How To Go From Boy Psychology To Man Psychology

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How do you become a man? Cultures around the world have long believed it doesn’t just happen with age - certain steps need to be takenand recently the topic has gotten even more complicated with concerns of toxic masculinity rising.
Well in this video I’ll be using Cobra Kai to break down what I see as the 4 stages men go through in the road to quote unquote manhood, where guys go wrong, and what you can do to get to the next phase of growth.

0:00 - Intro.
0:34 - Stage #1: Boyhood.
2:00 - Stage #2: The eager student.
4:33 - Stage #3: The wanderer.
7:51 - Stage #4: The free thinker.
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Someone Someone
Someone Someone 7 цагийн өмнө
There's lot of obvious experiences that make someone a 'real man': losing virginity, getting drunk, growing a beard, killing in combat, etc. And certain character attributes: loyalty, discipline, courage etc. Most people know these. Very, very few have them though. The modern world isn't set up in such a way to allow real men to exist.
Fabio Salvador
Fabio Salvador 14 цагийн өмнө
I was a nerdy Nintendo playing, Computer addicted nerd when I was young. And boys laughed at my geekiness. Now I am a grown up nerd whose nerdiness led to a good job, but still a Nintendo playing, computer addicted nerd... who grew up to be capable of breaking a man's jaw in half with a punch... and nobody laughing anymore.
rautermann Өдрийн өмнө
TRUTH, 100%! Great video, could have totally taken advantage of all the people looking for guidance but instead brings light into the darkness and offers a valuable and real outlook. Congrats, Charisma - one of your best ones yet! The parallels to my own journey were too strong for me to not love this.
mystry nane
mystry nane Өдрийн өмнө
One of my favorite words to live by is "Be a filter, not a sponge"
Alex Bailie
Alex Bailie 4 өдрийн өмнө
In retrospect wrestling shaped me into who I was which was good . Sort of similar to Johnny Lawrence with Karate. I started in the 4th grade as a scrawny kid who got beat up all the time to becoming the 2nd freshman captain out of 20 guys. In my 8th grade year I went 28-9 in varsity and was the champion in conference. A lot of this stuff in the video are things I have been through. I stopped caring if I was called pretty boy for tying my hair back on the team. And if I could do it all over again I would; to improve on those mistakes made along the way from the past. I wish I could’ve qualified for state but I ripped back muscles in the end which was the killing blow to my career. Just like Johnny getting kicked in the face. But I must admit it was a great journey and without it I wouldn’t be half the man I am today.
J W 6 өдрийн өмнө
How’d I miss this one?!?!
Mastery Order
Mastery Order 6 өдрийн өмнө
Be a man by keeping your word, by being immovable in your values and by being unstoppable in your forces. Do your best with what you have and try to achieve mastery in all aspects of life with the purpose of serving others.
Tim McArdle
Tim McArdle 7 өдрийн өмнө
Great advice. Especially once you've reached the free thinker stage. Put yourself into the world, be you're own man.
Arindam Mishra
Arindam Mishra 8 өдрийн өмнө
I wish if there was a video dedicated just to hawk from this series.....he always rules the place👍🔥
Veritas 9 өдрийн өмнө
It shows you have the far-Left and Feminism have pervaded mainstream culture that people propose the idea of "toxic masculinity" without an ounce of shame. Terrible sexism. Introduce the topic of toxic femininity next time they do, just so things are fair and balanced.
Moksh Jain
Moksh Jain 10 өдрийн өмнө
Which movie is this??????
jordanrichards320 11 өдрийн өмнө
I feel like I'm simultaneously in all of these categories. But category 4 is new for me, and that's growth.
N Marrs
N Marrs 12 өдрийн өмнө
Standing up for yourself is one of the biggest ones in my opinion.
ebirac2007 15 өдрийн өмнө
Cobra Kai!
A Singh
A Singh 15 өдрийн өмнө
incredible video
Confidence and Charisma
Confidence and Charisma 15 өдрийн өмнө
When you realise your parent, mentor or role model is imperfect and begin to fill in those gaps in wisdom for yourself, you get a DEEP sense of maturity and self trust that guide you through life.
