How To Win An Argument Without Making Enemies

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Sometimes arguments can get heated and spiral out of control. So while we all want to win an argument, not making an enemy in the process can be even more important.

Which is why today we’ll be looking at Trevor Noah and what you can learn from him about coming out of verbal scruffs not only on top, but looking cool calm and collected.


0:28 - #1: Sub-communicate that you're not there for a fight.
3:46 - #2: Ask questions instead of making statements.
6:39 - #3: Confidently defend yourself without coming across as antagonistic.

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Patrick Flannery
Patrick Flannery 18 цагийн өмнө
But Trevor has only been right once and that was the first week of may 2021. So he has no reason to get frustrated.
Mike S
Mike S Өдрийн өмнө
Sounds like you ripped off Covey & put together some examples *yawn*
TeroN Davis
TeroN Davis 2 өдрийн өмнө
Damnit I thought I was the 100,000th like
Jeffrey K
Jeffrey K 2 өдрийн өмнө
Trevor Noah has to disconnect his emotions from his dialect because nothing he’s saying makes sense, he’s a race baiting clown
David Taylor
David Taylor 3 өдрийн өмнө
Trevor Noah is good at arguing but dumber than a box of rocks.
Prismet P
Prismet P 4 өдрийн өмнө
9:10 The concept of "echo chamber" usually infers that since people all agree on the arguments they share as being true they will not examine them critically in a sufficient way. While Noah is correct that "every group is sort of like echo chamber" he is not correct that all groups are actual echo chambers as many can encourage and remain critical of themselves and their ideas. By definition, an echo chamber is bad because it leaves its members with shared blind spots and vulnerable to dogma.
Lava Popsicle
Lava Popsicle 4 өдрийн өмнө
lol we gave a name for normal discourse... eg listening then asking about things you didn't understood
Bogdan Mihai
Bogdan Mihai 4 өдрийн өмнө
Don't forget Socrates was also killed for annoying everyone so much though :)
Pranay Asswani
Pranay Asswani 4 өдрийн өмнө
Ok questions ! In one of your video in which you gave example of Will and Jeden smith you said get louder and in this video your saying not to get louder can you please explain ?
Kate Hughes
Kate Hughes 5 өдрийн өмнө
"The Socratic method, it works incredibly well to win an argument without making enemies"... Wasn't Socrat sentenced to death by his "enemies"?
John Entwistle
John Entwistle 6 өдрийн өмнө
TREVOR has alot of SOY in his blood ... thats why he can't argue well.
Luke Skywalker Jedi Knight 0.2
Luke Skywalker Jedi Knight 0.2 6 өдрийн өмнө
It’s impossible for me to win an argument without making enemies
Honorine Uwayo
Honorine Uwayo 6 өдрийн өмнө
Trevor Noah is one of the best when it comes to debates. I imagine having a conversation with him would be awesome. He's a good listener.
Janis Dolan
Janis Dolan 6 өдрийн өмнө
I think Trevor Noah is a brilliant guy, he seems to be the sort of person who should be running the country. Pity he cannot become the Pres.
Chris Heyl
Chris Heyl 7 өдрийн өмнө
Never liked Trevor, probably never will. As a “comedian” he isn’t funny at all but as someone who is debating, he is quite good even if I disagree with him on many issues
DantheMan _
DantheMan _ 7 өдрийн өмнө
pov: you lost to a argument in roblox
save animals
save animals 7 өдрийн өмнө
How could he be so perfect.. I mean.. when I hear scientifically illiterate people making false claims.. 😤I start arguing and that creates a mess..
Mitchell Gow
Mitchell Gow 8 өдрийн өмнө
Trevor Noah is an absolute wanker.
Permijit Dunkley
Permijit Dunkley 9 өдрийн өмнө
NO so..@#.
Logan Byrne
Logan Byrne 9 өдрийн өмнө
1. Take command of the argument, 2. Take it to their level, 3. Respond on their level and make it a fair fight. And then laugh after.
