5 Common Phrases People Use To Manipulate You

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I know this sounds a little insane…
People are trying to manipulate you ALL THE TIME!
No, I’m not joking.
Sometimes this comes from a relatively positive place, like when your parents would tell you to eat your veggies so you can get superpowers.
BUT people don’t always have your best interest in mind.
That’s why we’re going to breakdown what manipulation looks like so you can save yourself!
0:51 - Phrase #1: “You Said…”
2:04 - Phrase #2: “I Would Never…”
2:51 - Phrase #3: “Don’t Throw Away ____”
4:16 - Phrase #4: “What A Good Man/Woman Should Be”
6:14 - Phrase #5: “This Is How We Do Things _____________”
8:45 - Book Recommendations
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Missi Que
Missi Que 8 цагийн өмнө
As an entrepreneur in REAL ESTATE....say no 2 time shares
Missi Que
Missi Que 8 цагийн өмнө
Missi Que
Missi Que 8 цагийн өмнө
We kno
Steven Ingram
Steven Ingram 20 цагийн өмнө
"Don't throw away..." I'm pouring gas on it and setting it on fire.
TheStargirl220 23 цагийн өмнө
"I guess I'm a bad person." "Why do I have to be the bad guy?" "Do I still matter?" "If thats the way you feel." "I guess you don't love me anymore." These are the ones I heard a lot, but I was faced mostly with emotional manipulation.
Alex Vallée
Alex Vallée Өдрийн өмнө
"I would never marinate a Congresswoman."
Sangita kAtun Sarmin Katun
Sangita kAtun Sarmin Katun Өдрийн өмнө
I used to verbally say out loud “but you said” in an a attempt to call a manipulator out when they have attempted to lie or gaslight. Now, I just think it and silently drop them. Otherwise these three words can easily be twisted to make you look like the manipulator because it is so commonly used as a form of manipulation. Also, if you are dealing with a true narcissist or sociopath they will never acknowledge they ever said it even if you have substantial evidence.
VITALIY KAVKAZ 2 өдрийн өмнө
Damn your smart, i hope this is for children
Zek's Last Tapes
Zek's Last Tapes 2 өдрийн өмнө
Your hand gestures are extremely distracting. Try reducing your frequency of gesticulation.
Badguy Reloaded
Badguy Reloaded 2 өдрийн өмнө
why all of a sudden is EVERY youtuber using the "Prayer Hands" hand gesture. hmmm
The J-Man
The J-Man 2 өдрийн өмнө
An ex of mine would say "sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do to make the other person happy" as a coercion tactic. She was a bit of a nag.
Trumpet 2 өдрийн өмнө
fried pan
fried pan 2 өдрийн өмнө
When someone try to corner me, I try to return that against that, to make them feel how it feels liked. I know, cause people did that to me in the past and I learned how unfair I was with these people. Were human, we make mistakes, just learn from it, cause regret will never solve anything. This whole thing is called maturity and im not ashamed to admit my past mistakes.
Dolly Hannigan-Krueger
Dolly Hannigan-Krueger 3 өдрийн өмнө
Omgawd! KEE-YUTE guy from behind the camera! Fiyahh 🔥 I’m new to the channel.
Edward Terrell
Edward Terrell 3 өдрийн өмнө
...or you could say "of course I don't trust you, I don't know you!" Im pretty sure an actual, legitimate pro wouldn't expect you to and would handle the situation accordingly. But your way is very disarming and I can respect that. Thank you for the insight into these behavior patterns! Ill be subscribing and watching your backlog of vids!
1L-19 3 өдрийн өмнө
This is good stuff, I like this.
