manipulative.
Chris Bonham
Chris Bonham Өдрийн өмнө
Lol what’s her face “athlete”
Stephen Hopps
Stephen Hopps Өдрийн өмнө
Can you make this video more in depth
C B
C B Өдрийн өмнө
Why you gotta do Elon like that :(
Death Cohort
Death Cohort 2 өдрийн өмнө
Yo I'm from Wilmington Delaware too
bzob Marley
bzob Marley 2 өдрийн өмнө
How to make small talk: Be Joe Rogan
Yes I
Yes I 2 өдрийн өмнө
which movie is this in the intro?
Will
Will 2 өдрийн өмнө
20,000 flame throwers is hilarious, I laughed
SoccerBallMadeOutOfTrumpsHair
SoccerBallMadeOutOfTrumpsHair 3 өдрийн өмнө
I tried complimenting a girl on her moustache like joe Rogan but it didn't work
Morgan Rodden
Morgan Rodden 3 өдрийн өмнө
I need a link to the video where you teach me how to say hello to other humans
Ashka
Ashka 3 өдрийн өмнө
lol
StepZ84
StepZ84 3 өдрийн өмнө
Charisma on command!? This why Americans seem so fake?
Tek Tronix
Tek Tronix 3 өдрийн өмнө
Dmt
Anthony Andrews
Anthony Andrews 4 өдрийн өмнө
Great vid algo
Mason Kowalski
Mason Kowalski 4 өдрийн өмнө
When I realized I dont want/need to small talk with everyone... "awkward silence" ceased to exist
Joe Draper
Joe Draper 4 өдрийн өмнө
“Athletes” *shows a nascar driver
Grant Noyes
Grant Noyes 4 өдрийн өмнө
I take no issue with the apparent goals or aims of this channel, but I think Joe Rogan is a little bit of a disingenuous example, for a few reasons. Namely, because Joe self-selects his interviewees (which can't be done IRL interactions) and likewise his guests choose to be on the show, meaning, his guests almost (but not) always have some level of interest, respect or otherwise admiration for him coming into the interview. To chalk all this up as, or to imply that it's all a matter of charisma and conversation style, is, IMO not wholly accurate. His social reputation, socioeconomic status, body of work, etc could easily impact people's opinions. But this issue is not really that big of a deal, Joe is, on the other hand a good choice in that he is widely known on youtube (especially so at the time that this video was released, before the official Spotify move), and is notably charismatic.
Colin Biset
Colin Biset 4 өдрийн өмнө
I need to do high school English class for a 13th year
Tom Romero
Tom Romero 4 өдрийн өмнө
joe rogan is a true legend
Charles
Charles 4 өдрийн өмнө
Dan Bilzerian: perfect proof that height doesn't matter as long as you have a fat wallet
Deci is god
Deci is god 4 өдрийн өмнө
I learned how to make small talk via Oblivion npcs.
Digimartyr
Digimartyr 4 өдрийн өмнө
As awesome as this is, it also helps when the person you’re speaking to actively participates, and isn’t sitting like a deer in headlights.
Caio Augusto
Caio Augusto 5 өдрийн өмнө
This was really helpful. I struggle with socializing since a child, and even though I've picked up on a few of these concepts on personal experience, I never actually thought about it and tried to piece it all together. Thank you.
Charles Wolf
Charles Wolf 5 өдрийн өмнө
Everytime I recognize someone doing this to me, I call them on it, for insulting my intelligence.
Kelly Rose
Kelly Rose 5 өдрийн өмнө
You guys love Jordan Peterson don’t you!
Evan Alders
Evan Alders 5 өдрийн өмнө
Don't think about the end of the conversion when ur talking to someone. U all know what I mean.
Ole Aleksander Halvorsen
Ole Aleksander Halvorsen 6 өдрийн өмнө
"if you wanna learn how to do this, buy our program!" xDD
M_Stanfield5441
M_Stanfield5441 6 өдрийн өмнө
It's all fun and games till that one person you hate being around thinks their jokes are just the funniest thing ever
DIYTFY
DIYTFY 6 өдрийн өмнө
Small talk is pointless and annoying.
fastboatster
fastboatster 6 өдрийн өмнө
Gotcha, just start the small talk asking if they like DMT and it will go swimmingly from that point on)
Bob Dobalina
Bob Dobalina 6 өдрийн өмнө
I have tried these techniques while standing in front of the mirror. Turns out the guy looking back interacts positively with me.
SmellsLikeMeltingPlastic
SmellsLikeMeltingPlastic 6 өдрийн өмнө
Please note that none of these tips will work when speaking with uninteresting people. Also note that these people come to the show to talk. The person in the elevator might not want to.
d
d 6 өдрийн өмнө
Small talk is not a skill Its what fake people do By calling it “small” you are actually admitting everything you say is almost meaningless and irrelevant.
Quicktwosteps
Quicktwosteps 7 өдрийн өмнө
😗My problem is after the small talk. I meet the same person again and I'm particularly stuck on the last conversation.
