How To Go From Boy Psychology To Man Psychology

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Charisma on Command

15 өдрийн өмнө

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How do you become a man? Cultures around the world have long believed it doesn’t just happen with age - certain steps need to be takenand recently the topic has gotten even more complicated with concerns of toxic masculinity rising.
Well in this video I’ll be using Cobra Kai to break down what I see as the 4 stages men go through in the road to quote unquote manhood, where guys go wrong, and what you can do to get to the next phase of growth.

0:00 - Intro.
0:34 - Stage #1: Boyhood.
2:00 - Stage #2: The eager student.
4:33 - Stage #3: The wanderer.
7:51 - Stage #4: The free thinker.
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David Whittle
David Whittle 9 цагийн өмнө
D&D is fun lol
Wooster001 23 цагийн өмнө
Anybody who uses the term “toxic masculinity” needs to be slapped across the face.
Step one : don't be a kid
Racher Wichardson
Racher Wichardson 2 өдрийн өмнө
Hi guys! Could you please tell me what program to montage do you use?
Милена Давыдова
Милена Давыдова 2 өдрийн өмнө
I believe boys and girls both should strive to become a real man
Tiger Budgie
Tiger Budgie 2 өдрийн өмнө
Being bullied now is no different than before. Except they’re spawned by weak parents who can’t teach their kids to be confident and strong.
Biraj Banker
Biraj Banker 3 өдрийн өмнө
really helpful video, thanks Charlie and the whole Charisma team! You forgot to mention how lonely Step 3 tends to be 😔
Optimusprime809 3 өдрийн өмнө
How to be a man: Strike first. Strike hard. No mercy. Sweep the leg.
Jose Sandoval
Jose Sandoval 3 өдрийн өмнө
Everyone should develop their own ways. But most of the people prefer to follow others instead
Henry Muhammed
Henry Muhammed 4 өдрийн өмнө
I like the content! Man keep it up! Growing up without a father figure this video really relates to me. Thank you!
DanielisAwesome52 4 өдрийн өмнө
An interesting aspect of this, because Im doing all this so late in life, I'm looking forward to finding my own way but am oddly wise enough to know I need to guidance and to be a student for a while.
Michael Kilgore
Michael Kilgore 5 өдрийн өмнө
Having to give a short disclaimer about manhood is sad af
De_Void 5 өдрийн өмнө
This video was less of "steps to become a self-reliant man" and more of "these are the general phases in a male's life that lead to becoming a man". Nothing about self reliance in here.
Daedalus Dream Journal
Daedalus Dream Journal 6 өдрийн өмнө
Eventually, everyone must form their OWN opinion of what it is to be a grown man or, for ladies, a grown woman. And to realize a lot of what we believe to be true comes from peer pressures or authorities who do not have our interest in mind and the truth even less, especially when those things are considered. Par of the reason you americans have the saying " all life is 8th grade!" ... honestly, too cynical for my taste but it bears the truth that too many 'adults" have become anything but. As for my definition of going from childhood to adulthood, it goes into tree stages: "From I to you to US." From I: When you're a child, you think the world revolves around you. To you: then you realize that they are others and, soon enough, you make unwarranted sacrifice just to please them. It never really works by the way. And then 3, you become an adult and go to the "US" stage ... when others can depend on you and you can depend on yourself. Where the well being of others matters to you the same way as yours does. And in such a way that no matter what community you belong in, both it and yourself are the better for it. From I to you to US.
Nathan Nicholson
Nathan Nicholson 6 өдрийн өмнө
This relates to my life. Your old idols turn to dust.
World center of human excellence
World center of human excellence 6 өдрийн өмнө
Piltdown Superman
Piltdown Superman 6 өдрийн өмнө
While visiting my then-girlfriend's brother's place, he told me, 'Have a beer, Bob! Be a man!" This was a very obvious attempt at manipulation. I got up, went to the 'fridge, and got a can of cola. He quipped, "Oh, one of those dark beers".
