5 Easy Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone

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We’ve all had conversations that feel forced or boring, or are filled with awkward silences. It can be almost painful. That’s why in this video we're going to go over 5 steps to make small talk with anyone. We’ll do so by breaking down some tricks that Joe Rogan uses on his podcast to connect with everyone from academics to athletes to celebrities.  

The goal of each of these is to either get the person to like you more OR get you off small talk and into a real conversation that lets you form a genuine connection. Some will be mindsets and some will be word for word questions you can steal. They’re all easy to do, but most people don’t do them.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:00 - Intro.
0:54 - #1: Grease the wheels early with a compliment.
2:17 - #2: Transition between topics using “reminds me of” thinking.
4:07 - #3: Ping for topics of mutual interest.
4:31 - #4: Get other people excited about the conversation.
6:27 - #5: Create a connection with people while listening.

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maisetas
maisetas 51 минутын өмнө
so the key for all small conversations is dmt. got it.
raezor82
raezor82 4 цагийн өмнө
Person: How are you? Me: Good. Or am I?
Ravens Rule
Ravens Rule 8 цагийн өмнө
Well one way joe laughs at everything is that he’s high all the time
Bianca Gurley
Bianca Gurley 10 цагийн өмнө
I have to do a lot of small talk for my job and sometimes it’s so awkward💀I’ve gotten better at small talk but I can really do much better. I like how this was actionable advice!
Elliot Beerline
Elliot Beerline 11 цагийн өмнө
Is a 4-hour conversation "small talk"?
wolfpack4128
wolfpack4128 15 цагийн өмнө
The top thing you can do is pull something back from earlier in the conversation. This makes a person realize you're not just hearing them you're listening. Like "oh so you love the nightlife, that explains why you moved to boring old Fresno". You get a laugh and they realize you actually care about the conversation.
WasteOfTimeGames
WasteOfTimeGames 16 цагийн өмнө
Is joe the joe from the original fear factor
justin timesley
justin timesley 17 цагийн өмнө
The lucky verdict contradictorily talk because period methodologically collect along a unable grease. rampant, talented brace
Pan Fam
Pan Fam 18 цагийн өмнө
Superb.
Jesus PG
Jesus PG Өдрийн өмнө
I just want to learn how ti manipulate people
my first crappy video Billy
my first crappy video Billy Өдрийн өмнө
BTW, if I were on his podcast I feel like he'd make me interesting and I like my job.
my first crappy video Billy
my first crappy video Billy Өдрийн өмнө
So now I'm going to use DMT as a euphemism for a conversational tool.
alex Shortsmen
alex Shortsmen Өдрийн өмнө
DMT!
Natural Hyper-Bathory
Natural Hyper-Bathory Өдрийн өмнө
Yeah I got COC Charisma On Command
Calvin Something
Calvin Something Өдрийн өмнө
Big missing piece in this advice is that Joe is a comedian, and habitually thinks about things for the sake of making comedy. Though he is speaking off the cuff, it is not completely spontaneous. Some of the connections he makes may be in the moment, some of them may have been established before. Being a comedian prepares you for making small talk in this way, because you are regularly thinking about things that you can communicate to strangers for the sake of your product.
Fun Mobile Games FMG
Fun Mobile Games FMG Өдрийн өмнө
Talking Topic to topic is not my idea of a good conversation when the mic is off. People don't normally talk like that .
Natalia E.
Natalia E. Өдрийн өмнө
Have you done tmd backwards?
Marvin Nash
Marvin Nash Өдрийн өмнө
4:46 Who is that hottie?
Marvin Nash
Marvin Nash Өдрийн өмнө
And don't answer "David Letterman" ;)
Brayden Johnson
Brayden Johnson 2 өдрийн өмнө
Only commenting bc comments are at 666. Tryna be 667
Parker Meredith
Parker Meredith 2 өдрийн өмнө
I watched this video around 2 months ago maybe, and I’ve come back to it maybe once or twice. I’m not kidding, my conversational confidence has sky-rocketed and after some practice I’m now able to carry on a conversation for ever. This video isn’t magic, you actually have to apply these skills and practice them, but if you really develop an understanding about what’s in this video. It 100% works.
ThexJasonxSensation
ThexJasonxSensation 2 өдрийн өмнө
What is the name of that perfect 10 talking to Ryan Reynolds at 1:58?
