How To Overcome Being Socially Awkward

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We have all had moments in our lives where we were more awkward than we would like to be, and we have all had moments where we surprised ourselves with how charming, charismatic and confident we can be. The questions is: how do we go from one to the other on command?
I think that Elon Musk is a great example of someone that represents the best of both worlds. That's why in this video, I want to dive into some clips of Elon to see what you can learn, and how to turn those moments where you are awkward and turn them into ones where you are charming and charismatic.

0:00 - Intro.
1:58 - #1: Elaborate on the question
2:33 - #2: Make consistent eye contact.
3:47 - #3: Crack an understated joke.
5:06 - #4: Embrace the silence.
6:08 - #5: Prime yourself.
7:22 - #6: Fully commit.
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justin vaughn
justin vaughn 4 өдрийн өмнө
Bro the freakin painting
KH90 8 өдрийн өмнө
I love that you bring up the warmup in the car on the way to work/interviews/etc. I do this every morning! Sometimes it’s with music, sometimes it’s with these videos 👍
Peter Hoffman
Peter Hoffman 9 өдрийн өмнө
I love your videos but Elon is not a good example, he talks the way he does because he allows himself time to actually think before he answers, there was a great podcast with his number two guy who spoke at length about this and when you hear his point of view, which is obviously way more experienced than yours, it makes perfect sense. What you perceive as awkward is Elon doing precisely what all humans should do... think before they speak and not feel the need to fill the empty space with unthought-out answers.
Mary Cupcake
Mary Cupcake 11 өдрийн өмнө
I really like that you don't use jump cuts in your editing process, and instead when you make mistakes in talking, you let it happen naturally, then get back to the original point. Great job Charlie !
NotJustAnother Mother
NotJustAnother Mother 16 өдрийн өмнө
He needs to fire whoever didn’t rehearse the “throw at the glass” before there was an audience.....oh wait, probably his call LOL.....the dancing tho....nawh
shortlivedglory 25 өдрийн өмнө
Dude should just pound a shot before going on stage. Take the edge off.
Deenbandhu Сарын өмнө
poeple keep learning the charisma, do a course in it, taking care of every minute body language tend to finally lose themselves. I think it is alright unless one is bizzare. Every personality is cool.
Shri Krishna Dwivedi
Shri Krishna Dwivedi Сарын өмнө
He naturally lacks social skills and a introvert. He worked hard for improving his social skills but as an introvert myself I know every introvert has a limited social battery. So it becomes very difficult to be consistent being charasmatic when your battery is down. And I think the different behaviour at different instances reflects on his social energy at that moment.
jesuyacked Сарын өмнө
3:56 picture of Elon is a bit scary
真空 Сарын өмнө
I don't think he even cares about being consistent in having charisma. He's just himself, being as awkward as much as he wants. There's really no right way to be, just be you.
Johnny Fo
Johnny Fo Сарын өмнө
Myself included, some people require a lot of thought and consideration when they act and speak. When I do this it's because I don't want people to get me wrong. This is especially prevalent when I am trying to argue a point with people. I tend to write so much you better than I speak. I wouldn't be surprised if Elon is a good planner or writer. I tend to stare off in the distance when I think and speak because staring somebody in the eyes while trying to do it is very distracting to my thoughts. He needs to lose himself in the topic in his mind before he can clearly speak about seems.
sofi A
sofi A 2 сарын өмнө
you are a personality trainer?
Dr. Jay
Dr. Jay 2 сарын өмнө
A quick little hit of weed can change everything
john doe
john doe 2 сарын өмнө
He got tired of dying a thousand deaths.
Erik Kraynyk
Erik Kraynyk 2 сарын өмнө
I think one thing that often works against Elon is not only his own habits but people view him as being incredibly brilliant and he is but frequently expected to produce complex explanations on the spot with little to no context a lot. Like he is brilliant but people look at him like a real life Tony Stark and actually idealize him quite a bit. That's a lot of pressure. Nobody expects small talk out of him and it puts him in a tough spot.
EM 2 сарын өмнө
The thing is, he’s terrible, socially speaking. But that doesn’t matter because of his resume.
It's Gary Time
It's Gary Time 2 сарын өмнө
3:57 the poster
joecramerone _
joecramerone _ 2 сарын өмнө
I honestly think elon is just comfortable in his own skin.
