5 Common Phrases People Use To Manipulate You

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I know this sounds a little insane…
People are trying to manipulate you ALL THE TIME!
No, I’m not joking.
Sometimes this comes from a relatively positive place, like when your parents would tell you to eat your veggies so you can get superpowers.
BUT people don’t always have your best interest in mind.
That’s why we’re going to breakdown what manipulation looks like so you can save yourself!
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:51 - Phrase #1: “You Said…”
2:04 - Phrase #2: “I Would Never…”
2:51 - Phrase #3: “Don’t Throw Away ____”
4:16 - Phrase #4: “What A Good Man/Woman Should Be”
6:14 - Phrase #5: “This Is How We Do Things _____________”
8:45 - Book Recommendations
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Health Supreme!
Health Supreme! 6 цагийн өмнө
Did you take these out of a dictionary by Cathy Newman?
Jack Crow
Jack Crow Өдрийн өмнө
I HONESTLY KNOW WHY YOU WEREN'T PICKED TO PLAY THE JOKER IN THE T.V SERIES... YOU HAVE THE SMILE MY FRIEND...N I'M NOT INSULTING YOU MATE.🙏💚☘😉 N SO GLAD YOUR CHANNEL HAS BLOWN UP,WITH THE UNI COURSES ETC...GOOD JOB BROTHER.
Z D
Z D 2 өдрийн өмнө
I hate when people hit you with the sometimes you gotta do things you don't like. And then you get to watch them sweep their problems under the carpe
Igor Bogdanoff
Igor Bogdanoff 2 өдрийн өмнө
You forgot "Smash that like button and subscribe"
Joseph Schaefer
Joseph Schaefer 3 өдрийн өмнө
When someone tries to guilt me into doing some crap for them, I'm like, well if you're such a good friend, I'm sure you can find somebody else to help you out
E T
E T 4 өдрийн өмнө
"Help me to help you"
Beyza Kweens
Beyza Kweens 5 өдрийн өмнө
He makes me smile when he laughs
keltar2007
keltar2007 5 өдрийн өмнө
Good vid.
James Palmer
James Palmer 6 өдрийн өмнө
One thing I will add. It's entirely OK to tell people you've just met that you don't trust them. Trust is earned. This has saved me years of my life. Your position of trust with someone you've just met should be zero.
B G
B G 6 өдрийн өмнө
I just laugh at people in awkward situations then walk away or sternly say you don't know me and then walk away🤪🤪🤪
охуеть что происходит
охуеть что происходит 6 өдрийн өмнө
он такой красивый..
Magdalena Hanah
Magdalena Hanah 8 өдрийн өмнө
I really like your videos. I actually go against the tide in business, but being in business for a very long time now I can see right through the manipulation attempts people do to call me out being wrong way too many times. awesome stuff, have a great day!
kevindc18181818
kevindc18181818 8 өдрийн өмнө
Don't forget the fake customers in the audience that stand up to cease this great opportunity!
JokeeGA5
JokeeGA5 9 өдрийн өмнө
You don't trust me? NOPE!
Kevin Mckown
Kevin Mckown 9 өдрийн өмнө
Iv been manipulated in the past by people who make threats to me so because of that i learned to answer with agression people have also manipulated me with being kind just rob me later so i learned to hate and trust no one in my life its allways to good to be true especially because iv been in the week category stero type the nerd dork and loser the reject category iv finally got a girlfriend over the years but her dads girlfriend tried to split me up for thier binifit not mine or my girlfriends thay want her single so thay can apparently treat her like a Cinderella not happening because my girlfriend has chosen me over them but her dad and his girlfriend still attack my relationship to keep me single leading me to hate and might get them hurt for it maybe people shouldn't manipulate or bully people any more.i hate the world because it hates me because i do this inconvenient thing called thinking for my self
Lexa
Lexa 9 өдрийн өмнө
Well... I noticed I say most of these phrases. I counted them as just normal. I'm glad you pointed this out so I could see this! I never meant any harm by this. Usually I would 1. call people out for what they said before and how they are not following through with their words "You said this" 2. " I would never treat someone like that" 3. "Please don't throw all of this away.. " I said to a narcissist who cheated and left me. 4. "A good man in this situation would never do me like this." In retro spec, I feel like it was coming from a good place, but more times than not it was manipulative and trying to get my way. Goes to show just because you want something doesn't mean that's what should be.