Дмитрий Глушко
Дмитрий Глушко 17 өдрийн өмнө
All right so after watching the first minutes of the video, I watched karate kid 1 and all seasons of Cobra Kai, it's amazing, now I can watch this video
HTChamber 2
HTChamber 2 17 өдрийн өмнө
This was a fantastic video great job!
coolpeips 18 өдрийн өмнө
Hi Charlie, awesome videos! Love these. Can you do a video on best practices for zoom work calls and how to best connect to others? That would be so timely and much-needed. Thanks!!!
God Zeno
God Zeno 18 өдрийн өмнө
How do you educate yourself into being comfortable speaking with people since I've stopped smoking weed everything just seems harder or maybe it's that reality has hit me and I'm struggling too adapt
Orlokk Noxx
Orlokk Noxx 18 өдрийн өмнө
Wasn't Cobra Kai the BAD guy in Karate Kid?
OffKey Arts
OffKey Arts 18 өдрийн өмнө
This video inspired me to watch all karate kid movies and the show. Thank you.
Nudelsuppe20 19 өдрийн өмнө
Whats the music at 2:07?
Nudelsuppe20 18 өдрийн өмнө
@Mjol ninja dont
Mjol ninja
Mjol ninja 18 өдрийн өмнө
David Konevky
David Konevky 19 өдрийн өмнө
Ok but that Mohawk looks ridiculous lmao
lyisim 21 өдрийн өмнө
This was a great video
YTGreyGhost368 22 өдрийн өмнө
Some Panda
Some Panda 22 өдрийн өмнө
Imagine a future where humanity has bigger things to think about than how manly or womanly they are from day one. Imagine if all the money from Axe bodyspray was used for research to advance humanity instead. If only there was a time machine to see if we ever make it to this stage.
Ralph Marbler
Ralph Marbler 22 өдрийн өмнө
Step 4: Don't listen to feminists trying to tell you what masculinity is.
Mags 23 өдрийн өмнө
Johnny Lawrence is a badass. He’s a man I look up to
Tony 23 өдрийн өмнө
Supposedly when you sport hairy bolox
Om Patil
Om Patil 24 өдрийн өмнө
please do a character analysis on naruto, there's a lot of lessons in there. I know many young subscribers would enjoy it
QBTUBETV 24 өдрийн өмнө
Jocko Willink & Raymond Reddington (The blacklist)
Abdullah Majid
Abdullah Majid 24 өдрийн өмнө
Umm... What is the name of the movie in beginning
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava 25 өдрийн өмнө
please please please make a video on Cate Blanchett.
Orange Squash
Orange Squash 27 өдрийн өмнө
Maturity comes when you understand you aren't mature enough.
sharker49 27 өдрийн өмнө
Thanks, I needed this.
soheil rashidi
soheil rashidi 28 өдрийн өмнө
U charismatic son of a gun. Ur vids always(kinda) hit the spot
Catharine Pizzarello
Catharine Pizzarello 28 өдрийн өмнө
Works for women also. Why should it be an unending cycle of attack and retaliation? Glad to see this at 58 years of life.
The Internet Peasant
The Internet Peasant 28 өдрийн өмнө
What is man, but a miserable pile of secrets?
David Whittle
David Whittle Сарын өмнө
D&D is fun lol
Wooster001 Сарын өмнө
Anybody who uses the term “toxic masculinity” needs to be slapped across the face.
Mostafa Saad
Mostafa Saad 28 өдрийн өмнө
Wow nice example of toxic masculinity right in action haha
Step one : don't be a kid
Racher Wichardson
Racher Wichardson Сарын өмнө
Hi guys! Could you please tell me what program to montage do you use?
Милена Давыдова
Милена Давыдова Сарын өмнө
I believe boys and girls both should strive to become a real man
Tiger Budgie
Tiger Budgie Сарын өмнө
Being bullied now is no different than before. Except they’re spawned by weak parents who can’t teach their kids to be confident and strong.
Biraj Banker
Biraj Banker Сарын өмнө
really helpful video, thanks Charlie and the whole Charisma team! You forgot to mention how lonely Step 3 tends to be 😔
Optimusprime809 Сарын өмнө
How to be a man: Strike first. Strike hard. No mercy. Sweep the leg.
Mostafa Saad
Mostafa Saad 28 өдрийн өмнө
lol no mercy na
Jose Sandoval
Jose Sandoval Сарын өмнө
Everyone should develop their own ways. But most of the people prefer to follow others instead
Henry Muhammed
Henry Muhammed Сарын өмнө
I like the content! Man keep it up! Growing up without a father figure this video really relates to me. Thank you!
