How To Dissolve Social Fear And Connect With Anyone

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Charisma on Command

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Today is a very exciting day, because someone who I consider to be one of the most charismatic people in the world, Russell Brand, just made a video on how to be charismatic!
It's going to be very interesting to see if we have commonalities in how we see charisma :-)

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0:00 - Intro.
0:56 - #1: Be present in the moment.
1:58 - #2: Not everyone will like you, no matter what.
2:39 - #3: Don't expect anything from the interaction.
4:33 - #4: Use purposeful misinterpretation.
4:58 - #5: Take advantage of the "yes, and…" technique.
5:59 - #6: Don't skip the fundamental principles.
6:43 - #7: Don't just treat the symptom, address the core problem.
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Lady Sugarquill
Lady Sugarquill 8 өдрийн өмнө
I'd love to see a video on BTS. They are very charismatic but all of them are very different, its interesting how each has his own personal style that works for him
Linda Gutierrez
Linda Gutierrez 12 өдрийн өмнө
My only fear in social situations that I used to have, is when speaking to someone who is very shy and they don’t say much. My strategy is to start talking about food and invariably the shy person will start to contribute to the conversation. Problem solved.
Urvi Verkhedkar
Urvi Verkhedkar 18 өдрийн өмнө
Can you do a video on the charisma of the BTS members? Each of them has such a unique charismatic style: V with his cool, chill style, Jhope with his hyper energy, RM with his calm confidence, Jimin’s humour, etc...
Anth kubrak
Anth kubrak 18 өдрийн өмнө
Wish I could sub twice 🔥 nonstop amazing uploads
Elizabeth McCoy
Elizabeth McCoy 22 өдрийн өмнө
Can you do one on being charismatic on the internet? I feel like most in person skills don't transfer
DMT
DMT 22 өдрийн өмнө
Eckhart is an absolute life changer... Probably the best advice you could ever drop on your viewers, is to read A New Earth!
Toni Ann Barandon
Toni Ann Barandon 28 өдрийн өмнө
Those sentences in The Power of Now that you are referring to as pseudo science aren't science any kind of science at all. And not claiming to be. Presence precedes science. Science is of the mind. It comes from mental activity. The mind is a tool - it's not who we ARE. Consciousness precedes the mind. You won't find anything about Presence/Consciousness that can be explained by science. Not truly.
Bella Zella
Bella Zella Сарын өмнө
Excellent video , thank you
hansonel
hansonel Сарын өмнө
Love Russell Brand. He has such an amazing way with words and is one of the most charismatic spiritual celebrities IMO.
jamaal morrsion
jamaal morrsion 2 сарын өмнө
Love your videos bro I'm not going to lie your just full of fact
Cedric S
Cedric S 2 сарын өмнө
Awareness is a big part of charisma, I went along time without being able to pay attention
ׂ
ׂ 2 сарын өмнө
4:24-4:31 uh oh, someone made an oppsie.
X NATION
X NATION 2 сарын өмнө
Hey bro, hw do I stop shaky hands and nervousness when meeting strangers
Heather Rogers-Marshall
Heather Rogers-Marshall 2 сарын өмнө
Recovery helps develop authenticity.
TheFuschiaDragonfly
TheFuschiaDragonfly 2 сарын өмнө
Russel Brand is Charlie's boy crush and how to blame him-
Tony Sansevero
Tony Sansevero 2 сарын өмнө
Disappointing episode, you spend too much time trying to attach what you say to what he said, they were often 2 different things. Charisma tip #1, tone down your ego, it's been showing a lot more. Also, being 'present' does not mean 'be yourself' nor does it have to mean anything 'spiritual', more often it doesn't, and when you say that, it frankly makes you sound uneducated about a topic you know about. Being present is about mindfulness, shutting off all those places your brain is going and being in the moment. This video could have been much better.
