How To Turn Small Talk Into An Amazing Conversation

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Small talk can be a drag - but it’s possible to turn those boring everyday conversations into a meaningful ones where you learn about and really connect with people.
That’s why in this video we’ll explore what you can learn from some of the best conversationalists of our era about moving from small talk to deep connection so you never worry about being boring.

0:00 - Intro.
0:17 - #1: Let people know that you're happy to speak with them.
1:59 - #2: Steer towards deeper conversational contexts.
3:01 - #3: Use "parroting".
3:59 - #4: Advocate for things people are ashamed to have felt or done.
5:25 - #5: Pause to acknowledge vulnerability and courage.
6:14 - #6: Reveal your own vulnerabilities and unflattering truths.

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SupeHero00 13 цагийн өмнө
8:47 - Shadow work ha?
Simonne 2 өдрийн өмнө
4:28 When people open up and talk about their darkness they want you to preserve their dignity by not showing that you’re turned off by them opening up.
Krithik Singh
Krithik Singh 6 өдрийн өмнө
Damn this video hit me deep, love this video one of the best on youtube
a country gal
a country gal 7 өдрийн өмнө
I used to like this channel, learnes a lot from you guys. After 4 times of the f-bomb in one video, I will not be back. Sad that you would stoop to such a level.
CITY MORGUE 6 өдрийн өмнө
Shreyas Shanker
Shreyas Shanker 8 өдрийн өмнө
Omg...,. This got way more deep... Than the title led me to believe
Emily N
Emily N 10 өдрийн өмнө
Good tips! I feel like I'm great at cutting small talk and creating a meaningful conversation out of it because I hate superficiality lol but I still learned a lot with this video. Thumbs up 👍
Ngun Mang
Ngun Mang 10 өдрийн өмнө
Can we appreciate how he explains what we should learn and what we should know. Literally
anaflower 12 өдрийн өмнө
Reminds me of what they teach you in acting class. Focus more on being interested than being interesting. The more interested you become in other people AND the world around you (like seeing the beauty/absurdity in those little “meaningless” moments in life) the more interesting you naturally become.
Barney Mort
Barney Mort 13 өдрийн өмнө
Analyse Rupaul!
Dacommenta 16 өдрийн өмнө
Someone talking to me walks into a pole. Me: "thank you for your courage"
Thomas Beaumont
Thomas Beaumont 16 өдрийн өмнө
1:25 man, I would hate to be on this guys podcast
EagleT Vlogs
EagleT Vlogs 16 өдрийн өмнө
LoveY'allDarlings 17 өдрийн өмнө
I used to be really embarrassed about having crushes who ended up being jerks, but now I would openly admit it to anyone. Be friends with your shadow!
Cal 17 өдрийн өмнө
Just hit a gold pot! Thank you for this! I really needed this since I’m socializing more often now!
Majik Messiah
Majik Messiah 18 өдрийн өмнө
If you really want to connect to someone, show vulnerability, if I could give anyone, one single bit of insight on how to connect to others, it would be that. Show the person you are willing to open yourself to possible humiliation and they will usually reciprocate
James Jameson Grey
James Jameson Grey 18 өдрийн өмнө
I didn't learn anything.
TRIBE OF MENTORS 19 өдрийн өмнө
Winners win because they are afraid of what might happen if they fail...TRIBE of MENTORS
KingRichTv 20 өдрийн өмнө
What did it make you feel?