Frank Costanzo
Frank Costanzo 9 өдрийн өмнө
Here's a red flag you get from realtors -- "what's it worth to you?" Run, he's trying to rip you off.
jeremy weekes
jeremy weekes 10 өдрийн өмнө
The 4th one is so true. How often do we heard through society today "a REAL man would do this" or "a REAL man would do that". It is nothing more than a manipulation tactic that attempts to guilt & shame men into capitulation.
Yvonne Stretcher
Yvonne Stretcher 10 өдрийн өмнө
Powerful -just admit you don’t want it.
NPC 001
NPC 001 11 өдрийн өмнө
But you said... I don't care I would never... I don't care Don't throw away... I don't care What a good person should be... I don't care You don't trust me? I don't, why should I?
Shane Thomas
Shane Thomas 11 өдрийн өмнө
👎👎 You don't need tricks son. Just be deliberate.
Beardsley McBeard
Beardsley McBeard 12 өдрийн өмнө
people that try to tell you what you meant when you said something
John Debest
John Debest 12 өдрийн өмнө
Tell salesman that you are leaving the sales room, while pulling a Colt .45 from waistband. Don't break eye contact. 😉
Seth Jackman
Seth Jackman 12 өдрийн өмнө
Yes. Manipulation and control... Like the youtube algorithm that put this video at the top of my feed, even though I'm not a subscriber... Yeah...
Tyko Dagenhardt
Tyko Dagenhardt 13 өдрийн өмнө
“Purthue” you’re adorable 😁
Jan Krige
Jan Krige 13 өдрийн өмнө
"Let me talk to my wife and I'll get back to you..", ALWAYS works for me.. ánd I'm not even married!😁😄😅
uv.vibes
uv.vibes 13 өдрийн өмнө
I wish people were more direct and honest
Hind Ebrahem
Hind Ebrahem 14 өдрийн өмнө
Getting a Tony Robbins ad in the middle of this video Me:No, Tony Robbins in fact i was just in the middle of a great video so I’m out...
Corps
Corps 14 өдрийн өмнө
Just realized how massive your mouth is. Huh. Love this channel, btw
deathybrs
deathybrs 14 өдрийн өмнө
Alternative response to "Don't you trust me?" "I don't know you."
JS Gomez
JS Gomez 13 өдрийн өмнө
Yessss!!! 👏
The treasure seeker.
The treasure seeker. 14 өдрийн өмнө
If someone tells me “I’m busy” more than once, it’s time to wash your hands of that person. Do so silently.
Royce cx
Royce cx 15 өдрийн өмнө
So I think I've been subconsciously been manipulating my gf because she's been doing some really sketchy things
Yossi Yaari
Yossi Yaari 15 өдрийн өмнө
Being a non conformant, this all comes naturally :-)
Noneyou'veseen
Noneyou'veseen 16 өдрийн өмнө
No company that has said "this is how we do things" has ever made milestones in their industry. Innovations are what changes society
Maddie G.
Maddie G. 17 өдрийн өмнө
I’ve always thought the phrases, “I’m going to be honest with you,” or, “Let me be honest with you,” always gave me an uncomfortable and untrustworthy gut feeling... “If I’m being honest here...” what, were you lying to me before and now you have to clarify that you’re being honest with me?
NA Russell
NA Russell 17 өдрийн өмнө
I generally try to manipulate them first seems to work for me
Dick Kline
Dick Kline 18 өдрийн өмнө
Excellent advise.
Yavuz Kozoglu
Yavuz Kozoglu 18 өдрийн өмнө
2:37 lol who speaks like that to their friends
toxic bunny
toxic bunny 19 өдрийн өмнө
Jesus why do I feel like this guy will make an great joker
SPYIDR! ?
SPYIDR! ? 19 өдрийн өмнө
"Would you kindly..."
