How To Go From Boy Psychology To Man Psychology

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Charisma on Command

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How do you become a man? Cultures around the world have long believed it doesn’t just happen with age - certain steps need to be takenand recently the topic has gotten even more complicated with concerns of toxic masculinity rising.
Well in this video I’ll be using Cobra Kai to break down what I see as the 4 stages men go through in the road to quote unquote manhood, where guys go wrong, and what you can do to get to the next phase of growth.

0:00 - Intro.
0:34 - Stage #1: Boyhood.
2:00 - Stage #2: The eager student.
4:33 - Stage #3: The wanderer.
7:51 - Stage #4: The free thinker.
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The Red Alarm
The Red Alarm 2 өдрийн өмнө
Great video!!
Thisisthesign foryou
Thisisthesign foryou 2 өдрийн өмнө
please one video for females too when you can, thank you
Cade The Consistency Coach
Cade The Consistency Coach 4 өдрийн өмнө
Love this.
Ricky B
Ricky B 6 өдрийн өмнө
1:10 what movie/show is that?
Andre Brito
Andre Brito 11 өдрийн өмнө
Poetry will never be manly Sorry
larry 13 өдрийн өмнө
This is your best video
Siddhartha Pundit
Siddhartha Pundit 15 өдрийн өмнө
Jordan Peterson is my MNpost dad.
Happy John
Happy John 16 өдрийн өмнө
"I told you that 'juvenile delinquent' is a contradiction in terms. 'Delinquent' means 'failing in duty.' But duty is an adult virtue-indeed a juvenile becomes an adult when, and only when, he acquires a knowledge of duty and embraces it as dearer than the self-love he was born with. There never was, there cannot be a 'juvenile delinquent.' But for every juvenile criminal there are always one or more adult delinquents-people of mature years who either do not know their duty, or who, knowing it, fail." Lt. Col. Jean V. Dubois (Ret.), p. 120 -Robert A. Heinlein's Starship Troopers
riele. queen
riele. queen 17 өдрийн өмнө
"some of the things of manhood (or in this case ck) are destroying the things he cares about" omgg true. I think Johnny tries to be tough with Robby or something, but he actually just needs to let himself be open and vulnerable with Robby. Those are the parts he wants. He wants his dad to care for him.
Jamie N.
Jamie N. 17 өдрийн өмнө
16 year old girl here, watching a MNpost video on how to be a man. Lol
Mateusz F.
Mateusz F. 17 өдрийн өмнө
Good video 👍
Vengeful Polititron
Vengeful Polititron 17 өдрийн өмнө
i build myself tough. but became evil over time. it's the wrong path. I ruined myself entirely
Kj16V 21 өдрийн өмнө
Of all the great advice you've given in your videos, this is probably the best.
Huw Guyver
Huw Guyver Сарын өмнө
I would liken mentorship to being a musician or other artist. If you worship one band completely to the exclusion of other artists and styles you will never develop your own style and will only ever sound like a pale imitation of your one inspiration, and everyone will hear it. On the other hand, if you listen widely to other artists and genres, then through that pleurality of influences you are much more likely to come up with a genuinely interesting and original sound of your own. Same with mentors. Don't look for one person to follow blindly, look for ideas that work for you, from wherever (and whoever) they may come, and from that mix of influences, your own adult personality will emerge. That is how you become your own person in my opinion.
Leah Walentosky
Leah Walentosky Сарын өмнө
Amanda LaRusso would be a good video on gaining trust. A guy literally came wanting to fight her husband and she offered him a meal followed by actually listening to his problem.
Barney Mort
Barney Mort Сарын өмнө
Analyse Rupaul!
T FP Сарын өмнө
Self reflection is the most important aspect of becoming wiser etc
G4le Сарын өмнө
Havent hit 2 yet but part 3 hit a little too close to home I seem to have skipped the second stage
Ethan Smith
Ethan Smith Сарын өмнө
Lol yeah this is the worst title ever. I'll watch anything about Cobra Kai and love your content
TyLee GAMEZ Сарын өмнө
I wish 13 y/o me had content like this to absorb
Everybody wants to be a Beast Until it's Time To Do What The Beast Do....# TRIBE OF MENTORS
KingRichTv Сарын өмнө
Jordan Peterson type of content right here. I’m impressed
Ricardo Pinto
Ricardo Pinto Сарын өмнө
Can you do a video about César Mourão, a portuguese comedian great in is improv skills and think fast with is feet and Tedou Souji Kamen rider Kabuto's mais characters? Love your videos👍👌
Big Mr. E
Big Mr. E Сарын өмнө
What about all those hormone disturbing chemicals and toxic foods out there that decrease testosterone? Mindset is great but I think we also have to take care of our bodies as well.