Raining Sun
Raining Sun 3 сарын өмнө
We are but spiritual beings having a human experience. In regards to letting go of social fear, I'd also recommend 'The Courage to be Disliked'. It is written in the style of a greek myth and is very insightful. I learn something new each time I read it.
chloe d.
chloe d. 3 сарын өмнө
Arrasou, ótimo vídeo, você é muito inteligente
Jason Fan Club
Jason Fan Club 3 сарын өмнө
I like how happy you look watching these videos
Indigo Blau
Indigo Blau 3 сарын өмнө
Oh my gosh, I love your smile ^^
Flangelus
Flangelus 3 сарын өмнө
I 2nd this guys book recommendation...read both those books, preferred a new earth but both have to be read to get the full benefits. Btw Russel Brand has read Eckhart and follows his teachings too
H
H 3 сарын өмнө
Could u do one on HOW TO REACT TO BRAGFUL / BOOSTFUL FRIENDS
J Santos
J Santos 3 сарын өмнө
you should do Jason Momoa's persona breakdown. How did it become what it is today? it was a great metamorphosis of personality and nobody makes a breakdown of it
Carlos De La Torre
Carlos De La Torre 4 сарын өмнө
Do you have top 10 good books to read about working on conversation skills
Jyeah89
Jyeah89 4 сарын өмнө
Does it make you boring to not expect anything from anyone?? I'm confused :S
Loto Vázquez
Loto Vázquez 4 сарын өмнө
bro! you really rock what you share is so masterful!! In gratitude!!
Pique NY
Pique NY 4 сарын өмнө
Russel is confused as hell he didn’t know what he wants, this is why he Laches on to people (socially) awkwardly trying to figure if he is like them. Fake it till you make it mentally pretty much
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake 4 сарын өмнө
Dissolve fear by removing the expectation of getting something from the interaction... Best advice ever!!
Kindness Matters
Kindness Matters 2 сарын өмнө
So true.
Sirona Eazt
Sirona Eazt 4 сарын өмнө
The fat spiderman!
Faizan Yahya
Faizan Yahya 4 сарын өмнө
you look like nwet scamander.
Rayn Price
Rayn Price 4 сарын өмнө
I've noticed when I'm completely present and not in my head is when I say the best jokes and I express myself most easily. But it's definitely not easy to get to be present all the time.
Kevin
Kevin 4 сарын өмнө
"A new Earth" changed my life. I love how in step your journalism is. Please keep doing what you are doing. --and I agree, some of Eckhart Tolle's messages are cringe-worthy, but the man has some solid things to say, and I think we could actually have a "New Earth" if we all listened a little more closely. Our ego's are what destroy our "charisma" ...as unlikely as that may sound. The book paints a beautiful picture of what I believe you [and Russel Brand] are talking about. Listen, absorb, take someone in for who they are, and not what they can do for you. This is how the world should be, love, acceptance, less unnecessary complexity. Hats off.
G G
G G 4 сарын өмнө
Russell: show how to connect with people. Also Russell: Send a divorce text to his wife while she's on stage performing.
Rocking Ronda
Rocking Ronda 4 сарын өмнө
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
Davin Chaffin
Davin Chaffin 4 сарын өмнө
Tf kinda gymnastics you talking about
Lee Faircloth
Lee Faircloth 4 сарын өмнө
I don't think there is anything charismatic about Russel Brand, never liked him in any movie and when I've heard him speak he's totally moronic. Next video thanks.
bridget
bridget 4 сарын өмнө
i recommend The Power of Now to literally everyone i meet
Enes Kayacan
Enes Kayacan 4 сарын өмнө
Read both books. Especially “a new world” changed my life.
KookV BTS
KookV BTS 4 сарын өмнө
the blush point you made. that's what i want to work with. I have social anxiety. thanks for pointing it out. I or people like me would be glad if you focus on that specific topic, as to how to not get nervous or blush during interaction. it's really... hard to control myself, more like it became a reflex of mine. again, it could be because of my social anxiety.
Alfie Collins
Alfie Collins 2 сарын өмнө
I used to have a major problem with blushing. It was ruining my life to the point where I was actually on the verge of killing myself. So I understand how painful it can be. I had this problem for a few years, but now it's *completely* gone. The biggest help for me was actually *trying* to blush. Resisting a blush is what causes it. Conversely, it's impossible to blush if you're actively trying to blush. So *try* to make yourself as red as possible - never try to prevent it. You cannot blush by trying to blush, only by trying not to. The other thing is, that nobody actually *cares* (and will hardly ever notice) when you, or anyone else, blushes. If you're nervous or anxious, then sure, they might feel a little nervous too, but the actual physiological response of blushing will never make anyone uncomfortable (if they even notice). More generally with anxiety, I took the approach of *trying* to be as anxious as possible. I ended up giving up trying to calm myself down all the time. Instea, I tried to panic as much as possible! Counterintuitively, this will calm you down. It's really impossible to be anxious when you're actively trying to be anxious. It's resistance that causes the problems. In short, *try* to blush, *try* to be anxious, *try* to panic etc. This will be immeasurably helpful.
