7 Common Habits That Make People Lose Respect For You

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We've done several videos on this channel on how you can command respect through very subtle behavioral shifts, but there's a flip side to this. You can lose respect through very small behaviors, and you are probably doing several of these today.

In this video I will be talking about 7 common behaviors that I see all the time, that are causing you to lose respect, and what you can do instead so that you stop.


0:22 - #1: When the first thing you do is sharing your achievements.
1:38 - #2: Diverting your attention.
2:51 - #3: How you handle being interrupted.
4:01 - #4: Not following through on your words.
5:05 - #5: Instantly changing your energy levels based on who you're talking to.
6:34 - #6: Selling to your friends and family.
7:58 - #7: Lapses in honesty & integrity.


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Blake Fauset
Blake Fauset 9 цагийн өмнө
One habit that makes me lose respect for people are click bait looking titles.
masterninja74 8 өдрийн өмнө
What if you tell someone that you're going to do something soon, but whenever you go to do it you are overcome by irrational fear and end up not doing x when you said you would?
zanyar baez
zanyar baez 11 өдрийн өмнө
I recently watched a lot of your video they are incredible, the outstanding thing is when I implement them they work magically sometimes just by remembering them Especially the video that you talked about crack a joke by saying the opposite of what people expect worked for me unbelievably. Thank you so much for all the great and phenomenal stuff, wish one day join your course
Griffin P
Griffin P 21 өдрийн өмнө
I wanna know the people who dislike these videos! I want names!
jamie g
jamie g 29 өдрийн өмнө
This is by far the best advice channel on MNpost
quinn boone
quinn boone Сарын өмнө
I feel like I'm just absorbing content through osmosis....
mikail rogers
mikail rogers Сарын өмнө
he's so pretty, I can't handle it
thesharkboy87 Сарын өмнө
I disagree with what you said about people with no follow through. We just have dreams and want someone who's willing to entertain the idea to it's logical end or even encourage them to develop the idea
Lilly Love
Lilly Love Сарын өмнө
I don't fully agree on number 6. What if that's the only reason i'm on social media.
Alaina Asked
Alaina Asked 2 сарын өмнө
HA! Jokes on you, they can’t los something they never had!
Hannah Sauer
Hannah Sauer 2 сарын өмнө
Not respecting others or your own needs and feelings, their capability to decide for themselves or not to decide for one self and not valuating one's own or others time
Gay Chase
Gay Chase 2 сарын өмнө
I watched this video earlier this week as background noise while getting ready for work. Earlier today I was in a group talking and unconsciously... whenever I was interrupted I would stop, wait, and then continue what I was saying. This is such a major change for me because I used to feel so bad about myself whenever I’d let people just cut me off and go completely silent. So just wanted to say thanks for these vids.
Rex II ForSure
Rex II ForSure 2 сарын өмнө
I lost respect for a friend when he put all of his 259lbs on a vending machine, resulting in the front panel opening up. Initially he took all the coins in the bin, but ‘thought better’ and only took about 1/2 of the coins, maybe $50. I lost respect for my friend; 2 prominent reasons: 1) first and foremost he stole 2) but if he really was compelled to steal , he should have taken all the coins instead of being hypocritical, like as if leaving some coins would make the theft less of a sin
SovietBrigadier 3 сарын өмнө
I usually revive a dying conversation with "Do you play Minecraft?"
I don't respect you because you look like a soy boy.
Frank Sellers
Frank Sellers 3 сарын өмнө
The Audible sales pitch at the end really made me lose respect for him. He broke his own rule about not trying to sell crap to friends and family, and we're all his friends here. Aren't we...?
Cfora Day
Cfora Day 4 сарын өмнө
Don't monetize your social network few min later. This video is brought to you by.....
Jackson McAvoy
Jackson McAvoy 4 сарын өмнө
Can't be annoying about your achievements if you don't have any.
Why Aren't You Vegan?
Why Aren't You Vegan? 4 сарын өмнө
I like how the layout of your videos is an expression of the sense of integrity that you preach. What I mean is that I actually listen to your ad inserts, because I truly believe that you are trying to help your viewers out by telling us about these things. The fact that you place your ad inserts at the end of your content, rather then the start like every other youtuber I've ever seen, makes me absolutely more willing to hear you out. You really take the risk to "earn" my attention before you tell me I should go buy something., and this makes me put more stock into everything that you say. The fact that you advertise other people's content (books in this case), rather then your own, on your own platform, makes me compelled to pay attention to every word you say. I mean, what a solid guy! Man, this channel is such a gem. I tell people about it at our animal-rights activist events, and I use these techniques when conversing with the public.