BabyHunter playlists
BabyHunter playlists 2 өдрийн өмнө
Best way to be funny get high on weed maybe joe is high
jooreuable
jooreuable 2 өдрийн өмнө
Joe rogan is also always on drugs
JTient
JTient 2 өдрийн өмнө
Hey good tips just paused the video and trued the why? She chose that school and it worked really well crazy thing is I've never been too socially awkward and haven't thought about this sort of thing before but I have to say anyone can be helped by this sort of thing who doesn't want to have more meaningful conversations.
ChicoMillion
ChicoMillion 2 өдрийн өмнө
who narrated this video??
A certain red panda
A certain red panda 2 өдрийн өмнө
I used to be so bad at small talk. Then I started watching Joe Rogan and came to enjoy making other people have fun with small talk.
GETSETGO CAR REVIEWS
GETSETGO CAR REVIEWS 3 өдрийн өмнө
Haven't watched your channel in a while. In fact I was surlrise this was your channel lol content has improved 100x
Dwight Hudson
Dwight Hudson 3 өдрийн өмнө
some of this stuff used to be common..people used to do this out of habit..we've forgotten this stuff with the new different ways of communicating
Joey Farley
Joey Farley 3 өдрийн өмнө
Of course this is an ad
Salgado3
Salgado3 3 өдрийн өмнө
Him/her: how are you today Me: hey how ya doin
Tiyan Newman
Tiyan Newman 3 өдрийн өмнө
My DMT would be modern dating. Everyone has so much to say about dating
kennethxtam
kennethxtam 3 өдрийн өмнө
what about Alpha Male strategies saying never to compliment a girl unless she deserves it
Zaid Thabit
Zaid Thabit 3 өдрийн өмнө
Stephen Colbert scaring Aubrey plaza at 08:41 is priceless
Bhavesh Gadag
Bhavesh Gadag 4 өдрийн өмнө
DMT.
Dard Hadard
Dard Hadard 4 өдрийн өмнө
Dmtdmtdmtdmt
Al Electric
Al Electric 5 өдрийн өмнө
Small talk isn’t necessarily the problem. I just don’t want to talk anymore and get the hell out of there.
الإخبارية تيوب
الإخبارية تيوب 5 өдрийн өмнө
I really liked WHAT IF question because you can use it to avoid awkward silence when you run out of ideas and the other partner have nothing to say
ILDAR BEKMUKHAMETOV
ILDAR BEKMUKHAMETOV 5 өдрийн өмнө
Laughing is a good tip, unless it's a small talk with Tyson 😬
JediGeekBiker
JediGeekBiker 5 өдрийн өмнө
awesome video
chris 15-22-1-8
chris 15-22-1-8 7 өдрийн өмнө
My ping is gonna be the joe rogan podcast
Junrei Wang
Junrei Wang 7 өдрийн өмнө
So uh, you ever tried DMT?
Shivam
Shivam 9 өдрийн өмнө
Write that down... Write that down.
Destiny James
Destiny James 9 өдрийн өмнө
I have not met with my friends for so long, or strangers, i forgot how it was like to make a small talk. Thanks for the amazing video!
Robert McLellan
Robert McLellan 10 өдрийн өмнө
Please do a video on Dan Pena of Quantum Leap Advantage
E Benton
E Benton 10 өдрийн өмнө
+charisma on command Will you please do a video on communication and building relationships after you’ve experienced trauma? I find the need to hide so much of myself which makes me feel very inauthentic, but I know that opening up can make people uncomfortable. At this point, I’ve lost a lot of relationships that I really care for and it would be a huge help. Thank you.