Marc Vincent Klitgaard
Marc Vincent Klitgaard 3 өдрийн өмнө
In regards to #1 - if they say "But you said..." then just say "okay". You don't have to explain yourself if you don't want to! If they say "But you just said that you like the beach" then say something like "Yes, I like the beach. So?" or "Yes, and what's wrong with that?" By flipping the dialogue you are beginning to lead the conversation in your way. And if they are on the streets and try to persuade you, you can just say "I have to go now. Have a nice day". You haven't destroyed their life or forced an airplane on them. You simply aren't interested, and that's okay. :)
Cryt Kryssus
Cryt Kryssus 3 өдрийн өмнө
"Yes, I like saving money on my vacation. By not going on vacations."
Allen Usrey
Allen Usrey 3 өдрийн өмнө
“Would you kindly...?”
Jeff Larick
Jeff Larick 3 өдрийн өмнө
Here's a phrase that is used against you "this is a win-win for everyone". When someone is pushing a negotiation or compromise, beware of people who use this phrase. What it usually actually means is "I'm going to get my way specifically by preventing you from getting what you want." People who use the win-win phrase are usually trying to screw you.
Andrew Mercurio
Andrew Mercurio 3 өдрийн өмнө
His teeth looks brighter than my future.
C B 4 өдрийн өмнө
I've learned the single word "if" is often used in manipulative behavior.
Thomas Kidwell
Thomas Kidwell 4 өдрийн өмнө
You forgot the most important one. Whenever somebody comes to you in the middle of the mall and tries to sell you something they say" I have a special deal just for you "or more importantly "I know the price is $100 but only for you I'll sell it to you for the special price of $29.99 you seem like a good guy" that means the item is really $9.99 everywhere else on Earth
Connie Wonnie
Connie Wonnie 4 өдрийн өмнө
Pressurisation in “selling” situations is just so annoying to me. I don’t want to be sold to, if I go out looking/shopping then fair game. I don’t go to presentations, don’t appreciate cold calls or doorstep swindlers. So these tactics rarely work on me. I find a lot of people use snobbery to make themselves feel better about themselves, whether it’s telling me they have have an excellent palate, how to appreciate the arts, the music that they listen to and how superior it is, trust me this comes out of the mouths of everyday people, who I have met. It’s their way of trying their elitist BS!
Lol Time
Lol Time 4 өдрийн өмнө
1:34 accidentaly pause here and saw the ok sign
Bypig 5 өдрийн өмнө
When did i ask? Is the easy counter to all of these situations.
Pegasus 5 өдрийн өмнө
The number 3, "Don't throw away ..." reminds me of a snippet from the lyrics of a song I wrote many years ago: "To go somewhere, you must leave where you are." The only way to reach a goal is to leave the place you are in now. Progress is forward movement--leaving where are you now.
sean muchenje
sean muchenje 5 өдрийн өмнө
Well... this was amazing
Mystery207 5 өдрийн өмнө
Windows 10 updates wtf I got work to do and windows 10 has to do a 10 hour restart wtf like every other day ?
Maximiliano 6 өдрийн өмнө
Can you show how men manipulate women. By pushing their bottoms to create attraction
APM 6 өдрийн өмнө
It's all much simpler: remove yourself from pushy people who think they know better about you. Watch out for the should/must/ought to/have to, type phrases..
RoyalRoseWolf 6 өдрийн өмнө
Tell me what you think of this phrase somebody said to me really, well, 2 number 1: "so when am I going to get a reward for buying you all those things" Number 2 (the very next day): "well if you let me have my own way more often i wouldn't be so pushy, would I?" Urgh this made my bloood boil so it can't be good. I had dread in the pit of my stomach for days after PS These things were said by my boyfriend, if you hadn't guessed.
Eldestship59626 6 өдрийн өмнө
Is it me or does he look a lil like Joe from You? Anyone else?
Heather Whittaker
Heather Whittaker 6 өдрийн өмнө
My grandmother told us.. NEVER TAKE A DARE DEAR...Thats what manipulation is..You walk away instead.
JP Kramer
JP Kramer 6 өдрийн өмнө
That story about the thumb tear was terrifying.