Chito 2 сарын өмнө
Your smile is absolutely beautiful
gravebwoy shyne
gravebwoy shyne 2 сарын өмнө
I think its great that Elons socially awkward, makes me feel not so bad about myself when the richest man in the world is the same as me just way more successful
Harold Lawson
Harold Lawson 2 сарын өмнө
Elon is an amazing communicator when he gets into a zone of something he knows very well. Interview with the Everyday Astronaut for example. watch?v=cIQ36Kt7UVg He still shows a bit of nerdy awkwardness though, it's part of his charm.
Careless Dreamer
Careless Dreamer 2 сарын өмнө
i'm the most socially awkward person i've ever met, so being anything close to the opposite would be too much of a challenge i think, but i'll try and keep these suggestions in mind for the future. not the dancing or playing a character though lol, i can't dance or act to save my life lol
Petrie Berries
Petrie Berries 2 сарын өмнө
You’re so cool. You remind me of my German teacher. I know he taught sociology too I bet he knew a lot of the tips on this channel. Thank you again for your videos
RosscoAW 2 сарын өмнө
Elon is obviously on the spectrum, essentially everything you highlighted in this video are perfectly examples of a "high functioning" undiagnosed adult on the spectrum that's had to spend their entire life coping with nonverbal (and verbal) socialization feeling unnatural and alien.
Saqlain Syed
Saqlain Syed 3 сарын өмнө
I think it is impossible that someone would be awkward and lack confidence and still be billionaire. It is extremely hard to be a billionaire with millions of charming people working hard to rise to the top. If Musk was awkward or lacked confidence, he would still be living in his mum's basement. Musk is silently confident like INTJs. He shows confidence where it is needed and in his ground state, he is quite modest and doesn't care about superficial style but merit and achievement.
The Doctor
The Doctor 3 сарын өмнө
MNpost put this in my recommended for no reason and I feel called out.
t. rosenberg
t. rosenberg 3 сарын өмнө
Pretty sure Elon’s in the spectrum.
Davide Boscarino
Davide Boscarino 3 сарын өмнө
7:11 "this is fire" killed me
Lai Wong
Lai Wong 3 сарын өмнө
i am not a big fan of the reaction, this is a reaction video
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava 3 сарын өмнө
Please make a video on Cate Blanchett
Alex Aka Burnz
Alex Aka Burnz 3 сарын өмнө
Anyone else going to mention the Elon musk pics in the back 🤣
Cory Alford
Cory Alford 3 сарын өмнө
RIP Jack Ma
Carrie Couzens
Carrie Couzens 4 сарын өмнө
As someone who is (undiagnosed) Asperger's, I do believe Elon is on the spectrum, which is indicated in his awkward and different mannerisms. Just an ongoing observation.
Andrea 4 сарын өмнө
I was not expecting that Impractical Jokers clip lmao
Yash Gulave
Yash Gulave 4 сарын өмнө
3:56 What's up with Elon in the corner... 🤣🤣🤣
Raghav kumar
Raghav kumar 4 сарын өмнө
Did you see that he changes the picture in his background in every scene.
Eagle Eye
Eagle Eye 4 сарын өмнө
Turn awkwardness into charisma: 1)Eloborate the question 2)Make consistent eye contact while talking. 3)Crack an understandable joke. 4)Embrace the silence in awkward situations. 5)Warm up yourself before the interaction and it will be much smoother. 6)Fully Commit. This is key when telling stories,playing a character or dancing.
They call me Woodstock
They call me Woodstock 4 сарын өмнө
I can't believe the cybertruck thing was a year ago
Marbles 4 сарын өмнө
1:47 I found that interview sincere and therefore engaging. It had contents and not all form. I felt like I got to see behind a public figure's persona, and into their private struggles. Granted, Musk was stylizing the "Tortured Genius" role, but still... It's one of the Rogan interviews I've enjoyed the most. I'm very surprised CoC would use it as an example of low charisma. Perhaps I have a different perspective as a European. I love America, but you have a taste for a fast pace and showmanship that many other countries think takes away from sincerity and depth. You also worship extroversion, and I think that comes into play in how CoC views this interview. Musk is perhaps a little introverted. He's introspective and sharing his thoughts and feelings. America isn't really _about_ _that,_ as you say.
Slizzle Tech&Gaming
Slizzle Tech&Gaming 5 сарын өмнө
you're asking ton Aspie to make eye contact and elaborate on the answers. Lol
Tom N
Tom N 5 сарын өмнө
3:36 well offcourse he was a lil unconfortable.. he just saw his stock go down.