Daniel Smith
Daniel Smith Сарын өмнө
When I was growing up, I learned that the life of a man is overcoming pain. Pain is weakness leaving the body. The goal wasn't to avoid it. The goal was to face it.
SINGH JI 12 цагийн өмнө
This is really inspirational
D13G0 02
D13G0 02 Сарын өмнө
Imagine a woman telling you what a man should and shouldn't do 😂
jeramahia123 Сарын өмнө
This kind of makes me think about One Piece, about the relationships between Luffy and Shanks. Shanks is the mentor we're introduced by letting a weaker man bully him by spilling booze over him, and Shanks just lets it happen, then laughs with his friends when the bully leaves - even though Shanks could easily have stopped or killed him with no effort. Then later, that same bully tries to kill Luffy - a child - just for calling him names. One isn't concerned about how the world sees him. One is. (Though the problem is still that the show kind of puts emphasis on Shanks being admired later on for being one of the strongest characters in the show more than his admirable sense of self-worth, and Luffy - unlike the lessons taught in this video - doesn't stray from what he learned from Shanks and doesn't ever evolve into a Wanderer or Free Thinker).
Boyka Unlimitted
Boyka Unlimitted Сарын өмнө
I would like to add that a real man is also comfortable with being alone and knows how to survive alone. Furthermore, taking FULL responsibilities of your actions is in my opinion also a trait of a real man.
DILI 1999kg
DILI 1999kg Сарын өмнө
Don't waste your time for this. Guys I don't know from where it's taken from tv show Lol this is real life. Just start taking responsibility for your life be a man
Carlos Hortuvia
Carlos Hortuvia Сарын өмнө
Have cojones, don't be wishy washy male feminist. Do as you like.
Luis Minervino
Luis Minervino Сарын өмнө
This is kind of hard for me to watch because it is so much of my life in my late 20's. Thanks for this vid guys.
87Tempests Сарын өмнө
So don't be an alpha male, be a sigma male instead!
Ben Rogencamp
Ben Rogencamp Сарын өмнө
I feel like I grew up a lot when I became my own role model. Wanting to be like someone else is for kids. Wanting to be the best version of yourself is what makes a man.
Happy John
Happy John 16 өдрийн өмнө
I learned by studying the greats of the past...
Richard Parker
Richard Parker Сарын өмнө
I like to add that realistically you shouldn't have just "one" teacher in life or study a "single" creed/book/philosophy. As you go through life, and if you truly want to grow as a person, then your going to be influnced by "many" different teachers and study a lot of different creeds/ books/ philosophies. Each with their own different approaches, some very different from each other, but each will help you. Each of these men and women will come to you in different parts of your life fo teach you something valuable In that stage of your life. They all have their own flaws and strengths to them, but you'll get something from all of them. And it doesn't stop. Even as an adult you'll come across new people who will influence you. By the end of your life, you won't just have "one" book by "one" author that will help shape who you'll become, but an entire library. And in this libary you will have your own personal book.
Billy ツ Guns
Billy ツ Guns 5 өдрийн өмнө
Thx for the advice man. Wish u ahead in life and continue to inspire others as well!
Isaac Borunda
Isaac Borunda Сарын өмнө
Strike first strike hard no mercy!
Communism is evil
Communism is evil Сарын өмнө
I love how this video used Cobra Kai as an example, plus I love that show
Vegard Thorbjørnsen
Vegard Thorbjørnsen Сарын өмнө
Boxers are the best
Badass BobY
Badass BobY 2 сарын өмнө
Hawk had the best transformation in the whole Netflix
Vagabond Morrison
Vagabond Morrison 2 сарын өмнө
Sean Evans from Hot Ones would be a great subject for a charisma breakdown because he asks such great and engaging questions!
YouTube WantsToSilenceMe
YouTube WantsToSilenceMe 2 сарын өмнө
"How do you become a man?" oh geez I hope this isn't a transgender video...
Ohthatseli 2 сарын өмнө
Name of movie in beginning
Ohthatseli 2 сарын өмнө
Name of movie?
styen dimpu
styen dimpu 2 сарын өмнө
Q U I E T !!!
· 2 сарын өмнө
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity.
Matt 2 сарын өмнө
How to be a man in 2021 Just identify as one. Side note, only works in the US and some parts of UK. Proceed with caution.
maciek1929940 2 сарын өмнө
Wait, you put on a scene here from the last moments of season 3 :D
Ralpha Male
Ralpha Male 2 сарын өмнө
You just announce it on twitter and/or reddit
Rae Z
Rae Z 2 сарын өмнө
Great advice, Thanks a lot.
Chris Maddock
Chris Maddock 2 сарын өмнө
Video started well, lots of errors with what happened in Cobra Kai.. then just became incel propaganda by the end!