KookV BTS
KookV BTS 4 сарын өмнө
I feel the same while texting someone too. so you see how that's a big issue of mine.
Firstname Lastname
Firstname Lastname 5 сарын өмнө
Ha ha ha this is very informative, my fellow human male. I will give this information on homo sapien on homo sapien interaction to my mothershi- friends.
Naj Renchelf
Naj Renchelf 5 сарын өмнө
People’s energy is called their Aura - at least that’s what it’s called in Sweden! I have a dear friend who just spreads calm, collected, cozy energy... and I love everything about it! 🥰
Gigi Hadid
Gigi Hadid 5 сарын өмнө
You look like you're related to that red-haired actor with freckles all over his face
syd
syd 5 сарын өмнө
I think the more important note is when he says charisma is different for everyone. Russell’s charisma is not that easy for just anyone to behold. I’ve known people like Russell, extremely witty, off the cuff people. I’m into astrology, I know not everyone is, but this is a very Gemini thing in my experience. No matter how much I could try, I just don’t have that spontaneous wit. My brain processes conversations and exchanges in a different way. However, people have always called me charming. What it boils down to for me, is that I’m friendly, present, genuinely caring, playful, and naturally quirky. For me, I can’t even hide my offbeat personality if I try. But as you’ve covered in other videos, trying to hide that is the worst thing you can do. If you embrace it, it becomes your superpower.
Moonlight Pictures
Moonlight Pictures 5 сарын өмнө
My biggest issue is cutting people off because I'm afraid if I don't I'll never get a chance to speak bc I don't have anyone's respect.
Daniel Jaramillo
Daniel Jaramillo 5 сарын өмнө
~Being present in the moment~ This is literally the skill that you cultivate thought mindfulness meditation. Can't recommend this enough, it has helped so much with my social anxiety, I just let go of all the thoughts and emotions that would normally distract me when interacting with other people, making me more present. It's amazing.
Γιάνης Βαρουφάκης
Γιάνης Βαρουφάκης 5 сарын өмнө
Be yourself is the worst life advice.
Orlando Nunez
Orlando Nunez 5 сарын өмнө
Good To See You With Chad!!!
IDO MIZRACHI
IDO MIZRACHI 5 сарын өмнө
I love hes accent accent
Millicent Keitsile
Millicent Keitsile 5 сарын өмнө
Just sending a shout to all those that are here trying to better themselves, we will make it, we will be charismatic
Speaking Freely
Speaking Freely 5 сарын өмнө
Why give your commentary or agree and disagree if you are trying to learn something from someone. First listen.
Crazy Otaku
Crazy Otaku 5 сарын өмнө
So quarantine just ended and I personally completely forgot how to even talk to people this guy's videos are life saving
soung somnang
soung somnang 5 сарын өмнө
Please can you do a video on "The Man from U.N.C.L.E."
Toby Marin
Toby Marin 5 сарын өмнө
Any videos on how to be a more confident speaker/ not stumble over words when talking out loud
With Utmost Taste
With Utmost Taste 5 сарын өмнө
I'd love it if you guys do one on Charles Barkley. He is very likable, yet is outspoken at the same time.
Rossi
Rossi 5 сарын өмнө
picture of fat spiderman? anyone? only me?
Perceive Believe
Perceive Believe 5 сарын өмнө
Nikola Tesla's Last Known Living Assistant's Recorded Statement: "If you have read my book, The Wall of Light, you will know the first part is the life story of Tesla. This story was written by Tesla himself and you will note in this story that Tesla gives full credit to God for his ability to discover some amazing new ideas in the Bible. As I have mentioned before the microwave comes from the fourth chapter of Revelations. In many places in his work Tesla mentions the fact that he was inspired by Bible study to conceive his amazing ideas. His idea of the alternating current comes from the book of Matthew. In other words from the Trinity. Tesla explains that his microwave, for instance, is not what many others think it is. It is not a wave, it is a dimension. The actual dimension of the beam. Tesla clearly states that his microwave is a beam which grows smaller. But he states that it's diameter is smaller than the hair of your head."