DanielisAwesome52 Сарын өмнө
An interesting aspect of this, because Im doing all this so late in life, I'm looking forward to finding my own way but am oddly wise enough to know I need to guidance and to be a student for a while.
Not A Cop
Not A Cop Сарын өмнө
Having to give a short disclaimer about manhood is sad af
De_Void Сарын өмнө
This video was less of "steps to become a self-reliant man" and more of "these are the general phases in a male's life that lead to becoming a man". Nothing about self reliance in here.
Daedalus Dream Journal
Daedalus Dream Journal Сарын өмнө
Eventually, everyone must form their OWN opinion of what it is to be a grown man or, for ladies, a grown woman. And to realize a lot of what we believe to be true comes from peer pressures or authorities who do not have our interest in mind and the truth even less, especially when those things are considered. Par of the reason you americans have the saying " all life is 8th grade!" ... honestly, too cynical for my taste but it bears the truth that too many 'adults" have become anything but. As for my definition of going from childhood to adulthood, it goes into tree stages: "From I to you to US." From I: When you're a child, you think the world revolves around you. To you: then you realize that they are others and, soon enough, you make unwarranted sacrifice just to please them. It never really works by the way. And then 3, you become an adult and go to the "US" stage ... when others can depend on you and you can depend on yourself. Where the well being of others matters to you the same way as yours does. And in such a way that no matter what community you belong in, both it and yourself are the better for it. From I to you to US.
Nathan Nicholson
Nathan Nicholson Сарын өмнө
This relates to my life. Your old idols turn to dust.
Nathan Nicholson
Nathan Nicholson 18 өдрийн өмнө
@Mjol ninja hahaha
Mjol ninja
Mjol ninja 18 өдрийн өмнө
So thanos snapped em?
World center of human excellence
World center of human excellence Сарын өмнө
Piltdown Superman
Piltdown Superman Сарын өмнө
While visiting my then-girlfriend's brother's place, he told me, 'Have a beer, Bob! Be a man!" This was a very obvious attempt at manipulation. I got up, went to the 'fridge, and got a can of cola. He quipped, "Oh, one of those dark beers".
Jesse Dessain
Jesse Dessain Сарын өмнө
Study stoicism, and Jesus
Mjol ninja
Mjol ninja 18 өдрийн өмнө
Shouldn’t end on “Study” you should Apply them
Arvinder Singh
Arvinder Singh Сарын өмнө
With every video I like you more and more You could say you're charismatic
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava Сарын өмнө
Please make a video on Cate Blanchett
sridhar vaishnava
sridhar vaishnava 18 өдрийн өмнө
@Mjol ninja about charisma
Mjol ninja
Mjol ninja 18 өдрийн өмнө
About what
Thurston Howell lll
Thurston Howell lll Сарын өмнө
Loved watching this show on netflix cobra Kai!!!!!! I was torn between dojo's
Nacho Сарын өмнө
How do you know all of this? Im far older than you and only knew half!!! Thanks!!
Dhruv Rathod
Dhruv Rathod Сарын өмнө
Can you break down Aubrey plaza charisma She's let's just say different, and I don't get what it is about her
Sai Jahnavi Yeruva
Sai Jahnavi Yeruva Сарын өмнө
Thanks for changing the title 😉
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Rojas D
Rojas D Сарын өмнө
Can you talk about Frank Underwood? He's a very interesting character, and personally I believe there is a great deal of things about him you could analyze
Stoic Mind Noble Heart
Stoic Mind Noble Heart Сарын өмнө
Thank you for your videos. You have inspired me to make similar videos to help people as well!
Ishmael Dixon
Ishmael Dixon Сарын өмнө
Your videos don't pop up on my home page any more,
Slap the Bass
Slap the Bass Сарын өмнө
What is the 2 second gavin mcinnes clip that was glossed over and not mentioned?
Bartflies Сарын өмнө
“Spoilers for season 2” But shows clips from season 3
ShaSt One
ShaSt One Сарын өмнө
The notion that being a real man means you're tough and strong can make you overly hardened. The notion that being a real man means you're open and vulnerable can make you overly soft. Find your balance. Not other people's. Not your political party's. Not this video's. Not mine. Yours.
queltipobizzarro Сарын өмнө
This is an excellent channel, you are making a very good job! I was wondering if you have ever seen the film "Miss Sloane" and what you think about it; could it be a good material for one of your videos?