Elin Calliel
Elin Calliel 11 өдрийн өмнө
Trevor Noah is an absolute treasure. Not only does he possess an intelligence way beyond most ordinary people, but he is genuinely good in that he loves what is good and true and right and sane. He is balanced and wholesome and yes, I want to have his babies.
Youtubɛ 11 өдрийн өмнө
> how to win an argument Me in arguments: "no u"
Funsho Ayeni
Funsho Ayeni 12 өдрийн өмнө
i listened to and found your content very thought-provoking, I will very much like to translate to a language called "broken" or pidgin" English. This is s language spoken by over 150 million people in Nigeria a country in West Africa.
Ace The FireDragon
Ace The FireDragon 12 өдрийн өмнө
Yes, but actually no.
Michael Tom
Michael Tom 13 өдрийн өмнө
Yes if you’re having a conversation with a friend If you’re getting paid to have a conversation in front of an audience then no
Steampowered 14 өдрийн өмнө
how to be a twitter/reddit user
Benine Geldenhuys
Benine Geldenhuys 15 өдрийн өмнө
Excellent 👏👏👏
Ryku Isaigana
Ryku Isaigana 15 өдрийн өмнө
Trevor’s a great person to use for this topic.
Terrence Dludlu
Terrence Dludlu 16 өдрийн өмнө
I recommend it for everyone
Terrence Dludlu
Terrence Dludlu 16 өдрийн өмнө
Wow! So informative. 🔥✊🏾🔥✊🏾🔥✊🏾🔥✊🏾🔥✊🏾
DDRealm89LOL 16 өдрийн өмнө
Nafee Nafa
Nafee Nafa 16 өдрийн өмнө
Woww. It's just like the summary of 'Never split the difference'. I have been reading this. And one Ben is mentioned in the book by Chris voss. Kindly reply if you are that Ben. I am curious to know about it. By the way I am a huge fan of Trevor noah. Full of coincidence. Keep up your good work.
charles tackett
charles tackett 16 өдрийн өмнө
Helpful video. I learned from this.
Marginalia 2043
Marginalia 2043 17 өдрийн өмнө
I interpret number #3 at 6:43 to be to mean gently leeway into a clarification which *might* bring negation of something previously understood
Isaac Walker
Isaac Walker 17 өдрийн өмнө
I've used this quite often and have pretty good debates on here without "hurting" anybody
TJ Gallagher
TJ Gallagher 18 өдрийн өмнө
Since when should we listen to a fool who makes a habit of fudging the narrative in order to gin up violence. When by his very art of rhetoric which is based on lies and threats just like the rest of the democrat leftist media and it's democrat party?!? This was a joke right, perhaps one of his many failures of comic relief!? Right?
bokstotherescue Dela Paz
bokstotherescue Dela Paz 18 өдрийн өмнө
How do you practice these stuff? I've been watching your videos for a year and I feel that I've accumulated a lot of tips but application seems to be a different story. I always end up walking away from a heated discussion with regrets and thinking "I should have".
K Mehta
K Mehta 19 өдрийн өмнө
South African teaching on another level!
K Mehta
K Mehta 19 өдрийн өмнө
And I dont even like him!
Sinh Nguyen
Sinh Nguyen 19 өдрийн өмнө
I really like your work. Do you have Vietnamese version yet? Are the last part of your clips still valid and have you had any Vietnamese channel working on yet?
Ema Arredondo
Ema Arredondo 20 өдрийн өмнө
Socrates was executed.
Apple Thing
Apple Thing 20 өдрийн өмнө
i am so sorry but in the thumbnail i thoughts trevor was will smith
Angelica Sturdevent
Angelica Sturdevent 21 өдрийн өмнө
That was interesting.
Marc Swerts
Marc Swerts 21 өдрийн өмнө
The left wins its arguments by having people silenced by their Big Tech goons.
