5 Common Charisma Mistakes You’re Probably Making

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Paul Rudd is almost universally well-liked. And after watching his most recent Hot Ones interview, I realized he makes an excellent example of some of the most fundamental and easy to implement charisma principles, that nonetheless most people just skip.

So in this video we’ll be covering those 5 core principles and what you can do to make sure you’re not one of the people who are getting it wrong.

0:19 - #1: Don't skip the friendly touch when first meeting someone.
1:31 - #2: Joke about others in a positive manner.
3:19 - #3: Support other people's jokes.
5:23 - #4: Use direct and genuine compliments.
7:48 - #5: Turn the question back on the other person.

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TOOFLESS 2 өдрийн өмнө
Paul looks like he plays a healer in MMOs
Nic Halabicky
Nic Halabicky 3 өдрийн өмнө
Now this guy on the other hand is my polar opposite. He’s way too nice, I don’t trust people who are that nice
dreaminginnoother 4 өдрийн өмнө
Man, all of your videos have such great advice. If I could truly internalize all the information you provide, I think I would be such a cool guy.
Wyatt Horan
Wyatt Horan 6 өдрийн өмнө
Everyone clicking on this video probably thought Paul Rudd was making these mistakes
dandanik 9 өдрийн өмнө
Who's the actress at 6:00 ?
Mohamed Gelle
Mohamed Gelle 12 өдрийн өмнө
1. Touch people in friendly 2. Joke positively about people 3. Supporting people's jokes 4. Use direct and genuine compliments 5. Turning question around Have a nice time
zanyar baez
zanyar baez 16 өдрийн өмнө
Wow, I can not stop watching your videos every day and I think they are life-changing I feel I need to have a pen and paper to take notes of every video thanks to you so much, these are outstanding and magnificent
Kimberly Roberts
Kimberly Roberts 23 өдрийн өмнө
Apparently Paul Rudd done charmed the hell out of Jeremy Renner, lol i'm taking notes :D lol loving this channel and has helped me so much so ty ty ty if i can get this far off this channel i would love to see how far the courses will take me. Again ty for all your up loads Charlie n Ben you guys are beyond awesome :D
Fabricio Tarazona
Fabricio Tarazona 24 өдрийн өмнө
Cant give hugs cuz of covid now :(
Joe Elyahchouchi
Joe Elyahchouchi Сарын өмнө
No handshake, coronaaaa.
mamisonyas Сарын өмнө
He genuinely is interested to other people's presence :)
Artur Jaskólski
Artur Jaskólski Сарын өмнө
1st point didn't age too well...
Rania M
Rania M Сарын өмнө
Man I’m tired of these videos, different people find different things “charismatic” just be yourself, no hate thou, I love this channel
Nadia K
Nadia K Сарын өмнө
As a mid 30s Asian woman, I told myself to be Paul Rudd today.
growingoaks productions
growingoaks productions Сарын өмнө
5:03 or RUDD of a joke. See what i did there? 😮
I AM BEOWULF 51275D Сарын өмнө
I wish I could afford the course. I love these video's, they alone have began to change my work and family life in positive ways. Every video I have seen, I am always saying the same thing, 'I have everyone’s of those bad habits'. Thank you, I am trying to save up and see if I can get my wife talked into giving this to me as a Christmas present.
wrenasa 2 сарын өмнө
I absolutely love these videos!!! There's a plug at the end of every one I watch, though, that takes up a big chunk...
Drummer Schmittle
Drummer Schmittle 2 сарын өмнө
“The best way is to complement them.” Shows clip of the Rock flipping off interviewer 😂😂
Camilo Manjarres
Camilo Manjarres 2 сарын өмнө
Thanks i really needed this, you make good videos
Merdog MC
Merdog MC 2 сарын өмнө
5:08 Caught Captain Price in the video
Richard Du Plessis
Richard Du Plessis 2 сарын өмнө
What a load of bollocks. Men don't hug: it's only something that's been pushed in the media. A handshake is fine
September Q
September Q 2 сарын өмнө
After covid, touching may be seen as anti-charasmatic!
TheAlarmGames 359
TheAlarmGames 359 3 сарын өмнө
Waitress: Did you enjoy your meal? Me: did you??
gracie gilmartin
gracie gilmartin 3 сарын өмнө
imagine how likeable the guy who makes these videos is
Hooperhooper Hooper
Hooperhooper Hooper 3 сарын өмнө
I wouldn’t mind touching 5 months ago, 🦠helllllllllll nooo!!! 😂
APoultryTask 3 сарын өмнө
You nailed it!
