How To Dissolve Social Fear And Connect With Anyone

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Charisma on Command

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Today is a very exciting day, because someone who I consider to be one of the most charismatic people in the world, Russell Brand, just made a video on how to be charismatic!
It's going to be very interesting to see if we have commonalities in how we see charisma :-)

0:00 - Intro.
0:56 - #1: Be present in the moment.
1:58 - #2: Not everyone will like you, no matter what.
2:39 - #3: Don't expect anything from the interaction.
4:33 - #4: Use purposeful misinterpretation.
4:58 - #5: Take advantage of the "yes, and…" technique.
5:59 - #6: Don't skip the fundamental principles.
6:43 - #7: Don't just treat the symptom, address the core problem.
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Adam Lucas
Adam Lucas 8 цагийн өмнө
I would consider myself an atheist now, but Ekhart Tolle changed my life, and you're right about the pseudoscience in his books. The fact that you like relate to the Power of Now is probably why I relate to your videos as well.
TimmacTR Өдрийн өмнө
He's neither a rock star nor Jesus Christ but he certainly looks like a mixture of a Rock Metal Prophet..
PJ Angels
PJ Angels 10 өдрийн өмнө
"Charisma" can be a double-edged sword. In fact lots of sociopaths, narcissists and psychopaths have/had it: Hitler, Ted Bundy, Charles Manson, Pol Pot, Wall Street types, lawyers, Trump, Bill Clinton, Jim Jones, motivational speakers.
Dylan Goldberg
Dylan Goldberg 12 өдрийн өмнө
I've learned a lot socially over the past year or so. Best advice I can give is live fully in the moment. Yes that's hard to do at first. What helped me was starting a routine to take reality checks. Be more mindful. Notice the thoughts that pass through your head. It's okay to embrace them, just don't hold onto them. If you notice your mind start to drift in conversation bring your attention back to the person talking. Body movements are important too, especially if you're an introvert. You're more likely to be fidgeting if you're uncomfortable in a conversation. Another thing that really helped me was starting to see others as myself. When you take away the ego we're all humans looking for affection trying our best in life. The only thing different are perspectives which are created by past events which essentially makes you who you are. I'm nowhere near where I'd like to be on my social journey, but I do believe I have made a lot of progress.
Johno Queensland
Johno Queensland 14 өдрийн өмнө
Russell had Social fear from supporting Trump.
Jan Dohrmann
Jan Dohrmann 16 өдрийн өмнө
My thought is - that logical and spiritual understanding of the world, is just different path to the same thing.. We tend to argue, bcs we think we dont understand each other, but itś just bcs we use another word, bcs we are describing the same spot from another view. That goes to your spirituality.. That sentences that "cringe" you, are those, that "attack" your weak point but are also presented in words of "feelings" there for hard for you to understand and developed, so you need another way to that lesson.
DulceEt DecorumEst
DulceEt DecorumEst 20 өдрийн өмнө
The bad friends podcast is improv and it’s hilarious
Garden Radio
Garden Radio 26 өдрийн өмнө
I like your video. Curious as to what you think about Capitalist Realism by Mark Fischer.
Cloud bound
Cloud bound 27 өдрийн өмнө
Dude how come your appearance didn’t change in 3 years i’ve been hopping in from video to another and u look the same, what’s your secret?
nazanin 29 өдрийн өмнө
The only way for me to notice your cuts it's that wall art changes! Spiser man changes! 😂
Kuueaastane Nadine
Kuueaastane Nadine Сарын өмнө
You have a beautiful smile!
Sandi Billingsley
Sandi Billingsley Сарын өмнө
I love hippie mumbo jumbo. It may be off but it has good intentions.
Victor Chaw
Victor Chaw Сарын өмнө
what should you do if someone directs word towards you but you’re genuinely not interested in the topic - even if it’s small talk
CraftsN Creations
CraftsN Creations 16 өдрийн өмнө
Honestly I’d say number 3, do not expect anything from anyone during an exchange
Sam Moony
Sam Moony Сарын өмнө
Everyone: Taking notes on how to be more charming Me: 4:12 *Pausing to look at fat spiderman for an hour*
Laszlo Manuel Pinter
Laszlo Manuel Pinter Сарын өмнө
Eckhart Tolle's New Earth is absolutely the best, they did a great job with Oprah back then, going through the chapters one by one 👍
schalazeal07 Сарын өмнө
This is fantastic. Maybe you don't have to interact with people the usual way, but care is still needed when interacting with people of a particular culture and background cause not everyone will be able to appreciate these or be comfortable. It's more of flexibility than wanting to please other people and not being true to oneself.