R D 21 өдрийн өмнө
What is this channel? Is this where aliens come to learn humanisms?
Harold Kudzai Chihwayi
Harold Kudzai Chihwayi 21 өдрийн өмнө
Dr Jordan Peterson is THE BEST...
Sridhar Kaushik
Sridhar Kaushik 21 өдрийн өмнө
The ideas given here work only in the West. Socrates is the greatest philosopher ever? Try Adi Shankara or Confucius.
Jest Kan
Jest Kan 22 өдрийн өмнө
Very impressive,
Alli Hocker
Alli Hocker 22 өдрийн өмнө
Love love LOVE this comedian,he not only makes me laugh but also keeps me informed of what's in the news !!
Agent Bey
Agent Bey 22 өдрийн өмнө
I am interested in learning more about these communication techniques. Very effective!
Anon YT
Anon YT 23 өдрийн өмнө
If they are saying Idris Elba does not act black enough then they should cancel this clown as well. All of his arguements are based in emotion not fact.
MelodicProgressiveHouse (MPH)
MelodicProgressiveHouse (MPH) 23 өдрийн өмнө
Most people lack the capacity to remain intelligent and calm while debating or arguing. Self control my friends, is a learned skill, but best if its innate.
Trigger Time TV
Trigger Time TV 23 өдрийн өмнө
I don’t think known propagandist Trevor Noah is a good example. Was going to subscribe until this video auto played.
Ajay Harry
Ajay Harry 24 өдрийн өмнө
Definitely the best video that you can actually use.
DB7Gaming 24 өдрийн өмнө
What if you dont have enough knowledge about the subject to keep talking? Will you just stop the person and say "yes" "ok" "alright"
Jarret Chambers
Jarret Chambers 24 өдрийн өмнө
I think above all is ego!
Wendy McKissick
Wendy McKissick 26 өдрийн өмнө
I do respect him for having Tomi Lahren on his show. And he does do a good job of keeping it civil, which of course is his responsibility in most of these clips since he’s the host. But on these shows the interviews are so short no one ever has time to say anything of substance anyway.
Keeko 26 өдрийн өмнө
This video was great but what if I want to make enemies
Jamie Smith
Jamie Smith 26 өдрийн өмнө
Kamala Harris is catching hell this week (April 2021) because she injects a laugh at a seemingly inappropriate place in a discussion, but she is actually doing what he says @2:37 and she does it pretty well. It makes the conversation more human. But man, people are quick to take it out of context and make it negative.
Rustam Chand Arain
Rustam Chand Arain 26 өдрийн өмнө
Thierno Bah
Thierno Bah 27 өдрийн өмнө
Seeing race from a South African point of view, you will always be out of context anywhere else in the world, whether you are black or white.
the brink
the brink 27 өдрийн өмнө
Horrible example, since Trevor is a liar and no one listens to him who he is arguing with because of that. Which causes them to correct him. This is the opposite of what you're trying to say.
Todd Howard
Todd Howard Сарын өмнө
I usually just end it with a makeout session regardless of gender
KM653 Сарын өмнө
This needs to be a course included in Business administration. I have a coworker that I genuinely like as a person and have never had any issue with her work but I find myself having to plan out an entire dialogue to keep her from getting overly defensive.
Ramin Mohseni Jam
Ramin Mohseni Jam Сарын өмнө
Solutions were more about "How to NOT LOSE an argument without making enemies"
Smile. Сарын өмнө
Imagine if Trevor Noah was the president 🤩🌼👍🏻👏🏻
Rogelio Tol Tol
Rogelio Tol Tol Сарын өмнө
Always consider the counter argument. If you have ever written an academic paper, you would understand this, it is a basic and a key part for an effective essay.
irene Ramotoho
irene Ramotoho Сарын өмнө
For those who took notes🖐
irene Ramotoho
irene Ramotoho Сарын өмнө
This is really tres tres magnifique Tres bien Very good Oh my God 👌👌 Merci
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1:52 Hey Girl!! Fix That Trilogy
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The second drop preauricularly invite because monday presumably unfasten with a zippy streetcar. sloppy, calm ophthalmologist
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vtencouchclimbr Сарын өмнө
trevor noah is a schill, same with ben.... whatever his last name is.... and appearing harmless is a cowards way of debating
Red Crane
Red Crane Сарын өмнө
Trevor is probably a great dad.
