How To Turn Awkwardness Into Attraction

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Aubrey Plaza is pretty well known for her awkward moments. Despite and even because of her awkwardness she is extremely popular, successful and attractive to a lot of people.
Which is why in this video we’re going to break down how to turn YOUR awkward moments into ones that actually make people more drawn towards you.

1:03 - 1A: Introduce yourself with some form of physical touch.
1:19 - 1B: Call out awkward moments when they happen.
2:27 - 2A: Lean into the awkwardness even further.
3:09 - 2B: Call out when you see someone making these social mistakes.
3:59 - 3: Add a sentence to your one word answer.
5:03 - 4A: Flat deliveries work best when what you are saying is outlandish.
5:25 - 4B: Laugh at yourself or simply explain yourself.
6:34 - 5: Introduce a “hard pivot”- Do/say something even more awkward than the situation itself.
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DamionChrist 5 цагийн өмнө
She’s a knockout!
Teresa Quintero Terejova
Teresa Quintero Terejova 10 цагийн өмнө
Why is everyone on the comment section talking about that her awkwardness it's acceptable because some of you consider her pretty. The insecurity is strong on this one, that's the real reason it's not working for you.
PageRap 10 цагийн өмнө
Step 1: be hot Step 2:
Absolute Canvas
Absolute Canvas 12 цагийн өмнө
I know I'm supposed to be paying attention (and I am) but I can't help but notice how many hairstyles I've now witness @ 7:42. hahahaha
Alejandro Gomez
Alejandro Gomez Өдрийн өмнө
Be self aware of your awkwardness in that it’s obvious. In other words just own it. At least that’s what I do when I feel like being awkward
Luka 2 өдрийн өмнө
for everyone saying being attractive helps work on your looks
Graham Luke
Graham Luke 4 өдрийн өмнө
I like the information in this channel, but the presenters act like they've mastered these tips. Um, we can tell that you haven't. That's okay.
Jeffrey Jenson
Jeffrey Jenson 5 өдрийн өмнө
So take this constructive. The hand she didn't shake was Howey Mandel known germaphobe.
myklmusic 6 өдрийн өмнө
So, there's actually a course. Ok.
Jazoink Last name
Jazoink Last name 9 өдрийн өмнө
3:25 wait, your not supposed to do that?
mobey 9 өдрийн өмнө
the starting premise here is absolutely hilarious. aubrey plaza could walk around quoting mein kampf and still be attractive.
Gospon Strojevar
Gospon Strojevar 10 өдрийн өмнө
Yeah... she's super hot..
D 11 өдрийн өмнө
I can’t stand her
Jesse Spika
Jesse Spika 13 өдрийн өмнө
I’m so unbelievably attracted to her, it’s ridiculous...
Tom Wood
Tom Wood 14 өдрийн өмнө
It helps a lot if most people find you very attractive.
Harald Schubert
Harald Schubert 15 өдрийн өмнө
The course is too expensive
Reuben Searl
Reuben Searl 15 өдрийн өмнө
I agree, just go out and speak to people and be fun and positive, yet still be serious when the situation calls for it.
The HandProject
The HandProject 15 өдрийн өмнө
Weird video lol
Son 16 өдрийн өмнө
She’s actually really weird lol
Morganlefay 16 өдрийн өмнө
Has no one in this comments section ever met someone attractive and then they’re so awkward you just NEED to get away? No? Well, it happens. Attractiveness is superficial. The awkwardness will be the deal breaker unless it can be charismatically awkward, too. Writing these examples off as just her being attractive to make up for it is pure laziness. Edit- obviously, I need to take this course. I’m too analytical, and deadpan things too often but bounce (so not smoothly) towards being really friendly (cos I suddenly belatedly realize I’m being awkward/prickly/cold, etc) succeeding in making people feel off balance. Sigh.
Morganlefay 16 өдрийн өмнө
Pretty sure she’s my spirit animal...
Mottahead 19 өдрийн өмнө
I don't know : she looks like she's on downers most of the time.
shannon k
shannon k 19 өдрийн өмнө
great video as always. a little minor feedback: the commercials come at very awkward times, often in the middle of a sentence.
