5 Psychological Tricks You’re Not Taught In School

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If you’ve been watching this channel for a while you might have realized that the most interesting and useful psychological tricks that we talk about are not taught in school. Good news is, that’s where we come in!
In this video, we’re going to cover 5 psychological tricks that can get you more of what you want from life, more easily. These are very useful in scenarios where you’re trying to persuade someone.

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0:20 - Trick #1: The word “but”.
1:28 - Trick #2: A double bind.
2:52 - Trick #3: Visualization.
4:53 - Trick #4: Framing.
6:28 - Trick #5: Scarcity.
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Kevin Bissinger
Kevin Bissinger 4 өдрийн өмнө
3:27 dang, I'd say like 99% of the stuff you've said I already knew in one way or another, but this. This was a brand new one and a shocking one because you're the first person I've ever heard suggest that. edit: oooh, turns out it is related something I knew in a different context. The gatekeeper thing, I do a "Well, if you found yourself in my situation and you needed to accomplish x, what would you do here, or what would your next step be?"
Thomas Fa
Thomas Fa 8 өдрийн өмнө
After Reading " Never split the difference" by Chris Voss ,Here are a few tactics I've learned. 1) Labelling emotions : disrupt negative emotions and emphasize your counterpart positive emotions . Ex : It seems like you're being stressed about this situation but It sounds like You're stil excited to try your shot . 2) Mirroring . Just repeat the last 2 or 3 most important words in your counterpart's last sentence . They'd usually change what they initially said in the first place (use also the FM DJ voice ) 3 ) Use calibrated questions that use "how" or "what " : it gives the other the illusion of being in control while you're framing the conversation " How am I supposed to accept such a deal ?" " What are we trying to accomplish here ?" Hope it helped you !
Abby Koop
Abby Koop 13 өдрийн өмнө
You might have wanted to mention that sometimes that scarcity rule can backfire. You need to be willing to lose whatever it is, cuz that can happen too. It would probably work out for the best, but, sometimes they just go find someone who is a bit more available.
Aaron Seet
Aaron Seet 14 өдрийн өмнө
These aren't the droids you're looking for.
James Sr.
James Sr. 16 өдрийн өмнө
Bruh. The stuff in this video was mind blowing. Favorite one of your videos!
zinilebt
zinilebt 22 өдрийн өмнө
You make very helpful Videos. Thank you very much :)
enoughofyourkoicarp
enoughofyourkoicarp 28 өдрийн өмнө
"So there are I frames-" Wait, life has invincibility frames? Have I not been rolling around enough? "- which you shouldn't use." Well if it makes me invulnerable I'm going to take up tumbling- wait... Oh, I think we're on different tracks here, let me rewind...
GazingatStars
GazingatStars Сарын өмнө
Overusing and Abusing of "open gestures" And fake/forced laughs and smiles can kill the parsimonious effects of those...!!
Taste
Taste Сарын өмнө
Trick 2 didn't work. Step sis stuck in washing machine
JulieP2969
JulieP2969 2 сарын өмнө
Fans of the show would sound better and less arrogant. I know you’re not arrogant at all. It just sounds bad when someone says,” My fans,”
Red NailPolish
Red NailPolish 3 сарын өмнө
I always end up watching these videos over and over so I can really remember the points. Excellent information, that truly is helpful in everyday life.
Beauty Beatdown
Beauty Beatdown 3 сарын өмнө
A LOT of things aren't taught in school XD lol
The Sting
The Sting 4 сарын өмнө
*5 Psychological Tricks* 1. Positive phrase after BUT ( I can't go, BUT I'd Love to) -- 0:25 2. Choose one from A and B -- 1:30 3. Imagery (Visualization) -- 2:55 4. Use YOU frame instead of I frame -- 4:52 5. Scarcity (but don't fake it)-- 6:30
Salina Busevak
Salina Busevak 4 сарын өмнө
You are amazing, wish I had been subscribed along time ago!
Lexi Tigerlily
Lexi Tigerlily 5 сарын өмнө
Regarding the first tip. You can also switch the word "but" to the word "and." The word "but" cancels out everything that comes before it. When you say the word "and" then both are true. For example, let's pretending your significant other doesn't clean up after themselves when they come over to your apartment and you love having them over but don't like the mess so you want to address this. Try saying: "Sweetie, I love you, AND you need to work on cleaning up after yourself when you come over." Instead of "Sweetie, I love you, BUT you need to work on cleaning up after yourself when you come over."
Stephanie Taylor
Stephanie Taylor 5 сарын өмнө
This is my favorite video you've made so far. Thank you for all that you do!
tjitjo
tjitjo 5 сарын өмнө
I despise people who use psychological tricks. It's weak and immoral.
