7 Common Habits That Make People Lose Respect For You

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We've done several videos on this channel on how you can command respect through very subtle behavioral shifts, but there's a flip side to this. You can lose respect through very small behaviors, and you are probably doing several of these today.

In this video I will be talking about 7 common behaviors that I see all the time, that are causing you to lose respect, and what you can do instead so that you stop.


0:22 - #1: When the first thing you do is sharing your achievements.
1:38 - #2: Diverting your attention.
2:51 - #3: How you handle being interrupted.
4:01 - #4: Not following through on your words.
5:05 - #5: Instantly changing your energy levels based on who you're talking to.
6:34 - #6: Selling to your friends and family.
7:58 - #7: Lapses in honesty & integrity.


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Jj 11 цагийн өмнө
Sounds like what you are saying is to be respected you have to be rude to people being rude to you. Otherwise you’ll lose respect.
scott 12 цагийн өмнө
sleeping with there sisters and mothers
Heather L
Heather L Өдрийн өмнө
I’m terrible at not nicely accepting interruptions … perhaps it has become just so annoying by everyone around me … my kids, husband, mom … or maybe I’m just boring?
Eric Anderson
Eric Anderson Өдрийн өмнө
As with people that want to sell you something people that want you to give to there charity or support there cause are equally intolerable .
Electrology Now
Electrology Now 2 өдрийн өмнө
I do business in Japan. Typically (well, all the time) people immediately hand you their business card ... and, you are expected to hand them your business card. You must keep your card in a special holder ... Then, it is considered appropriate to stop and conversation, and read the entire card. Then, put their card in a very important place, e.g., your card holder, wallet or suit pocket; not in your pants pocket and never in your back pocket (near your butt). Different culture. In meetings it's typical that when you speak, the listeners at the table close their eyes ... but, that's another story.
yipe222 2 өдрийн өмнө
All you negative people saying smack about this brilliant man.....what have you done? He has over 4.5 million subscribers. Massive success is the best revenge in the world.
larry smith
larry smith 3 өдрийн өмнө
People who talk or show pictures of how adorable and smart their kids are. I find it boring and rude when we didn't even ask.
Sexy Rexxy
Sexy Rexxy 3 өдрийн өмнө
Cutco literally makes people do presentations with their friends and family first. Thats their business strategy
terry smith
terry smith 5 өдрийн өмнө
I lose respect for this nerd as soon as he opens his mouth LOL
Benjamin Antone
Benjamin Antone 5 өдрийн өмнө
tell everyone you have a very small wiener. Then when they find out it’s actually medium, you’ve earned respect.
Mangles Thecat
Mangles Thecat 5 өдрийн өмнө
I lose respect for MNpostrs that show excessive ads that disrupt their banter. Get a Job, Sonny!
Abdul S.
Abdul S. 6 өдрийн өмнө
The scary thing about respect is that it can be lost in a single second. I recently travelled overseas with my mother to see our family, and my mother got a lung infection that gave her serious trouble breathing. When we sent out my cousin (24-year old man) to go out and buy her some medication, he said to my mother on the phone “Ok auntie let’s hurry up please, I have a soccer game to watch”. At that very moment, my respect for him immediately plummeted-permanently. Respect is built over years, but can be lost over seconds.
Masterpuke 6 өдрийн өмнө
Having intercourse with a lizard at the zoo
Stephanie Rogers
Stephanie Rogers 10 өдрийн өмнө
Dang....The rules of interrupting. Who knew? Lol. I know people who drop their focus from me the moment any little distraction comes along. I’m gonna start walking off from now on when they do this. Lol. I can def say that I hate that selling to friends crap too. Ugh. Stop it!
Kippa DR
Kippa DR 10 өдрийн өмнө
5:16.... why dont you pledge your own advice?.... sounds like this person was actually excited about something...
Paladin 13 өдрийн өмнө
Answer your phone when I’m talking with you and I walk away EVERY TIME......
Alex Fetters
Alex Fetters 13 өдрийн өмнө
Making a porno while going through a divorce. Ex-in-laws saw. Yeah...
