8 TERRIBLE Dating Mistakes Movies Push You To Make

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Almost all of our expectations about love and relationships have been set by Hollywood.
The problem is that these movies are putting absurd ideas into your mind about what love really looks like, which can lead to some boneheaded decision making, maybe even ruining what could have been a great relationship.
So in this video we’ll look at 8 ways Hollywood ruins your relationships.

0:32 - #1: Movies train us to substitute emotional intensity for emotional quality.
2:09 - #2: The perfect person will magically take interest because they see the real you deep inside.
3:20 - #3: Love at first sight
4:13 - #4: Love, in Hollywood, is proven by ignoring explicit rejection.
5:43 - #5: Giving large unrequested gifts as a way to make amends.
7:14 - #6: Pursuing someone who is currently in a relationship is romantic and not at all doomed to failure.
8:12 - #7: Suffering, dependence and self sacrifice are all treated as indicators of love.
9:22 - #8: A romantic relationship is the solution to the problem of life.
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Hanif Bozorgi Makrani
Hanif Bozorgi Makrani 12 цагийн өмнө
I just watched this and I ended up with more hunger for a sick hollywood romance... 😂😂😂 All those romantic seen together 😍 😂😂😂
JustJudit Өдрийн өмнө
This video makes me think it would be nice to see a video about female charisma or factors other than being just pretty from Charisma on Command perspective. What do you think?
tads73 4 өдрийн өмнө
Self-love and lessened relience on romantic relationships isn't as profitable.
alec coles
alec coles 6 өдрийн өмнө
I love how at the end of each video he gives a little pep talk bout how amazing people are
Sidra Kamal
Sidra Kamal 14 өдрийн өмнө
Give yourself the love you want from someone else
Creative Club
Creative Club 17 өдрийн өмнө
Welcome you to Bollywood 😑
Keeley Hassan
Keeley Hassan 24 өдрийн өмнө
The entire romcom genre is basically confusing psychopathy with romance.
Joseph Bedwell
Joseph Bedwell Сарын өмнө
Question: Can your course teach you how to accomplish the opposite? Say for example, you're in a situation where you don't want people to gravitate towards you and you just wanna go do your own thing.
LUXX TATY Сарын өмнө
ppl think that movies represent life and present u with scientific knowdlege about life but... no honey
LUXX TATY Сарын өмнө
this worldd omg then ... theyll go to youtube to see a love tarot reading for their sign to see whats going on
Gamze Koru
Gamze Koru Сарын өмнө
09:21 what movie does Rashilda Jones play also Ryan put me in so much drama
Marus Goren
Marus Goren Сарын өмнө
Drama is bad ... that doesnt mean you should be boring and that way lose the affection of your partner etc
DR.Acula Anderson
DR.Acula Anderson Сарын өмнө
No 50 shades of gray is how to indoctrinate people aka brain washing look it up he goes through all 8 steps like when he gave her a muffin he said eat she refused and he left with no warning making her feel bad making her question her decision/self then he makes her eat from a specific list only whear what he wants and alienates her from friends and family it's a how to video on how to indoctrinate girls so in short no 50 shades of grey is a movie about abuse not love
The Life Of Simba
The Life Of Simba Сарын өмнө
Somebody’s been watching Coach Corey Wayne 👌🏾
Anon Ymous
Anon Ymous Сарын өмнө
You were significantly more polite than After Hours was about just how toxic romcoms have been/are.
Silvia Di Martino
Silvia Di Martino Сарын өмнө
It's crazy, I literally believed all of those points
nSane Сарын өмнө
1. Most women actually love emotional rollercoaster... 2. True but only for men. 3. Women decide almost at first sight... 4. In real life no, unfortunately doesn't mean no (if you're handsome) 5. True. 6. Man in relationship is way more attractive to other women. 7. Look 1. 8. True, never tell a woman she's your world. If you do relationship is over.
Human Lives Matter!