AsgersWeb Сарын өмнө
Can you do an episode on the Kevin Conroy version of Batman. The one we see in the Justice League shows and the animated movie Justice League Doom.
Sayre Wilkin-Dalby
Sayre Wilkin-Dalby Сарын өмнө
The "feeling the energy of others" thing is being an empath. Although that sounds like a spiritual or supernatural thing, science supports that at least 1-2% of the population have the ability to "feel the emotions of others", but I would describe it much more as energy than emotion. I'm dead convinced it's a genuine sense (e.g. touch, smell).
Sturdymcflyy Сарын өмнө
I love the content, what books do you recommend?
Narc Abuse Victim Germany
Narc Abuse Victim Germany Сарын өмнө
You have to give more than you want to have. For strange reasons but I guess it’s a balance topic.
Carolina Alvarez
Carolina Alvarez 2 сарын өмнө
Charisma is innate.
Guillermina 2 сарын өмнө
I'd love to see a video on BTS. They are very charismatic but all of them are very different, its interesting how each has his own personal style that works for him
Linda Gutierrez
Linda Gutierrez 2 сарын өмнө
My only fear in social situations that I used to have, is when speaking to someone who is very shy and they don’t say much. My strategy is to start talking about food and invariably the shy person will start to contribute to the conversation. Problem solved.
Urvi Verkhedkar
Urvi Verkhedkar 3 сарын өмнө
Can you do a video on the charisma of the BTS members? Each of them has such a unique charismatic style: V with his cool, chill style, Jhope with his hyper energy, RM with his calm confidence, Jimin’s humour, etc...
Anth kubrak
Anth kubrak 3 сарын өмнө
Wish I could sub twice 🔥 nonstop amazing uploads
Elizabeth McCoy
Elizabeth McCoy 3 сарын өмнө
Can you do one on being charismatic on the internet? I feel like most in person skills don't transfer
DMT 3 сарын өмнө
Eckhart is an absolute life changer... Probably the best advice you could ever drop on your viewers, is to read A New Earth!
Toni Ann Barandon
Toni Ann Barandon 3 сарын өмнө
Those sentences in The Power of Now that you are referring to as pseudo science aren't science any kind of science at all. And not claiming to be. Presence precedes science. Science is of the mind. It comes from mental activity. The mind is a tool - it's not who we ARE. Consciousness precedes the mind. You won't find anything about Presence/Consciousness that can be explained by science. Not truly.
Bella Zella
Bella Zella 4 сарын өмнө
Excellent video , thank you
hansonel 4 сарын өмнө
Love Russell Brand. He has such an amazing way with words and is one of the most charismatic spiritual celebrities IMO.
jamaal morrsion
jamaal morrsion 4 сарын өмнө
Love your videos bro I'm not going to lie your just full of fact
Cedric S
Cedric S 4 сарын өмнө
Awareness is a big part of charisma, I went along time without being able to pay attention
ׂ 4 сарын өмнө
4:24-4:31 uh oh, someone made an oppsie.
X NATION 4 сарын өмнө
Hey bro, hw do I stop shaky hands and nervousness when meeting strangers
Heather Rogers-Marshall
Heather Rogers-Marshall 5 сарын өмнө
Recovery helps develop authenticity.
TheFuschiaDragonfly 5 сарын өмнө
Russel Brand is Charlie's boy crush and how to blame him-
Tony Sansevero
Tony Sansevero 5 сарын өмнө
Disappointing episode, you spend too much time trying to attach what you say to what he said, they were often 2 different things. Charisma tip #1, tone down your ego, it's been showing a lot more. Also, being 'present' does not mean 'be yourself' nor does it have to mean anything 'spiritual', more often it doesn't, and when you say that, it frankly makes you sound uneducated about a topic you know about. Being present is about mindfulness, shutting off all those places your brain is going and being in the moment. This video could have been much better.