Ely Venkus
Ely Venkus 20 өдрийн өмнө
His advice is to ask people what they do for work? Thats literally what everyone does lol
Hawi Conrado
Hawi Conrado 21 өдрийн өмнө
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Jimmy Walter
Jimmy Walter 21 өдрийн өмнө
Point of order: outside of physical contact, screaming and believable threats, events, things and people don't "make" anyone feel anything. It is our judgments, beliefs about what happens that causes our emotions: consider a football game. Hundreds to billions see the exact same game. Yet about half go home happy, about half go home sad, and the rest go home somewhere in between or at the extremes. While they all claim the game caused whichever emotion, since there is such a spectrum about the exact, same game, that can't be true. It was their beliefs about it - that what these strangers did in a kid's game had something to do with their self-worth. Do insults "make you mad"? How can a little hot air make you feel or do anything? It is your belief that it is horrible that someone said something derogatory about you. If you further believe you "must" do something about it, you will be angry, possibly do dangerous things, get into trouble. If you believe you can't, you will be somewhere between sad and depressed. Read Dr Albert Ellis, the originator of Cognitive Behavior Therapy, voted most influential living psychotherapist by APA, over 50 books. His methods evolved over his 70 years from classic Freud type to the emotion-belief connection (central, most important point). He added behaviorism methods, and finally Unconditional Acceptance of Self (UAS) , Others (UAO) and the Universe (UAU) and its contents. That does not mean endorsement of everything. My modified serenity poem tries to point out the difference: May I have the strength to change the Important things I CAN change, the patience to bear the important things I cannot change, as well as all those "terribly" irritating, unimportant ones (like insults and lost loves), and the wisdom to enjoy the difference."
Katie •
Katie • 21 өдрийн өмнө
Wait. Cool aloof guy cannot accept vulnerabilities of others. People tell me their feelings a lot. Does this mean I’m not cool? Lol jk. Im sensitive and have empathy for others idk how it shows though. I feel like we’re all animals perceiving different ranges of depth and boundaries. Softness and coldness. I think either way just try your best to be yourself. When I meditate & re open my eyes I try to see everything for the first time as much as I can. Like a kid would your perception grows & you can connect deeper I swear
Sidra Kamal
Sidra Kamal 23 өдрийн өмнө
Parroting the last thing they said so they expand
Brenda K
Brenda K 23 өдрийн өмнө
After miserable failure to keep my cool in a job with a truly ridiculous corporation, I’m going to a new job armed with some real tools to help me navigate without losing patience and composure. Thanks so much for your videos.
Listenchump 24 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks to this channel I will be a beast on popular talk shows and interviews.
Błażej Ordon
Błażej Ordon 24 өдрийн өмнө
This channel is great for learning social skills you've never had an idea were a thing. HOWEVER, You won't learn anything in front of a screen. The only way for you to acquire those skills is by throwing yourself into deep water and doing it yourself. Get your sh*t together and do it yourself with an open mindset and you'll see how efficiently you become the "better you". MNpost won't help you. Only you can do it. It's never too late. Head up, you got it!
Alana Ray
Alana Ray 25 өдрийн өмнө
She probably has a website or something what else do not girls have 🥴🤦🏽‍♂️😤
svnelvn 26 өдрийн өмнө
i don't know, I get very annoyed if people constantly repeat my last words. i know what I said, stop echoing back to me, say your own thoughts
Nolan Ward
Nolan Ward 27 өдрийн өмнө
I’ve learned a lot from all these videos. If I ever get invited to any social event I’ll be ready
Zach Morton
Zach Morton 28 өдрийн өмнө
What was that round table with Sandler, Deniro, Foxx, and Lebouf?
Vampress 29 өдрийн өмнө
That dude who didn't know Sofia Vergara sounds like such a douche. At least at that moment he did.
ॐ कार
ॐ कार Сарын өмнө
These tricks never work in real Life..... It is very persuasive to show your theory as fact by explaining the fact in your favour!!!
Crystal Сарын өмнө
Please make one on MeGain Markel.
Sadik200221 Сарын өмнө
Hello, I just want to tell the admin of this channel that there is a channel that stole your videos and make them in Arabic without mention that the idea and the video from your channel it’s name is كاريزما بالعربي I know you don’t know what’s that mean but that’s it’s name.
Alan Bernstein
Alan Bernstein Сарын өмнө
Hey Charlie, could you please do Christopher Hitchens ?
M Had
M Had Сарын өмнө
But how can we tell others we appreciate them if we don’t know them..?