Dan Maguirez
Dan Maguirez Сарын өмнө
Damn... only if such videos were made 5 years ago... Nevertheless, the next best day is today
Tasnum //
Tasnum // Сарын өмнө
Will you make one for Becky from try guys please?
TekaiGuy Сарын өмнө
Step 1: Small loan of a million dollars
Zen Li
Zen Li Сарын өмнө
cobra kai is such a good show. *spoiler* : I think Hawk shows a very good example of going from blind obedience to thinking for himself in season 3.
Coffee maker
Coffee maker Сарын өмнө
So harry styles man
Athaariq Ardiansyah
Athaariq Ardiansyah Сарын өмнө
"just be yourself" - me
JP Сарын өмнө
"Masculinity is what men require of each other."
Young Suit
Young Suit Сарын өмнө
You know what would be a GREAT one for you to do? Desus & Mero. Watch their ESPN interview or the ones with Rachel Maddow, Jason Sudeikis, Anderson Cooper, or Letterman. No matter who the guest is, everyone feels at home and comfortable with them.
theanswer1221 Сарын өмнө
Can you please breakdown Raymond Reddington in blacklist it's a great show (I'm sure you will enjoy) and a video I'm sure alot of us your fans will love to hear your take on
Sabhiuddin jazeb
Sabhiuddin jazeb Сарын өмнө
I cant believe that these guys did not make a video on jhonny depp
Harry Soltes
Harry Soltes Сарын өмнө
can u do a breakdown of raymond reddington from the blacklist
Chester West
Chester West Сарын өмнө
There's no such thing as toxic masculinity
Clay Robb
Clay Robb Сарын өмнө
This video is really inspiring. It's like at each step I was introduced on the stages that every man went through to be who they are today and how they could have been easily changed if "such" conditions were met in that part of your life. Keep up the good work. Really do love these videos and it's helping alot of persons such as my self. I'm from Jamaica btw so that means your words even reach the Caribbean so bless up.
P3 Сарын өмнө
Omg I found Charlie in america's next top model cycle 20 episode 1 around 3:00
Louie the G
Louie the G Сарын өмнө
I keep on coming back to this MNpost Channel to refuel my motivation to maximise my life.
Hafiz Сарын өмнө
Name of this movie?
Wall ricehni Ybuuyhu
Wall ricehni Ybuuyhu Сарын өмнө
Can you do Anthony joshua?
Lex Сарын өмнө
Hi Charlie, I hope you can make a video about James Wesley from daredevil siries season 1 in Netflix. I want to learn about him. 🙂
Kenjaiz Сарын өмнө
Hello, can you please do a character breakdown of Captain Jean Luc Picard? He's my favorite and a role model to me.
Mario franitco Patrom sonda
Mario franitco Patrom sonda Сарын өмнө
archie in riverdale please
Luiz Alexandre
Luiz Alexandre Сарын өмнө
This video changed my life.
Krunchy Karim
Krunchy Karim Сарын өмнө
question: are you a psychologist by profession? If not, whence do you accumulate knowledge to make your videos? Or do you conduct your own surveys?
thatguy928 Сарын өмнө
Fantastic video. I would only add that thinking for oneself is not enough. Confidence comes from creating and practicing a craft until you actually enjoy the results.
Owen Bunny
Owen Bunny Сарын өмнө
01:55 imagine that kid got himself a tiny fake mustache to cover his scar up
Luis Esteva
Luis Esteva Сарын өмнө
Stage 5: The Mentor?
Dhruv Rathod
Dhruv Rathod Сарын өмнө
Can there be more videos on the same topic???
Groundbreak Games
Groundbreak Games Сарын өмнө
I started watching Cobra Kai with my gf and thought it was terrible. A week later and I'm almost finished watching the series and can't wait to see how it ends. It was the nostalgia. I got me, I'll admit. Seeing all those actors appearing one by one. Soap operas truly are addicting. lol
Dextinys Child
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Andrea Morales
Andrea Morales Сарын өмнө
I love this. Nowadays everyone talks about feminism and only a few people shed light on the complexity of masculinity.
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