Aetheris
Aetheris 20 өдрийн өмнө
1. You said.... (A: Do you like the beach, travelling, and saving money?' B: 'yes!' A: 'would you like to buy this?' B: 'No.' A:'But you said you like...') Answer: Accept the inconsistency. Tell them that you're the kind of person that says something at one moment, and at the other moment has completely changed their mind. 2. I would never... (date that person, go to that college) (in this circle, we don't do that) Answer: "Listen, maybe you're right. Maybe you would, maybe you wouldn't... But I know that we are different, and just because we're different in this aspect doesn't mean that I"m better or worse than you. 3. Don't throw away... (all that you have built, done, earnt) Answer: "You know what, I'm not focused right now on throwing this away. That's not my goal. I'm focused instead on this new path, but I do understand and accept that if I move in that direction, I might have to give this up as a consequence. 4. A good man/woman should be... Answer: Just call it out. If, for example, the person you're having a relationship is telling you're immature: "I don't think it's immature to not want to engage in a relationship I'm not ready for. To me, listening to my own needs seems like maturity." 5. This is how we do things here. Answer: Get a second opinion. "It's not that I don't trust you. I'm a complete newbie here, and it would be and it would be silly for me to make any sort of decision without getting a second opinion first. It has nothing to do with you personally."
TheRW0575
TheRW0575 20 өдрийн өмнө
When breaking up with the POS that set me on fire then stood there and laughed as my clothing went up in flames, his reaction was, "You'll never find anyone else like me." Me: "I f***ing hope not! That is kind of the point!" BTW: Stop, drop, and roll really works!
Mike Gray
Mike Gray 20 өдрийн өмнө
Phrase #6: "You may not realize it but people are trying to control and manipulate you ALL THE TIME!"
Able Steven
Able Steven 20 өдрийн өмнө
You hv Godly knowledge
Able Steven
Able Steven 20 өдрийн өмнө
All the things my elders wont tell
Hytindrus
Hytindrus 21 өдрийн өмнө
I just don't know - instills doubt It's terrible - instills worry There are many ways to open a sentence to lead and coach... you'd be surprised of the tactics out there.
Fabiana Parmazzo
Fabiana Parmazzo 21 өдрийн өмнө
"I like overpaying" - why not just straight out telling you don't trust their offer, or saying there are other ways to achieve that? Anyway great video. I also would like to point out others and subtle ways to manipulate: "How am I supposed to do that?" - this doesn't seem bad at all, but this phrase can be used when people are going to ask this when it is their job to figure it out. "Hi, I would like to talk to the director, how can I do that?" let's supposed you are the worker and the director made it clear he or she doesn't want to see anybody, but if someone is persuasive enough, making this question could trick you into thinking for them when you actually should keep in mind what are you supposed to do... you feel so smart. Someone NEEDS your help to know what to do! "I'm sorry, but I can't do that" this is a normal phrase but it can be used to manipulate. For example, someone made a mistake and, because of that, the team can't go on the project. Instead of acknowledging it and moving on, he/she uses a "sorry" statement to make it looks like things were out of the control when it was actually supposed to be his or her responsibility. An error that was actually avoidable. But hey, this person is already feeling bad and sad, are you going to be the villain? C'mon, the whole team should work together to fix the mistake, even if it means sacrificing a few hours of your free time --- I'm not saying helping someone is a mistake. But don't go for the "hero syndrome", believing this person is a poor victim of circumstances. This statement is a toxic behavior if it's used to run away from responsibility.
Djinn Geist
Djinn Geist 21 өдрийн өмнө
"Would you kindly..."
Alison Parenzee
Alison Parenzee 21 өдрийн өмнө
Very good, thank you.
Daemon C
Daemon C 21 өдрийн өмнө
Just reply with "I don't care". Its a fantastic way to burn bridges down. :)
Joe Quinn
Joe Quinn 21 өдрийн өмнө
“But you said-“ “and NOW I’m saying no.”
Shannen Spence
Shannen Spence 22 өдрийн өмнө
THIS is why you need to follow your gut/intuition..... I don't allow anyone to try aything with me. I call people out. Do NOT allow people to just say waht they want to you. I ALWAYS start with "I'm not giving you any money"...
Kenny Floyd
Kenny Floyd 22 өдрийн өмнө
Them: Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Me: It’s ok, I’m the chicken. Eggs are what I do. 😎
Tysard
Tysard 22 өдрийн өмнө
"I would never commit war crimes!" "Listen, maybe you're right. Maybe you would, maybe you wouldn't. But I know that we are different, and just because we're different in this respect doesn't mean that I'm better or worse than you. We can make our minds up differently."
Yellerhead
Yellerhead Цагийн өмнө
Oh my god 😂
Bobby Shrimpton Music
Bobby Shrimpton Music 22 өдрийн өмнө
If you actually walked into a time share office, you should slap yourself.
