How To Make Small Talk With Anyone

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We’ve all had conversations that feel forced or boring, or are filled with awkward silences. It can be almost painful. That’s why in this video we're going to go over 5 steps to make small talk with anyone. We’ll do so by breaking down some tricks that Joe Rogan uses on his podcast to connect with everyone from academics to athletes to celebrities.  

The goal of each of these is to either get the person to like you more OR get you off small talk and into a real conversation that lets you form a genuine connection. Some will be mindsets and some will be word for word questions you can steal. They’re all easy to do, but most people don’t do them.


0:00 - Intro.
0:54 - #1: Grease the wheels early with a compliment.
2:17 - #2: Transition between topics using “reminds me of” thinking.
4:07 - #3: Ping for topics of mutual interest.
4:31 - #4: Get other people excited about the conversation.
6:27 - #5: Create a connection with people while listening.

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LT 9 цагийн өмнө
I thought he meant “Akademiks” not “ Academics” when he showed an image of Neil deGrasse Tyson 😭😭 I couldn’t believe the disrespect for a second
Coriander 9 цагийн өмнө
Awesome. Why is this not taught in school? DMT 😂
Robotron5000Deluxe Өдрийн өмнө
The laughing trick didn't work on Mike Tyson, instead Joe got told its not funny.
Brocktoon Belvedere
Brocktoon Belvedere Өдрийн өмнө
I was born with the gift. Only losers need to learn this skill.
Nikki Nic
Nikki Nic Өдрийн өмнө
As an extreme introvert that avoids people at all costs, I truly can't imagine why this video was recommended to me. 😏
Serafin Nunez
Serafin Nunez 2 өдрийн өмнө
You can't use Aubrey Plaza for an example of bad questioning... She is going to deadpan every answer regardless of the interviewers style.
Vegan Gains
Vegan Gains 2 өдрийн өмнө
Lmfao “DMT in every conversation”
Taco Jon
Taco Jon 3 өдрийн өмнө
6:57 beep … 7:04 fckn
RevBman7 3 өдрийн өмнө
Alright, now how do I make Big Talk with anyone?
Bohdan Donchenko
Bohdan Donchenko 4 өдрийн өмнө
What is the movie shown in the cutscenes?
Greg Nixon
Greg Nixon 4 өдрийн өмнө
This was helpful. Pretending to be interested is tough.
E Bon
E Bon 5 өдрийн өмнө
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Dennis The Menace
Dennis The Menace 5 өдрийн өмнө
No. Joe laughs at everything cuz he’s always stoned. 😂
Scruffy Delilah
Scruffy Delilah 6 өдрийн өмнө
See...but once people know you, even if it’s just a little bit, they’ve already formed an opinion about you. Then anything you do to try to improve from there comes off fake. That’s my problem. First impression is everything.
JAm1e -
JAm1e - 6 өдрийн өмнө
Gotta relearn the social skills after rona man
Nathan 6 өдрийн өмнө
That Elon Musk thing was actually really funny.
James Brandon
James Brandon 6 өдрийн өмнө
Good content
SangheiliWarrior 6 өдрийн өмнө
The thing about Rogan is he meets with Celebs or people with sometime of a public figure. So he can research them and at least know a few things. For msot of the world when you meet someone you don't even know there name or their story. Making it awkward since you don't know how they will react to anything
Brent Anderson
Brent Anderson 7 өдрийн өмнө
Lol Joe just acts like he agrees with everyone on 90 percent of everything even if it contradicts the podcast he recorded 24hrs ago.
Auto Outlet
Auto Outlet 8 өдрийн өмнө
So I guess we all forget how to talk to people
Kenny Groth
Kenny Groth 8 өдрийн өмнө
The joe rogan podcast features interesting peoples, the easiest type of person to make small talk with. If you go out into the real world and follow this advice... or need it in tbe first place... good luck
Paul M
Paul M 8 өдрийн өмнө
So I need to start talking about DMT at work?