Jesse Dessain
Jesse Dessain 6 өдрийн өмнө
Study stoicism, and Jesus
Arvinder Singh
Arvinder Singh 7 өдрийн өмнө
With every video I like you more and more You could say you're charismatic
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava 7 өдрийн өмнө
Please make a video on Cate Blanchett
Thurston Howell lll
Thurston Howell lll 7 өдрийн өмнө
Loved watching this show on netflix cobra Kai!!!!!! I was torn between dojo's
Nacho 7 өдрийн өмнө
How do you know all of this? Im far older than you and only knew half!!! Thanks!!
Dhruv Rathod
Dhruv Rathod 7 өдрийн өмнө
Can you break down Aubrey plaza charisma She's let's just say different, and I don't get what it is about her
Sai Jahnavi Yeruva
Sai Jahnavi Yeruva 7 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks for changing the title 😉
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Rojas D
Rojas D 8 өдрийн өмнө
Can you talk about Frank Underwood? He's a very interesting character, and personally I believe there is a great deal of things about him you could analyze
Stoic Mind Noble Heart
Stoic Mind Noble Heart 8 өдрийн өмнө
Thank you for your videos. You have inspired me to make similar videos to help people as well!
Ishmael Dixon
Ishmael Dixon 8 өдрийн өмнө
Your videos don't pop up on my home page any more,
Slap the Bass
Slap the Bass 8 өдрийн өмнө
What is the 2 second gavin mcinnes clip that was glossed over and not mentioned?
Bartflies 8 өдрийн өмнө
“Spoilers for season 2” But shows clips from season 3
ShaSt One
ShaSt One 8 өдрийн өмнө
The notion that being a real man means you're tough and strong can make you overly hardened. The notion that being a real man means you're open and vulnerable can make you overly soft. Find your balance. Not other people's. Not your political party's. Not this video's. Not mine. Yours.
queltipobizzarro 8 өдрийн өмнө
This is an excellent channel, you are making a very good job! I was wondering if you have ever seen the film "Miss Sloane" and what you think about it; could it be a good material for one of your videos?
Dan Maguirez
Dan Maguirez 8 өдрийн өмнө
Damn... only if such videos were made 5 years ago... Nevertheless, the next best day is today
Tasnum //
Tasnum // 8 өдрийн өмнө
Will you make one for Becky from try guys please?
TekaiGuy 9 өдрийн өмнө
Step 1: Small loan of a million dollars
Zen Li
Zen Li 9 өдрийн өмнө
cobra kai is such a good show. *spoiler* : I think Hawk shows a very good example of going from blind obedience to thinking for himself in season 3.
Coffee maker
Coffee maker 9 өдрийн өмнө
So harry styles man
Athaariq Ardiansyah
Athaariq Ardiansyah 9 өдрийн өмнө
"just be yourself" - me
JP 9 өдрийн өмнө
"Masculinity is what men require of each other."
Young Suit
Young Suit 9 өдрийн өмнө
You know what would be a GREAT one for you to do? Desus & Mero. Watch their ESPN interview or the ones with Rachel Maddow, Jason Sudeikis, Anderson Cooper, or Letterman. No matter who the guest is, everyone feels at home and comfortable with them.
theanswer1221 9 өдрийн өмнө
Can you please breakdown Raymond Reddington in blacklist it's a great show (I'm sure you will enjoy) and a video I'm sure alot of us your fans will love to hear your take on
Sabhiuddin jazeb
Sabhiuddin jazeb 9 өдрийн өмнө
I cant believe that these guys did not make a video on jhonny depp
Harry Soltes
Harry Soltes 9 өдрийн өмнө
can u do a breakdown of raymond reddington from the blacklist
Chester West
Chester West 10 өдрийн өмнө
There's no such thing as toxic masculinity
Clay Robb
Clay Robb 10 өдрийн өмнө
This video is really inspiring. It's like at each step I was introduced on the stages that every man went through to be who they are today and how they could have been easily changed if "such" conditions were met in that part of your life. Keep up the good work. Really do love these videos and it's helping alot of persons such as my self. I'm from Jamaica btw so that means your words even reach the Caribbean so bless up.