Mike Donovan
Mike Donovan 7 өдрийн өмнө
I would never leave a comment on Charisma on Command.
Luqman Wright
Luqman Wright 7 өдрийн өмнө
THIS MAN IS SPEAKING FACTS... This is how I got into a 2 year toxic marriage. If anyone wants advice on a situation their in please don’t hesitate to message me. I wish someone was there for me to talk to.
Warrya 7 өдрийн өмнө
" A good boy/girl listens to their parents. You are not bad right?" Another one.
Keso Gonzaga
Keso Gonzaga 7 өдрийн өмнө
his eyebrows be like ~.~
cardboard box
cardboard box 8 өдрийн өмнө
The I'm not saying any of our ways are better seems like it's kind of putting it on to the table so to speak. To come up with a funny one it's like saying look I'm not going to steal your lunch and then the other person checks there lunches still in there bag.
Star Seed Family
Star Seed Family 9 өдрийн өмнө
this was helpful thank you!
Barbara Banks 1
Barbara Banks 1 10 өдрийн өмнө
Lol--> I have no problem telling ppl I don’t know very well, “no I don’t trust you” Most logical and reasonable ppl know--> Trust is earned! If someone uses high pressure tactics, most likely they’re out to scam you and they aren’t showing you the respect to think a decision through. I hope this helps.
Rob Ot
Rob Ot 10 өдрийн өмнө
Manipulation 101, this video is.
Mark Blaze
Mark Blaze 10 өдрийн өмнө
sunk loss fallacy is easy way to make bad decisions. i dont know about using it to manipulate someone though.
Mark Blaze
Mark Blaze 10 өдрийн өмнө
using numbers to compare two different regions of population instead of per capita like for COVID is the most recent lie i have seen to manipulate and control in the USA in the last 6 months.
Michael Toney
Michael Toney 11 өдрийн өмнө
I feel like his handsome face is manipulating me. I’m inclined to agree.
Gabriela Naveda
Gabriela Naveda 11 өдрийн өмнө
So much good info! And I love your smile!
J L 11 өдрийн өмнө
I knew a prolific liar who makes a statement and then often follow up with “Trust me!”
XxXVideoVeiwerXxX 11 өдрийн өмнө
I've only known women friend groups do the "I would never thing" I only hear older people say "don't throw away"
Allen Tremper
Allen Tremper 11 өдрийн өмнө
A great answer to anyone trying to blow smoke, I tell people who are obviously trying to get me to agree or disagree with something, someone, .... I tell them,"Hey, Go F yourself, you filthy piece of human garbage". I do change it up as the situation commands, just be ready to get into a fight and perhaps spend a night in the local lockdown. Seriously, we are being manipulated all the time, be honest and have clear boundaries, do not talk to telemarketers, don't join cults, and watch appealing to Authority if you are more intelligent than the so called Authority. Just saying, if we are this silly, because we tend to work about others feelings, they come and go, we all have them and it's a shame we don't have an on off button for them, but you can be manipulated badly if you operate on "feelings".
Silent Bliss
Silent Bliss 12 өдрийн өмнө
I think lots of people are being manipulative without they themselves knowing. They just loved to talk their way through to get what they want or have their way. Can you do a video on how to not become manipulative and controlling?