Rehan Allahwala
Rehan Allahwala Сарын өмнө
Thank you for your wonderful work ! Bless you
Gustavo Simione
Gustavo Simione Сарын өмнө
Plz, analyze the video "David Bowie Criticizes MTV for Not Playing Videos by Black Artists" Bowie conducting the Interview with class, pointing the right questions to disarm the interviewer
Choppa Сарын өмнө
Whoever runs this channel I LOVE YOU ❤
Meaghan Pike
Meaghan Pike Сарын өмнө
This is absolutely one of my favorite MNpost channels it is so informative and I try to tell everyone about it that mentions feeling awkward for struggling to communicate
vansh agrawal
vansh agrawal Сарын өмнө
Charisma Breakdown: Present like STEVE JOBS
Raven Lam
Raven Lam Сарын өмнө
Do john smith from man in the high castle
Naila Kamana
Naila Kamana Сарын өмнө
I think why so many of us struggle with conversation is because the topics that we actually want to talk about are considered taboo. So we try to play it safe by asking each other questions that get us nowhere. Why can't we just talk about whatever at any time? What's the worst that can happen? Somebody not agreeing?
Nomadic Thinker
Nomadic Thinker Сарын өмнө
I found it. I finally found my personality. I've watched so many of your videos from the chris's to aubrey. This is the one that feels like implementing the skills isn't me being someone I'm not. I don't have a shadow I'm in touch with, my shadow is me.
HaveANiceDay Сарын өмнө
Does this only works in the US culture?
Amira's perspective
Amira's perspective Сарын өмнө
I really need a video focused on work occasions!
Захар Селиванов
Захар Селиванов Сарын өмнө
Hi, Charlie! I admire one women and want to be like her. What should I do? Is it a good idea to ask her how did she become so awesome? Or is it better to analyse what she’s doing to be so good by myself?
V N Сарын өмнө
Damn this turned into a whole moral lesson
hivek mosat
hivek mosat Сарын өмнө
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GreenJuiceEditz Сарын өмнө
Your MNpost channel is so Valuable to us
KASHiii OP Сарын өмнө
Make a video about how to be like lucifer
Mindooze Сарын өмнө
Great tips, definitely needed to hear some of these
bébé cheeses
bébé cheeses Сарын өмнө
Seems like the entire theme of this channel is "If you want to be liked and successful, be a well liked and successful celebrity!" This is the kind of messaging that leads some to suicide, just saying...
Buried Blessman
Buried Blessman Сарын өмнө
I remember when the shadow of myself almost ruined my life and i stumbled upon a 17 minute video i think which talks about integrating the shadow of urself which saved me. So thank u charlie for that. I think the video was about ayahuasca
Kurt Wagner
Kurt Wagner Сарын өмнө
“Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.” ‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭3:12‬ ‭KJV‬‬ “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭3:23‬ ‭KJV‬‬ “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭5:8‬ ‭KJV‬‬ “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭6:23‬ ‭KJV‬‬ “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭10:13‬ ‭KJV‬‬
Certek Heat Machines Inc.
Certek Heat Machines Inc. Сарын өмнө
Your channel is simply amazing. You do such good work and have incredible insight.
kelly walker
kelly walker Сарын өмнө
I try to be nice and treat others with with respect and dignity. I also don't much give a damn if they like me or not. In a nutshell, problem solved.
Mace Сарын өмнө
Vince Vaugh next! The most charismatic person in Hollywood.
Almudena Berzosa
Almudena Berzosa Сарын өмнө
Thanks for this video! Small talk is indeed important, not only can help us make a good first impression, it also can lead to a lasting relationship.
Throughout the World
Throughout the World Сарын өмнө
DAYUM! Somebody upped their editing game
OverLine Сарын өмнө
Can I have an issue about Michael Corleone?
Siddharth Brahma
Siddharth Brahma Сарын өмнө
Blake Shelton
Siddharth Brahma
Siddharth Brahma Сарын өмнө
Do a video on BLAKE SHELTON.
Austin Johnson
Austin Johnson Сарын өмнө
Would love to see a breakdown of Dona Paulsen from suits!
cetycon 26
cetycon 26 Сарын өмнө
For anyone that is already enrolled in CU: At the moment, just watching these free MNpost videos are doing plenty for me. I'm really interested in joining CU, but I feel like with all these covid restrictions, it's not the ideal time to enroll in the course. Do any of you agree that I should wait until everything gets better and i'm able to see more people, or should I just go for the membership right now?