P3 10 өдрийн өмнө
Omg I found Charlie in america's next top model cycle 20 episode 1 around 3:00
Louie the G
Louie the G 10 өдрийн өмнө
I keep on coming back to this MNpost Channel to refuel my motivation to maximise my life.
Hafiz 10 өдрийн өмнө
Name of this movie?
Wall ricehni Ybuuyhu
Wall ricehni Ybuuyhu 10 өдрийн өмнө
Can you do Anthony joshua?
Lex 10 өдрийн өмнө
Hi Charlie, I hope you can make a video about James Wesley from daredevil siries season 1 in Netflix. I want to learn about him. 🙂
Kenjaiz 10 өдрийн өмнө
Hello, can you please do a character breakdown of Captain Jean Luc Picard? He's my favorite and a role model to me.
Mario franitco Patrom sonda
Mario franitco Patrom sonda 11 өдрийн өмнө
archie in riverdale please
Luiz Alexandre
Luiz Alexandre 11 өдрийн өмнө
This video changed my life.
Krunchy Karim
Krunchy Karim 11 өдрийн өмнө
question: are you a psychologist by profession? If not, whence do you accumulate knowledge to make your videos? Or do you conduct your own surveys?
thatguy928 11 өдрийн өмнө
Fantastic video. I would only add that thinking for oneself is not enough. Confidence comes from creating and practicing a craft until you actually enjoy the results.
Owen Bunny
Owen Bunny 11 өдрийн өмнө
01:55 imagine that kid got himself a tiny fake mustache to cover his scar up
Luis Esteva
Luis Esteva 11 өдрийн өмнө
Stage 5: The Mentor?
Dhruv Rathod
Dhruv Rathod 11 өдрийн өмнө
Can there be more videos on the same topic???
Groundbreak Games
Groundbreak Games 11 өдрийн өмнө
I started watching Cobra Kai with my gf and thought it was terrible. A week later and I'm almost finished watching the series and can't wait to see how it ends. It was the nostalgia. I got me, I'll admit. Seeing all those actors appearing one by one. Soap operas truly are addicting. lol
Dextinys Child
Dextinys Child 11 өдрийн өмнө
Andrea Morales
Andrea Morales 11 өдрийн өмнө
I love this. Nowadays everyone talks about feminism and only a few people shed light on the complexity of masculinity.
Dómhnaill Ó’muirí
Dómhnaill Ó’muirí 11 өдрийн өмнө
I don’t believe that toxic masculinity is a thing , there are bad traits that both men and women can have regardless of gender or how feminine/masculine one is , plus the argument is always used in the context that MASCULINITY is toxic , even though most men are masculine, it’s 100 percent naturally to tap into your feminine side but for the lost part , most men by default setting are masculine.
Neven Panchev
Neven Panchev 11 өдрийн өмнө
Amazing video, brought a lot of clarity on my own approach so far.
Justin P
Justin P 11 өдрийн өмнө
I've been following your channel for a while now. I think this is one of your best videos. It seems to mark a transition from general social behavior advice (not meaning to discount it) to philosophic theory. I, and many others I believe, appreciate the protective offered.
Tom Lofgreen
Tom Lofgreen 11 өдрийн өмнө
Me realizing that CharismaonCommand brought me into the eager student stage as a 15-year-old kid
RiskFactor 12 өдрийн өмнө
Step three: cover yourself in oil
Systems of Success
Systems of Success 12 өдрийн өмнө
Great video!!
Charmed I'm sure
Charmed I'm sure 12 өдрийн өмнө
I'm sorry, but the moment he said Axe bodyspray, this came into my mind: "Axe body spray: kinda weird those guys wanna fight you naked."