LovesTheGash 23 өдрийн өмнө
What’s this? A guide on how to pretend to be awkward? What a sad, sad world
Reuben Searl
Reuben Searl 15 өдрийн өмнө
@LovesTheGash do what?!?
LovesTheGash 15 өдрийн өмнө
@Reuben Searl kill me
Reuben Searl
Reuben Searl 16 өдрийн өмнө
Ahahaha yes this is the sad reality we live in.
CL8ON J 23 өдрийн өмнө
Conan-- "Thanks for being here". Aubrey-- "Yep". Well.....Yes _IS_ positive, right?
An Ra
An Ra 26 өдрийн өмнө
Nah fam just b atractivee
Sharetea 26 өдрийн өмнө
I don't think my awkwardness can be helped...
Tricolorrr533 Сарын өмнө
How to be attractive being awkward: 1- Be pretty 2- Be a woman
Marc Wampach
Marc Wampach Сарын өмнө
Trying to understand or deconstuck Audrey is already missing the point.
Zaven Embree
Zaven Embree Сарын өмнө
i think its interesting to examine the psychology behind why people come across as charismatic. however, i think the key thing missing from such an exercise is understanding that above all her awkwardness comes across as authentic, its not gonna land if its forced. you gotta cultivate your authentic self above all else.
unCrowned Сарын өмнө
she's like the goth gf you see in cartoons
Reuben Searl
Reuben Searl 16 өдрийн өмнө
Oh yeahh true
M.G. Hopkins
M.G. Hopkins Сарын өмнө
I think I used to be charasmatic, but I haven't been around people in so long that I don't really know anymore 😂
Matthew Dev
Matthew Dev Сарын өмнө
Who is this?
Malta Network Resources
Malta Network Resources Сарын өмнө
Physical contact is dangerous now
Maciej W
Maciej W Сарын өмнө
Then again you can just avoid awkwardness by not talking at all.
adipsous Сарын өмнө
I've heard the name Aubrey Plaza before. Obviously she's famous. But what does she do?
Jeff S
Jeff S Сарын өмнө
Who are you and what is your education to provide analysis on this subject? Or is this just an opinion.
Lauren James
Lauren James Сарын өмнө
The only thing about this video is that I think Aubrey plaza always knows exactly what she's doing. She has very purposefully concocted that awkward personality because it's hilarious
Perry Terry
Perry Terry Сарын өмнө
My case is kind of different ‘cause I think and many people find me very funny but in spanish(I’m from mexico n im going to move to the us for college), and a big part of my funniness is because of the relatableness of how I say the words (I speak like a dad but in an awkward funny kind of way) and all the words i use dont have a direct translation so what are youre suggestions 👁👄👁
Perry Terry
Perry Terry Сарын өмнө
PS: For the record i dont even know if the word funniness exists PS 2: kudos if anybody understands my first comment
Dusty Walker
Dusty Walker 2 сарын өмнө
No one: Me: clicks video... Then jumps bc i forgot that i clicked the video
João Mendes
João Mendes 2 сарын өмнө
Sarcasm is a woman
Kristen Corley
Kristen Corley 2 сарын өмнө
I don't think she is a good example in this case. She is trying to confuse in order to "charm"
palmer491 2 сарын өмнө
she makes me feel better about being socially awkward😂
How mathematicians create maths
How mathematicians create maths 2 сарын өмнө
You said that "we listen to someones emotional.expression as much as we listen to their words" I respectfully disagree. Studies have shown that words actually dont matter itln conversations. Only 5% words and 95% body language. This is why us intelligent men often have trouble with women because we have a harder time displaying energetic body language because we see risks much clearer than others
Hadeer Mu
Hadeer Mu 2 сарын өмнө
She is just annoying
Patmand 2 сарын өмнө
does this works for men?