Erik Beekman
Erik Beekman 5 сарын өмнө
Can you break down Chadwick Boseman/Black Panther charisma? R.I.P. Wakanda forever
a a
a a 5 сарын өмнө
Do one about Lionel Messi!
Kalinin Dippy
Kalinin Dippy 5 сарын өмнө
Wonderful to see you and hear from you again. Blessings and light. Thank you!
JoelMaiato
JoelMaiato 5 сарын өмнө
whats up with your hear man
Brandon Frederick
Brandon Frederick 5 сарын өмнө
Great points. If any of you ever want to read a great mindfulness book that is not cluttered with pseudoscience, I highly recommend former Google Engineer Chade-Meng Tang's Joy on Demand.
WaywardKrow
WaywardKrow 5 сарын өмнө
The spirituality isn't one I subscribe to personally, but I've found amazing results from simply visualizing it in singing: imagining streams of energy flowing through the body, somehow opened up areas that gave way for better sound. Regardless of it being bs or not, I think the idea of it still helps.
karolina zz
karolina zz 5 сарын өмнө
I really like your videos. I love observing interesting People and i like your analysis of their behavior. Would you do a video with Suranne Jones? What do you think about that?
Kenin Stuurman
Kenin Stuurman 5 сарын өмнө
Jesus is going to appear in the sky very soon. Love his appearing. Repent and bring your sins to the light. His appearing is the the great and terrible day of the Lord (Joel 2:31). For the wages of sin is death; but the gift (i.e. deliverance from sin) of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord (Romans 6:23). For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved (Romans 10:13). {11} For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, {12} Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; {13} Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; (Titus 2:11-13).
L C
L C 5 сарын өмнө
Why do I find those beatty eyes disturbing and hard to look at?
Tommy Lanigan
Tommy Lanigan 5 сарын өмнө
You don't seem to separate the definition of "Be Yourself" and "Be Present". Russell isn't saying on that point to be yourself. He is saying to focus on what is around you and not to get trapped with inner monologue inside your head.
Brigitte
Brigitte 5 сарын өмнө
This video is bomb ! Very important and useful information. Thank you ! :)
Pure Glide
Pure Glide 5 сарын өмнө
I think your timestamps need zeros in front to work e.g. 00:00
beyondego
beyondego 5 сарын өмнө
there is no such thing as free from fears and anxiety in a totally insane society obsessed with goals and achievements. What others seem to have that you don't is just a higher level of skill at "fake it until you make it". Looking from the outside some might look as though they master it but only they know how much noise is going on in their minds.
Amnesia
Amnesia 5 сарын өмнө
Make Jason Statham breakdown
M Taylor 2
M Taylor 2 5 сарын өмнө
let me go find/copy/paste a top comment from one of your old videos and pretend it's mine.
Jatin Vanzara
Jatin Vanzara 5 сарын өмнө
You should do charisma breakdown of "Karan Johar"
Anna H.
Anna H. 5 сарын өмнө
I like these kinds of reaction videos! More of that 😁
aryan misra
aryan misra 5 сарын өмнө
Book called charisma myth Also tells about 3Ps power, presence and...
Shubham Totla
Shubham Totla 5 сарын өмнө
@charismaoncommand try doing a video on Patrick Jane from the mentalist
Caleb Magnuson
Caleb Magnuson 5 сарын өмнө
The fact that Russell Brand isn’t an Orthodox Christian is astounding to me
Svetislav Milutinović
Svetislav Milutinović 5 сарын өмнө
Why is that? I'm from a orthodox country so I don't see why you say that
Tough
Tough 5 сарын өмнө
I see, he is promoting Being And Time, hardly know Heidigger.