SharpSteelz 2 сарын өмнө
Wow great video! Didn't realize cobra kai could be so practical lol. Feel like I'm pretty far down this path as I have been trying to learn everything I can and best adapt that to what I want to do, definitely not letting other people dictate who you are is very important
Mighel Akando
Mighel Akando 2 сарын өмнө
Really great video bro
trustobey1016 2 сарын өмнө
And after becoming a man, you become a badass.
dxtripleh1014 2 сарын өмнө
That's easy. Get $75, go down to Cherry Street near downtown. Look for a girl named Gina. Her manager's name is Ringo...he drives a purple Cadillac. She'll make a man out of ya.
Kolelo Karam
Kolelo Karam 2 сарын өмнө
I flipped a few times between stage 2 and 3 with different mentors. As soon as I got to a certain lesson which I found to be unfair to others or too unreasonable in some way, I began to worry about the validity of everything else the mentor had told me. Then I find a different mentor and the cycle repeats.
MobyDickHead 2 сарын өмнө
🦞 🦞 🦞
TheCONZ I am
TheCONZ I am 2 сарын өмнө
I was thinking about this the other day the only way to be a man. Is to stop Pursuing society’s expectation and simply create the man you are happy being. You will be more respected n admired for being confident in the choices you have made for yourself and not others
Harucina Hint
Harucina Hint 2 сарын өмнө
It could even be a character I personally grew up looking up to my father : someone who overcame his social awkwardness and Sherlock Holmes : Someone who weaponized his quirks
Harucina Hint
Harucina Hint 40 минутын өмнө
@Billy ツ Guns hindsight = 20/20 lol
Billy ツ Guns
Billy ツ Guns 5 өдрийн өмнө
That’s what he meant by ‘someone’.
Katyayan Narula
Katyayan Narula 2 сарын өмнө
I wish this video came years ago.
journeymanX 2 сарын өмнө
be a man: be johnny be a man's man: be kreese Be a god amongst men: be miyagi-san
crypter27 2 сарын өмнө
This is why the sons of single-mothers become weak, a strong father is needed.
Shaa prosperous1
Shaa prosperous1 2 сарын өмнө
The wrights of passage Duhh how else
CyberdelicXP 2 сарын өмнө
I'm a guy. It's Manly by default.
Edgar Banuelos
Edgar Banuelos 2 сарын өмнө
Bout to go watch karate kid later nerds
Someone Someone
Someone Someone 2 сарын өмнө
There's lot of obvious experiences that make someone a 'real man': losing virginity, getting drunk, growing a beard, killing in combat, etc. And certain character attributes: loyalty, discipline, courage etc. Most people know these. Very, very few have them though. The modern world isn't set up in such a way to allow real men to exist.
Fabio Salvador
Fabio Salvador 2 сарын өмнө
I was a nerdy Nintendo playing, Computer addicted nerd when I was young. And boys laughed at my geekiness. Now I am a grown up nerd whose nerdiness led to a good job, but still a Nintendo playing, computer addicted nerd... who grew up to be capable of breaking a man's jaw in half with a punch... and nobody laughing anymore.
RainsIn Africa
RainsIn Africa Сарын өмнө
@Billybobthekid I’m just saying irl tournament are 70% waiting 30 foighting
Billybobthekid Сарын өмнө
@RainsIn Africa nah it looks fun tho
RainsIn Africa
RainsIn Africa Сарын өмнө
@BillybobthekidIts fine also do you play warframe?
Billybobthekid Сарын өмнө
@RainsIn Africa I don't. i was just being mean. forgive me for my actions please.
RainsIn Africa
RainsIn Africa Сарын өмнө
@Billybobthekid why do you think that
rautermann 2 сарын өмнө
TRUTH, 100%! Great video, could have totally taken advantage of all the people looking for guidance but instead brings light into the darkness and offers a valuable and real outlook. Congrats, Charisma - one of your best ones yet! The parallels to my own journey were too strong for me to not love this.
mystry nane
mystry nane 2 сарын өмнө
One of my favorite words to live by is "Be a filter, not a sponge"
riele. queen
riele. queen 17 өдрийн өмнө
i call miguel sponge for that very reason
Huw Guyver
Huw Guyver Сарын өмнө
Gonna steal that line. It's a good one.
Alex Bailie
Alex Bailie 2 сарын өмнө
In retrospect wrestling shaped me into who I was which was good . Sort of similar to Johnny Lawrence with Karate. I started in the 4th grade as a scrawny kid who got beat up all the time to becoming the 2nd freshman captain out of 20 guys. In my 8th grade year I went 28-9 in varsity and was the champion in conference. A lot of this stuff in the video are things I have been through. I stopped caring if I was called pretty boy for tying my hair back on the team. And if I could do it all over again I would; to improve on those mistakes made along the way from the past. I wish I could’ve qualified for state but I ripped back muscles in the end which was the killing blow to my career. Just like Johnny getting kicked in the face. But I must admit it was a great journey and without it I wouldn’t be half the man I am today.