Chairio 2 сарын өмнө
Tara Whittington
Tara Whittington 2 сарын өмнө
1:04 ... Good luck with that 🍀👍
민Chirushi 2 сарын өмнө
Everyone else saying to be attractive, but I think it's about being ✨confident✨
Rohanna Bendiola
Rohanna Bendiola 2 сарын өмнө
isabella 2 сарын өмнө
YES THANK YOU i hate how everyone keeps saying that its because she's attractive and whatever. obviously being good looking is something that always helps but you can't just invalidate someone's abilities because "sHeS jUsT aTtrAcTivE"
Fry Philip
Fry Philip 2 сарын өмнө
1:13 Howie Mendel is a famous germaphobe, who doesn’t like being touch
R B 2 сарын өмнө
I'd just like to add that sometimes when a person gives a short answer to a question or doesn't participate in small talk it's because THEY DON'T WANT TO. More people (extroverts) need to pick up on subtle cues that someone is trying to be polite while also trying to avoid getting into a conversation. I have this happen all the time and it's not because I'm awkward or don't understand social cues, it's because other people either don't understand or don't care about the cues I'm sending. The examples here are from interviews where having a conversation is the point, but the advice given here doesn't apply in every situation.
SMOKINSTINE 2 сарын өмнө
the comments here tell all, when you ae mindblowingly absolutly HOT anything you say would be considered ATTRACTIVE !!
TheMitchman55 2 сарын өмнө
and that is her "character" so ya lol
Electro-Shock Blues 42
Electro-Shock Blues 42 2 сарын өмнө
I think she did that w Howie because he’s a germaphobe and hates shaking hands.
Connor JB
Connor JB 2 сарын өмнө
How many times has she been on the Conan O’brien show? There was probably close to 10 clips and she was wearing something different in most of them.
daniel motita
daniel motita 2 сарын өмнө
shes doing everything on purpose, its cringy asf
Bradmakesgains 3 сарын өмнө
If I master that I’ll be a black belt in social skills
Bradmakesgains 3 сарын өмнө
Give some more examples of the hard pivot please
Believin Karma
Believin Karma 3 сарын өмнө
what a lady
Andre 3 сарын өмнө
am i the only one who doesn’t find her that attractive
Andre 3 сарын өмнө
fax. calling out awkwardness and just being open about it breaks the ice and always gives u something to say
TopGlobal ML
TopGlobal ML 3 сарын өмнө
I thinke that is not the real aubrey plaza, she is playing a character
Samuel Lexi ll
Samuel Lexi ll 3 сарын өмнө
1:13 sorry but she respected the mans OCD. So she did the right thing. Howie does not shake hands, he has severe OCD.
sky peters
sky peters 3 сарын өмнө
Aubrey is good looking. When I do this crap, people genuinely think I’m ill
The King Of Cool DavidTaylor
The King Of Cool DavidTaylor 3 сарын өмнө
I love Aubrey plaza she's great
Mac B
Mac B 3 сарын өмнө
Sssshhhh, stop talking and let me Soak in Aubrey's Luscious and Hilarious essence .
Tiffany Allen
Tiffany Allen 3 сарын өмнө
Pretty sure Aubrey Plaza is my spirit animal.
Don Berry
Don Berry 3 сарын өмнө
I wonder if anybody ever finishes her sentence. If this was a different time i think she would be friends with Alfred Hitchcock. :-)
Kloe Aubrieh
Kloe Aubrieh 3 сарын өмнө
Tired of seeing “It’s because she’s attractive.” No. She’s comfortable with being awkward, not self conscious about it. When you own your own perceived insecurities, the energy shifts. When you’re free with yourself, you make other people feel like they are in a “no judgement” environment. I know a bunch of not traditionally attractive people who are awkward, and I love them because they are their own person. All of you are so bitter, maybe that’s your problem.
Luc Germain
Luc Germain Сарын өмнө
Lmao, such a load of bs. If she wasn't attractive, people would call her a creep and not think "it's kinda cute the way she acts". If you're socially awkward and bad looking, you wouldn't be acknowledged like Aubrey, that's facts. That's not bitterness, it's literally the real world
Oliver Ford
Oliver Ford 2 сарын өмнө
Being attractive does let you get away with things it's true, however you can still succeed with a good personality. Check out CoC's video on Adele - even when severely obese she charmed with her personality.
isabella 2 сарын өмнө
thank you!