Nicolas Badenhorst
Nicolas Badenhorst 15 өдрийн өмнө
Respect is earned not given with class, money or title.. I don't need people to like me.. I like myself and that's enough! Getting people to like you sounds shallow and attention seeking!!
mrkiky 15 өдрийн өмнө
People liking each other is kind of a really good thing for the good functioning of society which benefits everyone eventually. If everyone had the mindset described by you we would be in big trouble.
Sasha Kagan
Sasha Kagan 16 өдрийн өмнө
dude you're beautiful
Musik Fiend
Musik Fiend 16 өдрийн өмнө
... aaaaaaand who really cares about others’ respect at the end of the day??
mrkiky 15 өдрийн өмнө
Everyone who wants to go anywhere in life. People are taking this self sufficient independent bs too far. You're not self sufficient, you're not independent. If you were to survive by yourself in the wild you would die. You live in society, you need society, you need other people. If other people respect you, it's good for you, because you need them and they need you.
King Robert
King Robert 17 өдрийн өмнө
Jerk off while talking to your in-laws
K R 17 өдрийн өмнө
When people meet me and in the first 3 sentences they tell me what they do (because it's impressive) and then goes 👁️👁️ What do YOU do? And everything gets quiet when your answer isn't a high earning job title. People where I live really tie respect to wealth and professional achievement. To me that situation is just them bragging and trying to find out how much respect you deserve to be given. It's akin to straight up asking how much money I make.
James Handley
James Handley 18 өдрийн өмнө
My best friend let’s take a trip to beach go here go there . He never follows through just all talk so it really hurt our friendship
Hector Ganzon
Hector Ganzon 19 өдрийн өмнө
4:50 could have been simply said as "white lies"
Astrain Ackers
Astrain Ackers 21 өдрийн өмнө
Am I only teenager interested in this content?
The Barbar Show
The Barbar Show 22 өдрийн өмнө
Your friends are not your clients.
Coach Lee
Coach Lee 22 өдрийн өмнө
Don’t make an excuse before you attempt something as though you expect to fail and want to explain why it’s okay.
Angela Sheasley
Angela Sheasley 22 өдрийн өмнө
LOVE your channel and your messages! I wish I could have heard your wisdom over 30 years ago!
Frances Bernard
Frances Bernard 23 өдрийн өмнө
Just weeks and months while no efforts are being made to follow through what was being talked about maybe doing? That does make sense on how to get less respect. Another thing. Obvious that it is better just to avoid sticking around for very long in any place where trying to meet expectations is going to be impossible where most of the people there running the place are being disrespectful of your time and ability to follow through because of their gossip and racism. I read a book once in which the author gave the advice not to tell anyone about your plans ever until they are almost fully carried out. That way no one can gossip about you behind your back about that too. If someone in the past got only taken advantage of after being given lots of promises and then when you stood up for yourself maybe while over reacting somewhat don't believe for a second that the same can never happen to you next. More true if it was a close relative of yours.
Chad Z
Chad Z 23 өдрийн өмнө
When I realize this isn't information, but advertising for audible 🤣😂🤫
Triece 23 өдрийн өмнө
last one doesn’t really make sense....there’s nothing wrong with supporting your family lol. Very loose way of interpreting selling to family . Especially if they want your product. A costumer is a costumer
John Pogel
John Pogel 23 өдрийн өмнө
5:00 Rekt
Lupas Wolfshead
Lupas Wolfshead 25 өдрийн өмнө
So what your saying is xxxx no what I'm saying is what I said. Do you think that was appropriate. I do what is the most efficient action to the situation not whats socially acceptable. My daughters needs come first but what about your wife's needs children's act 1989 the childs needs must come first UK law binds me .🙄
patricia stewart
patricia stewart 28 өдрийн өмнө
Right!!! Zeigglah glomming on to the billionaire's brother at the Yoga retreat.....She got him to marry her...vanished in Mumbai
Poly Liker
Poly Liker 28 өдрийн өмнө
The selling to friends and family thing plus the not following through on their word was a real thing and why I lost a ton of respect for one of my friends. We were best buds in highschool, lost contact and went our own ways. I contacted him last year to get in touch again. We planned to go and hang out when he was back in town, he was back in town, he didn't tell me and we never hung out. I found that out through a mate. Made me feel like he couldn't be depended on anymore. Then he started selling me his cd, his band is pretty good so I didn't mind too much and wanted to support him but it did feel a little like I was being used. Now I don't even feel the drive to contact him anymore. Quite a shame because we used to engage in a lot of shenanigans and knew virtually everything about eachother.