Susy Ward
Susy Ward 12 өдрийн өмнө
Opinions are like arseholes, everybody has one, but few bare close scrutiny
Solaria Adieus
Solaria Adieus 12 өдрийн өмнө
The ''you said'' tactic never works with me because I'm not on the same band length and so they try to suppose and guess about my reasoning and get it wrong. The nonsense they sprout is so far of the mark that I catch it right away. I remember vividly when someone inserted in the conversation ''you made a lot of sacrifices to get here'' and I was like ''wow! where the f. did you get that impression??'' and he was like ''you said it, you said that you did that and did that other thing'' and I was ''WTF! I said I studied, won a scholarship, worked and save money to buy myself a property because I wanted this life and I like to work, what did i sacrificed?'' Apparently, he thought that skipping the drunken uni parties, not spending my money on junk and not becoming sexually promiscuous means I've wasted my youth...what a loser. Another way of subtle manipulation that he didn't mention is when people volunteer a private story about their life without being asked, usually in the early ages of knowing them. Some do it because they want to connect right away with people and it's no malice involved and some do you if to get the dirt on you. Even when you see what's happening it's hard to stop yourself from sharing in return a story of your own. For example, out of the blue a newly acquainted person tell you about how much she suffered with her ex and you start sharing details about your relationships...WHY???WHY are you doing this? You barely know this person. If someone wants to talk about light topics they don't bring up the ex so he/she wants to talk about ex's with you but WHY? You don't know this person.
Fila Fresh
Fila Fresh 13 өдрийн өмнө
Or just go like this 🤷‍♂️
Krishnaraj Rao
Krishnaraj Rao 13 өдрийн өмнө
Very insightful. And useful. And practical. Thank you!!!!
wordsculpt 13 өдрийн өмнө
This guy has more insight into human behavior than people twice his age. Spot on!!
m.s. Russo
m.s. Russo 13 өдрийн өмнө
BASICALLY don't manipulate me! "but you said; Yes, I did and not important at this moment" ; "I would never - just different then you"; - "Don't throw it away-not focused there, thinking other things"; " you're not- Not important to me and don't manipulate me" ; "this is NOT how we do that- Yes, but I need a second opinion about that"
Rebecca Augustine
Rebecca Augustine 14 өдрийн өмнө
Another phrase of manipulation I've learned to watch out for is, "I want to help you."
Julia Royall
Julia Royall 14 өдрийн өмнө
"You don't trust me" I have said to that "I haven't known you long enough for you to have earned my trust"
Iulia 15 өдрийн өмнө
"You said.." is my childs favourite
Alvin Huynh
Alvin Huynh 15 өдрийн өмнө
"You don't trust me?" "Look it's not that i don't trust you, it's just that i don't trust you." XD
Lanying Liu
Lanying Liu 15 өдрийн өмнө
The only person who always have your best interest in mind is YOU!
Stu Lax
Stu Lax 15 өдрийн өмнө
This must be for children.
Pumpkin Pie
Pumpkin Pie 15 өдрийн өмнө
He is so fantastic to listen to
wwwonderful 15 өдрийн өмнө
I don't find him honest An obvious control freak
AlterEgo 15 өдрийн өмнө
I’ve heard “one thing” as a manipulative word set. My ex-wife would say a lot, “one thing, I asked you for one thing” but the thing is she never asked for one thing. She would say “one thing” to make me seem unreasonable and uncaring to her
Aukleen 16 өдрийн өмнө
hi! im a manipulator!! if you wanna know more about us lmao you can reply to my comment! but dont expect all your questions to be answered because im gonna keep a limit to what im saying, sharing everything about manipulating is not a very good manipulator move. i can answer some of your questions because i see in the comments that others are actually hurt about this so some manipulators like me arent using it nicely.
Pat Aherne
Pat Aherne 16 өдрийн өмнө
"but you said".... Aggressive objector.
Sanna Johanna
Sanna Johanna 16 өдрийн өмнө
One very effective trap is: "The more you give (your money to us) the more you get."
solobackpacking 17 өдрийн өмнө
criminals and narcissists = "Don't talk about the past."
Sandra Jose L
Sandra Jose L 17 өдрийн өмнө
I wish I stumbled upon this video a lot earlier
HarleyHilderson 17 өдрийн өмнө
What's up with your mouth? It's far too wide.
Percy Blakeney
Percy Blakeney 17 өдрийн өмнө
"But you said..." "I say lots of things." *proceeds to pick nose while maintaining serious, direct eye contact*
Russel Kester
Russel Kester 18 өдрийн өмнө
How wonderful that someone so young is already so smart.