Kloe Aubrieh
Kloe Aubrieh 2 сарын өмнө
And also idk why you’re specifically offended, there was no reason to blow it up like that 😂
Kloe Aubrieh
Kloe Aubrieh 2 сарын өмнө
Nope, pronouns don’t bother me. And idk what generation you’re from but y’all need to step it up because the constantly offended, whiny baby snowflake safe space stuff is tired. However, People projecting their own insecurities is annoying
maddie allen
maddie allen 3 сарын өмнө
nah man shes just attractive
CONNORZ 3 сарын өмнө
yellow dress, white dress, black dress. All are smokin!
Nelson Guedes
Nelson Guedes 3 сарын өмнө
Try being an awkward guy, see how easy that is....
Nelson Guedes
Nelson Guedes 3 сарын өмнө
My god, she's kinda autistic. This is ALL very autistic XD
Mr. Shepherd's pie
Mr. Shepherd's pie 3 сарын өмнө
Step 1: be hot
Diego Pitbull
Diego Pitbull 3 сарын өмнө
She says LIKE so many times that ... sorry... not attractive.
Max 3 сарын өмнө
Looking at the comments section, I'm glad that people now begin to realize and accept the importance of beautiful appearance and not pretend that it's something else. If you're born with attractive features life is on easy mode for you, and not all your "wisdom suggestions" will apply to other less fortunate.
HEY KYU 3 сарын өмнө
When I’m awkward I just turn myself into a joke HAHAHHAHAA it takes some humour
Ricardo Bezerra
Ricardo Bezerra 3 сарын өмнө
You forgot that time she got kicked out of MTV Movie Awards
I'm Bored
I'm Bored 3 сарын өмнө
Aubrey needs a long hug. Me too
Joel 3 сарын өмнө
I really don’t like her expressionless face. It’s like she is trying to keep a poker face.
2bin 3 сарын өмнө
This overanalysis of Aubrey was awkward. Do Harmony Korine next. Go!
Supri Yono
Supri Yono 3 сарын өмнө
Lack of social interaction,who?,me of course
Srishti Mishra
Srishti Mishra 3 сарын өмнө
Only Aubrey can make Conan himself speechless
Ezequiel Primera
Ezequiel Primera 3 сарын өмнө
she is SO HOT
xXMc1ovinXx 3 сарын өмнө
dude her being awkward somehow makes her more sexy XD lmao
Lily W
Lily W 3 сарын өмнө
well she is attractive
Julian Price
Julian Price 3 сарын өмнө
Just be above a 7 Job done
Robert Lust
Robert Lust 4 сарын өмнө
Colbert coming back to my MNpost?
dejoranman 4 сарын өмнө
My crush: hi Me: thank you
Jonathan Levesque
Jonathan Levesque 4 сарын өмнө
I'd marry her in a heartbeat
Rachel 4 сарын өмнө
The part with Howie wasn't awkward. He has pretty extreme OCD and doesn't like to be touched. Also, it's 2020. Touching is no longer acceptable social behavior.
John Foreman
John Foreman 4 сарын өмнө
Im a huge hard pivoter... Not a word .. Yeah alright tell your mom i said hey.
rod928s4 4 сарын өмнө
Aubrey was the perfect choice for this!...she is such a beautiful, strange, interesting woman that it is simply impossible to guess what she is thinking.
BTS DYNAMITE #1 HOT 100 4 сарын өмнө
When you awkward and not funny
Axton J Cranston
Axton J Cranston 4 сарын өмнө
Wasn't that Howie Mandel? He doesn't like human contact so Aubrey was justified.
Tyso 4 сарын өмнө
Nice channel, right? Well, from personal experience, Charlie with Charisma on Command SPAMS with you’re own purchased personal info.
JF L 4 сарын өмнө
I think this video is the less comprehensive one I've seen on this channel yet. Difficult to clearly assimilate the rules and apply them.
Carlos Diaz
Carlos Diaz 4 сарын өмнө
I thought Howie mandel didn't like to be touched...which is why she didn't try to touch him in the greeting.
nbalive2408 4 сарын өмнө
With works for cute girls and guys that are at least an 8. I'm a 4 on a good day
Will Strickland
Will Strickland 4 сарын өмнө
Nah its because she's hot
Mike Fontanelli
Mike Fontanelli 4 сарын өмнө
It kind of helps if you're stunningly beautiful.
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