Raining Sun
Raining Sun 5 сарын өмнө
We are but spiritual beings having a human experience. In regards to letting go of social fear, I'd also recommend 'The Courage to be Disliked'. It is written in the style of a greek myth and is very insightful. I learn something new each time I read it.
c d.
c d. 5 сарын өмнө
Arrasou, ótimo vídeo, você é muito inteligente
Jason Fan Club
Jason Fan Club 5 сарын өмнө
I like how happy you look watching these videos
J vF
J vF 5 сарын өмнө
Oh my gosh, I love your smile ^^
Flangelus 6 сарын өмнө
I 2nd this guys book both those books, preferred a new earth but both have to be read to get the full benefits. Btw Russel Brand has read Eckhart and follows his teachings too
H 6 сарын өмнө
J Santos
J Santos 6 сарын өмнө
you should do Jason Momoa's persona breakdown. How did it become what it is today? it was a great metamorphosis of personality and nobody makes a breakdown of it
Carlos De La Torre
Carlos De La Torre 6 сарын өмнө
Do you have top 10 good books to read about working on conversation skills
Jyeah89 6 сарын өмнө
Does it make you boring to not expect anything from anyone?? I'm confused :S
Loto Vázquez
Loto Vázquez 6 сарын өмнө
bro! you really rock what you share is so masterful!! In gratitude!!
Pique NY
Pique NY 6 сарын өмнө
Russel is confused as hell he didn’t know what he wants, this is why he Laches on to people (socially) awkwardly trying to figure if he is like them. Fake it till you make it mentally pretty much
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake 7 сарын өмнө
Dissolve fear by removing the expectation of getting something from the interaction... Best advice ever!!
Kindness Matters
Kindness Matters 5 сарын өмнө
So true.
Sirona Eazt
Sirona Eazt 7 сарын өмнө
The fat spiderman!
Faizan Yahya
Faizan Yahya 7 сарын өмнө
you look like nwet scamander.
Rayn Price
Rayn Price 7 сарын өмнө
I've noticed when I'm completely present and not in my head is when I say the best jokes and I express myself most easily. But it's definitely not easy to get to be present all the time.
Kevin 7 сарын өмнө
"A new Earth" changed my life. I love how in step your journalism is. Please keep doing what you are doing. --and I agree, some of Eckhart Tolle's messages are cringe-worthy, but the man has some solid things to say, and I think we could actually have a "New Earth" if we all listened a little more closely. Our ego's are what destroy our "charisma" unlikely as that may sound. The book paints a beautiful picture of what I believe you [and Russel Brand] are talking about. Listen, absorb, take someone in for who they are, and not what they can do for you. This is how the world should be, love, acceptance, less unnecessary complexity. Hats off.
Alan Alan
Alan Alan 7 сарын өмнө
Russell: show how to connect with people. Also Russell: Send a divorce text to his wife while she's on stage performing.
Rocking Ronda
Rocking Ronda 7 сарын өмнө
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
Davin Chaffin
Davin Chaffin 7 сарын өмнө
Tf kinda gymnastics you talking about
Lee Faircloth
Lee Faircloth 7 сарын өмнө
I don't think there is anything charismatic about Russel Brand, never liked him in any movie and when I've heard him speak he's totally moronic. Next video thanks.
bridget 7 сарын өмнө
i recommend The Power of Now to literally everyone i meet
Enes Kayacan
Enes Kayacan 7 сарын өмнө
Read both books. Especially “a new world” changed my life.
KookV BTS 7 сарын өмнө
the blush point you made. that's what i want to work with. I have social anxiety. thanks for pointing it out. I or people like me would be glad if you focus on that specific topic, as to how to not get nervous or blush during interaction. it's really... hard to control myself, more like it became a reflex of mine. again, it could be because of my social anxiety.
Alfie Collins
Alfie Collins 4 сарын өмнө
I used to have a major problem with blushing. It was ruining my life to the point where I was actually on the verge of killing myself. So I understand how painful it can be. I had this problem for a few years, but now it's *completely* gone. The biggest help for me was actually *trying* to blush. Resisting a blush is what causes it. Conversely, it's impossible to blush if you're actively trying to blush. So *try* to make yourself as red as possible - never try to prevent it. You cannot blush by trying to blush, only by trying not to. The other thing is, that nobody actually *cares* (and will hardly ever notice) when you, or anyone else, blushes. If you're nervous or anxious, then sure, they might feel a little nervous too, but the actual physiological response of blushing will never make anyone uncomfortable (if they even notice). More generally with anxiety, I took the approach of *trying* to be as anxious as possible. I ended up giving up trying to calm myself down all the time. Instea, I tried to panic as much as possible! Counterintuitively, this will calm you down. It's really impossible to be anxious when you're actively trying to be anxious. It's resistance that causes the problems. In short, *try* to blush, *try* to be anxious, *try* to panic etc. This will be immeasurably helpful.