Elise Brodeur-Jacobs
Elise Brodeur-Jacobs 12 өдрийн өмнө
Cobra Kai is soooo good!
Tom Riddle
Tom Riddle 12 өдрийн өмнө
Consider uploading videos to Rumble also. Many people will start boycotting MNpost due to censorship, but may still want your content.
Sunjay Puri
Sunjay Puri 12 өдрийн өмнө
Marlou Marcaida
Marlou Marcaida 12 өдрийн өмнө
I came into conclusion that there is a lost step and that is to be the teacher
Carlos FFM
Carlos FFM 12 өдрийн өмнө
LMFAO THIS IS A TV SHOW AND NOT REAL LIFE. How about some real life stuff, Charlie?
Brandon Maradiaga
Brandon Maradiaga 12 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks for this video :)
AlphaFoxAdam 12 өдрийн өмнө
Nice! There is a former MNpostr that makes amazing videos, and has an interesting background (in his education, ancestry, and his work experience). The more interesting thing about him and his personality is that even those that totally disagree with him STILL flock to him. He can be both abrasive and charismatic at the same time. It's different than "hate watching," as well. He used to ban people that criticized him (when it wasn't constructive criticism, to be clear). Those people just subbed to him under a different account. Personally, I disagree with him on a lot of issues, but those aren't important to me. I know this is not the case with everyone else, because those same disagreements are of a fundamental nature for others. At any rate, his name is Devon Tracey, but I think he is representative of someone that has a personality that evokes the response of "I can't stand him sometimes, but his videos are original, measured, and damnit, he's a really charming guy."
Lotschi 12 өдрийн өмнө
Did you know there is a German channel with nearly the same content than yours? I just want to make sure they don‘t copy your channel. It‘s named „Charisma auf Kommando“. I just wondered because it‘s a really small channel and you never link them and they never link you! I think it would be important that they see this, so like maybe or post the same thing than i did!
Lotschi 11 өдрийн өмнө
@Diemer Vd Berg Good to know! I just looked at the description of the German channel again and now they say in a direct way that it isn‘t an illegal copy. So now I con stop writing this comment over and over.
Diemer Vd Berg
Diemer Vd Berg 11 өдрийн өмнө
I believe Charisma on Command has some kind of franchisers. There are is also a channel in Russian with 1.7mln subs. Not exactly how the construction is but it is all the same or similar content and style.
Foxy Rage
Foxy Rage 12 өдрийн өмнө
Well presented example
Yussif Jaber
Yussif Jaber 12 өдрийн өмнө
Fixed traits which you didn't choose is such a powerful one. It alters how you give and perceive compliments.
Yussif Jaber
Yussif Jaber 12 өдрийн өмнө
I look good. Today I still hold value in my looks because people have always complimented me on my looks. And because I value looking good I seek girls who are also are good looking. IT makes me shallow because it is a shallow value for trying to find a life long partner. Instead, you should look for values, and give compliments, when people are sincere, friendly, loving, kind. Some people can even be abusing and look cool doing it, so you got to train yourself new values in order to notice these things. Now when people say I look good I say "Thanks" and think, but that isn't something I control. Girls are more advanced in this area. When you compliment a girl on her looks she doesn't give you validation because she doesn't find you hitting on her on a fixed trait like that valuable to her.
R.R Smith
R.R Smith 12 өдрийн өмнө
i'm the 4K'th person who liked this video, WoW...
MUSTAFA .H 12 өдрийн өмнө
Can you make a video about the charisma of Patrick Jane from the series Mentalist🕵️‍♂️ ? Who likes a suggestion .. 👍🏻
Michał Kocher
Michał Kocher 12 өдрийн өмнө
What books would you recommend?
Rohit Pagare
Rohit Pagare 12 өдрийн өмнө
Who is the girl in the center at 4:08?
FD Link
FD Link 12 өдрийн өмнө
No one: Captions at 2:07: You're gonna be a macaroni teacher?