J W 2 сарын өмнө
How’d I miss this one?!?!
Mastery Order
Mastery Order 2 сарын өмнө
Be a man by keeping your word, by being immovable in your values and by being unstoppable in your forces. Do your best with what you have and try to achieve mastery in all aspects of life with the purpose of serving others.
Tim McArdle
Tim McArdle 2 сарын өмнө
Great advice. Especially once you've reached the free thinker stage. Put yourself into the world, be you're own man.
Arindam Mishra
Arindam Mishra 2 сарын өмнө
I wish if there was a video dedicated just to hawk from this series.....he always rules the place👍🔥
Veritas 2 сарын өмнө
It shows you have the far-Left and Feminism have pervaded mainstream culture that people propose the idea of "toxic masculinity" without an ounce of shame. Terrible sexism. Introduce the topic of toxic femininity next time they do, just so things are fair and balanced.
Moksh Jain
Moksh Jain 2 сарын өмнө
Which movie is this??????
jordanrichards320 2 сарын өмнө
I feel like I'm simultaneously in all of these categories. But category 4 is new for me, and that's growth.
N Marrs
N Marrs 2 сарын өмнө
Standing up for yourself is one of the biggest ones in my opinion.
ebirac2007 2 сарын өмнө
Cobra Kai!
A Singh
A Singh 2 сарын өмнө
incredible video
Waking Up To Life
Waking Up To Life 2 сарын өмнө
When you realise your parent, mentor or role model is imperfect and begin to fill in those gaps in wisdom for yourself, you get a DEEP sense of maturity and self trust that guide you through life.
Дмитрий Глушко
Дмитрий Глушко 3 сарын өмнө
All right so after watching the first minutes of the video, I watched karate kid 1 and all seasons of Cobra Kai, it's amazing, now I can watch this video
HTChamber 2
HTChamber 2 3 сарын өмнө
This was a fantastic video great job!
coolpeips 3 сарын өмнө
Hi Charlie, awesome videos! Love these. Can you do a video on best practices for zoom work calls and how to best connect to others? That would be so timely and much-needed. Thanks!!!
God Zeno
God Zeno 3 сарын өмнө
How do you educate yourself into being comfortable speaking with people since I've stopped smoking weed everything just seems harder or maybe it's that reality has hit me and I'm struggling too adapt
OffKey Arts
OffKey Arts 3 сарын өмнө
This video inspired me to watch all karate kid movies and the show. Thank you.
Nudelsuppe20 3 сарын өмнө
Whats the music at 2:07?
Nudelsuppe20 3 сарын өмнө
@Mjol ninja dont
Mjol ninja
Mjol ninja 3 сарын өмнө
David Konevky
David Konevky 3 сарын өмнө
Ok but that Mohawk looks ridiculous lmao
lyisim 3 сарын өмнө
This was a great video
YTGreyGhostCLIPS 3 сарын өмнө
Some Panda
Some Panda 3 сарын өмнө
Imagine a future where humanity has bigger things to think about than how manly or womanly they are from day one. Imagine if all the money from Axe bodyspray was used for research to advance humanity instead. If only there was a time machine to see if we ever make it to this stage.
Ralph Marbler
Ralph Marbler 3 сарын өмнө
Step 4: Don't listen to feminists trying to tell you what masculinity is.
Mags 3 сарын өмнө
Johnny Lawrence is a badass. He’s a man I look up to
Tony 3 сарын өмнө
Supposedly when you sport hairy bolox
Om Patil
Om Patil 3 сарын өмнө
please do a character analysis on naruto, there's a lot of lessons in there. I know many young subscribers would enjoy it
QBTUBETV 3 сарын өмнө
Jocko Willink & Raymond Reddington (The blacklist)
Abdullah Majid
Abdullah Majid 3 сарын өмнө
Umm... What is the name of the movie in beginning
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava 3 сарын өмнө
please please please make a video on Cate Blanchett.
jackett_21 3 сарын өмнө
Maturity comes when you understand you aren't mature enough.
sharker49 3 сарын өмнө
Thanks, I needed this.
soheil rashidi
soheil rashidi 3 сарын өмнө
U charismatic son of a gun. Ur vids always(kinda) hit the spot
Catharine Pizzarello
Catharine Pizzarello 3 сарын өмнө
Works for women also. Why should it be an unending cycle of attack and retaliation? Glad to see this at 58 years of life.
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