OTG ChiKid
OTG ChiKid 5 сарын өмнө
YOU'RE making great content. YOU are greatly appreciated.
Valentine대런
Valentine대런 5 сарын өмнө
The only psychological trick I’ve learned in school was drawing the S
7840-B Bilal Khan
7840-B Bilal Khan 6 сарын өмнө
I read this book by Dale Carnegie "How to influence people and win friends" This video dwells deeper on this subject. 1.The use of the word 'but' 2. A double blind. 3.Visualization- the image you frame on the other person is as powerful as 4.Framing 5.Scarcity
Reece Harding
Reece Harding 6 сарын өмнө
1. When using the word ‘but’: Say the negative part first, then the positive part after the but. (I can’t make it tonight but I would have loved to have gone” 2. Setting a bind for a decision: a.) Look, I know you’re going to be skeptical about this and if you weren’t I would think there was something wrong about you. b.) Were you looking to buy a car with a leather interior or one with a fabric interior? 3. After an interview: When asked if you have any questions after an interview. Answer - “Well yes actually I do. If we were looking back a year from now and I’ve been a star part of this team that would have met and exceeded all of your expectations, what would that look like? What goals should I have met during that time?” (Works for all parts of life. Associate yourself with positive ideas in the other person’s mind) 4. Speak in ‘you’ frames or ‘we’ frames. “I just finished up an article intended for your audience.” or “How are we doing?” 5. Scarcity is powerful. Don’t be afraid to make plans and then be able to tell the person you care about that you’re busy. This will make them value your time and see you as more valuable.
Reece Harding
Reece Harding 6 сарын өмнө
1. When using the word ‘but’: Say the negative part first, then the positive part after the but. (I can’t make it tonight but I would have loved to have gone” 2. Setting a bind for a decision: a.) Look, I know you’re going to be skeptical about this and if you weren’t I would think there was something wrong about you. b.) Were you looking to buy a car with a leather interior or one with a fabric interior? 3. After an interview: When asked if you have any questions after an interview. Answer - “Well yes actually I do. If we were looking back a year from now and I’ve been a Star part of this team that would have met and exceeded all of your expectations, what would that look like? What goals should I have met during that time?” (Works for all parts of life. Associate yourself with positive ideas in the other person’s mind) 4. Speak in ‘you’ frames or ‘we’ frames. “I just finished up an article intended for your audience.” or “How are we doing?” 5. Scarcity is powerful. Don’t be afraid to make plans and then be able to tell the person you care about that you’re busy. This will make them value your time and see you as more valuable.
Lilly Love
Lilly Love 7 сарын өмнө
these are all marketer skills.
Seham Fadul
Seham Fadul 8 сарын өмнө
I don't know why but I love your smile alot
aVoiding
aVoiding 8 сарын өмнө
I imagine if this guy sees me how i live my daily life, he's gonna kill me.
Smart Tech
Smart Tech 9 сарын өмнө
Awesome information, thank you!
brachios squill
brachios squill 9 сарын өмнө
this isnt the only thing school doesnt teach; theres millions more.
Brendan A
Brendan A 9 сарын өмнө
8:02 Charlie has one of the biggest smiles I've ever seen, gotta love it.
T H E M A N B E H I N D T H E S L A U G H T E R
T H E M A N B E H I N D T H E S L A U G H T E R 9 сарын өмнө
What’s school?
Ro boss thinking
Ro boss thinking 9 сарын өмнө
1:39 Did school leave the chat?
Micah Sapp
Micah Sapp 10 сарын өмнө
I don’t understand the Double Blind. Can someone explain?
Sisekelo Shawn
Sisekelo Shawn 10 сарын өмнө
The apply link is broken. You might wanna fix that.
Talinite
Talinite 10 сарын өмнө
Great video!
oscar Oscar
oscar Oscar 10 сарын өмнө
Lol you used your same example as one 1 against yourself with " i am not saying to fake it or play people but..." :-D
Abhay Kumar Singh
Abhay Kumar Singh 10 сарын өмнө
I subscribed this channel for you.
Subhayan Sinha
Subhayan Sinha 11 сарын өмнө
Could you please give a disclaimer at the beginnings of videos concerning examples cited from popular a series (Game of Thrones or Peaky Blinders, etc) that can serve as a spoiler alert? I really admire your work otherwise.
Subhayan Sinha
Subhayan Sinha 11 сарын өмнө
You do amazing work sir. I love your content and look forward to more!
João Cruz
João Cruz 11 сарын өмнө
So ... He sheds like crazy but I just got a new dog! Ahahahahaha Not the best sentence choice I guess
Tasky
Tasky 11 сарын өмнө
This was something very helpful and insightful into how to progress in the world and how to interact properly with other people, you have taught me a lot of things that I’ve never known before, thank you
Freya x
Freya x 11 сарын өмнө
he reminds me of the guy from You and I'm not here for it
Unckle D Gaming
Unckle D Gaming 11 сарын өмнө
What else have i not been taught at school?