Matt LeFait Music
Matt LeFait Music 4 сарын өмнө
Great video!
Tom Speer
Tom Speer 4 сарын өмнө
This guy looks like a male version of Cameron Diaz!
Super Hero
Super Hero 4 сарын өмнө
I'm listening at 0,75 pace.
orelas1 4 сарын өмнө
That sixth one reminds me of this old classmate I tried to connect with every now and then on Facebook. In literally every reply post to me he would end with asking what my religion is, like he was ready to launch into a conversion sermon at any moment. I thought it cheapened our old acquaintance with each other.
Mia Angelica
Mia Angelica 4 сарын өмнө
He’s so cute🥺
Lara Lorentz
Lara Lorentz 4 сарын өмнө
so good!
Suing for Intelligence
Suing for Intelligence 5 сарын өмнө
One of the types of interruptions that don’t bother me at all is when I’m telling a story and someone is like “whoa, whoa, whoa, really?(insert question about deeper context relating to the story)” that doesn’t bother me I love answering the questions. I’m also one of those people who will interrupt a story to ask about the deeper context of certain things.
Jasha 5 сарын өмнө
6:34 mlm lmaooo
LP OLPM 5 сарын өмнө
gotta be honest for a guy that talks about "charisna" i lost interest in the video really fast even with useful information.
lonely les
lonely les 5 сарын өмнө
My step dad would also come into mine and my sister’s room and share these marketable ideas he had all the time. It was honestly so exhausting because he goes on about how successful it can be to never pursue it because it’s just a fancy idea that he wants someone to make for him to profit off of...
Diego Vallejo
Diego Vallejo 6 сарын өмнө
where are you, you are the power house of this chanell
Rachelle Cox
Rachelle Cox 6 сарын өмнө
Comment on Finish your sentences strongly. A lot of women talk softly and tend to mumble. Any Shumer and Rebel Wilson both do that in their movies.
MattMan420 6 сарын өмнө
A friend on Facebook started flooding my feed with her “journey” using these crystal light type of drink mixes, and how we need to buy them from her, and become a rep like her, and how awesome it is. “There’s one for everyone! Weight loss, sleep aid, natural energy boost, and more!” Anyone on Facebook etc like that, as you mentioned, instantly gets hidden from my timeline. (Not unfriended though)
OxyElite 6 сарын өмнө
8, not replacing the toilet roll when you were the last to finish it
Steven Zhu
Steven Zhu 6 сарын өмнө
Did you insert a Kirby Allison video whilst saying "shoehorn"
Jon Mermelstein
Jon Mermelstein 7 сарын өмнө
tbh i think this guy is a tool but this is a phenomenal video with great advice.
Matthew Grech
Matthew Grech 7 сарын өмнө
Jerking off in front of your colleagues at a business meeting.
JJ Kang
JJ Kang 7 сарын өмнө
Sycophantic is the word for #5
Sycophantic Witness
Sycophantic Witness 7 сарын өмнө
Hate to say this but... I am little bothered with him swaying his hands like that.
Chirpa Patel
Chirpa Patel 7 сарын өмнө
Number 6 - Le-Vel Thrive I’m looking at you...😒
Strange Animations
Strange Animations 7 сарын өмнө
Being a simp
Ilda 7 сарын өмнө
So true¡
sarikatimmi 7 сарын өмнө
nailedd it. got all seven.
Palm Tree
Palm Tree 7 сарын өмнө
Point 2 i don't agree much with your suggestion , or better the initial part of your suggestion. Someone interrupting is rude agreed, but ignoring him/her is as rude. Anyway the people engaged in the conversation will feel the intruder presence anyway, and they will lose concentration and they will end the conversation little after. Plus, and tnis is really unpleasant in my opinion the person who ignores the intruder look like he wants to play the school teacher that gives a little lesson... 😝 My suggestion is just turn quickly towards the intruder and tell him /her to wait a minute. Nobody will feel embarrassed and a minute might means 5 who cares...
Renenlilje 7 сарын өмнө
Unfortunately a lot of your advice don't help with someone whos hard of hearing. Im tired like all the time and being high energy level with everyone (your 5th point) is just not possible. I need to compromise
Tan S
Tan S 7 сарын өмнө
I don't actually believe anything says. OK! he is absolutely not a real person, so forget about it!
LittleR 7 сарын өмнө
8: going out when in quarantine
Philip Noonan
Philip Noonan 7 сарын өмнө
Thank you so much. You’ve made my days. Respect, man.
