How To Overcome Being Socially Awkward

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We have all had moments in our lives where we were more awkward than we would like to be, and we have all had moments where we surprised ourselves with how charming, charismatic and confident we can be. The questions is: how do we go from one to the other on command?
I think that Elon Musk is a great example of someone that represents the best of both worlds. That's why in this video, I want to dive into some clips of Elon to see what you can learn, and how to turn those moments where you are awkward and turn them into ones where you are charming and charismatic.

0:00 - Intro.
1:58 - #1: Elaborate on the question
2:33 - #2: Make consistent eye contact.
3:47 - #3: Crack an understated joke.
5:06 - #4: Embrace the silence.
6:08 - #5: Prime yourself.
7:22 - #6: Fully commit.
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joecramerone _
joecramerone _ 5 өдрийн өмнө
I honestly think elon is just comfortable in his own skin.
Chito 7 өдрийн өмнө
Your smile is absolutely beautiful
gravebwoy shyne
gravebwoy shyne 8 өдрийн өмнө
I think its great that Elons socially awkward, makes me feel not so bad about myself when the richest man in the world is the same as me just way more successful
Harold Lawson
Harold Lawson 9 өдрийн өмнө
Elon is an amazing communicator when he gets into a zone of something he knows very well. Interview with the Everyday Astronaut for example. watch?v=cIQ36Kt7UVg He still shows a bit of nerdy awkwardness though, it's part of his charm.
Careless Dreamer
Careless Dreamer 13 өдрийн өмнө
i'm the most socially awkward person i've ever met, so being anything close to the opposite would be too much of a challenge i think, but i'll try and keep these suggestions in mind for the future. not the dancing or playing a character though lol, i can't dance or act to save my life lol
Petrie Berries
Petrie Berries 13 өдрийн өмнө
You’re so cool. You remind me of my German teacher. I know he taught sociology too I bet he knew a lot of the tips on this channel. Thank you again for your videos
RosscoAW 16 өдрийн өмнө
Elon is obviously on the spectrum, essentially everything you highlighted in this video are perfectly examples of a "high functioning" undiagnosed adult on the spectrum that's had to spend their entire life coping with nonverbal (and verbal) socialization feeling unnatural and alien.
S SSS 21 өдрийн өмнө
I think it is impossible that someone would be awkward and lack confidence and still be billionaire. It is extremely hard to be a billionaire with millions of charming people working hard to rise to the top. If Musk was awkward or lacked confidence, he would still be living in his mum's basement. Musk is silently confident like INTJs. He shows confidence where it is needed and in his ground state, he is quite modest and doesn't care about superficial style but merit and achievement.
The Doctor
The Doctor 21 өдрийн өмнө
MNpost put this in my recommended for no reason and I feel called out.
t. rosenberg
t. rosenberg 28 өдрийн өмнө
Pretty sure Elon’s in the spectrum.
Davide Boscarino
Davide Boscarino Сарын өмнө
7:11 "this is fire" killed me
Lai Wong
Lai Wong Сарын өмнө
i am not a big fan of the reaction, this is a reaction video
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava Сарын өмнө
Please make a video on Cate Blanchett
Alex Aka Burnz
Alex Aka Burnz Сарын өмнө
Anyone else going to mention the Elon musk pics in the back 🤣
Cory Alford
Cory Alford Сарын өмнө
RIP Jack Ma
Carrie Couzens
Carrie Couzens Сарын өмнө
As someone who is (undiagnosed) Asperger's, I do believe Elon is on the spectrum, which is indicated in his awkward and different mannerisms. Just an ongoing observation.
Andrea Сарын өмнө
I was not expecting that Impractical Jokers clip lmao
Yash Gulave
Yash Gulave Сарын өмнө
3:56 What's up with Elon in the corner... 🤣🤣🤣
Raghav kumar
Raghav kumar Сарын өмнө
Did you see that he changes the picture in his background in every scene.
Eagle Eye
Eagle Eye 2 сарын өмнө
Turn awkwardness into charisma: 1)Eloborate the question 2)Make consistent eye contact while talking. 3)Crack an understandable joke. 4)Embrace the silence in awkward situations. 5)Warm up yourself before the interaction and it will be much smoother. 6)Fully Commit. This is key when telling stories,playing a character or dancing.