Andreas Stein
Andreas Stein 5 сарын өмнө
So glad you're showing some love to Eckhart Tolle; his stuff was legit life-changing for me. Tolle's style of "spirituality" is less mystical and more a method of logical thinking that primes you to handle whatever life throws at you. Reading The Power of Now pretty much cured me of my clinical depression and anxiety, and A New Earth was great for helping me let go of things like bad habits and addictions. I saw a fantastic video recently where Russell Brand interviews Tolle that's really worth a search.
KD Moonchild
KD Moonchild 5 сарын өмнө
Great video!
Der Pferdeflüsterer
Der Pferdeflüsterer 5 сарын өмнө
Actually I think if I met russel brand in RL, I would perceive him as very creepy. In my opinion, he kinda gives manipulating vibes
Star Dust
Star Dust 5 сарын өмнө
Actually russell has really weird vibes for me... Like their sorta creepy and manipulative and too overwhelming yet so addicting.(I'm a girl btwlol)
Erik
Erik 5 сарын өмнө
I feel you, but that may just be his tv person
Shazistic
Shazistic 5 сарын өмнө
Good things don't come to those who wait. Good things come to those who pursue the goals and dreams they believe in. -The Shades
i am your boss
i am your boss 5 сарын өмнө
Hi Charlie, since you are on the concept of spirituality and already made a breakdown of Sadhguru and russell .....please do one for *Sri Sri Ravishankar* He is an indian Guru and gave me a profound experience in life
Adam Scott
Adam Scott 5 сарын өмнө
What if you did a sort of darker thing like how cult leaders attract their following so we can make sure we can see a charlatan when we meet one? That'd be really interesting from your perspective. Like a David Koresh or something.
Martin Angeles
Martin Angeles 5 сарын өмнө
nothing to lose mindset. Try it out
OffroadArmbar
OffroadArmbar 5 сарын өмнө
The Bible always comes in clutch for me
Sam Martin - Peak Performance
Sam Martin - Peak Performance 5 сарын өмнө
I saw Russel Brand live doing a talk at the Cambridge Union - I've never seen someone be able to hold an audience's attention as well as him. Definition of charisma!
SWIFTzTrigger
SWIFTzTrigger 5 сарын өмнө
He meditates a great deal, which is the practice of being present.
infuglenn
infuglenn 5 сарын өмнө
Great video!
Hannah
Hannah 5 сарын өмнө
Could you maybe do a video on how to remember names and faces? It’s something I really struggle with before I get to know people well and I always feel like I’m coming across as rude.
LalampaforLyfe
LalampaforLyfe 5 сарын өмнө
wow, i think i have just realized that you look like Eddie Redmayne
Kindness Matters
Kindness Matters 2 сарын өмнө
Both are such a delight.
asmaa elhosan
asmaa elhosan 5 сарын өмнө
Great video.thank you
Fergus Pitcher
Fergus Pitcher 5 сарын өмнө
Mindfulness through meditation is one way to cultivate presence
Alberto
Alberto 5 сарын өмнө
Dang I missed this guy
Priscilla Heeger
Priscilla Heeger 5 сарын өмнө
is kind of contradiction to run a charisma channel and to also listen to jake paul's podcast since the guy is a massive a-hole with everyone :/
Priscilla Heeger
Priscilla Heeger 5 сарын өмнө
just a thought, really like your videos charlie :)
Eduardo Perez Rubio
Eduardo Perez Rubio 5 сарын өмнө
Hey Charlie. Since you are doing reaction videos, would you consider doing one on James Corden's response to Bill Maher talking about fat-shaming? I feel Corden manages to address Bill like a friend in a respectful way about why what Bill said was wrong, but also manages to hold him to a higher standard, and is honestly a good reminder for me on how to stand up for what's right in a peaceful loving way.
Ark-Angel
Ark-Angel 5 сарын өмнө
mmmm double skippable ads
Ark-Angel
Ark-Angel 5 сарын өмнө
tysm btw xD
Cavin Wright
Cavin Wright 5 сарын өмнө
Bro you sound like Light Yagami lowkey.
zero
zero 5 сарын өмнө
can you predict the next election again?
Lithium
Lithium 5 сарын өмнө
Can you please make more charisma videos about the US election this year with Joe Biden and Donald Trump? The one's you made from the 2016 election were so interesting!
Chris
Chris 5 сарын өмнө
Wait, it's ALL Russell Brand?
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