Aayush Srivastava
Aayush Srivastava 8 сарын өмнө
This guy looks a lot like Robin Van Persie
turtle_food 8 сарын өмнө
Step 1: take a bunch of cocaine Step 2: make yt channel Step 3: ??? Step 4: cash in
Anxiety M
Anxiety M 8 сарын өмнө
is this guy jack frost
Gabriela M.
Gabriela M. 8 сарын өмнө
Am I the only one that thinks he looks like the Elongated Man from The Flash?
Liam Kite
Liam Kite 8 сарын өмнө
Just pass a GTA San Andreas mission to earn respect
Quagsire Mcgee
Quagsire Mcgee 8 сарын өмнө
But what about talking about what you do? My memory isn't the strongest so I end up just retelling different things I learned and what I did that day, or plan to do. I don't think I'm gloating, but I usually only remember the bigger this I did. Is that ok?
Adriana Perezz
Adriana Perezz 8 сарын өмнө
I think he would make a good joker 🃏
murdoch chan
murdoch chan 8 сарын өмнө
earthdog 58
earthdog 58 8 сарын өмнө
In Asia, exchanging business cards is always the first thing you do when meeting someone.
Tim Mitchell
Tim Mitchell 8 сарын өмнө
One thing I figured out about six years ago that helped me immensely is my perspective on lying. I used to view lying as something I was doing against another person. Then about six years ago it hit me - 99.9% of the time lying does absolutely nothing to the person you're lying to; it just makes them lose respect for you. Even if they don't know you're not telling the truth, it brings on an air of desperation. The best way to go is to adopt the attitude that you don't owe anyone a made-up story.
rodriqcc 8 сарын өмнө
Like how you put the time stamps under the title. Now i can take a quick pic and think on it later. 👍👍
Dual Fox
Dual Fox 8 сарын өмнө
I bet he's super ticklish 😁
Piterixos 8 сарын өмнө
8. Pretending to still go on with the main topic of the video even though it's already a sponsorship part. Instantly causes me to lose a huge chunk of respect to a given content creator.
stevenstrumpf7 8 сарын өмнө
Kieran Czyzniejewski
Kieran Czyzniejewski 8 сарын өмнө
#6 is so true. It makes me loose so much respect for the people who do it
Burak Ergin
Burak Ergin 9 сарын өмнө
Subtitle plis I new learning english bro
Diana Diamond
Diana Diamond 9 сарын өмнө
i love ur channel!!
Ivan 9 сарын өмнө
1- Hello internet people, you don't know me but I once completed a 1000 piece puzzle ... OF POPCORNS. They all looked soo similar. I know right? Craaazy.
Huseet 9 сарын өмнө
Is it just me or does this guy look like Ralph Dibny?
Mike Thompson
Mike Thompson 9 сарын өмнө
I often fail to follow through with things I tell my boss... it's weird to me because most of my life, and in my personal life, I generally follow through. I used to always follow through. I know I loose respect with him, but I also seem to oddly gain respect from him too... He never gives me a chance to shine, and when I've shined he's never really rewarded me in any way I find compelling. I generally feel like "why the F did I bother?". He doesn't care, I don't care... why care? It's bothered me, especially considering how I used to be, so recently I've decided F him, I care about me and who I am. Just gunna work on myself. I think the further I fall with him, and then I bounce back, the more he respects me... Kind of like I have to show I'm struggling with my work... hell, I've spent about two months on a project that would literally take me less than 1 week if I cared to do it. He's not happy, but I throw him a bone once a week. Each week he's more and more excited... like I've struggled to do this insanely hard task that I find insanely easy... I literally do about two hours of work each week... Yeah, I know... sounds like a sweet gig to a lot of people... it's prison surrounded by enemies, just doing my time till I can get out...
Flor González
Flor González 9 сарын өмнө
Not recognizing when you mess up and make excuses or getting mad yourself with the other people when you know that what you did was wrong. Instant respect loss.
Legendas Monarquicas
Legendas Monarquicas 9 сарын өмнө
This made me remember a lot of "friends" that I really don´t miss at all.
USM3C 9 сарын өмнө
#6 is a huge pet peeve of mine. When I see a "friend" on Facebook doing this, it makes me want to steer clear of any conversation with them.
Jorginho gg
Jorginho gg 9 сарын өмнө
add Portuguese subtitles to videos, please
Freelance Generalist
Freelance Generalist 9 сарын өмнө
This handsome man's face is like a computer algorithm of charismatic attributes cranked up.
skanvak 9 сарын өмнө
5/ I am really puzzled about this one. I fully agree on the effect but I tend to think it genuine and very difficult to engage in boring or small talk.