They call me Woodstock
They call me Woodstock 2 сарын өмнө
I can't believe the cybertruck thing was a year ago
Marbles 2 сарын өмнө
1:47 I found that interview sincere and therefore engaging. It had contents and not all form. I felt like I got to see behind a public figure's persona, and into their private struggles. Granted, Musk was stylizing the "Tortured Genius" role, but still... It's one of the Rogan interviews I've enjoyed the most. I'm very surprised CoC would use it as an example of low charisma. Perhaps I have a different perspective as a European. I love America, but you have a taste for a fast pace and showmanship that many other countries think takes away from sincerity and depth. You also worship extroversion, and I think that comes into play in how CoC views this interview. Musk is perhaps a little introverted. He's introspective and sharing his thoughts and feelings. America isn't really _about_ _that,_ as you say.
Slizzle Tech&Gaming
Slizzle Tech&Gaming 2 сарын өмнө
you're asking ton Aspie to make eye contact and elaborate on the answers. Lol
Tom N
Tom N 2 сарын өмнө
3:36 well offcourse he was a lil unconfortable.. he just saw his stock go down.
Thompson Saffell
Thompson Saffell 2 сарын өмнө
did you guys see the background photograph with photobooth mirror elon musk? I thought it was funny
young Mem
young Mem 2 сарын өмнө
Something was botherin me about this guy, and on further inspection. The eyebrows are going to far to the sides. Hmmmm
Greg A
Greg A 2 сарын өмнө
What you call "charming" I call creepy. Just be NATURAL.
Nic Halabicky
Nic Halabicky 3 сарын өмнө
Sure he may have come a long way but I honestly I’ve never seen someone so bad at public speaking do so much of it. He exhibits so many big “no no’s” that anyone can learn about in a basic class on public speaking. His body language is awkward, he’s constantly stumbling over his words (so many uhs and ums) and he clearly seems uncomfortable any time he does it. I give him props for going out there anyway though because it’s obviously not his best skill.
dhanish ahmedh
dhanish ahmedh 3 сарын өмнө
Still elon managed to get beautiful actresses as gf (Charismatic)
Justus Pogge
Justus Pogge 3 сарын өмнө
I would join CU but I am a student and i don’t have the money for it...
Luke Wenberg
Luke Wenberg 3 сарын өмнө
He stated about the Joe Rogan show. He was overwhelmed and tired of work. Stressed with work and it was difficult for him to be focused.
Gary Williams UK
Gary Williams UK 3 сарын өмнө
Elon Musk is Thersa Mays love child with...
Iulia 3 сарын өмнө
That is crazy..cuz it s probabily a lie
greenwatermelone 3 сарын өмнө
hey this was great! but can we get one specifically for zoom/voice only meetings where no one can use body language or eye contact anymore? i always come off like either awkward or jerkish online :(
Ana Obee
Ana Obee 3 сарын өмнө
Has anyone tried charisma University? If so I would love to chat with you about your experience to see if it's a good fit for me. :) please message me on my Instagram @copywriter777. Thanks.
SoukEye 3 сарын өмнө
4:27 this is the face of someone that believes himself to be an expert on charisma
Valinner 3 сарын өмнө
The picture in the back cracks me up 3:57
David LaBranche
David LaBranche 3 сарын өмнө
He looks hungover
Luthando Mbili
Luthando Mbili 3 сарын өмнө
Could you please do an analysis on Joe Goldberg from YOU.
pahul gogna
pahul gogna 3 сарын өмнө
I'm I the only one hear noticing that picture frame behind him?
Hans Karps
Hans Karps 3 сарын өмнө
Simple, be a billionaire and everyone will love you.
Adeel Games
Adeel Games 3 сарын өмнө
0:58 Elon Musk is behind you!