Multi-Boxing Carlos
Multi-Boxing Carlos Жилийн өмнө
3:25 - just rewind it and watch it several times.
Syn3rgy
Syn3rgy Жилийн өмнө
I'm gonna have to change my iPhone to a Uphone
Eli G
Eli G Жилийн өмнө
If your lazy 8:24 although you will understand it much better if u watch the entire vid
Rachel Bell
Rachel Bell Жилийн өмнө
the me before you clip 🥺 excuse me while i go rewatch that movie for the hundredth time
PumpiPí —
PumpiPí — Жилийн өмнө
5 psychological facts you aren’t taught in school, as opposed to the ones you are taught
XP_Studios
XP_Studios Жилийн өмнө
Guy: I need the job by Thursday CoC: you dare use my own spells against me potter
Vicky Crawford
Vicky Crawford Жилийн өмнө
Ngl his smile be cute asf 😂
Ray Newell
Ray Newell Жилийн өмнө
Good job!!!
Coco The Spooky Librarian
Coco The Spooky Librarian Жилийн өмнө
So the scarcity thing is true only to an extent. I've worked with recruiters that won't even send someone to interview if they think there is even a chance that people might have another offer pending.
Derek
Derek Жилийн өмнө
this dude is phenomenal...no 'buts'
Marc
Marc Жилийн өмнө
These aren't tips...these are manipulation practices for sociopaths.
Soyosan22
Soyosan22 Жилийн өмнө
This is some typical American salesman bs - it doesn't work outside the US. Good luck trying these "tricks" in Germany or Russia for example. People will tell you to go F yourself.
vex
vex Жилийн өмнө
Blah, blah, blah, BUT, blah...
axh2
axh2 Жилийн өмнө
s are terrible... many Front-end developers would agree with you ;)
Ray okeedoki
Ray okeedoki Жилийн өмнө
Interesting about the swap in number one. I found that we need to finish on a positive. As like a buffer in a computer, the processing order etc... the LAST THING SAID, is the last thing FRESH in the MIND and EFFECTS the FEELINGS and GOALS of what comes next. This is also why kids do what you just told them not to do, exactly as you told them not to, creating an IMAGE of them DOING IT in their minds... AS there is no "NOT" DOING IMAGE. We think in DOING Images. Consider what IMAGE and FEELING are you leaving in people's minds, for that is WHAT THEY REMEMBER when they think of you next time. Oh that person they did bla bla.
Serge Kamga
Serge Kamga Жилийн өмнө
I wish I had used the job interview tip on my last two interviews. Will definitely use on the next one. This kid is a genius.
Dan D
Dan D Жилийн өмнө
1st time watching your videos. Will you cover the different "micro cultures" with in the U.S.? My travels from north to south of the east to west, have taught me a lot of local jargon to ways the American English language is used including slang into almost a full dialect. I've experienced a lot of common values and ethics, yet it's fasinating to see and hear it expressed in many ways. My ice breaker was using the subject of food, to learn about people from that area. Would you know of more?
1Knight
1Knight Жилийн өмнө
Really wish I would of seen this vid about 6 months ago in my suggested video list... Typical.
Nicholas Letellier
Nicholas Letellier Жилийн өмнө
thanks, these were awesome you were great
Allan Dias
Allan Dias Жилийн өмнө
I love this guy without much pubic hair and still teaching everyone on confidence and simple front line communication and empathy skills. Keep going kid
Demetri Riter
Demetri Riter Жилийн өмнө
This video and its point freaked me out bc I self taught myself most of the concepts and them some, even the concept of the different impacts of you and I frames
D K
D K Жилийн өмнө
"I" need a writer for "my" show, you lost me bud. Now had you said, "You" can work on 'YOUR' writing skills, I might've been inclined to help you out
Drew Werner
Drew Werner Жилийн өмнө
Wow! I have been in (pharmaceutical) outside sales for 25 years, and this video is light but surprisingly accurate. Because I was so impressed, I just subscribed... and I only subscribe to a handful of others.
Johannes Standoft
Johannes Standoft Жилийн өмнө
the double bind is a big nono: If i heard anyone expres themselves like that my mind would instantly go "this sounds like a sales pitch, from here on i wont trust a single word coming out of your mouth"
Joanna G
Joanna G Жилийн өмнө
Quite brilliant stuff. The information in your videos is well researched, informative, and life altering when applied correctly. Many thanks!