El Mago
El Mago 3 сарын өмнө
Stranger: hello Me: I am going to touch you now
H P 3 сарын өмнө
He's so damn gorgeous 🤩I've been a big fan ever since Clueless and The object of my affection
Cyn c
Cyn c 3 сарын өмнө
Your video so short that watching them back to back ur advert for all people who tryed ur corse is a bit much to have it in every advert take away from message I just learned pls could u try another approach I’m sure any one watching can see value of your course
Rob 4 сарын өмнө
How to be charismatic: Lean your head on Scarlett Johansen's shoulder. Man I sure would if I could
Macbeth 4 сарын өмнө
I don't think physical contact is possible at these times :(
krua 4 сарын өмнө
hug is a bit too intimiate in a lot of cultures
nuketown 4 сарын өмнө
Me handshaking and touching everyone during the pandemic 😂😂😂
Bryan Breezy
Bryan Breezy 4 сарын өмнө
This title scares people into watching it
Aqwika 4 сарын өмнө
Well, we can’t do #1 anymore
Andrews 4 сарын өмнө
“Complement beautiful women for them being smart and smart girls for being beautiful”. I heard this somewhere. And it’s true. It means to look beyond the obvious, beyond what is on the service
Dan M
Dan M 4 сарын өмнө
When depersonalized is the rule, how can you talk about charisma?
Johnhitbox 4 сарын өмнө
Paul Rudd will be the new Tom hanks
smelly cat
smelly cat 5 сарын өмнө
Am i the only one wondering,WHY is he on every movie i have been seeing lately??
Icchasaki 5 сарын өмнө
I really want to try the Charisma University, but I don't have money... 🙁 I guess I better start saving.
NDK0 5 сарын өмнө
Yeah I'll skip the hug for now
Serge Romo
Serge Romo 5 сарын өмнө
Whenever I have the money for it, I am signing up for the course. I love the purpose of this channel.
Hej Ericson
Hej Ericson 5 сарын өмнө
Are you serious? He said and did socially akward things. He said beefier head. He made her uncomfertable. Dude, if he did that on a guy he would have provoked an argument about crossing the line.
Joshua Hammond
Joshua Hammond 5 сарын өмнө
My butthole is stinky.
DozyProductions 5 сарын өмнө
Where you showing the pervy guy joke as a bad joke? ... because I thought it was hilarious given the context of who he is.
Ghost Rider
Ghost Rider 5 сарын өмнө
Small talk 5% listening 10% nodding my head 85% finding a way to escape the conversation.
AKSHU DHAVALA 6 сарын өмнө
Well it might be long before we dish out handshakes
Love Kunis
Love Kunis 6 сарын өмнө
Love all except I don’t like when people touch me, especially acquaintances that are guys
App App
App App 6 сарын өмнө
It’s 2020 right now and I think I’ll pass on the whole touching thing...
nyangata gaming
nyangata gaming 6 сарын өмнө
He's just generally really charismatic. If you look at a lot of the roles he plays there's a lot of charm that some other actors just don't seen to have. If you want a really good example, look at his role as Bobby Newport in Parks and Recreation. Even if his character is the antagonist of a sort at a point, you still like him.
Linda Beasley Brewer
Linda Beasley Brewer 6 сарын өмнө
Great video.
Phillipa Soo Cinnamon roll
Phillipa Soo Cinnamon roll 6 сарын өмнө
I’m British so I was born with more charisma than most people.
njpham 6 сарын өмнө
What it boils down to is that Paul Rudd is not just absolutely adorable, but he is a great person.
thingsTheater 6 сарын өмнө
But what do we do now that we can’t touch? How do we compensate for that?
MegaSkilla 6 сарын өмнө
I feel like people don't complement Steve Carell's hair transplant enough...
Asad Marmash
Asad Marmash 6 сарын өмнө
Can we stop touching each other even after this pandemic ends?
Live with Vigor
Live with Vigor 6 сарын өмнө
It's possible that the "physical contact" end of things may have to be re-evaluated in a post-COVID world...
Ackoon 6 сарын өмнө
"The best way to make them feel good is to compliment them" *Shows The Rock giving the birdy
Ivette 6 сарын өмнө
It only works when you are dealing with nice people.
Jake Duggan
Jake Duggan 6 сарын өмнө
That is probably one of the flaws that I must work on, complementing. As an Aussie bloke it is kind of out of character for me to do it. I can see its benefits and I like making people feel more comfortable around me. I will consciously make more of an effort to do it. Thanks for the advice.
orchestralbunny 7 сарын өмнө
When you're watching this during the pandemic...
John Paul Paquibot
John Paul Paquibot 7 сарын өмнө
i say a lot of bad things in front and at the back of my friends
Bluewave369 7 сарын өмнө
Is it just me, or is it hard to follow this video?
Master Procrastinator
Master Procrastinator 7 сарын өмнө
life is hard af
sheepgray08 7 сарын өмнө
I work on costumer aervice and whenever someone asks me how am i doing is like WHUT? one time i literaly said ARE YOU TALKING TO ME? :V it is very appreciated :)
Marilyn Sparks
Marilyn Sparks 7 сарын өмнө
Awww... the first one. Can't do that anymore.. :(
Madhav C B
Madhav C B 7 сарын өмнө
You make some really great points like when you said being/seeing ourselves as special is a zero sum game and getting competitive over that feeling.