TheShadow
TheShadow 10 өдрийн өмнө
This was def helpful. My job involve communication and still sone tips i never thought of
ThatGuyFromDamascus
ThatGuyFromDamascus 11 өдрийн өмнө
Your videos are the best on MNpost period. After each video, I find myself connecting tens of dots about things in life. For example, when i feel bad or groggy, i noticed myself feeling better when i read writings or messages or comments ( social situations) that i was confident in, where I accomplished my goal in delivering a point. Now i understand why people love having their comments liked, boosting their self-esteem even if the comment is just a joke or a notice. I also understood why success in my morning routine usually sets me up for better mood. Another thing i understood is why praying pre dawn prayer with the group is far more better than alone at home. (Group exercise) I also understood why my elder brother used to feel kinda depressed around me, as I was usually the one with the more knowledge about random topics while he was focused on his medicine studies, ehich made me win lots of social arguments around him, leaving him feeling in someway defeated. And finally it made it clear of to why i used to feel depressed after hanging out with some toxic friends even though we'd have fun, but because they don't often let me speak or express my thoughts on what they talk about, also leaving me feeling defeated, even though we respect one another and help one another. And in this made have more respect towards the prophet Mohammad, he used to listen to people jntil they finish, shake the hand until the other would stop, never yelling or shouting at wrong doers, as that would deminish their social status, but rather he built them up, even though he was the alpha of the whole islamic community at it's beginning. Another thing is that now i can understand more why people like those who obey them, for instance in our Islamic teaching we are guided to do good to parents, obeying them in what they order (as long as it's a good order, or one that doesn't harm me or someone else), I can see this now as it makes them feel their social status as parents, rather than being defeated by the ones under them in the social hierarchy. Also the obedience of the wife to her husband, making him feel like the man he is, and especially that his orders are almost always are for the sake of the family. And here it became clear to me why islam favors justice over equality, in equality you do injustice to those with wisdom and knowledge who are usually high in the hierarchy, making their words and decisions feel the same as the ones without any of that. Also a woman with low testosterone should accommodate that woth higher estrogen, making her the care giver she is better at, but a man with lower testosterone feels less like a man and therefore not as motivated to live. To correct that we have the high ones in the hierarchy giving orders to lessers, and the lessers with less testosterone fixing their lack of that with the handy labor. Building homes or carrying heavy goods, (Physical exercise for T treatment) I can go on and on .. and I would still wouldn't have scratched the surface. God's creation with the simple complexity. And thse are just
Ameerun Imi Sairi
Ameerun Imi Sairi 11 өдрийн өмнө
I love this channel
HVYContent
HVYContent 11 өдрийн өмнө
How to make small talk? Take big talk and put it into several packages 📦
Basundhara Paul
Basundhara Paul 11 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks to your extensive and sometimes unnecessary featuring of Jordan Peterson, I'm unsubscribing. I know it doesn't matter to you but I thought I'll let you know that because otherwise this channel is a pretty great one.
L M
L M 12 өдрийн өмнө
Me talking to black girl Hi why are you black
Cj
Cj 12 өдрийн өмнө
so bring up DMT?
Comment Warrior
Comment Warrior 12 өдрийн өмнө
I did all this naturally but thats because I like talking to strangers and im actually curious about how people think and what actions they take. Somehow being interested naturally and doing it a lot built my intelligence of doing all this naturally all the time. Keep in mind some people dont respond and dont like sharing things about themselves, always dropping the conversation. this can be a tough one.
Gary Williams UK
Gary Williams UK 12 өдрийн өмнө
Joes new 'DMT' is Salmon
Gary Williams UK
Gary Williams UK 12 өдрийн өмнө
We want to be truly seen
Yohani Tadele
Yohani Tadele 13 өдрийн өмнө
This channel always asks money
TabbyGoose 9053
TabbyGoose 9053 14 өдрийн өмнө
Cant afford CU :(
G4merbob
G4merbob 14 өдрийн өмнө
That segway tho
Nadir Young
Nadir Young 14 өдрийн өмнө
Do you know how many podcasts you have to watch to make this video?
General Dream
General Dream 15 өдрийн өмнө
The first 20 seconds is how small talk goes with me
Steve Jobs
Steve Jobs 15 өдрийн өмнө
i'm not so much sure as joe talks about dmt as if it's a mutual topic but more so that he wants it to be every ones mutual topic. Which i am ok with.
michael jordan
michael jordan 15 өдрийн өмнө
You did a good job of identifying conversation techniques used by good orators, but these abilities come naturally to only those who have a wide and varied knowledge base and a sharp mind that is able to access them quickly and seemlessly. This cannot be taught for the simple fact that the moment one tries to do these things, one will fail because their mind is fixed on the idea of trying and they will either mentally freeze or come across fake or forced. Further more they won't be listening because they will be planning. Again though bravo on identifying these techniques.
Crews
Crews 15 өдрийн өмнө
"Hi how are you?" "High, how are you?"
skins189 lbs
skins189 lbs 15 өдрийн өмнө
Joe rogan making convo method; just keep talking about what you think about everything you've ever thought about.
tintooka
tintooka 16 өдрийн өмнө
While I think I understand what you're going for here, perhaps the trick is to watch this a few times so as to undertand clearly. I am so very much an introvert but I am no Joe. He doean't seem to be an introvert at all. I wish I was so lucky as to be a Joe. I never will be so I'm just not sure how to learn from this.