El Plebe Uchiha
El Plebe Uchiha Сарын өмнө
Take a deep breath before talking and slowly. Will remember this. I’d argue that the other two techniques don’t always work. Upper inflection and making jokes can make people feel like “you aren’t taking them seriously.” [+]
Peach Flower
Peach Flower Сарын өмнө
Damn I love him ❤️🙏✨
Varlot 935
Varlot 935 Сарын өмнө
i find it awesome that you are able to find people and use their examples for each video
vumazwe siziba
vumazwe siziba Сарын өмнө
12:01 Why isn't Zimbabwe labelled? WHY??
Ridwan Siddiqui
Ridwan Siddiqui Сарын өмнө
I applaud your effort in explaining this very important subject. It can help a lot arguments to end amicably. My only comment would be that there are just so many clips included without sound while you are voicing over your narrative. The narrative is informative the clips are extremely distracting - trying to remember the clip; the verbal exchange in the clip. This, in my views let’s your efforts down. If you want to include clips; let the viewer hear what’s going on and then pause to explain.
Bella Zoo
Bella Zoo Сарын өмнө
Trevor Noah's art of communication is great. 😊
Venge Ance
Venge Ance Сарын өмнө
Trevor Noah... Watching this guy "joke" makes me feel bad on his behalf. If you want a project to fail, bring this guy to its presentation.
Riel Resnel Magallanes
Riel Resnel Magallanes Сарын өмнө
Pulp Fusion
Pulp Fusion Сарын өмнө
Thanks. I wonder if techniques or methods can bring about the love of truth which is essential to any worthwhile debate or discussion? P.s. Diminish, not deminish.
Lu Zou
Lu Zou Сарын өмнө
so what's up with those 1.5k people downvoting >.>
Suzanne Brunelle
Suzanne Brunelle Сарын өмнө
Trevor Noah is so overated, he is not funny and not that bright, just arrogant self-entitled and I do not see what others see in him at all
1sornram Сарын өмнө
Lisa Brygger
Lisa Brygger Сарын өмнө
Just say whatever and walk
Mun-Keong Foong
Mun-Keong Foong Сарын өмнө
To me, ignorant is evil...eventually.
InsignificantDecency Сарын өмнө
“Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; argument an exchange of ignorance.” ―Robert Quillen
InsignificantDecency Сарын өмнө
”I hold it to be a proof of great prudence for men to abstain from threats and insulting words toward anyone, for neither diminishes the strength of the enemy.” ―Niccolò Machiavelli
InsignificantDecency Сарын өмнө
”There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all argument and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance. This principle is contempt prior to examination.” ―Herbert Spencer
InsignificantDecency Сарын өмнө
“The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress.” ―Joseph Joubert
Dora boss
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Tina K
Tina K Сарын өмнө
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Sherifa Nakalema
Sherifa Nakalema Сарын өмнө
These are great examples. Looks like Trevor is good! Thank you for this video.
Sarah Сарын өмнө
Key #4 Be an outsider with adorable dimples
Vicious Сарын өмнө
The religion is the problem, anybody that has read the religious texts knows this.
Sea Potatoes
Sea Potatoes Сарын өмнө
I like how trevor is the main example here, he's real good at manipulation isn't he.
Viktoria van der Meulen
Viktoria van der Meulen Сарын өмнө
WOW, Charile, you are growing! Congratulation, you rock!
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