Captain
Captain 7 өдрийн өмнө
Im only half way through so maybe it will come up or maybe it's a different topic, but i find that allowing people to talk about stuff that they have already mentioned before or when they talk about or answer something which you already know about makes them open up more. at a new job just let that one co-worker explain that thing that you already know, because it makes them feel like they can contribute to something and will be more friendly towards you instead of thinking youre a know it all
Stemfour Visual
Stemfour Visual 7 өдрийн өмнө
Wait. Zangief was real?
MrWilson 2020
MrWilson 2020 7 өдрийн өмнө
What is DMT?
Ricc
Ricc 7 өдрийн өмнө
Basically ask simple questions that require deep thinking and find ways to relate their answers back to yourself so then its not all on them.
Freddy Leon
Freddy Leon 7 өдрийн өмнө
I could watch anything Joe Rogan related
Jack Swift
Jack Swift 7 өдрийн өмнө
Im gunna try and remember all these tips when I meet a chick from Tinder, and while Im sitting there recalling these tips, Im gunna forget where I am - 5 minutes will go by as I try to expertly guide the conversation, and then I'll realize we've both been sitting in complete silence for 5 minutes. I'll go home alone and single, again.
Ryan Chevalier
Ryan Chevalier 7 өдрийн өмнө
Small talk doesn't usually last as long as a Joe Rogan episode. If I talked with someone for over 3 hours, I'm bound to say, "Bob Saget, I love you" after the conversation.
Tyler Bouck
Tyler Bouck 7 өдрийн өмнө
Rogan the shill. F him.
Johnny C.
Johnny C. 7 өдрийн өмнө
Lol.
Ty Ler
Ty Ler 7 өдрийн өмнө
I can’t get away from joe rogan
Your Barista
Your Barista 8 өдрийн өмнө
New life goal- ending a conversation by saying I love Bob Saget.
Nicholas Lashway
Nicholas Lashway 8 өдрийн өмнө
I feel like I just watched an ad but still great video!
Garry Sutcliffe
Garry Sutcliffe 8 өдрийн өмнө
Have you ever tried DMT?
Total Devastation
Total Devastation 8 өдрийн өмнө
So Joe “DMT is kinda my hobby” Rogan is secretly a professional social dialogue psychologist
el guaripolo
el guaripolo 8 өдрийн өмнө
Go vegan🍎
Jeff Pagan
Jeff Pagan 8 өдрийн өмнө
Atholete
Shook Swag
Shook Swag 8 өдрийн өмнө
So just be fake
Ky1eB513
Ky1eB513 8 өдрийн өмнө
what if i kinda hate ppl?
uscjake868
uscjake868 8 өдрийн өмнө
Her: Hi! Him: En espanol: My names jeff
Mark Harrison
Mark Harrison 8 өдрийн өмнө
RE: How to feign interest!
nicolas oviedo
nicolas oviedo 8 өдрийн өмнө
The wealthy minibus natively join because ikebana noteworthily mourn circa a watery jewel. dusty, ill-informed correspondent
President Trump
President Trump 9 өдрийн өмнө
I tried using this tip and I just drew a blank and went into even more awkward silence.
President Trump
President Trump 9 өдрийн өмнө
I am the king of awkward silences.
Silverback Animal
Silverback Animal 9 өдрийн өмнө
I’ve only seen Joe lose it a little bit with one guy . He has the ability to get rite on the guests wave length and make anyone comfortable enough to really open up so we can see the real them .
Jay Porta
Jay Porta 9 өдрийн өмнө
I always know when someone is doing this and it’s weird as hell.
MCMXC
MCMXC 9 өдрийн өмнө
Perfect video for antisocial millennials/ technology addicts. Not sure that Joe is using the tactics and tricks, I think its just natural for him. When you dont lack in self confidence and genuinely want to talk to someone unforced conversations like this happened between normal people quite often...
H Estrada
H Estrada 9 өдрийн өмнө
This is 💩. Just be yourself. If you connect cool. If you don't then oh well. This is stuff I usually do and there are times the convo is still painful. Some people gel and some don't
Revolve!
Revolve! 9 өдрийн өмнө
Why spend all this effort in imcluding the movie clips?
Jlicious Hamchansky
Jlicious Hamchansky 9 өдрийн өмнө
I like how you break this down and this is just naturally what he does.