Human Lives Matter! Сарын өмнө
very good analysis of one basic problem
Argento 777
Argento 777 Сарын өмнө
Romantic films and comedies is the way men become blue pilled and manipulated to pedastalise women. And eventually fail in relationships.
Long Johnson
Long Johnson Сарын өмнө
Good point...stalking is promoted in 99% of love movies. Yet at the same time we are being told that it is wrong and harassment. Why is that so? And why do the feminazis not jump on those movies? Is it because the stalker is usually a Chad?
Lava Yuki
Lava Yuki Сарын өмнө
I find that disney princess movies brainwash little girls. Only a small few like Frozen and Mulan don't really, and Pixar ones like The Incredibles show a realistic relationship. I think the suffering thing is used to create drama and tension, which makes movies entertaining.
Verne Fits
Verne Fits Сарын өмнө
3:15 just like me
VoiceOfTheSoul 2 сарын өмнө
Mila Kunis 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥
TVBUU 2 сарын өмнө
movies try to program you to be a simp
GODAssasin 2 сарын өмнө
Some side characters can help lmao
Ricardo Penders
Ricardo Penders 2 сарын өмнө
No introvert magically transforms into an extravert, never take advice from someone who's incentivized to say what you want to hear... This is about one of the guys who commented and about the guy who made the video, you should ask this guy who made this video if he has a successful and long lasting relationship which he just can't have because of his age and therefore you shouldn't take advice from someone like him. For real relationship advice ask your grandma and grandpa if they have been together for 30 or 40 years, they always know what's best for you relation wise.
Joe Troutt
Joe Troutt 2 сарын өмнө
I believe Noah already had the house built before seeing Allie again and then she sees him in a picture while getting ready for her wedding. Allie see Noah first. Not the other way around.
Mr. Helper
Mr. Helper 2 сарын өмнө
Hollywood is simp machine
Ahmed fuseini alhassan
Ahmed fuseini alhassan 2 сарын өмнө
God almighty .this brings back things i'd rather 4get smh
Zareef Tashfique
Zareef Tashfique 2 сарын өмнө
“Girls love guys that are stable, realistic, & take good care of themselves ....... that’s why all she watches are movies with serial killers, and prison inmates”
E115 2 сарын өмнө
These 8 things are what women want... from a desirable man
Merciful Torturer
Merciful Torturer 2 сарын өмнө
The ending of La La Land is like a black pearl in an ocean filled with poison that is Hollywood.
Rich Barron
Rich Barron 2 сарын өмнө
Way off the mark. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who is so secure and has such self confidence that they loudly proclaim how grand it is to be alone and friendless.
Sergio Mendez
Sergio Mendez 2 сарын өмнө
These was supper deep these is exactly what happened to me my life flashed in between the video
Chiko Tembo
Chiko Tembo 2 сарын өмнө
yo, im just saying, we aint got time for these hoes in 2020. Get money son!
kagebunshinnn 2 сарын өмнө
It isnt stalking if you are a 7 or higher
The elephant In the room
The elephant In the room 2 сарын өмнө
And girls who expect this are also destroying dating. Must be 6,0 or more fit body and good job and loyalty. Guys want under 200lbs, loyalty, and good housewife, then they claim too high of standards.
Orrin Riker
Orrin Riker 2 сарын өмнө
Aww man this reminded me of honest trailer Lol
Rachel Rasmussen
Rachel Rasmussen 2 сарын өмнө
Okay, I get what you are saying, but you need to acknowledge the use of symbolism and archetypes in storytelling. You might as well be seriously admonishing people to not fight wizards with swords, because walking around stabbing people is really anti-social and criminal. You complain about the dramatic license but don't acknowledge the greater truths that these stories tell. Especially the female heroes journeys of taming the beast. Give women (and people) a little more credit that they can tell the difference between the beast that is the shadow half of the human Psyche that must be tamed and incorporated, and some creep abusing them. The Notebook, on the other hand...I literally have no clue why anyone likes that.