Patrick T
Patrick T 22 өдрийн өмнө
I’m Mary Poppins y’all
Patrick T
Patrick T 22 өдрийн өмнө
I’m curious about how my newsfeed disappeared and you became my nanny-
JulianW
JulianW 23 өдрийн өмнө
Phrase #1- "Im from the goverment and Im here to help"
Tushar Roy
Tushar Roy 23 өдрийн өмнө
1. You told me ... they pretend they know what you want based on what you said, be ok with the inconsistency 2. I would never ... if this is judgement, accept people have different preferences 3. Don’t throw X away - this prays on human beings fear of loss, accept the risks of moving in a new direction 4. Labelling or deriding to pressure into action 5. That’s not how we do that - get 2nd opinion
Hydro Flask
Hydro Flask 23 өдрийн өмнө
You don’t understand You don’t want that You misheard me These are common with manipulating. They try to put words or thoughts in your head. “You don’t understand, I just want what’s best for you” “But, you don’t want want to leave my house, do you?” “You misheard me. I said that you can’t do that, not don’t want too.” Whether you want to believe it, you often do, all because they said you.
Oxnate
Oxnate 23 өдрийн өмнө
Do it to protect the children.
Todd Bellows
Todd Bellows 23 өдрийн өмнө
#6. This is a temporary 2 week lockdown.
steven jacobs
steven jacobs 23 өдрийн өмнө
I despise when people start a sentence with " to be honest" ! Wait, so you've decided that now your not going to lie to me!!!
Sue Keller
Sue Keller 24 өдрийн өмнө
My favorite is " trust me".. run, dont walk run!
LT Kell
LT Kell 24 өдрийн өмнө
An observation of a couple videos I watched, this 1 & the 1 on preventing being talked over. This 1 was much better on delivery, giving examples along the way vs. the other guy didn't. In order to make each engaging, keeping people's attention to watch the entire video & then have the viewers apply the tools to their daily lives they should be done like this one.
Mister Joestar
Mister Joestar 24 өдрийн өмнө
"What, you don't trust me?" I love when people try and use this one against me, because I always answer honestly. "No, I _don't_ trust you. Why should I?" It sort of goes hand in hand with another one: "Why would I lie to you?" or, more commonly, "What I gotta lie for?" And that's precisely where I go for the throat: "You know what? That's a great question. Why _would_ you lie to me?" I don't know the inner machinations of your mind, so don't try to use that against me. I already know.
Autumn
Autumn 25 өдрийн өмнө
I like to let the person go on their rant and then when they are done, I give them a slightly grossed out look and say "you have something right...there" while pointing to the bottom of my nose. It usually throws them off as they try to wipe the imaginary booger off their face.
Kinjo
Kinjo 25 өдрийн өмнө
Pay attention to what people do not what they say
Adam Montoya
Adam Montoya 26 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you.
shune84
shune84 26 өдрийн өмнө
everyone is trying to make money from you! its not actually complicated but they make it complicated.
Something
Something 26 өдрийн өмнө
Wierd face between 0:08 and 0:09 Pause it at the right time when he says "son that if"
Devon Steny
Devon Steny 27 өдрийн өмнө
He has such a big mouth
Amradye
Amradye 27 өдрийн өмнө
This channel is quite helpful even if you have no issue saying no. For instance, I don’t, but sometimes I would like to say no a more pleasant way instead of just dropping the mic and walking away. This helps.
TerryOfTheFields
TerryOfTheFields 28 өдрийн өмнө
Alas, this video is about being guided & instructed (or in other words, manipulated) although ideally in a moreover beneficial manner then, for the said viewer not to be manipulated... Smooth. Thus would both explain & exemplify the views & subscribers tally.
Suavis
Suavis 28 өдрийн өмнө
Oh no we don't need to do an MRI. waste of time. Me: Waste of time? HOW RUDE! I'm gonna get and MRI first. Thank you.
Skadoosh
Skadoosh 29 өдрийн өмнө
Damn that's a big mouth you got there. bet you could eat so many glizzies
Danny Donnelly
Danny Donnelly 29 өдрийн өмнө
I think you left out one of the biggest ones, "trust me" popular amongst high pressure sales people.