Matt Salvatore
Matt Salvatore 8 өдрийн өмнө
Garou 8 өдрийн өмнө
DMT and MMA are joe’s two topics of comfort lol, he can’t rant about these things forever especially mma.
Nick C
Nick C 9 өдрийн өмнө
Joe "Have you ever done DMT" Rogan!!!!
puppy_tooth 9 өдрийн өмнө
Damn hella drafts in your gmail bro
MikeMartinCo 9 өдрийн өмнө
Elena Stefanova
Elena Stefanova 11 өдрийн өмнө
my conversational skill has always been stunted growing up as a kid.. i guess maybe it was because of my nanny's abrasive personal style of communicating, but it has all turned out to be completely diiferent after been under the disciplinary guidance and mentorship of my predecessor
Gianna Bent
Gianna Bent 11 өдрийн өмнө
As someone w autism this was actually v helpful
Eiryu kun
Eiryu kun 12 өдрийн өмнө
is everyone putting so much brain power into their conversations??? i barely got enough to keep my brain running through conversations and not just go full auto there X_X
Ntando Thabethe
Ntando Thabethe 13 өдрийн өмнө
This is so very helpful. It's made me look forward to conversations with my friends and with strangers.
Rach Kez
Rach Kez 14 өдрийн өмнө
Me: Hi Him: Hi Me: How are you? Him: I'm good and you? Me: I'm good Him: ok Me: ok **AWKWARD SILENCE**
y. o.
y. o. 15 өдрийн өмнө
This video should be titled “how to socialize”
YVDSON 15 өдрийн өмнө
Imagine this video gets 6B views and suddenly everyone learned how to resocialize trough Joe Rogan😂
Lionel Zafar
Lionel Zafar 15 өдрийн өмнө
Oh good - I can use this at the strip club when 20 different strippers sit next to you and make small take so they can get yo money. My small talk is silence till its awkward , then they leave. hahahaha
Vladyslav Kurbatskyy
Vladyslav Kurbatskyy 16 өдрийн өмнө
hobbs342 16 өдрийн өмнө
Love Joe he's completely grounded such a positive dude
267BISMARK 16 өдрийн өмнө
I laugh when i see people wearing a mask
Oscar Aguilar
Oscar Aguilar 16 өдрийн өмнө
Exposure therapy is key just jump in and don't think twice you will get better like anything else. A lot of people hole themselves up in they're daily lives where they don't interact with new people they keep to they're circle, I think it's good to branch out. I'm guilty of doing this though.
bastet lioness
bastet lioness 16 өдрийн өмнө
This is amazing, thank you for going deep in this analysis. I love Joe as a podcaster, he can talk to anyone.
Ben Rodriguez swag
Ben Rodriguez swag 17 өдрийн өмнө
None of the people going to make small talk with Joe Rogan need to have their guard because it's literally just press related content for the guest speaker... Us regular people have to keep our guards up during small talk with a random because they are exactly that. Stop trying to teach us how to communicate with our fellow people based on a falsified model!
Muhammad Khan
Muhammad Khan 17 өдрийн өмнө
I've never felt awkward talking to someone
Kutay 17 өдрийн өмнө
I realized I was doing all of these naturally since the beginning. I know now why I can speak with someone with zero mutual interests or no similiar background for hours. But some people, they are just plain and boring. Don't forget Joe always talks with interesting people. So if you fail, don't blame yourself. It is quite possible that the person you are trying to talk is not interesting at all.
Daddy's Girl
Daddy's Girl 17 өдрийн өмнө
If you are here when the number of likes is 111K and the dislikes is 1.1K, you are truly blessed!
Tim Carey
Tim Carey 17 өдрийн өмнө
This actually makes me appreciate Joe Rogan that much more
WYJAFAK2 18 өдрийн өмнө
Dunno about anyone else but I feel like I know this stuff and can do it no problem but the main problem is doing it with people you don’t know? I feel like when I do it, they are seeing through me and trying to force small the small talk. But if I’m around someone who I somewhat know I feel much better and normal about doing it. I think it’s just a problem of being comfortable around completely new people I have no idea what they’re like or people who are “higher up” like a manager. I feel self conscious in those moments for some reason.