Git Gud
Git Gud 2 сарын өмнө
273 people still believe in fairytales and how the perfect person will swoop them off their feet.....and will probably still be single in their 50s
Zein Albasam
Zein Albasam 2 сарын өмнө
Rick grimes
PFYT88 2 сарын өмнө
Romeo and Juliet wasn’t about love, it was about two teenagers in “lust” not “love”.
Milan Penk
Milan Penk 2 сарын өмнө
Revolutionary Road is the only romance movie close to reality
Kiri Seraph
Kiri Seraph 2 сарын өмнө
Hollywood love seems incredibly shallow.
jbecsable 2 сарын өмнө
Ah so good. Thank you for making that.
Ivan Sanchez Penzov
Ivan Sanchez Penzov 2 сарын өмнө
Thank god you didnt put a scene of When Harry met Sally as an example
Ruben Durrand
Ruben Durrand 3 сарын өмнө
Charlie, I love you, your advice changed my life, but Romeo was 18, Juliet was the 13 year old.
Sbentsen27 3 сарын өмнө
This is one of the best videos I’ve seen in a long time🙌🏼 thank you
Ognjen Plamenac
Ognjen Plamenac 3 сарын өмнө
I just find it funny how he makes the point that our romatic partner can't complete us,that we need to be more confident and few seconds later goes to plug his shity $597.00 programme on how to become more confident.Basicly saying love cant help us but his grosly overpricesed course can.
Pyrela 3 сарын өмнө
ro·man·ti·cize verb gerund or present participle: romanticizing deal with or describe in an idealized or unrealistic fashion; make (something) seem better or more appealing than it really is.
joe allen
joe allen 3 сарын өмнө
I forgot how terrible all those movies were. Hollywood needs to die in a fire.
Gary Smith
Gary Smith 3 сарын өмнө
David Davids
David Davids 3 сарын өмнө
Thank you. I actually feel like love has to be hard.
Paula 3 сарын өмнө
This video should be shown in primary schools 👏🏼👏🏾👏🏿
SJD 3 сарын өмнө
Yes. But, Groundhog’s day was a special circumstance.
Destra L
Destra L 3 сарын өмнө
Love at first sight is 100% real. Sorry, you are wrong about that. My wife and I where love at first sight and we have celebrated our 10th anniversary last November. The feeling you get is far beyond surface level attraction. It's a recognition. It's a feeling of "hey, there you are. Finally". When it happens to you it is absolutely undeniable and impossible to ignore.
Sansara 3 сарын өмнө
Fantasies are only maintainable by highly intellectual thrill loving understanding partners.
Morgan Jonasson
Morgan Jonasson 3 сарын өмнө
Whenever I see a stalker standing outside with flowers: Turn off the TV. You have watch to much hollywood
John Smith
John Smith 3 сарын өмнө
Top tip; actors are emotional prostitutes and shallow, fake people. Never listen to them and never look to them for good examples.
George Tsitsiani
George Tsitsiani 3 сарын өмнө
It would be nice to flash the movie titles at the bottom of the frame.
MsBetsyT 3 сарын өмнө
Meredith Grey in Greys Anatomy put it quite good when fighting with Derek shortly before his character died: "I can live without you. But I don't want to" - in the end, she decided to be with him, not because she can't deal otherwise, but because she deems him worthy. Of course the whole tv-show is not a guide to a happy ending, but that scene was good.
DQ Skymagne
DQ Skymagne 3 сарын өмнө
It would have been instructive if this video had commented on how Hollywood promotes violence against men as an element of romantic drama .
Edwin Muchiri
Edwin Muchiri 3 сарын өмнө
I almost forgot something much important, perseverence leads to greater/happy ending. Man and woman in their love life, need to persevere challenges that comes in their romance journey.... Lastly, SENSE OF BALANCE is truly needed to stabilise the relationship. Man and woman need to be fair with each other and be MINDFUL of each other's authentic desires and when that happens, they both achieve a sense of balance leading to a happy love life....