JinBo Himself
JinBo Himself 18 өдрийн өмнө
A man from China with skillsets on his purpose will achieve his goal as soon as possible , based on international relations
JinBo Himself
JinBo Himself 18 өдрийн өмнө
I am not graduated from economic university but I know how to manage my money ))) lets money make money
JinBo Himself
JinBo Himself 18 өдрийн өмнө
Stay away from manipulative men and women at all cost , especially drunk people who dont have money management mindsets , keep find honest and good friends , improve myself and update social circles each single day at all cost .
JinBo Himself
JinBo Himself 18 өдрийн өмнө
Спасибо большое брат
Storeslem 18 өдрийн өмнө
This reminds me of my ex so much
umbasa 1
umbasa 1 18 өдрийн өмнө
"I respect you but" "you're a cool person but"
Bryanzebox 18 өдрийн өмнө
"My lost, is your gain"
Alene Makrush
Alene Makrush 18 өдрийн өмнө
What it says: "Five common phrases people use to manipulate you" What I read "five common phrases to use to manipulate people"
Anna H.
Anna H. 18 өдрийн өмнө
Wow! This is really enlightening. :O
Henry-E 19 өдрийн өмнө
1. You Said 2. I would never 3. Don’t throw away ....... 4. What a good man/woman should be 5. This is how we do things around here
Kamenschik San
Kamenschik San 19 өдрийн өмнө
#6 could have been "would you kindly?" Last time I saw someone use this, a man got beat up to death with a golf club.
Steve SanS
Steve SanS 19 өдрийн өмнө
What are you saying, doing!! Crap
Kate Kaplan
Kate Kaplan 19 өдрийн өмнө
Frankly when I feel manipulated and used I shut down from that person and get space. Doesn't always help but it beats the stress of trying to deal with it for awhile.
Keith Sizemore
Keith Sizemore 19 өдрийн өмнө
Never say never!
Brown Crewmate
Brown Crewmate 19 өдрийн өмнө
I hear this a lot with girls who try to manipulate men into doing things they want. They’ll say “a REAL man does this “ It makes me laugh lol. Imagine a woman telling a man what a “real man” would do?
J De Bie
J De Bie 20 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks for these tips on how to manipulate people!
Silent Psykosis
Silent Psykosis 21 өдрийн өмнө
Lol, just answer advertisers like a first-generation Asian immigrant: pretend you're having difficulties understanding them and just say 'no' to everything like it's the only word you know, and pretend you're in a rush.
Brian L
Brian L 21 өдрийн өмнө
So 4 is just feminists. “A real man” is basically their entire schtick.
Aadi Pattanaik
Aadi Pattanaik 18 өдрийн өмнө
Which is weird because feminists are supposed to be femininity experts.
Brian L
Brian L 21 өдрийн өмнө
Biggest manipulative phrase “I love you”.
Anthony W.
Anthony W. 21 өдрийн өмнө
"A real man would...." Every man has heard that tired old line.
SaintInix 21 өдрийн өмнө
Dude, you should be cast for the next Joker.
COLIN TOSH 21 өдрийн өмнө
"If you really loved me you would let me have an affair with your best mate"
Denise Waghorn
Denise Waghorn 21 өдрийн өмнө
Basically do what you want but watch out for the bindiies 👀All they do is talk it up
Blake Milton
Blake Milton 21 өдрийн өмнө
“Id never” can be used as a deception tactic as well
Andy whitehead
Andy whitehead 21 өдрийн өмнө
also when i say what i would(nt) do im saying im not the best person to ask in regards to that
Andy whitehead
Andy whitehead 21 өдрийн өмнө
if i tell someone i would or wouldnt do something i mean me not them sometimes followed with thats my ethics not yours and bno you cant have it smile
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