Andrew James
Andrew James 18 өдрийн өмнө
Joe simp
Heather Rider Coaching
Heather Rider Coaching 19 өдрийн өмнө
Love the transition recommendation. 💛
Joacinhof3style 19 өдрийн өмнө
But most importantly, if you've taken your shot and let the ball in their court, and they don't respond, well then you've done everything you could. No need to feel embarrassed if the other one just doesn't want to respond.
Ninconpooper 19 өдрийн өмнө
I really need this because some people turned into zombies after corona
Yung Yoda
Yung Yoda 19 өдрийн өмнө
Will be applying before college
Orijuno 啓発
Orijuno 啓発 20 өдрийн өмнө
Introverts avoid every small talk interaction, if possible. Silence is better than bullsh*t.
Paddy Wilms
Paddy Wilms 20 өдрийн өмнө
I dont know how but my social skills actualy got better after lockdown
Take Onme
Take Onme 20 өдрийн өмнө
Damn, I really need to try D-M-T.
Elisha Richards
Elisha Richards 20 өдрийн өмнө
For example..... I just let it carry me on
Captain Shrimpcock
Captain Shrimpcock 20 өдрийн өмнө
No mirror for my Asperger’s hahahahate my life
Nate Tolbert
Nate Tolbert 21 өдрийн өмнө
The why questions can just as easily turn a conversation sour. I could see a "why" question seeming standoffish if asked in the wrong tone or context. It may seem to the other person as if you are disagreeing with their personal choices or values. I'm not implying that it's a bad move, just that it can be tricky to pull off. Use with discretion.
H.I 21 өдрийн өмнө
Who, when, where,why, and how
Adam Krueger
Adam Krueger 21 өдрийн өмнө
Its called open ended questions.
Anna S
Anna S 21 өдрийн өмнө
Who is the youtuber at the 7 second mark?? SOS
Jamie Dupcinov
Jamie Dupcinov 21 өдрийн өмнө
Joe is the best Also he laughs a lot because of the hooch ha ha
Alex Tribek
Alex Tribek 21 өдрийн өмнө
So what I gathered from this is to bring up DMT in every small talk encounter I have.
Drako Yamazaki
Drako Yamazaki 21 өдрийн өмнө
Cool I'll keep that in my back pocket . When I'm taking to a hot girl I will bring up dmt .
Robby Morning
Robby Morning 21 өдрийн өмнө
Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon. (Isaiah 55:7 [KJV]) #### The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. (Psalms 34:18 [KJV]) #### For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. (Romans 6:23 [KJV]) #### I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. (Luke 13:5 [KJV])
Asger Hashim
Asger Hashim 21 өдрийн өмнө
i lke the red background
James Minyard
James Minyard 22 өдрийн өмнө
Looking forward to being seen in the next video, too. (Re:Final remark)
Kevin Elmore
Kevin Elmore 22 өдрийн өмнө
The Scandinavian people, being the happiest in the world, are now trying to be the friendliest. Currently in those Nordic countries small talk is practically nonexistent.
matthew waddingham
matthew waddingham 22 өдрийн өмнө
Ya, I got sober 4 years ago. Just studied nd worked nonstop since. Completely forgot how talk to pople
Willamette Strange
Willamette Strange 22 өдрийн өмнө
Everybody is relearning this after quarantine. I’m learning this for the first time
reuniteireland 22 өдрийн өмнө
You make a lot of good points and Joe is excellent at keeping a conversation going. The biggest advantage Joe has is that all of his guests have agreed ahead of time to spend hours of a day and likely travelled to be there just to talk with him. This changes the whole dynamic in that they are already invested heavily prior to the conversation starting.
John Gunther
John Gunther 22 өдрийн өмнө
I forgot how to act with people when my dad started putting me down treating me like s*** and having no sense of worth so forth so thank you for this
john Clark
john Clark 23 өдрийн өмнө
Only issue with the whole video is the fact that he chooses his guests. If he didn’t want to have some compelling conversation with them they wouldn’t b there.