H 3 сарын өмнө
Bhavana Mahajan
Bhavana Mahajan 4 сарын өмнө
Please make a video on Leonardo DiCaprio charisma
#Inn3rpeacebeats 4 сарын өмнө
can you do catherine de medici from reign
Stahn Misake
Stahn Misake 4 сарын өмнө
If everyone will BE charming noone will be
mostly true
mostly true 4 сарын өмнө
Please go back to your old format
398N2lea4 4 сарын өмнө
5. no don't do that dance thing, it will condition you to NOT TALK and you would feel more tense. Just try to relax in the situation itself
Amar Nalawade
Amar Nalawade 4 сарын өмнө
do impartical joker pleaseeeeeeeeeeee
Carlos De La Torre
Carlos De La Torre 4 сарын өмнө
Do you have top 10 good books to read about working on conversation skills
Judah Lus
Judah Lus 4 сарын өмнө
Nice videos. Thanks Charlie and Ben I've learnt some cool stuff from this channel.
rebel artè
rebel artè 4 сарын өмнө
Please do one on Robert Pattinson!!!! Thanks
CountArtha 4 сарын өмнө
He's less shy now because he's flooded with serotonin from being the boss. When you have four different companies, two of which are changing the world, you are going to be less intimidated talking to people because there's security in success.
ITellMyself Secrets
ITellMyself Secrets 4 сарын өмнө
9:20 it means not everyone is meant to be a Chris Pratt.
Hristo Hristov
Hristo Hristov 4 сарын өмнө
When something goes wrong ??? You think, that breaking the windows was not directed ? LOL ! Nothing went wrong ... never. That was the scenario.
Sup 4 сарын өмнө
We still need a charisma breakdown of Captain Jack Sparrow.
super smoo
super smoo Сарын өмнө
Charisma University likely can’t get Disney’s permission to use some clips from Pirates of the Caribbean.
Manlet Fitness
Manlet Fitness 2 сарын өмнө
Johnny Depp
Mark ComputerTech
Mark ComputerTech 4 сарын өмнө
You should hear what the Panasonic employees say about him at his Gigfactory. Lets just say its not good. . .
Kye Rafferty
Kye Rafferty 4 сарын өмнө
I was singing on stage once, screwed up the key, lyrics, and timing. Stopped singing, laughed, said something like, "Well there's a good reason to practice more than I did! Can we start over?" Everyone laughed, and this story already sounds so fake I'm not even gonna finish it.
ROHIT MAITY 4 сарын өмнө
his mouth is much slower than his mind.
LyleDeYounges 4 сарын өмнө
He's very intelligent AND has become the 3rd richest person in the world... if I acted like him in a conversation with someone I'd become the "don't talk to him!" guy in no time. Most examples used are always celebrities or highly successful people, and those factors are always ignored as being factors in how people react to them.
Blue_Veined_Aristocrat [ASIA]
Blue_Veined_Aristocrat [ASIA] 4 сарын өмнө
Elon knows exactly what's going on lmaooo, Jack Ma is just such a fkn pleb, yeah he can sell stuff but really Jack Ma, Alibaba Intelligence?...God help us
Tim Fischer
Tim Fischer 4 сарын өмнө
If Elon Musk weren't the ultra-rich and successful investor he is, he'd probably be seen as awkward and childish. There are some good tips in this video but Musk is not very charismatic.
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake 4 сарын өмнө
I myself am on a journey of finding and analysing such character traits of people. I find your videos so interesting. Thank you for the valuable info and analysis. I also go through awkward moments when I talk to people and I use the 3rd technique a lot. Thank you so much again.
LudicrousLogan 4 сарын өмнө
Do a breakdown on Ronald Reagan and JFK
sonofsun 4 сарын өмнө
Duuuuude your mouth has grown bigger or longer throughout time
Raymond Rivera
Raymond Rivera 4 сарын өмнө
He's obviously burned out dude just look at his eyes
Kid Literate
Kid Literate 4 сарын өмнө
Its all good he has Social Anxiety disorder. You'll get through it buddy.
Margo Noor Harpica
Margo Noor Harpica 4 сарын өмнө
Those are some awesome dad it
Tom Gauthier
Tom Gauthier 4 сарын өмнө
Did you watch a little longer at 3:30? I'd think his "this can be fixed in post" comment would be good.
Petros Petridis
Petros Petridis 4 сарын өмнө
Elon is the most awkward public speaker in the world. He can't put together a basic sentence. He is humming and hawing all the time. Even non English native speakers speak more fluently
Rogar Ravenhair
Rogar Ravenhair 4 сарын өмнө
You’re a very handsome man, but you’d look even better with a beard. Just something to think about.🧔🏻
karan 4 сарын өмнө
Chris Martin next please!
Anirudh Rowjee
Anirudh Rowjee 4 сарын өмнө
Finally... Charisma on Command
Pugazh Ganesh
Pugazh Ganesh 4 сарын өмнө
He continuesly changing elons photo in his background.