Dante Alejandro
Dante Alejandro 12 өдрийн өмнө
This was more of a the “Don’t”s than the “Do”s but nonetheless helpful
Leah Dunne
Leah Dunne 12 өдрийн өмнө
For your celebrity breakdowns could you do Anna Kendrick?
guillermoshared gmailcom
guillermoshared gmailcom 12 өдрийн өмнө
Very interesting video. I think there should be a balance, sometimes learning from others is helpful and sometimes it is necessary to be a free thinker and discover your own path. Every man, every person is different, so even if we can agree in some "rules" or "advices" to "be a man", the idea in itself cant be totally definitive. I mean can we really make a rule of "what is to be a man?" What does that even mean? What really is a man?(Besides the biological definition) ,can we apply that rule to everyone? Anyway, what is a man? A misserable little pile of secrets lol (Castlevania reference)
Ocker3 12 өдрийн өмнө
Skipping because I am way behind with the show :(
iLag 13 өдрийн өмнө
The last few mins of the video- PREACH
Sharif Mansour
Sharif Mansour 13 өдрийн өмнө
8:30 Nice Gavin McInnes clip.
Werdxp 13 өдрийн өмнө
Awesome video
Eyesyt7 13 өдрийн өмнө
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Just toxicity in someone who still happens to be manly.
Lachlan McFarlane
Lachlan McFarlane 13 өдрийн өмнө
"When the student is ready, the teacher appears. When the student is truly ready, the teacher disappears."
El Vicol
El Vicol 13 өдрийн өмнө
does anyone know the background song name ?
Icey 13 өдрийн өмнө
"Certain interests make you unmanly like Dungeons and Dragons, Poetry, and dancing" I like all three of those things lmao. *looks through history books of manly men* Ah yes, so did a lot of other men.
BatgirltheRobin 5 өдрийн өмнө
The manliest thing you can do is whatever you want regardless of how others see it.
Liam Needham
Liam Needham 11 өдрийн өмнө
It really depends doesn't it. Dungeons and Dragons could represent your nerdy obsessions with fantasy, or it could be an opportunity to socialise and be creative. Poetry could be a pretentious desperate grasp at identity and self expression, or it could be a showcase of your attention to detail and beauty. Dancing could be a flamboyant display of vulnerability and delicacy, or it could be a passionate commanding display showcasing your skill and coordination and competence, not to mention an opportunity to sweep a girl off her feet and have some fun. Just remember, Joe Manganiello plays Dungeons and Dragons; the King of Rheged, Llywarch Hen was a renowned Poet; and Spanish men are regarded as sexy because of Salsa dancing. Its not what your doing, its how.
ECJ49 12 өдрийн өмнө
Really who?
Aaron 12 өдрийн өмнө
I find the dancing one funny because in Eastern Europe, the Middle East, and Latin America dancing is usually a man's domain. I wonder how it became something we see as feminine here.
Aaron Phillips
Aaron Phillips 13 өдрийн өмнө
I haven't checked out the show yet, but it seems like it deals with a lot of great themes.
C A G 13 өдрийн өмнө
oh god, Stage 1 about a lack of male role models and too caring mothers in boyhood are painfully true :(
Bettina Ascaino
Bettina Ascaino 13 өдрийн өмнө
I think womanhood is almost the same.
Samsonite801 13 өдрийн өмнө
Oh hehe, mistook the title, I thought this video was going to be about self-reliance, as I just purchased a rural property for homesteading. Apparently that's what I think the next step is in my personal development is to learn how to live off-grid and truly take care of myself and produce my own food, and not rely on grid services. Oh well, good information as well here, thanks...
Angel Merc
Angel Merc 13 өдрийн өмнө
19 still stuck in the first stage
ColtDogTV 13 өдрийн өмнө
Awesome video. I realized me and a lot of guys out there love the movie fight club because it hit on so many things We felt. Being lost, lacking purpose and role models . Crazy how that still applies to today.
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