The Creamy One
The Creamy One Сарын өмнө
Quite Interesting
Arindam Mishra
Arindam Mishra Сарын өмнө
Please do a video on 13 reasons why characters
Vagabond Morrison
Vagabond Morrison Сарын өмнө
Sean Evans from Hot Ones would be a great subject for a charisma breakdown because he asks such great and engaging questions!
Fridaber Сарын өмнө
Hey there! Could you do a charisma analysis of Princess Diana? I find her such an interesting example because she was considered an incredibly charismatic person, but she also displayed a lot of behaviours that show insecurity. How was she so charismatic while also being insecure? I think this would make for an interesting video!
Edvin Nyrenström Andersson
Edvin Nyrenström Andersson Сарын өмнө
* Laughs in Swedish *
R.a.w Wood
R.a.w Wood Сарын өмнө
Be bold?
We not gonna acknowledge that Joe Rogan's been at his new studio for months and the video said that the clip was recent when it clearly showed joe Rogan's old studio which hasn't been filmed in for months 🤔
More positivity
More positivity Сарын өмнө
Can you do a video using Wesley snipes?
Kriszt M
Kriszt M Сарын өмнө
You did not connect with Wolf of the Wall Street, he called you nazi. You looked awkward, all this knowledge for nothing.
Tanya Haralson
Tanya Haralson Сарын өмнө
Totally off-topic but grate editing :D
Deepesh Garg
Deepesh Garg Сарын өмнө
Chandler Bing breakdown??
Doc D
Doc D Сарын өмнө
Dude..this guy rogan is like 5'2..and his camera angle makes him look like hes 6'8 😆
Pranav Deshpande
Pranav Deshpande Сарын өмнө
Man please analyse the charismatic personality of Steve Harvey in your next video.
Fabio Camargo
Fabio Camargo Сарын өмнө
I LOVE CU, Hi from Brazil 😂
Juhaan Jung
Juhaan Jung Сарын өмнө
Charisma On Command could you do Hannibal Buress analysis? I do find him very interesting and most above all he’s funny! I would really appreciate it :)
John Keck
John Keck Сарын өмнө
THIS has got to be the most amazing thing you've posted from the many amazing videos you've posted. Thank you for posting! That said, I do wish you would take the trouble to redact the f word.
urie p.
urie p. Сарын өмнө
Tricks aren't the way of life🤦‍♂️
Cumtronics Сарын өмнө
You should go on Joe Rogan.
Xyabra Сарын өмнө
The coolest character, is the main character, in T E N E T.
Imperial Squat Rack
Imperial Squat Rack Сарын өмнө
can you help me with i have good punchliners but my tone isnt funny at all
Yoshikage Kira
Yoshikage Kira Сарын өмнө
Sigma male 2: electric boogaloo
Satine Kryze
Satine Kryze Сарын өмнө
Winter depression has set in on me ... I needed this
AV Сарын өмнө
These is the formal way , I want informal videos , these type of content doesn't work in informal talks
Jason Lopez
Jason Lopez Сарын өмнө
Informal is just be your self . If you’re a street person, talk and be street, if you like physics and the stars then talk about Space . Show your interests
Aravind Krishnan
Aravind Krishnan Сарын өмнө
This is a great video!!
selim Arslan
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Investor armyyyy
Yıkımcı Oyunda
Yıkımcı Oyunda Сарын өмнө
MNpostr Investor🖐
Fear Game 52
Fear Game 52 Сарын өмнө
Investor squad hahahah
Here because of Investor
Cat TV
Cat TV Сарын өмнө
Who came here from the Investor yt channel?🖐
rohani müzek
rohani müzek Сарын өмнө
Who's also here cause of Investor youtube???
GGPRO - Suat
GGPRO - Suat Сарын өмнө
That Investor MNpostr got me here
Ahmet Bektaş
Ahmet Bektaş Сарын өмнө
Here thanks to Investor youtube
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Zafer Öztürk Сарын өмнө
Here cause of investor dave nick yt channel
Eren Akcan
Eren Akcan Сарын өмнө
Investor brought me here😂
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Ahmet Güngördü Сарын өмнө
I'm here cause of Investor MNpost channel haha
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