Thompson Saffell
Thompson Saffell 5 сарын өмнө
did you guys see the background photograph with photobooth mirror elon musk? I thought it was funny
young Mem
young Mem 5 сарын өмнө
Something was botherin me about this guy, and on further inspection. The eyebrows are going to far to the sides. Hmmmm
Greg A
Greg A 5 сарын өмнө
What you call "charming" I call creepy. Just be NATURAL.
Nic Halabicky
Nic Halabicky 5 сарын өмнө
Sure he may have come a long way but I honestly I’ve never seen someone so bad at public speaking do so much of it. He exhibits so many big “no no’s” that anyone can learn about in a basic class on public speaking. His body language is awkward, he’s constantly stumbling over his words (so many uhs and ums) and he clearly seems uncomfortable any time he does it. I give him props for going out there anyway though because it’s obviously not his best skill.
dhanish ahmedh
dhanish ahmedh 5 сарын өмнө
Still elon managed to get beautiful actresses as gf (Charismatic)
Crow's Eye
Crow's Eye 5 сарын өмнө
I would join CU but I am a student and i don’t have the money for it...
Luke Wenberg
Luke Wenberg 5 сарын өмнө
He stated about the Joe Rogan show. He was overwhelmed and tired of work. Stressed with work and it was difficult for him to be focused.
Gary Williams UK
Gary Williams UK 5 сарын өмнө
Elon Musk is Thersa Mays love child with...
Iulia 5 сарын өмнө
That is crazy..cuz it s probabily a lie
greenwatermelone 5 сарын өмнө
hey this was great! but can we get one specifically for zoom/voice only meetings where no one can use body language or eye contact anymore? i always come off like either awkward or jerkish online :(
Ana Obee
Ana Obee 5 сарын өмнө
Has anyone tried charisma University? If so I would love to chat with you about your experience to see if it's a good fit for me. :) please message me on my Instagram @copywriter777. Thanks.
SoukEye 5 сарын өмнө
4:27 this is the face of someone that believes himself to be an expert on charisma
Valinner 6 сарын өмнө
The picture in the back cracks me up 3:57
David LaBranche
David LaBranche 6 сарын өмнө
He looks hungover
Luthando Mbili
Luthando Mbili 6 сарын өмнө
Could you please do an analysis on Joe Goldberg from YOU.
pahul gogna
pahul gogna 6 сарын өмнө
I'm I the only one hear noticing that picture frame behind him?
Hans Karps
Hans Karps 6 сарын өмнө
Simple, be a billionaire and everyone will love you.
Adeel Games
Adeel Games 6 сарын өмнө
0:58 Elon Musk is behind you!
H 6 сарын өмнө
Bhavana Mahajan
Bhavana Mahajan 6 сарын өмнө
Please make a video on Leonardo DiCaprio charisma
#Inn3rpeacebeats 6 сарын өмнө
can you do catherine de medici from reign
Prof. Dr. Kalthasar Eternum Tenebris
Prof. Dr. Kalthasar Eternum Tenebris 6 сарын өмнө
If everyone will BE charming noone will be
mostly true
mostly true 6 сарын өмнө
Please go back to your old format
398N2lea4 6 сарын өмнө
5. no don't do that dance thing, it will condition you to NOT TALK and you would feel more tense. Just try to relax in the situation itself
VALOLITES 6 сарын өмнө
do impartical joker pleaseeeeeeeeeeee
Carlos De La Torre
Carlos De La Torre 6 сарын өмнө
Do you have top 10 good books to read about working on conversation skills
Judah Lus
Judah Lus 6 сарын өмнө
Nice videos. Thanks Charlie and Ben I've learnt some cool stuff from this channel.
rebel artè
rebel artè 6 сарын өмнө
Please do one on Robert Pattinson!!!! Thanks
CountArtha 6 сарын өмнө
He's less shy now because he's flooded with serotonin from being the boss. When you have four different companies, two of which are changing the world, you are going to be less intimidated talking to people because there's security in success.
Eric J A
Eric J A 6 сарын өмнө
9:20 it means not everyone is meant to be a Chris Pratt.
Hristo Hristov
Hristo Hristov 6 сарын өмнө
When something goes wrong ??? You think, that breaking the windows was not directed ? LOL ! Nothing went wrong ... never. That was the scenario.
Prateek Annam
Prateek Annam 6 сарын өмнө
We still need a charisma breakdown of Captain Jack Sparrow.
Rand0mN0rwegianGuy Сарын өмнө
@super smoo Hey, no problem :-) Oh and btw, sorry if I came off a bit harsh there lol, that wasn’t my intention.
super smoo
super smoo Сарын өмнө
@Rand0mN0rwegianGuy Gotcha, thanks for the information.