Johnny Botts
Johnny Botts 29 өдрийн өмнө
One statement that particularly annoys me is when you ask a question of someone they say "That's a great question" as if to bolster your ego unnecessarily.
Mohamed Oussama BELBAKI
Mohamed Oussama BELBAKI 29 өдрийн өмнө
Amzing video ,thanks Charlie
Bruce Davis
Bruce Davis 29 өдрийн өмнө
Whenever anyone says I was worried about you man the next sentence always pisse me off.
ProductHuman
ProductHuman Сарын өмнө
and u are telling us to eat vegetables, u are manipulating ppl yourself.
Universpro
Universpro Сарын өмнө
Every phrase has squeaked in my mind
Muhammed Abdullah
Muhammed Abdullah Сарын өмнө
Does watching videos like these even Matter like, how to be charming, how to be smart, how to manipulate ,how not to manipulate all of these things I find ituseless at the end of the day just be yourself by being yourself I do not mean that if you're bad stay bad I mean if you care about people if you love people keep those good things about you don't change it just try not to hurt anyone by your words and hands and improve yourself as a human being just be better All of the things I said is just my opinion no hate to this channel
GODemon13
GODemon13 Сарын өмнө
The top 2 I encounter are: # 2) "Don't you have faith?" and #1) "I love you."
Punchabearinnamouf
Punchabearinnamouf Сарын өмнө
"Yeah but you didn't ask if I like Timeshares"
Mad Max
Mad Max Сарын өмнө
Blah blah blaaaah.... wont be manipulated to finish watching this fast talking psycho babble
trash 6anditz
trash 6anditz Сарын өмнө
Purthew lol
suonatar1
suonatar1 Сарын өмнө
I literally had a first case seller (insurance company) on the phone and when he said "but you said you care about your safety" I answered "Yeah, but it doesn't mean I'm gonna buy your policy. I'm not interested"
poppafuze
poppafuze Сарын өмнө
"let's be clear" ...followed by narration designed to obscure an opposing view.
Charlie Petersen
Charlie Petersen Сарын өмнө
What's wrong with telling someone you don't trust them? "There are two people I trust. One of them is me and the other isn't you."
Doug Godsoe
Doug Godsoe Сарын өмнө
“You said …” Yeah, I lied. Get over it. “I would never…“ But, I always do. “Don’t throw away …” The opportunity to be taken advantage of? Then the ads came, and. I was like, piece butchers! Charisma on Command. Personality when you need auto correct.
Bugslayer Prime
Bugslayer Prime Сарын өмнө
It's okay not to trust right off the bat. Trust, like respect, is earned. Respect =/= Civility. I respect close friends, and we can rib each other cruelly and throw mean jabs at each other and come out still respecting and loving each other. I can be civil with people i have absolutely no respect for because i don't trust them or their motives, but i'm not going to stoop to being rude to prove a point.
Fuzzy •
Fuzzy • Сарын өмнө
I know my friends would, but I would never eat a burnt pop tart.. just saying
doogiedoesyoutubable
doogiedoesyoutubable Сарын өмнө
If one is honest to self and others, it's not likely one will be manipulated.
dramaQueenFLIP
dramaQueenFLIP Сарын өмнө
The one I always use with women is: I'm only going to put the tip in. It works every time!👍
skipl00mxx • 100 years ago •
skipl00mxx • 100 years ago • Сарын өмнө
Currently binge watching all these videos because I have the suspect that my “ best friend” has manipulated me throughout all these years
Luz Baruqui
Luz Baruqui 21 өдрийн өмнө
same
dramaQueenFLIP
dramaQueenFLIP Сарын өмнө
If you feel that way, then there's probably some truth to it. I'm just being honest.
Sonia Saiz
Sonia Saiz Сарын өмнө
... That's the last one we have in stock. Perception of shortage makes people buy.
persona
persona Сарын өмнө
8:57 for books
BigBroBrain
BigBroBrain Сарын өмнө
for the first one: whenever i get one of those, i just say "well yes, i DO want to save money, but that doesn't mean i have to sign up to [insert company name]. i have other ways of saving money. goodbye." and hang up.
TheWobbly WeLdEr
TheWobbly WeLdEr Сарын өмнө
How about a person just throws out conformity altogether and builds a life of their own around people they want to conform with.
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Үзсэн тоо 310мянга.