Edwin Muchiri
Edwin Muchiri 3 сарын өмнө
From my own view, women are so obsessed with romantic movies, series, or stories from social media thinking that such "magical" experiences will be the same for them. WRONG!!!! COMPLETE BS!!!!! Those actors and actresses do such roles in the filming scenes for money and promotion purposes not to teach us that that's how love supposed to be..... When it comes to love, it's all about how both man and woman have mutual understanding with each other and how both will be able to overcome challenges together no matter how big they are. Love truly works when man and woman participate together and be simple with each other, authentically....
QuartuvLarry 3 сарын өмнө
Oh, but this goes WAAAAY beyond mere charisma. This is about the future, and the terror that she could be a waste of a significant portion of your life
john magill
john magill 3 сарын өмнө
I sit through the ActBlue ads just so they have to pay up.
Joanna Jay
Joanna Jay 3 сарын өмнө
AMAZING, pure wisdom!!! Thanks for this logical analyse of such illogical behaviors and feelings. Many people will feel not as lost and clueless anymore in relationships. Great, great job Charlie and Ben! I vote for this episode as your best material, because no one summarized 'love' like this before and it's so essential!
bleu water
bleu water 3 сарын өмнө
Hollywood is feeding us ridiculous ideas about love??!?? Huh. Who woulda' thought? They are just so realistic about everything else.
TJ S 3 сарын өмнө
I came here expecting to learn something, and all I've actually learned is that somebody out there actually needed to hear that these examples are unacceptable.
WAYWARD SON 3 сарын өмнө
Y'all can tell all you want, we, the people, just nod and go on with falling in "love" with toxic people - because we are already the 3-rd generation, raised by single mothers in toxic environments and modern way of life thrive on forcing this whole toxic bipolar hedonistic, obsessive nature even further.
WAYWARD SON 3 сарын өмнө
Movies are a good psycho filter though. If a woman e.g. loves "Notebook" she's to avoid like a plague, as a potential mate.
Adonis Ng
Adonis Ng 3 сарын өмнө
Thanks for the great tips!! Just letting you know that while I was going back to copy down each of the points, you wrote 'Giving large unrequested gits as the way as the way to make amends' for number 5 5:57
oMusic93 3 сарын өмнө
hi guys, i dont know if u have made a video about/with reference to the movie "P.s. I love you". after ive seen this video it popped up in my mind that it might be cool to analyse a movie that is concidered to be a romantic movie for women only.... have a nice one :)
Steven Stirling
Steven Stirling 3 сарын өмнө
Love is sacrifice, if you're not willing to make them; then you're not in love.
Scott Martin
Scott Martin 3 сарын өмнө
I'd poke a point about self-sacrifice as being an unhealthy expression of love. This is patently untrue. Love is sacrifice, be it time, money, or even one's health. While sacrifice that does not receive sacrifice in return is unrequited love and would be an indicator of an unhealthy relationship, Christ Himself said that the greatest expression of love is to lay down your life in place of another. Even the part that you mention in a Knight's Tale, the point of the girl demanding that the guy repeatedly lose was to prove that he truly valued her over his own pride or wealth or even well-being, that he valued her as a person and not some object or trophy. Let's also remember the context. This was in a time when high-born women really often were objectified and treated as assets and bargaining chips for politics.
Robert Cronin
Robert Cronin 3 сарын өмнө
"No one is going to pick you if you are morose or uninteresting." - pretty much covers it - Hollywood has been the cause of much heartache when reality meets pre-conditioned expectations... And yeah, just try Noah's approach of not taking no for an answer and relentlessly pursue somebody who is vehemently rejecting you and see where that gets you... I guarantee it'll be a restraining order and not a date 😜
Judith van Dijkhuizen
Judith van Dijkhuizen 4 сарын өмнө
Wish I'd watched this when I was 15!
Robert Cronin
Robert Cronin 3 сарын өмнө
Definitely, my friend..definitely 🙁
colin john gilbert
colin john gilbert 4 сарын өмнө
you yanks are listining to this lad pml show me his girls before he had money
Jaesung Edward Lee
Jaesung Edward Lee 4 сарын өмнө
Yes... Self love is key... Don't need a girl... Until I get old enough to be the girls dad and have to swallow the black pill that dating a girl in her 20's gets harder and harder.