Aaron Charles
Aaron Charles 9 өдрийн өмнө
Using someone who hand picks his guests and has a chance to meticulously research them and their life’s work is probably not a great set of examples. the theory is good the examples are poor
Kohen Was Here
Kohen Was Here 9 өдрийн өмнө
This would work if my classmates weren’t 15 and dry as hell
Dynamic Gorgon 39
Dynamic Gorgon 39 9 өдрийн өмнө
6:55
Disaster 94
Disaster 94 9 өдрийн өмнө
joe rogan why would u watch him lmao
Antonio Wong
Antonio Wong 10 өдрийн өмнө
I love that dmt loop🤣
PSVR Addict
PSVR Addict 10 өдрийн өмнө
My friend: so, my dad just died Me: **aggressive laughter**
Byron Hobson
Byron Hobson 10 өдрийн өмнө
Here’s what we need to wake up to.. They think we are a "Parliamentarian" according to Chuck and Nancy et al. That's a massive problem. They do not understand that we are a system of Federalism, not a Parliament. Meaning they are overriding State Parliaments, and they are bold faced telling us they are doing it. Also.. stop calling us a "Democracy".. there are several types of Democracy. Be more specific please! Think about it this way.. we are a double layer Parliament system where State Parliaments have the authority to override the Federal Parliament via the 10th Amendment. Monroe would not sign the Constitution without it FOR A REASON! It is a simple sentence, but it is the most powerful in my opinion. 10A: "The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people." Using Chucks terms... “The powers not deligated to the Federal Parliament by the Constitution, nor prohibited to it by a State Parliament, are reserved to State Parliaments respectively, or to the People.” This is a more accurate reading. All of these program laws the Federalist Parliament are writing.. it isn’t that they are “Unconstitutional”.. it’s that they are Un Bill of Rights.. in specific, the 10th Amendment. We must STOP THEM! ..and by them I mean the “Democrat/Republican FEDERALISTS!” There are not 2 parties, only one. The FEDERALISTS, and we have absolutely NO AntiFederalist (or State Parliament first driven) representation. The Declaration of Independence tells us it is our DUTY to fight top down systems of government. In our system, that means the Federalists. If what people want is no State Parliaments and only Federal Parliament, they are Federalists. If people want States to do as the 10A says, they are AntiFederalists. These are the only 2 parties that should exist in our system of Federalism. Left/Right, Liberal/Conservative belong to a single Parliamentarian system as the Federalists tell us we are. ..they do this lexical slight of hand to devalue State Parliaments so they can do what ever they want at the Federal level.. and that is criminal according to our Bill of Rights. The only social program the Constitution gives the Federalist Parliament authority over is the Post Office. Literally. This is correct terminology.
Herculean
Herculean 10 өдрийн өмнө
My formula is usually: (Question) (Answer) (Question) (Answer) (Suddenly bring up something they like)
Olgun u
Olgun u 10 өдрийн өмнө
What’s the name of the first movie scene? With the 3 guys around the table and chef standing?
Trumana
Trumana 10 өдрийн өмнө
Joe's a great example. It's all natural however I'm sure he's never had to read a book on it. He's an intelligent interesting guy himself and guests respond well to this.
luke dukes
luke dukes 10 өдрийн өмнө
I don't want to talk to people so I'll just do the opposite to this advice
Victor Nobrega
Victor Nobrega 10 өдрийн өмнө
I was i y office, and some one just walked in, so i used the first 2 points- worked perfectly! excellent! Thank you!
3 Star Perfect Deer
3 Star Perfect Deer 10 өдрийн өмнө
Video: Top five reasons Me: Secret reason 6. *wEeD*
Aesthetic Relaxation PR
Aesthetic Relaxation PR 10 өдрийн өмнө
"You give off energy" most energyless person looking on cast "yeaaah"
Fonz
Fonz 10 өдрийн өмнө
9:15 Ad begins
R B
R B 10 өдрийн өмнө
Damn gotta relearn social skills
Francis
Francis 10 өдрийн өмнө
hello fellow introverts
Lester Reyes
Lester Reyes 11 өдрийн өмнө
mirror father mirror
Carly
Carly 11 өдрийн өмнө
Watch a funny movie before you go to a social event so you can laugh more easily at people who are unfunny. No thanks.
Mr Mosby
Mr Mosby 11 өдрийн өмнө
Step 1: be famous and start a podcast
Luna Ladyboy
Luna Ladyboy 11 өдрийн өмнө
Here I was thinking I'm awful at small talk, but turns out I'm pretty alright
Antonio Zamudio
Antonio Zamudio 11 өдрийн өмнө
These tricks must be very effective, since Joe Rogan is simply dreadful and people keep listening to him. Not only has he been pushing an anti-vegan agenda with the help of Miley Cirrus and Mike Tyson, but also transphobic discurses featuring Ben Shapiro and Abigail Shrier.
Dee Blan
Dee Blan 11 өдрийн өмнө
Lol i have a coworker that does the mirroring the last 3 words tactic. I don’t think she misuses it and I like her anyway but it came off as a bit disingenuous, like she was really trying hard to convince you that she was listening when she may or may not actually be listening.
Energy Sheriff
Energy Sheriff 11 өдрийн өмнө
Him: hi you beautiful Her: you juss wanna fu*** don't you?
A Z
A Z 11 өдрийн өмнө
You are basically stating the obvious this whole video. "Laugh when something is funny" thanks captain obvious
fvh44 ಠ_ಠ
fvh44 ಠ_ಠ 11 өдрийн өмнө
Are people really using this seriously? Don't think so much about the conversation just talk to whoever you're trying to conversate with it will come naturally
Charlie Franklin
Charlie Franklin 11 өдрийн өмнө
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