AlvaroDigital 4 сарын өмнө
Good job guys
Jasmin Nguyen
Jasmin Nguyen 4 сарын өмнө
Is it me or does he remind you of someone doctor Mike maybe?
Fitch75 4 сарын өмнө
where can i get the background photo of elon musk ?
Rucha 4 сарын өмнө
Can you make a video on Gordon Ramsay? He's really charismatic
Janrey Gordon
Janrey Gordon 4 сарын өмнө
I would really love Saiorse Ronan to be featured here
T. J.
T. J. 4 сарын өмнө
The picture behind you keeps changing throughout the video 😂
Ed Vintero
Ed Vintero 4 сарын өмнө
Could you do a video on Jackson Wang
Jordan Perry
Jordan Perry 4 сарын өмнө
Do Trump again please
Ivar Necron
Ivar Necron 4 сарын өмнө
I want Ivar boneless
blyatman !
blyatman ! 4 сарын өмнө
Blyat! Do an episode on Putin please, спасиьо
D 4 сарын өмнө
Ok I just noticed something. I watched a recent video of Elon on the Joe rogan show, he was speaking about selling all of his assets. He spoke very awkwardly, very short, and almost uncomfortable answering Joe’s questions. Is it joe that’s making him uncomfortable? Or perhaps they both know something we don’t?
Paul Caridi
Paul Caridi 4 сарын өмнө
Are we just going to ignore the Elon pictures behind them?
Zachary Coon
Zachary Coon 4 сарын өмнө
0:59 anyone else catch the framed elon musk pic change in the background
Тоби Акацуки
Тоби Акацуки 4 сарын өмнө
Do an analysis of Ryan McCarthy from the movie "Never Back Down "
Emily Marie
Emily Marie 4 сарын өмнө
How’s Henry? Especially with all those important babes
Derek Lin
Derek Lin 4 сарын өмнө
Can you do an analysis on Simon Sinek. He's such a great communicator.
Michael M
Michael M 4 сарын өмнө
Elon is rarely charming, only one clip you showed he was. People just like him because is the "I wanna be rich like you" culture so he has a fan base
YourNickIsTaken 4 сарын өмнө
For an introvert professional it is hard to start speak about themes without sounding arrogant. Especially in front of a big group. Being too smart in a tech field is hell when it comes to explaining those in front of ppl who not even understand basic lingo. It is just super awkward. Everything I say in these situations sounds harsh. But I also teach and my students get me, because they have interest and they ask without judgment. Ali Aba and Tesla are two different world created by two different genius.
Kamille •200 years ago
Kamille •200 years ago 4 сарын өмнө
90mgs of adderall a day.. this is why his body language fluctuates.. A.d.d. and as a HUMAN living with a high IQ adhd/add ... adddhhddd ... disorder lol . I can tell you alot. ..I can tell you how 0mg vs 90 mgs of a certain central nervous stimulants can change ones speech and body language from figity 0mg.. because your adhd is out there its on fire.. to having 90mg and being calm charismatic and getting alot done.. Elon gets stuff done because he works his "flaws " one person's freckles are another person's beauty marks. His brain is not catching up to his body duh.. He probably takes a small dose so he can be more average to the masses. (No ones reading this so far this is crazy talk) His interactions are when you think about it pretty much spot on for all that he has accomplished. His brain is different he knows this and he uses it . He puts on a event because its Public relations... because only the neuro diverse understand the universe... And he is winning..It is what it is..
Rodrigo López Ortiz
Rodrigo López Ortiz 4 сарын өмнө
We need a Barney Stinson video
G sus
G sus 4 сарын өмнө
Could you imagine if Elon acted like Tony Stark
Fish 4 сарын өмнө
Can you do a video that features King Alfred from "The Last Kingdom"? That character has an amazing screen presence and oozes charisma / conviction.
Alexander Alford
Alexander Alford 4 сарын өмнө
Oh look it’s me as a CEO.
SPECTRE ART WORK 4 сарын өмнө
i have your book but i have a question if i follow this book will i be better at communication skills is there any guarantee..
Noob Master
Noob Master 4 сарын өмнө
do vid on johnny depp
Adam 4 сарын өмнө
Why I feel when I watch this like I am an *AI* trying to understand human beings
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