Eggplant 23 өдрийн өмнө
Excellent video, keep up the good work!!
Sagg Eist Bahlsever
Sagg Eist Bahlsever 23 өдрийн өмнө
I didn't have autism until I watched this video.
Niillas Aslaksen
Niillas Aslaksen 23 өдрийн өмнө
god i hate small talk
Abdul-Qayyum Kadodia
Abdul-Qayyum Kadodia 24 өдрийн өмнө
Think this guy watches Joe rogan
CommonClayoftheNewWest 24 өдрийн өмнө
Who the hell wants to small talk with anyone. Medium talk.. now we're talking..
CoCo Coldy
CoCo Coldy 24 өдрийн өмнө
That was Andrew Hales in the first clip. He goes out in public and is purposely awkward. Pretty funny stuff.
Rafaël Proulx
Rafaël Proulx 24 өдрийн өмнө
Joe- how old are you? Guest- i’m 35 Joe- wow that’s interesting, why are you 35?
Thrjdid D
Thrjdid D 24 өдрийн өмнө
Give Andrew Hales credit for that clip in the beginning
Kevin FM
Kevin FM 24 өдрийн өмнө
All of a sudden all the content changed to bad except rogan, i feel great feel in loveyet why does the content show bad? This is why i believe someones spiking the AI
Mmm Tyler
Mmm Tyler 24 өдрийн өмнө
This was cool being as I’ve listened to like every episode
J E 24 өдрийн өмнө
Joe is a terrible listener when he’s not interested
J E 24 өдрийн өмнө
He is a great non sequitur pivoter
Josef Ryan
Josef Ryan 24 өдрийн өмнө
This was more about how great an interview Joe Rogan is...which I appreciate
NoSunBeach 25 өдрийн өмнө
or you could challenge a person's fundamental core values to get a rise out of them and spend the engagement arguing and end it with a sarcastic I love you.
Aj 25 өдрийн өмнө
Damn been doing this my whole life lol
elie the analyst
elie the analyst 25 өдрийн өмнө
Evangline lily 😄aka Kate Austin
T T O M O 26 өдрийн өмнө
2:13 I was looking forward to how to work this move into meeting people, then I realized it was her hand.
God 26 өдрийн өмнө
Is it sad if u watch this?
Dinag Sengupta
Dinag Sengupta 24 өдрийн өмнө
Joshua Little
Joshua Little 26 өдрийн өмнө
I’m cracking up watching
The 36 Lessons
The 36 Lessons 26 өдрийн өмнө
"Have a really tiny mouth." - Someone's Grandpa probably
Justin Kulbaba
Justin Kulbaba 26 өдрийн өмнө
It’s called levelling.
James Elliott
James Elliott 27 өдрийн өмнө
Share back hair story. Where are you from? Why? Begin laughing.
Kevo G
Kevo G 27 өдрийн өмнө
I'm vegan and do CrossFit... works every time
RobHenryMusic 27 өдрийн өмнө
Brilliant and helpful video, but more importantly - THIS WAS AN AD THE WHOLE TIME?! Your marketing team deserve some credit, holy s**t.
rat baby
rat baby 27 өдрийн өмнө
Not to mention Joe does something I absolutely love and wish every person did which is they act like they've known you forever and are super warm, friendly, joyful toward you right when they meet you, and it doesn't feel like there's an invisible awkward wall between the two of you. I try and do that but man social anxiety doesn't make it easy.
Herzlich Willkommen
Herzlich Willkommen 22 өдрийн өмнө
Absolutely and sometimes you absolutely connect with someone because they're just too different from you and then it's very hard if you don't have the skills of Joe Rogan
L Elizabeth
L Elizabeth 27 өдрийн өмнө
how to socialize without over sharing...
Rex Transformation
Rex Transformation 27 өдрийн өмнө
0:31 Who is she?
Caspian Wallace
Caspian Wallace 28 өдрийн өмнө
Intructions unclear, ive done enough dmt to kill a small elephant
Donald Jeezy Trump
Donald Jeezy Trump 28 өдрийн өмнө
Joe dmt Rogan
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