Melisa Gonzalez
Melisa Gonzalez 7 сарын өмнө
I have hard time on listening to you again after listening how you treated your ex girlfriend, you teach a lot about charisma but lack emotional intelligence, it’s not your fault but I don’t want to learn from you anymore.
Celeste Newton
Celeste Newton 7 сарын өмнө
That part at the end was so true. Gotta stop trying to feel special and lift others instead and then maybe it will all work out. Thanks for the great videos.
Fc channel
Fc channel 7 сарын өмнө
i tease but sometimes i feel it can come off a little bit harsh thanks for helping me with that
L. DAMME 8 сарын өмнө
This is a brilliant video including some very useful points. Thank you for your good work.
sarikatimmi 8 сарын өмнө
can we pls have a vid on richard ayoate
Miguel Ángel Carrillo Infante
Miguel Ángel Carrillo Infante 8 сарын өмнө
Touch (friendly!) as many people as you can, while you can... you’re gonna miss it in quarantine (believe you me)
Lara Anne Pinter
Lara Anne Pinter 8 сарын өмнө
This channel is great, thank you
Lovely Touch
Lovely Touch 8 сарын өмнө
How best to “touch” someone in the wake of the Corona Virus?
D Krappenschitz
D Krappenschitz 8 сарын өмнө
All I can say is, "No Homo, but"
Best Gamer
Best Gamer 8 сарын өмнө
Best Gamer
Best Gamer 8 сарын өмнө
Best Gamer
Best Gamer 8 сарын өмнө
John Pachkoski
John Pachkoski 8 сарын өмнө
Seems like the common rules you emphasize are Comfortability:the best way to do that is to make them feel good about themselves, to make them respect you and trust you, and to always invoke the one emotion you want them to feel around you every time you're around them. With a view from evidence in quantum physics and psychology, The more you do the same things with a person, the more they will like you, so make it something enjoyable, it has to do with aligning frequency. If you make a person laugh hard every time you see them, their subconscious mind will automatically release those endorphins every time they hang out with you again if you do it continuously.
D K 8 сарын өмнө
It's funny, one of the most charismatic guys I know does almost everything in your tip vids but genuinely and naturally, and the kicker, he was home-schooled all his life. I don't get how someone who was basically isolated his whole life can have better social skills than me lol EDIT: And, another crazy thing, he starts doing contracting IT work right out of homeschool? On a farm house? Like what? How do you learn IT when you deal with dial-up at home, pretty much lmao
Eli Egbert
Eli Egbert 9 сарын өмнө
Positive touch doesn't work in my community. Its forbidden for literally ANY touch if they are of the opposite gender and then being the same gender is very awkward. What solution is there to this?
Jellly Wen
Jellly Wen 9 сарын өмнө
I feel like an alien trying to learn how to be a human watching these
J Hadley
J Hadley 9 сарын өмнө
I’m British.... the first point is against my DNA
Sħira yuki
Sħira yuki 9 сарын өмнө
I ❤️ Paul Rudd
Sofia Cavalcante
Sofia Cavalcante 9 сарын өмнө
10:27 i hope you don't have many portuguease speaking viewers because i personally can't stop laughing
Rhuan Williamson
Rhuan Williamson 9 сарын өмнө
once i analyze the joke i have in my mind, i get lost and miss the time window to actually tell the joke. So its all in awkwardness or no dice.
Smoovy ChevySS
Smoovy ChevySS 9 сарын өмнө
“ ppl universally like Paul Rudd” is funny cuz I don’t like this guy at all.
best-choice4u 9 сарын өмнө
Could someone tell me please what Paul Rudd said in the moment 4:27 till 4:31 ?
JV TV 10 сарын өмнө
If you're ugly, or a nobody, somebody might call the police.
CosmosGaming 10 сарын өмнө
I work with individuals with autism. Your videos are always great for breaking down social scenarios. Thank you.
Fuckin A Jared
Fuckin A Jared 10 сарын өмнө
People walk over you and don't appreciate you when you act this way, you shouldn't strive to be liked, it just ends in disappointment
judged by time
judged by time 10 сарын өмнө
Zayan Sadath
Zayan Sadath 10 сарын өмнө
where can I find the clip at 0:33?
Przemysław Zając
Przemysław Zając 10 сарын өмнө
Just adding comment because current number is 666 (You don't need to thank me).
Jan Winters
Jan Winters 10 сарын өмнө
Nice, a real person this time
67maxfield 10 сарын өмнө
To sum this up. Paul is a sweetheart. Be a sweetheart
Brandon 10 сарын өмнө
Dude makes me feel good about life yo
Jack McCabe
Jack McCabe 10 сарын өмнө
I feel like there's a negative stigma attached to extroversion, and some of it is true. Alot of it is superficial and selfish. But I'm lucky to have found you, I am more effective at turning my energy into kindness/support in my relationships. I have been complimenting people alot more over the past year and have found that my own and their confidence is better.
philos4r 10 сарын өмнө
I would love to know this stuff completely, the greatest thing is to master one self.
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