Rand0mN0rwegianGuy Сарын өмнө
@super smoo Lol he doesn't need their "permission" to use some clips from the films. It's under so-called "fair use"; just like with all the other different clips that uses, all of the time, from other movies and shows in videos. Of course he could do that if he wanted to, and hey - maybe he will at some point. Who knows
Topdog525 Сарын өмнө
Ohh yea
Satine Kryze
Satine Kryze 2 сарын өмнө
He did a lot of avenger characters
Mark ComputerTech
Mark ComputerTech 6 сарын өмнө
You should hear what the Panasonic employees say about him at his Gigfactory. Lets just say its not good. . .
Kye Rafferty
Kye Rafferty 6 сарын өмнө
I was singing on stage once, screwed up the key, lyrics, and timing. Stopped singing, laughed, said something like, "Well there's a good reason to practice more than I did! Can we start over?" Everyone laughed, and this story already sounds so fake I'm not even gonna finish it.
ROHIT MAITY 6 сарын өмнө
his mouth is much slower than his mind.
LyleDeYounges 6 сарын өмнө
He's very intelligent AND has become the 3rd richest person in the world... if I acted like him in a conversation with someone I'd become the "don't talk to him!" guy in no time. Most examples used are always celebrities or highly successful people, and those factors are always ignored as being factors in how people react to them.
Blue_Veined_Aristocrat [ASIA]
Blue_Veined_Aristocrat [ASIA] 6 сарын өмнө
Elon knows exactly what's going on lmaooo, Jack Ma is just such a fkn pleb, yeah he can sell stuff but really Jack Ma, Alibaba Intelligence?...God help us
Tim Fischer
Tim Fischer 7 сарын өмнө
If Elon Musk weren't the ultra-rich and successful investor he is, he'd probably be seen as awkward and childish. There are some good tips in this video but Musk is not very charismatic.
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake
Shihara Dias-Bandaranayake 7 сарын өмнө
I myself am on a journey of finding and analysing such character traits of people. I find your videos so interesting. Thank you for the valuable info and analysis. I also go through awkward moments when I talk to people and I use the 3rd technique a lot. Thank you so much again.
LudicrousLogan 7 сарын өмнө
Do a breakdown on Ronald Reagan and JFK
sonofsun 7 сарын өмнө
Duuuuude your mouth has grown bigger or longer throughout time
Raymond Rivera
Raymond Rivera 7 сарын өмнө
He's obviously burned out dude just look at his eyes
Kid Literate
Kid Literate 7 сарын өмнө
Its all good he has Social Anxiety disorder. You'll get through it buddy.
Margo Noor H
Margo Noor H 7 сарын өмнө
Those are some awesome dad it
Tom Gauthier
Tom Gauthier 7 сарын өмнө
Did you watch a little longer at 3:30? I'd think his "this can be fixed in post" comment would be good.
Petros Petridis
Petros Petridis 7 сарын өмнө
Elon is the most awkward public speaker in the world. He can't put together a basic sentence. He is humming and hawing all the time. Even non English native speakers speak more fluently
Puff TMD
Puff TMD 7 сарын өмнө
You’re a very handsome man, but you’d look even better with a beard. Just something to think about.🧔🏻
Karan 7 сарын өмнө
Chris Martin next please!
Anirudh Rowjee
Anirudh Rowjee 7 сарын өмнө
Finally... Charisma on Command
Pugazh Ganesh
Pugazh Ganesh 7 сарын өмнө
He continuesly changing elons photo in his background.
AlvaroDigital 7 сарын өмнө
Good job guys
Jasmin Nguyen
Jasmin Nguyen 7 сарын өмнө
Is it me or does he remind you of someone doctor Mike maybe?
Fitch75 7 сарын өмнө
where can i get the background photo of elon musk ?
Rucha 7 сарын өмнө
Can you make a video on Gordon Ramsay? He's really charismatic
Janrey Gordon
Janrey Gordon 7 сарын өмнө
I would really love Saiorse Ronan to be featured here
T. J.
T. J. 7 сарын өмнө
The picture behind you keeps changing throughout the video 😂
Ed Vintero
Ed Vintero 7 сарын өмнө
Could you do a video on Jackson Wang
Jordan Perry
Jordan Perry 7 сарын өмнө
Do Trump again please
Ivar Necron
Ivar Necron 7 сарын өмнө
I want Ivar boneless
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