Izzy Bee
Izzy Bee 28 өдрийн өмнө
Stop pursuing like you got all the unswers.
Layla Luann
Layla Luann Сарын өмнө
Alot can be said about people who are humble and let their actions speak for them. There is no reason to brag about your moral beliefs and claim that you are so very good and others are so very bad. We can all understand that there are bad behaviors and good behaviors that all people possess but when you put yourself on a pedestal of perfection all your really doing is inevitably setting yourself up for being called a hypocrite when you mess up or just generally coming off as a mean spirited non relatable non compassionate person. I really wanted to say that.
ForestCity Fishing
ForestCity Fishing Сарын өмнө
You should name these videos, "How to be a fake person".
8gomerpyle22 Сарын өмнө
His mouth is way too big.
Nélia Ferreira
Nélia Ferreira Сарын өмнө
#15 Claiming to know everything. They want to impress themselves so much they have know more than experts and won't accept your corrections or different perspective.
Jeff Da Silva
Jeff Da Silva Сарын өмнө
Gaining respect from doing somthing hard is relative. What is easy for me is hard for you. And vice versa and most of the time nobody notices how hard it can be.
Nélia Ferreira
Nélia Ferreira Сарын өмнө
Hence humility with our own achievements. Hence praising someone else's.
Yeshey Dolma
Yeshey Dolma Сарын өмнө
Lovee u broo
Vin Peruri
Vin Peruri Сарын өмнө
I understand this guy he speaks my language
CJ Alexander Jr
CJ Alexander Jr Сарын өмнө
Number 6 is so true. I know (knew) four people who were involved in pyramid scams. Two of them were friends. They ruined their relationships because these scams function like a cult. My respect for them went out the window.
Carter Elford
Carter Elford Сарын өмнө
Love the channel. I thought it was funny when you said not to sell things to family and friends , and immediately after hits us with a sale pitch to audible hehehe
blood.sugarbaby Сарын өмнө
Being in a 3rd world culture, i think #6 doesn't really pose any hard and fast rules. But definitely in the world of sales, friends and family are better for getting referrals from
you good?
you good? Сарын өмнө
why does he have the same smile as the joker
Brenda K
Brenda K Сарын өмнө
The business card scenario reminds me of the movie American Psycho.
Flor Garza
Flor Garza Сарын өмнө
Why are all the thumbnails old white men. Do you have to be an old white man to be charismatic because I am not and don't want to be one.
Karl B
Karl B Сарын өмнө
Holyshit that was amazing when you said stop selling to the people in your social network this is the very reason people hate car salesman because all car dealerships tell you to do exactly that
Ike Сарын өмнө
How to avoid losing respect: don't behave like a politician. I must admit I find that ironic.
Manfro gaming
Manfro gaming Сарын өмнө
I remember this one guy who came to my family’s thanksgiving party and tried to sell his homemade bracelets.... needless to say, lost all respect, should’ve thrown him out.
Oliver Ford
Oliver Ford Сарын өмнө
I had a friend who would always talk about new jobs. Starting clothing lines, etc. He never followed through and it just became funny after a while.
littlekrupuk Сарын өмнө
He must be good kisser 😍
Brittany Harris
Brittany Harris Сарын өмнө
Wait this channel is run by a hot dude? Impressed.
Stephanie Aston
Stephanie Aston Сарын өмнө
Big cringe inducer, here: I have a friend whom tries to sell blankets through her personal page, and she will sometimes try to use family posts to plug her product.🤦🏼‍♀️ For example: One time, she posted about a family trip to the movies, and talked about how much her children loved using their(Insert brand name of the blankets she’s trying to sell here...) blankets to stay warm while watching the movie.🤪 One of my biggest pet peaves in the entire universe is when one of my friends starts trying to sell something on Facebook, and invites me to join the sales group that they created, or join their online sells event! What’s even worse...??? When I decline, and they have the audacity to re-invite!🙄🤦🏼‍♀️😜
Razum Tazum
Razum Tazum Сарын өмнө
One of the sentiments I like to live by: If you need to constantly remind others why they should respect you, you don't deserve their respect.