PV Dogg
PV Dogg 4 сарын өмнө
I rarely, if ever do anything with videos after watching them. I believe this video is something really wonderful and wish I had this as I was growing up. Being such an influential kid, I was trying to mimic the kind of love in movies and couldn't understand why it wasn't working. I'm glad that people growing up today can see videos like this and not go through the same unnecessary pain I did throughout my love life. Movies might try to mimic the feeling of life, but movies are not real life. I hope future generations will learn to realize that. You guys do wonderful work. I'm glad that you can shed some light on subjects like this and even give good examples with the various movies. Keep it up! I'll be rooting for you!
Adrian 4 сарын өмнө
Definitely the most confusing video I have ever seen
Cocktails & Consoles
Cocktails & Consoles 4 сарын өмнө
Kind of surprised you didn't reference Great Gatsby in this -- it hits several of these notes :)
michalyne 4 сарын өмнө
Don't take dating advice from any movie or tv show, their all the same rudimentary garbage of some simp pining over one woman or another. The most popular shows such as "How I Met Your Mother" is just ten seasons of Ted simping for Robin, "The Big Bang Theory" is twelve seasons of Leonard simping for Penny. I could write a thousand more, but suffice it to say if a woman doesn't want you MOVE THE F**K ON! There is always another woman around the corner who may say yes.
So what I was saying
So what I was saying 4 сарын өмнө
Romantic movies are overrated . Most of them are creepy , if you ignore the romance .
Tony Snell
Tony Snell 4 сарын өмнө
Pretty Woman made me think for years that you can turn a hoe into a house wife.
IamPablo 4 сарын өмнө
*Sees Romantic film* *Yells out "YALL NEED JESUS!"
mia melon
mia melon 4 сарын өмнө
gxmikvid 4 сарын өмнө
nobody is into me, why am i watching anywa-... oh yeah, i can help others with this... i forgot
I Am Groot
I Am Groot 4 сарын өмнө
2:19 So ill never find my Rin or Hinata?
Theodor Sonfors
Theodor Sonfors 4 сарын өмнө
I was with this girl who been watching too many Disney movies, it was wired af.
Rob 4 сарын өмнө
One of the greatest movies against this "hollywood romance" notion is 500 Days of Summer.
Waleed Aamir
Waleed Aamir 4 сарын өмнө
The IQ of this dude and how he breaks down and comprehends subjects is unreal.
John Overbey
John Overbey 4 сарын өмнө
Self Love, self love, self love... That's all I hear in today's day in age and what's become of it? More Divorces today than in any point in history. Is this really the best advice, or are people buying into it just because it's the "NEW" word on the street and gives them a false sense of God like pride? "I don't need anything, I don't need anyone"... Movies don't always (hardly ever) give the best representation of Love's image, but the sewage that this guy is spouting off, is definitely not ANY representation of Love itself. Be smart people, don't listen to everything you hear.
YaBoiShooty 4 сарын өмнө
Why isn't respecting women on this list?
jabrwok 4 сарын өмнө
I could've used this video 35 years ago.
Xavier X
Xavier X 4 сарын өмнө
Never heard of any of those movies. Maybe their mainly for girl audiences.
Dustin Barlow
Dustin Barlow 4 сарын өмнө
What am I looking for in a woman. Im looking for a woman that falls in love with me and we decide to commit suicide when our family's won't allow it!
Mirades 4 сарын өмнө
this video is underrated. everyone should see this, so people think about it. it for sure would help most of the people. it did help me alot realizing this points, even if i knew the most of them, it's really good to remind myself. thank you.
Emily Wright
Emily Wright 4 сарын өмнө
Sometimes I wonder what about love comes natural and what I've learned from books and movies
Sky Luke
Sky Luke 4 сарын өмнө
all hoes want drama, all whores want love✌✌👌
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