KookV BTS 7 сарын өмнө
I feel the same while texting someone too. so you see how that's a big issue of mine.
Firstname Lastname
Firstname Lastname 7 сарын өмнө
Ha ha ha this is very informative, my fellow human male. I will give this information on homo sapien on homo sapien interaction to my mothershi- friends.
Naj Renchelf
Naj Renchelf 7 сарын өмнө
People’s energy is called their Aura - at least that’s what it’s called in Sweden! I have a dear friend who just spreads calm, collected, cozy energy... and I love everything about it! 🥰
Gigi Hadid
Gigi Hadid 7 сарын өмнө
You look like you're related to that red-haired actor with freckles all over his face
syd 7 сарын өмнө
I think the more important note is when he says charisma is different for everyone. Russell’s charisma is not that easy for just anyone to behold. I’ve known people like Russell, extremely witty, off the cuff people. I’m into astrology, I know not everyone is, but this is a very Gemini thing in my experience. No matter how much I could try, I just don’t have that spontaneous wit. My brain processes conversations and exchanges in a different way. However, people have always called me charming. What it boils down to for me, is that I’m friendly, present, genuinely caring, playful, and naturally quirky. For me, I can’t even hide my offbeat personality if I try. But as you’ve covered in other videos, trying to hide that is the worst thing you can do. If you embrace it, it becomes your superpower.
Moonlight Pictures
Moonlight Pictures 7 сарын өмнө
My biggest issue is cutting people off because I'm afraid if I don't I'll never get a chance to speak bc I don't have anyone's respect.
John Galvin
John Galvin 24 өдрийн өмнө
Remember nobody has any defence against your complete attention...people always want to know what I think, but I give them a good listening to, not a good talking to. Listen your way forward, and you will always be asked back. Listen, ask questions, listen some more, and they'll soon be saying what a great conversationalist you are. Be Bold, you asked a short question, and see how long I took to answer it? .... ; )
Daniel Jaramillo
Daniel Jaramillo 7 сарын өмнө
~Being present in the moment~ This is literally the skill that you cultivate thought mindfulness meditation. Can't recommend this enough, it has helped so much with my social anxiety, I just let go of all the thoughts and emotions that would normally distract me when interacting with other people, making me more present. It's amazing.
Γιάνης Βαρουφάκης
Γιάνης Βαρουφάκης 7 сарын өмнө
Be yourself is the worst life advice.
Orlando Nunez
Orlando Nunez 7 сарын өмнө
Good To See You With Chad!!!
IDO MIZRACHI 7 сарын өмнө
I love hes accent accent
Millicent Keitsile
Millicent Keitsile 7 сарын өмнө
Just sending a shout to all those that are here trying to better themselves, we will make it, we will be charismatic
Speaking Freely
Speaking Freely 7 сарын өмнө
Why give your commentary or agree and disagree if you are trying to learn something from someone. First listen.
Crazy Otaku
Crazy Otaku 7 сарын өмнө
So quarantine just ended and I personally completely forgot how to even talk to people this guy's videos are life saving
soung somnang
soung somnang 7 сарын өмнө
Please can you do a video on "The Man from U.N.C.L.E."
Toby Marin
Toby Marin 7 сарын өмнө
Any videos on how to be a more confident speaker/ not stumble over words when talking out loud
With Utmost Taste
With Utmost Taste 7 сарын өмнө
I'd love it if you guys do one on Charles Barkley. He is very likable, yet is outspoken at the same time.
Rossi 7 сарын өмнө
picture of fat spiderman? anyone? only me?
Perceive Believe
Perceive Believe 7 сарын өмнө
Nikola Tesla's Last Known Living Assistant's Recorded Statement: "If you have read my book, The Wall of Light, you will know the first part is the life story of Tesla. This story was written by Tesla himself and you will note in this story that Tesla gives full credit to God for his ability to discover some amazing new ideas in the Bible. As I have mentioned before the microwave comes from the fourth chapter of Revelations. In many places in his work Tesla mentions the fact that he was inspired by Bible study to conceive his amazing ideas. His idea of the alternating current comes from the book of Matthew. In other words from the Trinity. Tesla explains that his microwave, for instance, is not what many others think it is. It is not a wave, it is a dimension. The actual dimension of the beam. Tesla clearly states that his microwave is a beam which grows smaller. But he states that it's diameter is smaller than the hair of your head."