Linden Hile
Linden Hile 9 сарын өмнө
His pauses and looking away from the camera when telling the "personal experience" stories make me think they might be made-up.
Santi Cruz
Santi Cruz 9 сарын өмнө
I would use my friends and family only to criticize my product :) They are usually brutally honest
Lord Vader
Lord Vader 10 сарын өмнө
Is there any tips on reviving a reputation? Or how to gain respect after posting crappy things on FaceBook and being a failure in everything you intended?
Luke Weyant
Luke Weyant 10 сарын өмнө
Luke Weyant
Luke Weyant Сарын өмнө
Zion Zix because it is a strong message that needs to be in all caps. Very important, therefor; all caps.
Zion Zix
Zion Zix Сарын өмнө
Why did you type that in all caps?
MrETHAN1218 10 сарын өмнө
omg no. 6 was me with Amway network marketing. people never avoided me with such enthusiasm
Ash The Duke
Ash The Duke 10 сарын өмнө
main thing is we should teach kids to respect others
Rix Hernandez
Rix Hernandez 10 сарын өмнө
haha MLM ! Gotta love those recruiters.
Karolcreepers 10 сарын өмнө
"Selling to your friends and family" Proceeds to talk about audible
2020Gabriel Fitzgerald
2020Gabriel Fitzgerald 10 сарын өмнө
Im trying to watch the video but my mom is very loud can you add cc?
Damjan Radovanović
Damjan Radovanović 10 сарын өмнө
Lol my uncle sells stuff to his family members and friends. It's ok though, it's home brewed spirits ;)
BSA 悟 10 сарын өмнө
The fact that this guy looks so similar to Joe from 'You' gives me da creeps
UA's Ultimate Despair
UA's Ultimate Despair 10 сарын өмнө
His smile is bigger than my will to live
Ally Katt
Ally Katt 10 сарын өмнө
I never thought about #5. Not sure if I’ve ever done that but definitely gave me something to think about. Thank you.
Asat XO
Asat XO 10 сарын өмнө
Please, do the video about Jack Sparrow. I wonder how is he so charismatic personality? I think he really is and i am sure no one can do it better than you. Thanks🙏
Shaun Rambaran
Shaun Rambaran 10 сарын өмнө
I've experienced (and seen at other times) an even more charismatic way of handling interjections (re: 2:22). When I'd interjected, the speaker didn't look away from the person being spoken to, but instead he reached his hand over and warmly held onto my shoulder to keep me in place. I found it so cool! It was like wordlessly saying to me, "I do hear you. I do like you. Don't go anywhere because I'll respond to you in just a sec'."
Ben Maghsoodi
Ben Maghsoodi 10 сарын өмнө
I think this guy is a psychopath
Nobody Yes
Nobody Yes 10 сарын өмнө
You would make a good Joker.👌
Marius Gurau
Marius Gurau 11 сарын өмнө
When you say do not sell things to friends and family then you proceed selling things to your viewers, this ia how you lise respect for your youtube channel.
MrHeyfuckoff 11 сарын өмнө
Me watching this channel: "So.. What makes this dude so confident?" *Clicks this video* Me: "Ohhh he's attractive that's why."
lunaticgenius 11 сарын өмнө
Remember folks, self-deprecating humor is better than self-defecating humor.
Project Vigil
Project Vigil 11 сарын өмнө
Did you do podcast?
Rob's World
Rob's World 11 сарын өмнө
This literally popped up after I saw a video of Obama handling hecklers in a speech where he commanded the ultimate respect by not kicking them out and schooling them.
ART MY 11 сарын өмнө
Stop being toxic will help alot.
Faris Rai
Faris Rai 11 сарын өмнө
Great content bro, keep it up! Love from London, England.
Jonah ware
Jonah ware 11 сарын өмнө
4:08 This is my life one of my really good friends wants me to get in on these business idea/ get rich quick schemes sooo bad that he'll call me with an idea and when I tell him to do some research on it he'll say that's what I called you for and when you don't want to do it with them they get all mad and when you ask them about it later to see if they did it they blame you for the reason they didn't pursue it!
Awesum Bear
Awesum Bear 11 сарын өмнө
i.e. "7 Ways My Friends Annoyed Me To The Point Where We Stopped Being Friends"
TнeEℓℓy0O 11 сарын өмнө
wow so lucky i can't possibly do the first thing because i haven't any achievements in my life
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