Vitamin Head
Vitamin Head 2 сарын өмнө
Even the ad at the end, has value to it
Samantha Hodson
Samantha Hodson 2 сарын өмнө
Some of these points are so obvious..... I feel like they are tutorials for psychopaths on how to be normal
Sideshow Sworld
Sideshow Sworld 2 сарын өмнө
I kinda wanna make instruction manuals and start handing them out
Firefly 2 сарын өмнө
God I hate #6. I lost an old friend from high school after many years because we hadn’t spoken in a little while and she comes out of the blue pushing hard to sell something to my wife whom she’d never met. Totally gross. Then she just fell off. Haven’t spoken to her in years
Pixel Issue
Pixel Issue 2 сарын өмнө
The point about not raising money from friends and family is a little misguided. Startups are always advised to go through the initial stage by raising pre-seed capital from the founder, friends and family BEFORE raising capital from investors at seed stage.
Tom F
Tom F 2 сарын өмнө
Saying 'I'll leave the tip'; then asking if anyone has change for a dollar.
ruha p
ruha p 2 сарын өмнө
Bringing up my victim status while talking really loud and aggressive seems to throw people for a loop.
TheButcher6969 2 сарын өмнө
You be who you are. I don't do fake. The right people will stay. Eagles will share a mountain together but you'll never see them flock.
Kacey Kace
Kacey Kace 2 сарын өмнө
I use #2/3 at work all the time. Customers eally hate when I don't prioritize them over other customers.
Adrian Daniels
Adrian Daniels 2 сарын өмнө
I've done the finish sentence thing before. Doesn't always work.
Bruce Thomas
Bruce Thomas 2 сарын өмнө
This obviously don't apply to pilots...
Matthew Whitmore
Matthew Whitmore 2 сарын өмнө
His smile seems to go from ear to ear
Guardian Gibbs
Guardian Gibbs 2 сарын өмнө
Would it be inappropriate to share this on my churches facebook page? My fellow church goers are very guilty of several of these, especially trying to sell us things.
No Soy Hater No Soy Hater
No Soy Hater No Soy Hater 2 сарын өмнө
Anybody think he might be a psychopath? 🤔
Sjwaria Law
Sjwaria Law 2 сарын өмнө
Point 6 is particularly interesting to me as I sell handmade jewelry. Often family and friends talk about someday buying something from me and that I should show them what I have. And I never do, no way I'm going to grab my things and go show them, absolutely not, if they want to see them, if they are really interested they should come to me, or to one of the events I will be selling.
SPAGHETTIEST 2 сарын өмнө
ur mouth is big enough to...idk...do something that would require a big mouth got'em
Fried Mule
Fried Mule 2 сарын өмнө
8: Talk negatively about people who are not present!
Rambo, John J.
Rambo, John J. 2 сарын өмнө
#1 rule: “Those who want respect, give respect” -Tony Soprano
Jason McCartney
Jason McCartney Сарын өмнө
cat elmes
cat elmes 2 сарын өмнө
What if you just live in a small town in Texas. They would just knock you the ef out dude
cat elmes
cat elmes 2 сарын өмнө
If the matrix guy walked in I would crap my pants he's so awesome
Justin Sanford
Justin Sanford 2 сарын өмнө
"Do I constantly talk about an achievement?" That doesn't sound like me. Not at all, I'm very humble... But have I mentioned I'm a pilot?
Charlie Petersen
Charlie Petersen Сарын өмнө
I bet I'm more humble than you. ;)
TheDizastarmaster 2 сарын өмнө
This guy oozes fake
Vociferon Herald of the Winter Mist
Vociferon Herald of the Winter Mist 2 сарын өмнө
I'm going to start digging through your videos, but if you've already addressed it, please tell me where I can learn how to DISINGAGE from a person who's latched onto me at a party. I'm talking about the shy girl who I chat with because she's alone and quiet and I don't want to feel left out who immediately begins to launch into her history with mental illness or her abusive dad or her current life drama. Or the nice person who you're talking with who won't let you mingle at all. I tend to find myself caught by people at some point and that becomes the rest of my night. I have NO idea how to get out so I just keep playing interested because I don't want them to feel bad. I don't know how to extract myself gracefully.