Harrison T. Griffin
Harrison T. Griffin Жилийн өмнө
Thank you
Jim Miranda
Jim Miranda Жилийн өмнө
The internet was intended to be the "information highway" however, it has become a vehicle of disinformation.
Dana Ann
Dana Ann Жилийн өмнө
I did find this VERY helpful. Thank you. I am going to utilize this.
Daniel Plainview
Daniel Plainview Жилийн өмнө
Why did he I-frame the job offer at the end of the video?
Jake Tyronia
Jake Tyronia Жилийн өмнө
This is sage advice! Thank you!
Benny Hansen
Benny Hansen Жилийн өмнө
Considering tjis is all absolut genetik human psychology... can you realt refer to it as tricks?
jablosvockil jablopaap
jablosvockil jablopaap Жилийн өмнө
"Any statement which is followed by word "but" is a lie" - the one lesson every government will force you to learn.
Arcane Punk
Arcane Punk Жилийн өмнө
Your video is very helpful! Thank you!
EmPeeJay
EmPeeJay Жилийн өмнө
I don't know haw but i get what you're saying and it's very exciting
Jme Ramos
Jme Ramos Жилийн өмнө
What a beautiful smile. 😁
philip kingston
philip kingston Жилийн өмнө
I wrote this comment for your audience specifically.........
Mort Cackren
Mort Cackren Жилийн өмнө
I could use a job.
Aaron Phelps
Aaron Phelps Жилийн өмнө
#5, scarcity, seems to be a double edged sword. I am a vendor, a dual schedule based service provider. My schedule might get filled and I’m unavailable. I’ve used the fact to motivate clients to choose to hire me. Unfortunately, if they are unable to hire right away is also motivates them to avoid me, because if I’m available when they become ready to hire and I’ve already prompted them, then they think I’m either unavailable or I was lying/being manipulative. With that said, overall, I like your list. (You taught me proper framing and I just used it)
Emmanuel Awuah
Emmanuel Awuah Жилийн өмнө
Great guy
śï×ÕfŇîņē
śï×ÕfŇîņē Жилийн өмнө
I interview and get the job every time. There are no tricks. I am better than everyone in my area of expertise. Simple...
Faizan Adib
Faizan Adib Жилийн өмнө
Infact they teach many things in school apart from the syllabus but we tend to take that for granted!
Brian Platt
Brian Platt Жилийн өмнө
Lovelyz videos that teach the new kids how to be human freaking beings.
Ian Wheeler
Ian Wheeler Жилийн өмнө
Another winner. Now to remember to do all this!
Reese Rains
Reese Rains Жилийн өмнө
You ever do the heroin angle?
Dragons204
Dragons204 Жилийн өмнө
I think you should add some background music
Pichael Pecker-Head
Pichael Pecker-Head Жилийн өмнө
You know what else is persuasive? Straight teeth
Short Videos
Short Videos Жилийн өмнө
I need to tell you that I watched this at about 3 AM, on the very morning of a job interview. The visualization and scarcity tips you provided, I am sure, helped me to get two job offers in the same week. I thank you so much!
bloody mist
bloody mist Жилийн өмнө
am I the only one that thinks he talks like hotel books or Neil Hilborn
Ton Wilson
Ton Wilson Жилийн өмнө
What a little grease ball.
Michael McCaffrey
Michael McCaffrey Жилийн өмнө
Great video!
TJ Ficarrotta
TJ Ficarrotta Жилийн өмнө
Very very interesting. Just by your first video and what you taught me this morning , I subscribed immediately. No other MNpostr have I done this with. Thank you!
Tedi Bare
Tedi Bare Жилийн өмнө
Unfortunately I just saw this video for the first time today and it’s way past August!!
Robert Olecki
Robert Olecki Жилийн өмнө
Manipulation... I love it!!!
alanrmurphy
alanrmurphy Жилийн өмнө
The interview tip only works with unqualified or untrained interviewers. This question falls flat in behavioral-based, competency, Lomimger-focused interviews. As a hiring manager and interviewer, I've lost count of the number of times I've heard that and similar questions and had to hold back my laughter.
Hickory Dragon
Hickory Dragon Жилийн өмнө
I don't usually watch your videos, but, Quite Frankly, You have made a great one here. You'd be crazy not to have lots of subscribers watching vids like this in the future.
Evil Twin
Evil Twin Жилийн өмнө
More easy Vs Easier I couldn't get that out of my head the entire video.
StefanTheConqueror
StefanTheConqueror Жилийн өмнө
Were going to hack all the humans
Rhonda Fizzleflint
Rhonda Fizzleflint Жилийн өмнө
Well, actually we haven't been taught any psychological tricks in school.
Jonathan M
Jonathan M Жилийн өмнө
These are not the droids you are looking for.
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