Erik Beekman
Erik Beekman 7 сарын өмнө
Can you break down Chadwick Boseman/Black Panther charisma? R.I.P. Wakanda forever
a a
a a 7 сарын өмнө
Do one about Lionel Messi!
Kalinin Dippy
Kalinin Dippy 7 сарын өмнө
Wonderful to see you and hear from you again. Blessings and light. Thank you!
JoelMaiato 7 сарын өмнө
whats up with your hear man
Brandon Frederick
Brandon Frederick 7 сарын өмнө
Great points. If any of you ever want to read a great mindfulness book that is not cluttered with pseudoscience, I highly recommend former Google Engineer Chade-Meng Tang's Joy on Demand.
WaywardKrow 7 сарын өмнө
The spirituality isn't one I subscribe to personally, but I've found amazing results from simply visualizing it in singing: imagining streams of energy flowing through the body, somehow opened up areas that gave way for better sound. Regardless of it being bs or not, I think the idea of it still helps.
karolina zz
karolina zz 7 сарын өмнө
I really like your videos. I love observing interesting People and i like your analysis of their behavior. Would you do a video with Suranne Jones? What do you think about that?
Kenin Stuurman
Kenin Stuurman 7 сарын өмнө
Jesus is going to appear in the sky very soon. Love his appearing. Repent and bring your sins to the light. His appearing is the the great and terrible day of the Lord (Joel 2:31). For the wages of sin is death; but the gift (i.e. deliverance from sin) of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord (Romans 6:23). For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved (Romans 10:13). {11} For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, {12} Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; {13} Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; (Titus 2:11-13).
L C 7 сарын өмнө
Why do I find those beatty eyes disturbing and hard to look at?
Tommy Lanigan
Tommy Lanigan 7 сарын өмнө
You don't seem to separate the definition of "Be Yourself" and "Be Present". Russell isn't saying on that point to be yourself. He is saying to focus on what is around you and not to get trapped with inner monologue inside your head.
Brigitte Noreau
Brigitte Noreau 7 сарын өмнө
This video is bomb ! Very important and useful information. Thank you ! :)
Pure Glide
Pure Glide 7 сарын өмнө
I think your timestamps need zeros in front to work e.g. 00:00
beyondego 7 сарын өмнө
there is no such thing as free from fears and anxiety in a totally insane society obsessed with goals and achievements. What others seem to have that you don't is just a higher level of skill at "fake it until you make it". Looking from the outside some might look as though they master it but only they know how much noise is going on in their minds.
Amnesia 7 сарын өмнө
Make Jason Statham breakdown
M Taylor 2
M Taylor 2 7 сарын өмнө
let me go find/copy/paste a top comment from one of your old videos and pretend it's mine.
Jatin Vanzara
Jatin Vanzara 7 сарын өмнө
You should do charisma breakdown of "Karan Johar"
Anna H.
Anna H. 7 сарын өмнө
I like these kinds of reaction videos! More of that 😁
aryan misra
aryan misra 7 сарын өмнө
Book called charisma myth Also tells about 3Ps power, presence and...
Shubham Totla
Shubham Totla 7 сарын өмнө
@charismaoncommand try doing a video on Patrick Jane from the mentalist
Caleb Magnuson
Caleb Magnuson 7 сарын өмнө
The fact that Russell Brand isn’t an Orthodox Christian is astounding to me
Svetislav Milutinović
Svetislav Milutinović 7 сарын өмнө
Why is that? I'm from a orthodox country so I don't see why you say that
Tough 7 сарын өмнө
I see, he is promoting Being And Time, hardly know Heidigger.
Andreas Stein
Andreas Stein 7 сарын өмнө
So glad you're showing some love to Eckhart Tolle; his stuff was legit life-changing for me. Tolle's style of "spirituality" is less mystical and more a method of logical thinking that primes you to handle whatever life throws at you. Reading The Power of Now pretty much cured me of my clinical depression and anxiety, and A New Earth was great for helping me let go of things like bad habits and addictions. I saw a fantastic video recently where Russell Brand interviews Tolle that's really worth a search.
KD Moonchild
KD Moonchild 7 сарын өмнө
Great video!
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