Charlie Petersen
Charlie Petersen Сарын өмнө
@Vociferon Herald of the Winter Mist Sounds like you've already identified what the problem is. :)
Vociferon Herald of the Winter Mist
Vociferon Herald of the Winter Mist Сарын өмнө
@Charlie Petersen I've tried that. A couple of times. Didn't go well. I think the problem is that I will speak to the shy person in the corner. I want everyone to feel included, so I'll be the one to approach the wall flower. I'm coming to realize that the problem is that there's a reason many of those people are alone in the first place. On the flip side, that's how I met my two very best friends. Two terribly shy people who are actually lovely human beings with a fantastic sense of humor. They've been my BFF's for decades now. I've just got to be able to tell 'shy' from 'super weird.'
Charlie Petersen
Charlie Petersen Сарын өмнө
Go to the bathroom?
Timothy Russell
Timothy Russell 2 сарын өмнө
I understand the overlap in the use of social techniques but I wanted some tips on professional interactions and now lots of dating vids are coming up in recommended vids. I hope my wife isn't seeing that when u walk away from my laptop and thinking that I'm shopping around. Haha
tantarell 2 сарын өмнө
U lost my respect when u were trying to sell us that book...
John Dionne
John Dionne 2 сарын өмнө
Do you know when I lose respect for people,is when they can’t get enough likes they have to use plug inns and referrals in there video to make up the loss in likes 🤣👍
lesly demshaw
lesly demshaw 2 сарын өмнө
I encountered one of the most rare things on the planet last week. A vegan that didn't say he was a vegan to me until I asked.
phrozenscore 2 сарын өмнө
When it's all the same people want to do business with their friends.
DogOfHades 2 сарын өмнө
4 and 7 are interconnected I believe
Loki Asgrimrsson
Loki Asgrimrsson 2 сарын өмнө
I'm apart of this company that sells paper clips in bulk. The overhead is insane. Wanna talk about it? I can get you a sweet deal.
Annette Gustafson
Annette Gustafson 2 сарын өмнө
He has, like, a hundred teeth
zeoliz71 2 сарын өмнө
what does seed the floor mean?
Kaden970 3 сарын өмнө
Hi I’m Kaden and I have a level 55 Mage in wow classic. Impressed?
Jed McDonald
Jed McDonald 3 сарын өмнө
You're giving a great service at a time when social skills perhaps are not being developed enough. Thanks you, it's very kind.
Mervyn Greene
Mervyn Greene 3 сарын өмнө
An important corrollary to no. 6 has to do with charity fundraising. I have a lot of former classmates, family, friends, etc. who are very successful financially (rich). They are constantly being barraged with donation requests. I have seem them literally run away from some people. I NEVER approached these people for donations. I will tell my friends what I am doing. If they seem interested, I might suggest we have coffee, drinks so time to talk more.
dseggar 3 сарын өмнө
having to overthink things so much makes me lose so much faith and appreciation for society... sorry man, but as much as I admired you... this one precise video, all these habits you describe as making someone losing respect for someone, they simply break my heart
Дмитрий Д
Дмитрий Д 3 сарын өмнө
Charlie, you are a unique person. I'm afraid you are that 0,01% of the people i actually like.
Krista 3 сарын өмнө
These seem so obvious but i guess that's what's wrong, we don't look at ourselves like others do. Thanks for insight
Pataganja 3 сарын өмнө
Number 6 feels like it’s personal to you bro lol
Frederik Schou Ovesen
Frederik Schou Ovesen 3 сарын өмнө
Only thing that you can sell to friends and family and still gain respect is weed
J 3 сарын өмнө
If you instantly talk about your aheivmentents in a jocular, self aware fashion, this could actually be seen as funny and endearing, and attract people.
Daniela Ortega
Daniela Ortega 3 сарын өмнө
Now whose being hypocritical when you stated using your platform to endorse another business!
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