J
J 16 өдрийн өмнө
I'm so bad at conversations
Rejalla Desuse
Rejalla Desuse 16 өдрийн өмнө
Joe went to Charisma U 🤣
Jack
Jack 16 өдрийн өмнө
Why was everyone else given a book on how to act as a normal human and I wasn't lol
grimey cat
grimey cat 17 өдрийн өмнө
Me: great okay be like Joe Rogan Me: Did you see that guy accidentally hit that moose?
Maria Grå
Maria Grå 19 өдрийн өмнө
101 on being manipulative. 😺
Giancarlos Rosales
Giancarlos Rosales 27 өдрийн өмнө
Compliments kinda put my guard up. You gonna do it right.
SFC Tapia
SFC Tapia 29 өдрийн өмнө
All females Master this early in life, EYE contact, What are you doing? WHY?
Self Elements
Self Elements Сарын өмнө
This channel is sooo good!
Yasser Berrehail
Yasser Berrehail Сарын өмнө
Very expensive program unfort
NewJourneysFireLP
NewJourneysFireLP Сарын өмнө
Mike Tyson: "Hey hey hey! I'm serious!"
The Average Joe
The Average Joe Сарын өмнө
Why can be effective, but can also make people defensive
john breen
john breen Сарын өмнө
Worst conversation question is “what do you for work” don’t ask. Ask them “what do you do when you’re not working?” If you have to know. People will tell you what they do for work and fun in one question.
Bree W
Bree W Сарын өмнө
joe rogan is so genuine you just have to like him :)
Tom
Tom Сарын өмнө
One good trick I learnt is to say the name of the person you are talking to a little bit more than you usually would. This is especially good when talking in a small group as it makes them feel more heard and included. No matter how much of an ego they have, there isn't a sweeter sound to someone's ears than the sound of their own name.
kevin pineda
kevin pineda Сарын өмнө
I can’t believe this generation became so antisocial that they now have to make “methods” on how to socialize.
Tristen Rupe
Tristen Rupe Сарын өмнө
You can see it in Elon's face: "...Omg I'm funny?!"
Chris Sr.
Chris Sr. Сарын өмнө
Read...How To When Friends and Influence People. The book that inspired Charles Manson.
Nando M
Nando M Сарын өмнө
I'm tired of being the dude who carries the conversation.
Cameron Gray
Cameron Gray Сарын өмнө
7:39 ok I will watch Scott sterling soccer shootout before I meet this girl tomorrow
megamania501
megamania501 Сарын өмнө
Watched the whole vid only to find out at the end that it's just a commercial trying to sell you something
Ace Q
Ace Q Сарын өмнө
“I don’t know many people from Delaware” *Thank you*
Oscar Arnau Palacios
Oscar Arnau Palacios Сарын өмнө
I got you. Bye!!!
Ron Hatfield
Ron Hatfield 2 сарын өмнө
This is a great video!
Lee Van Cleef
Lee Van Cleef 2 сарын өмнө
Phucking 21st century Dale Carnegie
wolfgangouille
wolfgangouille 2 сарын өмнө
Why would I make small talk lol.
NightsChapterSeven
NightsChapterSeven 2 сарын өмнө
Lol this is just how stoners communicate (extroverted stoners)
Nunya Biz
Nunya Biz 2 сарын өмнө
As a white dude in America in the year 2020, I almost feel like I need to ask for consent to give someone a compliment.
Rocking Ronda
Rocking Ronda 2 сарын өмнө
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
Titomo Daniel
Titomo Daniel 2 сарын өмнө
This is very helpful! 💯💯💯
dappiduck
dappiduck 2 сарын өмнө
Interesting, i'd always held back on 'that reminds me of' because i feel/learnt that it detracts from the attention/empathy of what theyve said. 🤔 makes sense though, to keep the conversation flowing
Itm Marl3au
Itm Marl3au 2 сарын өмнө
Slick stuff there bud
Jack Wilkinson
Jack Wilkinson 2 сарын өмнө
who was that girl, from wilmingotn de. I'm from there and literally sont know anyone famous from there
Juan Gutierrez
Juan Gutierrez 2 сарын өмнө
Umm smoke weed. Joe does. Makes you more sociable.
SBee Gaming
SBee Gaming 2 сарын өмнө
"How are you?" "Good you?" "I'm Good" "Good" "Goodbye" "Bye"
at s
at s 13 өдрийн өмнө
That’s hilarious 🤣 I’m guilty of having that conversation more than I’d like to admit. 😬
First Name Last Name
First Name Last Name 16 өдрийн өмнө
at my job we have to constantly greet costumers and sometimes all i hear is “hi ma’am how are you?” “good, how are you?” “good, and you?” “good” “that’s good”
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